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Bro pls let her go,all her aim is to use you to get to abroad.remember you brought her and dont forget you can send her back but dont ask me how.

quote author=LinLinGentle post=89543812]
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.[/quote]

Are you not a nigga are you still not a modern slave in your country? Abeg we no dey see am as issue over here ,either you like it or not we blacks are niggas for life

I can show you what business to do here in US and trust me you are going to make it in no time

quote author=Brodapounds post=86853347]Hello dear nairalanders.

Please I'm going through a state of mental confusion.

Currently i have approximately 20 million and 300 thousand naira in my bank account.

I have two thoughts.

1) I am 25 years old but I'm not a university graduate, i only have ND (National deploma) from a polytechnic In Edo state, Auchi precisely.

I would have become a graduate years ago but after my "ND" years ago, i refused to go back to school and i decided to hustle for money.

Most of my classmates in school back then are all graduates but all the same, looking at my bank account now, i have no regrets.

So this is what i plan on doing.

1) Can i further my Education In any university in the United States with the money and plan on staying back after my degree, for the fact that I'm 25.
Will that be advisable?

2) should i stay back in Nigeria and use part of the money to build a house In my hometown in Benin and use the rest for business?

3) Is there a chance of going to USA and start all over again, look for job.
Will the money be enough to rent a house, foot some bills untill i see a job in the USA.

Note i choose USA only because it's my dream country, I'm not scared of the traveling ban because I'm 100% confident that it will be taken away few months from now.

Please i won't be replying any mention or questions.

All i want is to take note of good advice.

I already know a reliable traveling agent.

Please other suggestions are welcomed apart from mine.

Please help[/quote]

Unless you know his name,btw hope you are not looking for his contact in order to ask for money or are you coming to USA

No wast your time as you wont get d Visa, even people with USA Visa are getting their Visa cancels so if you get listening ears run and run before agent milk d hell out of you

Pls I'm facing g same situation, can you enlighten me on how you get your package? Thanks

uote author=topskylinkers post=79618358]Yes I have gotten my parcel,,, thanks to everyone[/quote]

that money you are about to wast can't you donate it to a charity

handsomeyitayo:
Please anyone with idea?

That's d major problem now

dejol88:
How do one get the US visa ? With all the denial everywhere

You can come to US I promise,buying auction cars by yourself present here she'd them to naija while your kpali is still under process. O boy within a year your money go be x 3 it 4

dejol88:
Sequel to the just concluded elections , I have decided to get out of this country forever. To be sincere i have raised 6 million naira in cash but dont want to invest it here due to unfavorable climate .

Kindly list out 1st world country i can relocate to and the steps to take to achieve it.

Your kind input would forever be appreciated

nifemiayoade:
Hi, my name is AYOADE OLUWANIFEMI, am an architect, have worked with several construction company for passed 10years and I have a lot of experience in design and construction.last 5years I pickup some young professional construction body to created ARCHARAN ARCHITECTURE AND CONSTRUCTION COMPANY, which as been register under d federal govt of Nigeria.In our company nothing is in possible, we design and build houses to the taste of what u want and in model style,we can also help u 2 collect your approval and certificate of occupancy (c of o)for your building. we are the best in construction,try us 2 day and u we see d different .add me on whatsapp or call 08069253261.however ,both architect and engineers work as a team to achieve a goal.so many architectural & engineering drawing hav been correct by d company, so many building hav been corrected & renovated to taste of d owner.Pls beware don't give ur buildind construction to some quack engineers that believe architectural design can not be achievable on site. They will later destroy the plan and disorganised what u want. Don't let them fool u,let save lifes,property and money from building collapsin

Are you in Lagos or Abuja

Do shutdown affected visa interview? Hell to d no

Congratulations d Don

please my people is there available date in lagos consulate.

hi nlanders pls whats d available dates for visa appointment in lagos, I got October 3rd for my fiancée and I want to see if I can get like October date in lagos

OK thanks

crazyABO:
aint really gat any idea about that but ima see to that

You better say d truth now cos we all know you are one of them fail SARS. But wait o SARS is a disease now.

gabng:
Recently (today 17/07/2018) , Social Media was agog with the pictures of F-SARS operatives (in official NPF F-SARS kit) in a casual photo (see attached photo).

