₦airaland Forum

awoof:
na wah for nairaland people o! I spaek my mind finish somebody they ask me which "centric" i get. anyway my own centric is "i go die centric" finis

Oh mi gosh, I can't stop laughing! Na wa O! Na why you wan die, now?

exotique:
@Seun
Who takes the lead in the cautioning (better still, enlightening),we, right?

Actually, the husband is the one who is supposed to call his siblings to order by letting them know that his wife isn't used to such practices. He needs to approach the issue tactfully by making them realise that such prefixes do not add or detract from their worth as human beings. So why the fuss?

Another thing, the lady can do is to call them the 'brother' or 'sister'  title, that they are clamouring for. It doesn't cost anything & it will buy her some peace. If she still doesn't like the idea, she needs to get her husband to talk to them, quietly & respectfully, about this issue. But on no account, should she turn it into a confrontation. Doing so, will erode the valuable goodwill she needs, in order to make her marriage & her relationship with her in-laws, succeed.

In Yorubaland, a woman doesn't just get married to her husband alone, she is also seen as being married 'into' the family. Blending into a family through marital ties, takes a little bit of give & take and a certain amount of work.

dela:
If u really sure u love him,go ahead and marry him.History is full of those who married each other against all odds.good luck!

True!! True!!

Erm, where is Ogbuefi Donzman to shed more light on this issue? I thought he said the matter was a non-issue in the East?

fadal:
that's kind of a true because i had igbo girl that break my heart because she so another boy from her tribe.

Ee yah! Sorry o! Take heart. May God heal your pain.

Afam:
Yar'adua on the other hand has performed well in government, no single charge of corruption, even his political opponents cannot accuse him of anything including Buhari that comes from the same state with him.

Haba, Afam I have been nodding my head in agreement with your comments for so long, but I had to apply my brakes here. What was Yar'adua doing before he became governor? Even though he is honest like everyone agrees, but we need to know that running a multi-ethnic, diverse nation like Nigeria, is a lot more complex than running a relatively homogenous state like Katsina. Will he perform creditably as a president? Dunno. Remember Shagari was said to be honest, but he allowed his lieutenants to run Nigeria aground. He was the emperor that fiddled while Rome or shall we say, Naija burned.

Afam:
Infact, for the simple reason that Utomi is contesting in a multi ethnic and tribal nation like Nigeria without realising the need for power shift back to the north after 8yrs, it shows he does not even understand the country or he is filled with selfish motives.

Again, I beg to disagree. The presidency of Nigeria is not the birth-right of any single group. Can someone tell me, what makes one section of the country more eligible to contest for the presidency, than another? Every eligible Nigerian who has the courage & answers to the problems of this land, should be allowed to take a shot at the presidency, irrespective of his ethnic background. That is my view. This 'noise' called power shift, has the ability to set us back a hundred years. If I had my way in this world, I'd 'shift' that power to the South-east or the Niger-Delta, if it were possible. But then, the world is not my book. So let me keep on dreaming.

Afam:
You cannot get the type of freedom and good governance on a platter of gold, we must be prepared to face issues squarely.

True talk. Well said, Afam!

noblezone:
As long as we on this earth, there shall always be murderers. Govt exists to bring such people to book.

God does not bring murderers to book. The police and other security services, are supposed to do that, through the courts.

noblezone:
REASON? People of qeustionable characters like Andy Uba and Akala are forced upon the people by internal colonialists who are using the state power to perpeutate ills in our society. Our people are under task masters, internal colonialists who are worse than the white men are on the loose. That is why a man from Ogun state will solely decided who will be the governor of Anambra state. Anybody that says no is a security risk. Time and History will judge, but also I abhor Nigeria.

People like Akala and Andy Uba are able to perpetrate their ills, because they have a 'base' or a form of support from different elements, within their society. In Ibadan for example, Akala assisted by his god-father Adedibu, have used able-bodied miscreants and the poor, uneducated segment of the masses in that land, to garner some kind of 'grassroots' support. Due to a lack of jobs, education and income, these people have become ready tools in the hands of glorified area-fathers like Akala, who often use them to unleash trouble in the society, at the drop of a hat.

Erm, government is made up of people, not just one man. A man alone, does not make a government. Government starts from the people on the lowest rung of the ladder. And where people are united in their efforts and collective will to bring down a state or a regime, make no mistake, most of the time they will succeed. It has happened in many countries. It is only a matter of time.

