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Good morning fellas!
I'm just about to start my application and I'm being asked to pay 1k for e-Voucher? How legit is this pls? Did u all pay this token before getting started?

Your response will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

yeyeosoronga:
We will have sex when we want to, my broda
We will also use vibrators and other toys when we want to.
I always advice safe sex anyway.
Nigerian women need to take their reproductive health seriously and never leave it in any other person's hands.
There are many disease ridden people out there.
Make sure to use good condoms.
Don't use the morning after pill more than twice a month, and if you've needed to use it almost every month, time to get a long term contraceptive.
Even 16 year old girls abroad are taking responsibility for their sexual health. It's stupid to get an unwanted pregnancy and to be using abortion as your own form of contraceptive. Infact, you're not a serious somebody.

Now, loshybab.
Life is not perfect. Nobody is perfect either. We will always make mistakes in the journey of life. Some of those mistakes may even have dire consequences, but the important thing is to learn from such mistakes and grow..
Allow us grow, and learn from our mistakes and other people's mistakes.
Thank you.

I have spoken ma'am...
You're welcome

jekks:
Me not looking for a virgin, me just looking for a good lady that will take care of me and my unborn children... nothing more

I wish you the bonus of being a virgin,in addition to the above

yeyeosoronga:
No.
The piece of hymen will be broken whenever I chose for it to be, by who I choose.
Women will lose their virginity when they want to do so.
There is no God given pride and dignity.
You create your own pride and dignity as you grow.
Yes, let the consequences stare women in the face. Life in itself was never meant to be perfect.
It's not your business what the consequences of deciding to have premarital sex is for a woman.
Worry about the consequences for you as a man, and stop policing our virginity.
Police your own premarital adventures, and stop disturbing the cyberspace trying to police others.
Women out there, have sex when you want to as an adult. However, practice safe sex. No man is worth getting an STD for . If you have a steady partner, make sure you're both tested for HIV and STI.
Also get proper contraceptive now as an adult, pregnancies can be prevented if you don't want them.

Yeye,Yeye,Yeye!!!
Are u implying that all those currently dancing to the ugly consequences of premarital sex ain't aware of the existence of contraceptives or they really wanted to get pregnant? Definitely not!

There are opinions and there are facts. Our inputs are mere opinions,and no matter the sophistication of how it's been written,it still wouldn't change the fact, which is the decay being caused by premarital pleasure. I'm only using my opinions to corroborate the fact. You agreeing or not doesn't change the fact, because it remains valid.

Before you reply with some other epistle of a defense, pls bear in mind that the plethora of people coming here to seek for opinions and words of encouragement wouldn't do so,if they could handle the consequences of their actions alone.

I quite appreciate your inputs though. Stay safe!

dangotesmummy:
You remind me of the proverbial Yoruba addage about a man who doesn't want to move or work but wouldn't allow others to move or work and when those that are ready to work says he should leave the road for them,he will say no,I am not ready to work therefore nobody else should work


Does my little folklore teach you something?

The elders will say aboro lonsofun omoluabi,tobadeinu e, ADI odindin

For this your written Yoruba, Jesus wept

TheArchangel:
The excuses men gives to support their wanton and uncontrolled sexual lifestyle. It itches the hell out of my brain.
Your post just refer to all men as brainless lots. Goats too, you will always lock your barns or they will mumuishly knock it over to eat your yam.

You can give your point without making recourse to argumentum ad hominem. Pls, be guided!

yeyeosoronga:
[s]Women want to have sex, so they are using the powers you claim they have to do so. Simple as ABC.
I can never see an anatomical piece of mucosal tissue/hymen as my pride or dignity.
NEVER.
There are more things I take my pride in, and that I find more dignifying. My hymen was never one.
It seems some of you think you love women more than they love themselves. Stop feeling that way, because you can never love me more than I love myself.
Perhaps for your own sake, you may continue to preach about keeping my virginity, but don't say it's for my pride and dignity. I'm not keeping it because you want me to, as it's got nothing to do with you in the first place.
If it affects you so much, then work on those taking away the virginity. Majority of women don't care, as most feel it doesn't define them.
Sex is enjoyable, whether premarital or in marriage. Let women also enjoy sex, as men have been enjoying it too. If you want women to stop, kindly ask men to keep their peepees in their trouzees.[/s]

With all these grammar you wrote up there,it still doesn't change the fact that little piece of mucosal tissue deserves to be kept for the right man and broken at the right time. It remains your pride and dignity,albeit,not the only one. It's even better you have other dignifying things,but pls,don't downplay the God-given one.

