Am only happy here cos no one advised you to divorce him......

Nitefury:
Op just find your way jare. Who says her involvement with other guys weren't sexual? She's also not a fool to be waiting endlessly for you that's why she got involved with other guys at different points even though she claimed it wasn't sexual. Don't be surprised she buzz you up and tell you she's found someone else.

Perhaps she's acting as if she's actually waiting for you, while it might just be that the relationship between her and other guys didn't work out.

She don move on before you since, you still dey form lover boy wey no wan break heart.

"however she always complains about my absence and had gotten involved with other men not sexually according to her, but all the other stuffs. I thought of getting married to her in absentia, however recently she got involved with someone and that eroded the trust and love i have for her."

You were busy working and hustling you're back side out while staying faithful so you can come back for her. You even tried securing student visa for her. But as usual she uses your absence and claims of missing you as excuse to get involved with other guys.

Chief, she's still single and "waiting for you" because those guys chop clean mouth waka.

Oga American!! This is the best post on this thread,, ,she has moved on since, claiming she was waiting for you, don't f**king give her a dime

How did you know she wasn't sexualy involved with the guys she met .
God knows I can never act like this, I don't even need any advice on this....

Chibuhealth:
OP if u dare leave that girl, God will punish u! U can't waste her tym all these years for u to be yarning dirty here. Look for alternative nd marry her. You sound as if you are tired of her and can dimiss her with any flimsy excuses

What if God decides not to punish him?

Nicepoker:
Nairaland ladies can give u correct advice. But if that happens to them all of them here will sleep with the guy.

This is so flicking funny and so true

fake story

mikel weeping and begging for forgiveness,
lwkmd o

Where is VictoriaBee ?

kingdong:


Handsome dudes end up marrying..............a virtuous woman(?) whose price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil...Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised.


"From the deepest (unfulfilled?) desires often come the deadliest hate."

“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.”

God help us all.

You forgot
End up marrying beautiful virtuous women

Or

Ugly virtuous women

Op's wife falls in one of this category

bennyrazz:
@op, keep on being the good wife that you are. Lay less emphasis on money. You are looking at the future which is highly commendable while your husband is looking at today. You are very ambitious and you are a type of woman most men out there would like to have has a wife. Why? you have conscience, you don't want to hurt your hubby, you are submissive, financially strict etc Don't keep secrets from him. But you should make him understand that rain does not fall everyday so you need to save water in your tanks for the sunny day. You and only you can do it..Sorry to say this, you are the man mentally while your husband is the woman mentally

The best post ever

Happybirthday to u


Your child just collect your wife face...chaiiii

Handsome dudes end up marrying..............
^^^^^

Fill in the blank spaces

Who called me?

FrancisTony:

Who gave birth to Jesus? Mary - woman.

Who saw Jesus first on ressurrection? Mary Magadalene and other women.

Who condemned Jesus to death? Pontius Pilate - man.

Who betrayed Jesus? Judas Iscariot - man.

Tsk! Tsk!!

So what are you saying?

FrancisTony:

Who gave birth to Jesus? Mary - woman.

Who saw Jesus first on ressurrection? Mary Magadalene and other women.

Who condemned Jesus to death? Pontius Pilate - man.

Who betrayed Jesus? Judas Iscariot - man.

Tsk! Tsk!!

So what are you inplying?

One day una go give madwoman makeover

Our men go think say na sane woman begin toast am

Bro

Nos 2,3 4,5,6 is killing

Everybody thinks you have tons of girlfriend

Coupled with the fact that am a baller,

Have accepted my fate sha

People bringing marine spirits into their home in the name of she's my fiance



Ordinary fiance

asking this kind of question

When you finally marry her what you will hear is choose between me and God who u love most

epelumi42:


what exactly is your definition of like? And did you have to quote me?? Clown flying around in a circus. I'm still deliberating on whether to break your fingers with this pepper leaf or sheet of paper.

Online small boy rants

What I just did was to check your pics and just shaked my head

I bet you if I come in contact with you, your parents won't see you for 5 years

Simple statement that I made u started throwing insults,

Mtchewwwwww

epelumi42:


She made points related to each other and one, contradicting.

Putting themselves out there and appearing too desperate. When a lady makes herself too available, she starts to lose class.

She also made points about them setting high standards and also not being a burden. The points should have fallen under the same explanation. She mentioned financial stuff repeatedly.

The point is this: a lady that wants to get married won't create hatred for men, so the last sentence in the feminism part was unnecessary.

There's something about Nigerians, you can't do it perfectly. You just have to be reasonable in your actions.

My bit. Misssclassy, I [b]like you o[b]but I can't always support your points.

I can't like who I v not set my eyes on

cococandy:
I painted I picture?
I'm sure you must think I tweeted all those tweets there.

I got married earlyish. Trust me If I was still single, given a few years more, the derisive comments will start coming. As if being single makes me less of a human. I see it happen to lots single ladies. Because I'm married doesn't mean I should pretend like it does not exist
Yes Nigerians ladies are hard-working. Is it the same thing as having a voice?