Commentaries from citizens casting aspersions & insults followed same. In the midst of all these it is important to not loose sight of the following under listed facts:-

- operatives in that photo were part of the team that was involved in the capture of billionaire kidnapper "Evans"

- The operatives as recent as few months ago where involved in the release of an octogenarian relative of mine who was kidnapped on his way to Delta state from Lagos.

While Nigerian's may be pissed with regards to thier "looks" it is important to note that 70% of their work profile involves serious undercover work in tough & very hostile environment & they should not be expected to look like Idris Elba on the cover of Vogue Magazine.

Try & imagine how security in Lagos State would be if F-SARS is not working for just 12 hours. Trust me it would be a MAD MAX kind of apocalypse.

Give our policemen the support they deserve & push your elected representives to allocate more funding to the NPF.

Shalom

Bro can you help me out on one more thing ? I will like to know d average salary of uber driver there weekly as I want to venture in going into I've, I have a 2014 equinox

crazyABO:
here enough job! Schools, easy transportation 24hrs should i say affordable housing? Well depends though. But cost of living is above average

I can be of help I live here in US too, Memphis TN. Contact me.you can drop your number

itzmoni:
Please guys need help to know how much you can come into the country with in cash from USA... Don't want harassment at the airport...and also if it is possible to make deposit at a bank in USA and then get the money over at Nigeria.. I am really confused... I have tried sending myself Money with western union and moneygram but its not working...help guys..please very urgent... What card is best for our ATM.. Can a visa American card work on our ATM... Please help oo

I'm in Tennessee bro I'm planning of moving down there too.hope you're enjoying the area? Can you give me d situation of that area as in job, house and transportation

crazyABO:
Hi guys! Moved in from California like 8month's ago. I now base in new york bronx to be precise. If you within US or new york lets chat up. Gracias

Mailing address is where they will send your package to, your house address

If Canada dey sure for you my broda what are you waiting for and if you like to come USA just hala at me

papascode:
Good day all,

I have been confused on what to do with the money I have saved. I am a contract staff in one of the banks and I have saved considerable amount of money over the years I have been working there. But I am tired of my job, as same as many of my colleagues who wish they had one quarter of the money I had saved to quit the job.

I am not a lazy man I am very hardworking as adhuged by my supervisors but the issue is I have stayed on one spot for too long and no promotion. My greatest joy is that I was able to achieve a masters degree in a federal university in nigeria while working but my job doesn't give me time to even look out for other jobs.
So please guys I am throwing this up here because I know on this thread there are people who have been in my situation before that made the better choice and are happy for it.
I have two very important decisions to make either to use the money I have saved to travel abroad for school for masters and hopfully settle down there or to stay here in Nigeria to start up a pure water production factory but Nigeria and it's uncertainties keeps discouraging me. kindly note that I have saved up to 9million naira to take up any of these ventures and I am 35 years not yet married.
Please I need honest advice to a brother there are some persons like me who will benefit from this advice we render.
Thank you

Good day miraclemum,pls I will need your help on how to go about getting paper work including doctors papers. I am novice to everything I live in US and my fiancee lives in Nigeria. She is pregnant now and want to have our baby here in US. What are the documents do I need and and what are the documents will she need to take along for visa interview? Thanks in advance

MiracleMum:
I also applied for emergency appointment with the acceptance letter from the hospital/doctor in US and my hospital in Nigeria and got a date within 24hours.

Congrats on your visa,please can you guide me by giving the info on how to get all d nesesary documents my fiancee need to take with her to the embassy for interview.fiancee in Nigeria and I'm in US. Rhanks

Run for your life bro bro

bassey87:
There is this particular girl I met on social media. She is extremely beautiful with lots of guys trying to woo her. I am a financially stable dude with a good business that brings in steady income and continue to expand.

Though she never asked me for money I sent her money willingly because I was really having it. I was more concerned about her attention though I got very little of it because she was in a relationship at the time.

I guess she started having problems with her boyfriend and I really needed her attention so I could win her over to my side but she started dating a new guy immediately from what I saw in her post and pictures. I met her for the first time and tried to make love to her but she refused, I didn't feel bad about it because I really wanted her for myself and wanted a chance to access her character to know if I can build a life with her. She was willing to come sleep with me the next day but I left before she made the call that she is sorry about yesterday and will come spend the night with me.