No one is stopping women from having sex,it's been ordained. All I'm saying is DONT do so under some premarital conditions. That simple misuse of power is why many of you cried,still crying and will cry foul when the consequences stare at you in the face.

CeterisXVII:
Are the women' having sex by themselves? Is it not the men that chase these women up and down to have sex with them, by using sugary words and toasting skills? How can you now blame a woman for engaging in premarital sex, and ignore the man's active participation in such a thing?

You people are just myopic jokers....mtcheeew

Why not read my next comment after this quoted one? You could be the myopic joker here you know.

yeyeosoronga:
Are women sleeping with themselves?
Who are they sleeping with then?
Perhaps the group more concerned about women's virginity and body counts should do something about this?
Women don't mind losing their virginity and having as many body counts as they want , so don't ask them to do anything about it.

@first bolded, the earlier women realise they call the shots in this premarital sex of a thing,the better for us all. No man or very few will force you to do what you don't want,if you say NO and firmly stand by it,but the warped mentality of thinking you could trap men with some mid-body orifice or force yourself on him some with pregnancy is the bane of it all.

@the second emboldened, the first step to this decadence is not believing your virginity is your dignity and pride as a woman,once lost on a cheap,forget it. That's why we found ourselves in this sorry situation. It's quite pathetic.

I still maintain women wield the most power,and until they realise this and begin to use it in the most subtle manner,the ugly situation cannot be remedied.

silibaba:
still cant phantom why women cant stay away from premarital sex.

Just imagine marrying second hand woman

It's quite disturbing. Yet,they will never admit majority of the societal problems we all are having now is born outta premarital pleasure.

More worrying is d fact that it's not gonna stop anytime soon,rather on the exponential increase.

Our society is in for some big shit.

Humanoid01:
Lol playing worst case scenarios in my head could send fear chills down my spine. Does that really work for you?

Yea bro! It does. It doesn't make me feel bad if it eventually happens and it serves as a morale booster if everything goes well.

You could try it out

Ladylite:
Sorry Bros but You are nothing like the OP. You are a smart and intelligent introvert and that is so special.

If writing is your special skill, why not make friends online. Why not make friends all over the world. You can write books and become very great on Kindle.

Then since you have identified your weakness in public speaking. Simply solve it. There is no point knowing what you can't do and still celebrating it.

Download Dale Carnegie books on public speaking and making friends and study them voraciously. You can break out of that shame or weakness of not knowing how to speak by reading and practicing ahead.

See, you just have to try it small small and soon you will get better.

God bless, happy Sunday

A bowl of Fura da Nunu for you biko Humanoid01,digest this piece from this lady of substance

Humanoid01:
I'm partially like the OP! I wouldn't call myself an introvert, but someone with social anxiety. I have a mild speech disorientation that makes me stutter (sometimes) and jumble words that don't correlate with the way it was formed in my mind. I really want to make friends, but I can't because I don't know what to say, I don't know how to initiate a conversation. I write way better than I talk, because I have enough time to think and craft my words the way I want. It's difficult to make friends with that, when the majority of people these days focus on one's flaws.

I have a bit of social anxiety too,but I am a step ahead of you in that initiating convo is the least if my problems, especially if it's on a 1-on-1 basis.

My advice for you is to know your own flaws and play the worst case scenario of what might happen in your head and think of a way to manage it so that,if it eventually happens,you won't feel bad or feel less bad. You will even be the first to laugh over it.

Forget about whatever anyone thinks about your flaws and always have it at the back of your mind that you're special. Whatever you're going thru with your disorder or anything you might wanna call it,is a tip of the iceberg,compared to what some ither people are going through. Imagine someone that can't even speak at all,what would you have him do?

Baba,this life sweet pass make person dey make you feel sad ooo,wake up and enjoy yourself biko!!!

Belafonte:
Depression is a symptom of entitlement, and maybe conceit. When you feel entitled to certain things, money, good health, a better life, you might feel depressed if you are unable to attain these things.

However, be reminded this is life and nothing is promised to anybody. Life is a respecter of nobody. As we speak, some people are battling with coronavirus through no fault of their own, they have the choice of being depressed or living the rest of their days coming to terms with their lot and dying happy.

A couple of months ago, while cities were wiped out either through fire or through hurricane. You dey Naija you dey para say you no get work.
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If you are alive you have hope, the energy you’re wasting to depression should be utilized in building the future you desire. You don’t wish yourself into the life of your dreams, you build it.

Depression is a sign of ignorance and an unimaginative mind. Believe you can and you will.

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Chiebunigom1:
As in ehhhh, nawaooo..

I just dey dey observe and learn

So far,the comments here have been things the Op could comfortably do,steps he should take,criticisms of different kinds and ofcourse,loads of sophisticated insults being hurled at one another.