So you married so early and yet you want some of our sisters here to think marriage is not an achievement,
some of them single in their late 30's here will even join you to shout marriage is not an achievement

While you ran off to marry so early



God is watching us o

You people should stop increasing your blood pressure over something that will only end in twitter or nairaland



What about
#beingmaleinnaija
When you are in bus with women and the engine stops and it requires the bus to be pushed the ladies in the bus will just fold hands and watch the guys do the pushing

When a female gets angry and hits you, dare not raise your hand cos she's a lady,

When you treat them equal, they are the ones' that will shout please kill that snake, don't you know am a woman
Na una wey get time

naijaboiy:

Bia missclassy!

Does this not go against your feminism standard?

Did you actually believe she is really a feminist?

Teempakguy:
Nairaland is a holy ground. He that joineth suffereth no suffereth . . ness . . .

Lmao holy ground

Maybe immediately we join our problem gets transfered to our friends

chowlade:
NL guys r judgemental bf u knw it , people assume all sort of things opposed to ur thread. they will bash u along with it.

Not all guys dear
Both male and female

Some really give good advice

I have observed this latest or old trend in nairaland where most of nairalander's friends have one problem or the other facing them

Is either you hear
" my friend is the one facing this problem"
Or you hear " I have a friend in dilemma " or "my friend needs my advice and I thought it's better I bring it to nairaland"

Now I ask
Are nairalander's immune to problems cos have never seen where they actually admit they are the one going through that problem instead they open up new account to share it

Or is it that immediately you join nairaland your friends start having problem and you suddenly become iron man


Just saying

Krisgift:
And what makes you think that a lady only goes to a hotel room to 'hustle'....?


Some People and their mentality self.

So a lady that is from a poor background unemployed can lodge her self in a five star luxury hotel..so you mean she can afford a five star hotel abi?

So for her taking selfie is just to show off or wants to belong or attract potential customer

Truth be told

A matured lady who works in a reputable firm won't have time taking selfie or posing in a seductive way inside the bathroom,hotel room, or whatsoever

nigerianium:

Ireneony, when I am fully back you and your servile, dimwitted butt-licking skunk-esque ilk would bear the brunt of lexical spears.

Simpleton-esque bimbo!

Chaiiii

Mr mark

Son of mark

Na wa o



But she is just having a good time..

njokusboy:
Verbal abuse is equal to physical abuse...
Since I was a child, i'd always preferred getting whipped to getting verbally violated especially from my mum....
The only difference between the two is the perpetrators..... stronger people would prefer physical abuse while weaker people would prefer verbal abuse, the reason why weaker people don't resort to physical abuse is because they know they'd get beat up, they'd beat you up if they could...
So it depends on which suits you

When I was growing up
I always prefer being whipped with a kobobko soaked In kerosene to being verbally abused by my mum or by the venomous piercing soul ripping words of my elder sisters

It hurts like shit
For the whipping part The pain only endures at that moment and it's forgotten
But for the spoken words it keeps haunting me day and night

Verbal abuse is worse
That's why in Europe and America people commit suicide just because of the verbal and abusive words being thrown at them

misssclassy:
First of all, I am sorry for the situation you have found yourself in.
You were naïve when you were used by that man so none of this is your fault.
Staying with that man is not the best option. He doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you and worse than that , he physically abuses you.

I will advice you try your best to find a way to move out of that house.
You don't need to depend on him for survival. There are other things you could do. You could start up a small business so you can take care of yourself. There are a lot of business ideas you could pick from, especially in your school environment. You could also learn a trade or vocation.

In addition to that, there should also be other guys that might have been asking you out and all that. There could be one that would be ready to take care of you. Perhaps you should try to open up a bit. I am not saying you should sleep with men, or sell your body to them, no, all I am saying is you make a couple of friends and perhaps you might find someone to love and who would love you too.
You can't fight this battle alone.

What about members of your extended family, friends in and out of school. There should be someone you could talk to and who could be willing to help.
Just open up to someone close, you will definitely feel the load lifted from you shoulders.

I don't know how committed you are to your religion, but in cases like this , religious organizations can really be of help.
You could talk to your religious leader about everything. They could help.
Even the fellow members of your religious organisation, whether it's a church or a mosque, can also help you.

Young lady, we as humans always face various challenges in our lives. But we should never give in to them and lose all hope.
There is still light at the end of the tunnel. Everything will be okay,
Just keep on trusting God and be prayerful as well.

Are you not a feminist?

Why not empower your fellow woman?

Save her from home abuse and woman battering

Pay for her upkeep,give her money to rent a new house and vice versa
And God will reward u



Back to topic

Op..there is light at the end of the tunnel

Try and stop sleeping with him for now..please to save your womb

Cook up one story about womb damage or something or that you are bleeding or anything so that he can stop having sex with u for now till you find a solution to your problems

You should be more concerned about your health

FrancisTony:

cc Royalroy, Lalasticlala, Ishilove, i'm expecting a ban.

Guy how old are you?

I almost missed training today cos of this thread

Son of mark please e don do

Leave matter for matthias

Remember say a rolling stone na person push am

Ronald4lif how market?

Crazi3Dharay:

daaaymn dahts wicked @underlined.

Am just trying to help her

Chiam55:
The hypocrisy on this thread is deafening!

It is the op and those In support of the op that are displaying said traits


I AM A PROUD FEMINIST

None of that describes me.

You forgot to put "online" feminist

VictoriaBee:

Why not click the link.
A dude asked me a question.

I did and that's how I got to know you love big dicks

That pics of you and your guy had me thinking

Was that acne all around your face and dark spots

I can recommend something good for you

Just saying....