₦airaland Forum

adidison:
It’s actually because of the religion and location that people from the northern part of Nigeria are referred to as Hausa which is very very wrong. As a matter of fact they are different tribes and religions there like for instance we have the Hausa - Kano, Kanuri- Maiduguri and the Zangokataf (or so) - southern Kaduna(xtians) and i think they call the people from Abuja and Jos with different names. But Nigerians are too lazy to even bother about it or refer to them individually so they classify them by their location. They just call (classify) every person from the north Hausa.

You are so-oo-oo right!!

Am tired of explaining to people that not every Northerner is Hausa or Fulani, neither is every northerner, a muslim. But like you said, many folks are just too lazy to spot the difference!

You need to hear them when they go on blindly attacking all northerners for their plight!

mohadana:
do you have a problem with the Yoruba's ?

Oh, didn't you know? Xtycod is a chieftain of the tribalistic cartel. Is this your first encounter with him? Go through all his posts on this site & tell us what you think!

Donzman:
So now being an illiterate implies you're a bad man?, There are illiterate men that will treat their wives 100x better than any literate man will. Literacy has nothing to do with being a good/bad man, brainwashed idiots thinking going to school is everything.

Did you actually 're-ee-ead' everything I wrote? Kindly go back to my previous post & take time out to read the whole thing within the context, in which it was presented. I did not say just an illiterate man, I added a lot of other adjectives to make up a complete picture. So kindly do not take just one adjective out of the whole sentence, in a bid to start some kind of semantic gymnastics.

Note: The words 'violent' & 'uncouth' were also added, in the same breath!

Abeg, PDP Lagos should go and put their house in order, first!

They committed political hara-kiri & shot themselves in the foot, when they decided to field 'Koro, in this election. The guy was and still is, an 'unsellable' product, pardon my French.

If they had fielded a candidate in the mould of the late Funso Williams, or if that charming guy had been alive to contest this election, PDP Lagos would have won, or taken over the state from AC & it's allies. Let me rephrase that. At the very least, they would have given Tinubu & his godson Fashola, a run for their money.

Anyway, the election is over. Make we just pray say Eko no go spoil. Shikena!

Talk is cheap. I believe it is time for CAN (Christian Association f Nigeria) to take this law to the courts & put it to the test. Put it in public view. Let it be strongly debated & let all voices be heard.

There have been reports of fundamentalist christian women in some states, refusing to put on NYSC trousers, when they were called up to serve in the youth corps, because they consider it to be a man's garment & the bible frowns on women who wear men's clothing.

Imposing an Islamic dress code on Non-Muslims is an unwise decision, in my opinion. But if those who are affected in those states, do not do something to revoke the law, then all discussion is futile.

Here are different perspectives on the wearing of hijabs etc. in another country. It is said that the hijab is actually a recent thing. Like some reported:

"It is widely believed that the hijab (headscarf) is an ancient Muslim Tradition. It was in fact invented in Lebanon in the 70's by the Shia Sect so that the Shia women can be differentiated from other Islamic women. The design of the scarf itself is based on older European scarves that women used to wear. I think it is wrong to say that the hijab is Islamic tradition when in fact it is a recent thing. Much older Islamic artwork portrays women not wearing it at all. There is nothing Islamic about the hijab. It is repression.
Joseph Canadian, San Jose, California"

Another one said:

It is sad to read about the illusion of Muslim women, and their misunderstanding of their religion. 'Hijab' is not a symbol of Muslim women it is an old Arab custom before Islam. How can any modern British Muslim woman be proud of a pre-Islamic fashion which was designed for Arab women in the Arabia peninsula?
Mohamed Ahmed, UK

http://209.85.165.104/search?q=cache:0ec7luJNkIQJ:news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/talking_point/3110368.stm+islamic+clothing+veil+schools+christian+sharia+nigeria&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=11&gl=ng

As far as am concerned, Muslim women or girls can wear whatever they like. They just shouldn't impose their dress code on those who do not share their faith.

There is no need for war.

Planner:
No wonder women find me very very attraction and they call me handsome even though i am slightly better looking than a frog.

Goodness! You are too funny for words!   Money is vital, but it isn't everything. A good character is also very important.

But on a serious note though, every woman should pray NOT to end up with a rich, illiterate, uncouth, violent man. 'Cuz once the guy shows his evil colours, all the money in his pocket won't count for anything.

promise72:
Ask yourself, when you were growing up in Naija, how many people you see with foreign wives that lives with them permanently? Tai Solarin and ,

Plenty!! It all depends on what part of Naija you lived in, while growing up. Tai Solarin & his wife Sheila were not the only inter-racial couple in Nigeria, that stayed together right here in Naija. Remember former information minister Walter Ofonagoro? Well, his wife is Indian. They have been married for over 30 years & live happily in Lagos. There is also Prof. Babs Fafunwa & his American wife Doris who have lived in various parts of Nigeria, including Lagos & Nsukka! Some of those foreign women ended up losing their husbands, and yet still stayed on in Nigeria with their families and friends. Check out this website to read more about them: www.nigerwives.org

I feel Thinker did not take enough time to study the woman he wanted to marry before he got hitched to her all those years ago. Neither did they discuss the probability of their return to Nigeria, before they got married. Sad, but I pray a divine solution comes your way man, as soon as possible. But wait o, for the several years you have been seperated from her, didn't you look at other babes here?

spoilt:
initially some think they can do it and stay for some years after which they pack up and leave in a huff.( like chris okoties wife)

Erm, sorry, Chris Okotie's wife is NOT a foreigner. She is half-Nigerian, with a German mum. She spent most of her life in Nigeria, but left a few years back when her mum got killed by armed robbers in Nigeria. The woman speaks correct pidgin.