PS:people sabi use big grammar insult sha

DonroxyII:
That woman is full of confidence ..... Dig deeper !!

The in-law are also full of craps and uncivilized....

They are all un-cultured ..... Look at the way they handled the mess ... Bad in laws, Poor woman !!

There is more to the story

Adultery is a very shameful act,no matter how it's been portrayed or by whoever,but some situations are just beyond even the most disciplined of a woman,who is constantly associating with the opp sex with every passing day.
I'm not surprised the woman was shielding her accomplice,coz she knew what she's been through via sexual urge, especially if she's a person with high libido. Imagine a woman who's been sexually active now having to be abstain for a decade.
The only person I'd rather blame is the guy,who couldn't take charge and vehemently kick against having the act done in the woman's matrimonial home. He probably forgot the woman would be helpless when the chips are done,which eventually happened. Perhaps,he was too spelled by his own urge to even think along that line.

What I can infer is there is some unresolved issue btw the wife an the SIL,hence the effrontery to even insult the SIL in the heat of things.

sholapot:
A lot of you judge before hearing the other side of this story, the couple in question have been separated for over two years, the husband just came in with other guys and police, to disgrace his ex wife. Don't you wonder why she was defending the guy?

Wrong!!!
They ain't separated. The hubby has been abroad for 10years, abandoning his own wife. Who does that? If You understand Yoruba, you'd heatd the SIL saying "The wife is being fvcked in her brother's house".

Dicksonnet:
This has been my own thought as well THERE IS MORE TO THIS THAN WE can view or see here, Something is FUNDAMENTALLY WRONG SOMEWHERE

Exactly! This report here is incomplete. The woman was allegedly abandoned by her husband for solid 10years.

happney65:
And what is that if he starts having children in his 50's?hunnn?you human beings and so-called time frame..whatever he wants to do he can and should do it..it is his fuvcccking life..Habaaa!

In the existence of any creature,I do not need to hammer the significance of time to you,you should know that,but in case you don't,I implore you to start making babies when you click 50,only then will you trully understand humans and the so called time-frame

happney65:
Story..and you think he will marry his age mate?Yeye

Calm down! It's not about his spouse,but him.
Would he not want to have some nice time and space with his own child? He can only do that with natural energy not the drug-induced one he might subject himself to at 50s.

happney65:
Nigga is the MVP..Just fucccking the pussy dey go...

Sadly,he's not doing himself any good coz he doesn't factor in the likelihood of any woman he ends up with having a delayed birth. Imagine having his first baby at mid or late 40s,after years of sexual splendour

evil1:
Same over here. I cant marry from Edo State because my mom has warned me severally on that issue. But they are nice shaa cos I dated 2 girls from that part. But the fetish part can never be taken away

I understand but you should stop generalizing coz the bone of your bone might be a virtuous one from that same state. So,if you've had this mental block of them being fetish,you'll never be able to get your mind off it,even if she and her family are clean and cleared from such.

The girl whom we both are deceiving ourselves (courting) comes from a town renowned for promiscuity,but I can bet my left ball she's not,for about a couple of years we've been together though.

frozen70:
Not true, rather better manipulators

Or maybe both

MrBrownJay1:
the post gave you "some" reason as to why a 30yr old woman could be unmarried...

Perhaps,u don't understand your own words.
**********
This is what your statement implied;

A 30yr old could be unmarried coz "she's not desperate to get married"

Now read the above statement and tell me what u understood from it

frozen70:
Women have learnt how to lie from men and it has come to stay

Men can lie for Africa once they catch them with a woman

I believe and I'm convinced women are better liars

frozen70:
Arrange with the police that someone you slept with out of depression wants to black mail you

Arrange with him on where to meet him and go with the police and he will be arrested and charged to court for defermation of character

But bear in mind that your life will be at risk if you don't relocate

Alternatively, don't respond to his threat

Leave him alone and let him keep threatening, the more you are afraid the more he will be threatening you

Stop all forms of communication with him, let him do his worst

You on your own side, start preparing for your defense that you were drugged and raped in the cause of your transactionif your husband ask you why you kept silent over it, tell him you were not happy about it and doesn't want to hurt him

"Ofcourse, especially a woman like you"

You must be well schooled in cover-ups

MissGodOwn:
No I don't.

Can I send you a pm? If you don't mind

MissGodOwn:
Thank you.

You welcome.
Do u speak Yoruba?

MissGodOwn:
Yes dear

...You fine ooo...pupa yomi oreke lewa
Oh my goodness

MrBrownJay1:
it can NEVER be a good thing to be desperate for anything, let alone get married

Good...but the post I quoted implied otherwise.