After that anytime I sent her a message she hardly reply so I got fed up and stopped talking to her and changed my phone without updating her. I was surprised she contacted me again after a long time and we got talking. Within a couple of days she started telling me about her financial difficulties that she needed money urgently to solve some personal and family issues, but the way she dress in all her recent pictures doesn't tell of one in need of assistance though I don't care because I really like her. She has been showing concern and always check on me ever since.

Presently I am in a position to give her more than what she requested for but what I want is love but she is more concern about the money. I have been painting a picture of someone who is struggling and I expected her to have deleted me by now but that has not been the case. With her beauty I am even wondering why she came to me when she could easily get countless rich dude to give her all the money she wants by offering herself to them.

I did a little investigation and found out some of the things she told me about herself and family are true but I couldn't get anything relating to her financial status. I have now concluded to continue acting poor to see if she will go away because I can't make a financial commitment without getting anything back in return. I can't really tell what is on her mind and why she really came to me.

I understand but it might bring extra question which he might not be comfortable for him I've witness alot of something like this

seyewest:
it does not matter. The difference between the 2 states is just bridge.. With the subway you can make it to New York from New Jersey in 30 mins

don't you think with 71miles away is too far? I advice you save up some money and make your booking at Newyork.the question will be too heavy for you to answer at d Poe.why did you book hotel in jersy

quote author=echo2 post=60660084]Hello guys I will be traveling soon on a b1/b2 and it is stated on my ds160 that am going for
Academic tour in New York City....I checked bookings.com to book hotel but hotel in New York are too expensive so I saw cheaper ones at New Jersey(bookings.com
Suggested it)....I want to know if I won't have any ish at POE[/quote]

notin is impossible just make sure you are very much in contact wit d woman because of time frame wen you get here

... i plan to travel to USA on student visa and on getting there to marry a woman, won't there be a problem with the immigration asking why im i not going to school but got married ?

yes i dey permanent here my broda and I've Visited Canada twice

seyewest:
Boss as how? Are you living permanent in U.S?

are you seriouse? is Mexico better than naija? do you speak Spanish,let me tell you that you can't cross from Mexico to US again,be careful.with your travel experience do yourself a favour just go to Dubai for one month wen you go back to naija apply for US Visa thou shall be giving


quote author=teeee post=16154717]well, i apply for Mexican visa after my short stay in south Africa And i was giving six month visa and i don't have any body in Mexico, how can i make it there, i have contacted a lot of people concerning contact in Mexico but to know avail. i want to go either stay in Mexico or cross to Canada/ USA/ japan/ Australia[/quote]

you got to be careful so they won't kick ur ass back to naija,going in November for another purpose can't you see it's too soon to change your mind? my candid advice to you is wait for like 3 months before coming.
On my case I waited for 1 whole yr and I still had little issue at d port with my b1 b2 V but tank Baba God I be boss here now.
remember those guys at the port of entry ain't playing

quote author=Donaltus post=60558769]Hello gurus in the house



I was given b1/b2 visa last week Wednesday, tho I stated that am going for a cultural festival which is stating October 6-8......,am suppose to arrive USA by 5 and depart by 10,but my plans have change due to some issue on ground.....hope there won't be any issue if I decide to go for another program for November. Thanks I need candid advice[/quote]

got damn you are done with UK man

Bleep you
quote author=Saintsammurai post=60540665]THE bible says, keep the sabbath day holy, the same bible says, seek ye first the kingdom of GOD and his riteousness and every other thing shall be added into it....You have mondays till saturdays to make money and provide for your families, you cannot go to your place of work on sundays, instead of going to the house of GOD, if you do that, then you will go to hell and wont make heaven.. THE time has come for the true worshipers of GOD to worship him in spirit and in truth. And the truth is, If you have a job that requires your service on sundays, then quit the job, because its GOD over everything... GOD will provide a better job for you...Let us tell ourselfs the truth, you cannot claim to love GOD and go to work on sundays instead of going to church to worship him.. so dont deceive yourself, Going to your place of work on sundays will only land you in hell and you are not a true christian...bible reference: Exodus 20 verse 8. deuteronomy 5 verse 12, exodus 31 verse 16.[/quote]