There are 24 hours in a day. What stops him from making a 2 minute call to touch base with his babe, every other day? If na big money di babe dey owe am, you think say he no go make di call?

When a guy starts dodging a girl's calls, he is sick & tired of that relationship. And he is merely looking for an escape route, without saying too much.

pretysmile:
Asking for your girlfrd's hand in marriage frm her parents is only common in d eastern part of Nigeria, Since it is an agreement between u n your g/frd dt u love each other, your g/frd should b d one to tell her parents.U'll then be asked to come n meet them not dt u'll go str8 to her parents n start tellin them u love their daughter.So i think it isnt a hard thing to do.

Um, don't think that's strictly true. Those in the South-west do it, too.

First, the guy has to propose to the girl & then if she accepts, she tells her mum or closest female relative who then breaks the news to the dad, or head of the family.

Usually, some kind of investigations are conducted into the guy's background, before the girl's family finally gives their approval. A day is set & the guy is asked to bring his family to formally ask for the girl's hand in marriage, in an informal introduction, jocularly tagged "knowing me-knowing you', in the native language.

Good, bad and ugly men exist in all tribes, ethnic groups, races & nations. Period.

What barometer, statistics or indices are you guys using to judge who is the most caring man? Or the most handsome? How did y'all arrive at this conclusion?

sherri:
@laudate+ taurus
i see o, white in black skin, lol

Meaning___________ Just what exactly??

An author recently wrote a story that gives more insight into how the issue of language can affect kinship or family relationships in contemporary Nigeria. Here is an excerpt from that story:

[quote author=Jude Dibia: from ANOTHER STRANGER

They say that language unites a people. That was the common saying. That was why wherever you may find yourself in the world, no matter how remote the place is, when you find someone who speaks your tongue, you are immediately brothers or sisters. You are one because your language unites you. My language instead alienates me from my people. It has made me an outcast, a stranger to my kinsmen. It was long coming and somehow I knew. [/quote]http://209.85.165.104/search?q=cache:kVqnnASJ5gMJ:www.blackbiro.com/dibia.htm+jude+dibia+another+stranger&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=1&gl=ng

[quote author=Red_Lips link=topic=37606.msg1093874#msg1093874 date=1178376305]If you go outside of Nigeria with just traditional done, how exactly do you intend to show PROOF that you two are married? Perhaps you intent to show everyone a picture of a calabash or kolanut as proof that you two are married in the eyes of the law?[/quote]Oh mi gosh! I can't stop laughing!! Una no go kill person with laughter for here.

Finally, have you tried to sit her down to have a heart-to-heart talk with her?

Invite her to lunch or drop in on her, unannounced. Ask her quietly & directly, "What offence have I commited against you? Please tell me so I can make ammends." Make her realise that she is not losing a brother, but gaining a sister.

Then see what she says. It might be all you need to break the ice between you. Peace.

sherri:
why do u need to please her?
treat her like u would treat your own difficult sister, how she reacts is not in your control.
a beg, just be yourself! all the best for nuptials

Ah, dat one get as e be o. You don't want the future mother-in-law to say that "it was when this new bride came in, that katakata started between the brother & his younger sister." Mothers will often take sides with their daughters. Blood is thicker than water.

@titilayomi,

Its' best to lie low. Don't let them give you a bad name. If the younger sister reacts negatively, then it may get to the attention of the mother-in-law, who might bring it to her son's notice, as well as to the attention of other family members. Sparks could fly among all those involved. And most men have a soft spot for their mothers. The ensuing friction could even end up affecting your own relationship with the guy. Do you want that? My advice? Play it cool. Win other members of the family who are not as difficult as she is, to your side. Once you pally them, whenever you are not around, they will likely chip in a good word in your favour.

The guy needs to build a base at the grassroots level. Even if all the elites vote for him in 2011 or whenever, he won't get there without the support of the masses.

He also needs to get into active service & make some solid, positive contributions that will serve as a reference point for future generations. Networking is also critical. He should build strong alliances with all sections & ethnic regions of Nigeria, too.

Take the late M.K.O Abiola for instance. The guy had a formidable campaign machinery, when he ran for elections in 1993. The late Shehu Yar'adua also had a solid team & a well-defined strategy, which Atiku Abuabkar inherited after he died & put at the disposal of OBJ, during the 1999 elections. Pat Utomi needs to learn how they did it.

Campaigns on cyberspace do not win elections. People do. Either by voting (or rigging). Please note: am not saying he should learn how to rig. But he should learn that political elections are not won by 'word of mouth', but by solid concerted effort which starts with long-term preparation, many months or even years, before the actual event.

[quote author=Red_Lips link=topic=20321.msg1086677#msg1086677 date=1178117791]Oh the sweet Irony.

anyway it's because they feel emasculated.[/quote]Gba o! You hit the nail on the head. There are some men who don't care how many PG degrees a woman has, as long as she makes them feel good.    And there are others who feel intimidated, once they see you have more than one degree attched to your name. A massive inferiority complex kicks in & they run for their lives.
They feel inadequate & think that their weaknesses would be revealed for all to see.

How sad.