Until the people of Ibadan who desire good governance and accountability are ready to unite, rise up and chase these rabble-rousers out of town, then Ibadan will continue to be at the mercy of folks like Akala. No man from Ogun can restore the dignity of Ibadan people, if they themselves are not ready to take their destiny in their hands. May God save us all.

What a question!

I am most definitely going to teach my child how to speak, read and write my own Naija language. I will teach him or her as much as I can of my culture, and that of the person I end up getting married to, eventually. It is compulsory and mandatory.

@Ogejov,

Please go to this link:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-23527.96.html

The subject has been discussed extensively there. You will get a variety of opinions on this subject.

DewDrop:
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I am Nigerian.

I just happen to understand Yoruba


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Good girl!! Thumbs up, my sista. What a lovely response. .

Ikomi:
Coming back to cost of leaving. Like I said before, apart from Abuja, Lagos and Portharcourt. Point to the least developed town in Igbo land that the cost of leaving meets that of the least developed town in the north or west, and where u would get the same level of social amenities. The cost of leaving in Aba and Enugu, not to mention Umuahia which are mostly civil servants towns are even getting near to that of Lagos. You may go on to tell me that the the case of Aba is different as it is a commercial nerve centre, but is it more of a commercial nerve centre than Kano or Kaduna, where even N50 would carry u futher than it will in any Igbo land.

I experimented this in my days as a copper in Nigeria,

Ikomi, your analysis is interesting. Do you realise that even though fuel is also expensive in the north, (with the exception of Abuja) the cost of living is still far lower in the north, (with the exception of Abuja again), than in the south? And no matter how high the cost of fuel is in the north, it is often still far less than in some parts of the the South-East and the South-West! I don't get it!

Ikomi:
But we should try looking at ourselfs as the proud one we always want to be. The blessed ones that God has truly made us, but let us not also forget that it is only when we start loving ourselves to really raise our starndards collectively, can we really show that sence of pride and blessing that I have really seen in every Igbo man.

If u ask me the Igbo race is one of the most intelligent in the world at large. For that human u give so little and he would turn it into spectacle should not only be respected but cherished.

But until that grand gift is turned into a collective movement in other to give every Igbo boy/girl a chance in life is realised then and only then could we turn from individuals really blessed and gifted into walking angels.

I must let u know its not what could be achieved in a day or two. A century might as well sound like tommorrow. But even if it is going to take a millenia. The journey starts today, and it starts with u.

Well said, Ikomi. But it should apply to every single ethnic group, as well!! This piece is one of the best I have read in recent times, on nairaland. It encourages us to think beyond ourselves and focus on those around us.

nossycheek:
It is not true. Take away Ibadan and Lagos and tell me the so called developed towns in the West.

Erm, there are several developed towns in the West o, like Abeokuta, Akure, Osogbo, Ilesha etc. Should I go on?

nossycheek:
For the north, apart from the major cities, Kano, Kaduna, Abuja and Jos, majority are inhabitable.

Ah??!! Are you sure? So Lafia in Nassarawa state is inhabitable? What about Lokoja, Sokoto, Makurdi, Katsina, Minna and Zaria? No, don't let me go into details. My sista, I doubt if you have visited the north. Even the more recent states like Yobe and co. are upgrading their state capitals. Please visit the north soon, and come back to share your experience.

nossycheek:
West? The roads to most of the states are akin to those in the East, if not worst.
Schools? Well, they are just trying to upgrade the Jakandes. But for private schools, they are superb.

Yeah, apart from Lagos and Ogun states and a few areas of Oyo state, the roads are not much to write home about. But the schools are in far better condition than the roads. Even the state-owned schools. But then, you may not have seen them. Jakande Estates are not the only type of estates in the West o. What about Marwa estates? Or all the LSDPC ones? Please take a trip round the major cities and you will see a world of difference, between the past and the present when it comes to housing estates.

Wake up, girl!

The married guy is just using you! Right now, you are the advertising break/interlude between his marriage programme. If he really loved you, you would be the one wearing his ring, bearing his name & sharing his villa. But you aren't, are you?

I don't know how many lifetimes exist on this side of eternity, but I would love to be re-born as a Naija person, no matter how many times it takes.  Am not only Naija by birth, but wholly Naija in deed and truth. Long live Nigeria and God bless this nation, for ever!!

"I love my country, I no go lie,"