₦airaland Forum

Oh well I can carry myself very well, esp in public. I am quiet and dont talk much.

yeah they do hauwa , I just don't think its fair for women to be judged.

Redgal, if they are traditionally married, forget it, they will never seperate especially if there is children.  his wife could be fuly all knowing his game and playing along with it. Not sure what the legislation says in the USA, but certianly if he had a child with you and was supporting it that would help his stay and help his freedom of movement. he may not want to marry you as he could have already promised his naija wife he would marry her in the US when he is fully sorted out.

Now in saying that, i could be wrong given that he IS a US citizen, but if he is a US citizen why is he wife in Nigeria?

babyboo 79, I think some rather get married in Nigeria as its quicker. Others don't want to make themselves known to the authorities in the west for various reasons ie visa expiration, there is always a method in their madness!

I dont think you need to be afraid of him keeping you in Nigeria, thats prolly the last thing on earth he would do.

@tiffany, you need to be careful aswell. As much as we are human and how much as love can grow, the shit will hit the fan, Nigerian men need women who they can relate to. Totally different cultures with totally different mentalities. As much as I research this matter I am always willing to compromise, but sorry, I can never change the person who I am nor can I pretend I am something I'm not.

Thats nice Tiffany! at least he wants to take you down to Nigeria! thats something. very best of luck!

You do just that then hope she calls the immigration on your ass, your lucky your not with me, you don't know the connections I have, I would have you knee capped right away!

That girl is very very lucky she never had your children. However, at least your honest.

Remeber oyibos can handle drink, they are used to it and it is acceptable in our culture. We still do what we have to do at home etc etc. i would like to know how you define worship b'cos there is one or two ladies I know who dont drink and smoke at all and their husbands go out and cheat around.

Dereloaded, So youre saying any woman, Nigerian or not, if they drink and smoke they can never be respected?
So what exactly is it that makes a woman respected?
How can a nigerian man expect his western/American/carribean wife to be a tee totaler?

So the only way you can be respected is if you are a TT

yeah its just something I noticed even though I only know igbo ladies so dunno. That irish cream stuff is gross!! not to mention guinness!! yuck, I like wine sometimes though.

thought I was going to die it felt like a volcanoe erupting inside me. yes it is the most painful thing I have ever experienced in my whole life.

its worth the pain though!!!!

I noticed at Nigerian parties none of the women drink at all but all of the men do?

I also noticed that south african women do have a drink alongside their husbands.

How come Nigerian women never drink?

howah, I didnt want to hurt them though! thats why i tot that throwing them into bioling water would not be a painful death!!

thank God your oyinbo wife never got pregnant. She sounds like the sensible type.

@poster, Sure this is all your own doing. If you had of done some research you would have copped on that no igbo families get divorced (very very few) did you not wonder why he wasnt bringing you to Nigeria? this is now a matter for the immigration autorities.

I think NJ11 hit it on the nail!

Youmust beIreland, the land of a thousand welcomes! cos you only need to bemarried for three years here then you can apply for naturalisation.

Yeah go and find some robot! you have your papers now eh?

Then you will get sick of your robot too! well see how your life is when you go get a wife from your own country! baby after baby after baby! oneafter theother! then again thats 'culture' and you will be left paying ALL the bills mate.

Good luck to you, its better for you to find someone from a village that cannot even say her name in english. Your very lucky dear, being let out to party with your mates every weekend also!

have you nothing better to do other than listening to barbie talk!!!

You guys have got me rolling around with laughter especially you Ritchie you are a scream!!!!!

Jeez no I wasnt drunk, it was an accident and I appologised. I dont drink much.

Point is have I ruined my marriage for doing a thing like that? as a Nigerian man with cultural values he is very very angry what is the best way for me to handle this?

ok guys, normally I just have a couple of drinks and I am fine. Saturday night i went overboard,my husband went to bed and I was up watching the TV went to close the window and lost my balance and fell into it and smashed it. My husband is furious he won't talk to me. He went out and bought a new one for 900euros!!. I told him i would get a new one and finance it but he went ahead and got another one that I don't have all the money for. I only have a small PT job but what I did was very wrong. I'm feeling very guilty and embarrassed, he is never gonna take me seriously now,

Wow Udode, you will have a wonderful trip indeed! I was there twice. Abuja is a really cool city we travelled to Enugu also. I would not fly on any of the domestic flights though to be honest even though they may be alright. Don't pay for anything by yourself, always make sure your partner is with you, otherwise you will be charged even more than double. I had massive diarrhorea for the the two weeks I was there. I get it in other hot countries too though. Wish I could go again real soon,  you're so lucky. Your case is quite rare indeed. 

What do you mean by driving you around? do you mean as in a car?

Well my appologies then JJYOU.

I have never had to put up with that kind of stuff! anal sex is not all that bad. I quite like it now,

Thankfully,I have never been treated as bad as that. My husband doesnt go missing and is in noway as vicious as that. Papers again, sorry bridget. Be a senisble woman and report it to the Home office that you no longer reside together as husband and wife.

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yo Carol, now thats what I'm talkin about. I would go out and buy a garden shears and shred every stitch of clothes he had. Iwould also call the police. I would be just waiting for that kinda shite, if I even found out my hubby was in a club I woulds mack the face off him.

This is the same girl that found out, just after she had her son that he impregnated another woman. She is still with him even after him punching the faceoff her. You really are something else. As I have said many a time, leave them to their own women.

You will run yourself into an early grave, get rid of that piece of filth.

Please dress up and go clubbing along with him.

The older generation would. There is a thingcalled stek and kidney pie remember. We do eat that. We also love lambs liver and heart. Sausages here in ireland are made from all the inner organs!

Sara I am irish also, I think the most disturbing thing is that your hsuband is looking for group sex!!thats really bad. Perhaps he was just using you for papers all along. Have you ever thought of that?