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blesoh:
U are right, presently I have someone like that .she was given over 1.5m to start a business within 3months it was gone. At age 37 mummcy still buys her cream and all her toiletries to her hair infact her whole existence is mummcy.
Once she gets money off to her useless boyfriend who would milk off the money and break up with her.
Mehn I thought I was the only one with such an issue.

That kind bf too wicked. Taking advantage if the girl's situation instead of helping out....we guys sha,na real wa!

blesoh:
I know a 43yrs old man who's still living with his married brother, he impregnated a girl and brought her home. One of the brothers took the wife, cared for her until she birth the child while the supposed boyfriend was relaxing in his other brother's house.
After she birth the child she moved on with her life cos dude was not ready to work even with his MSC.
It happened five years ago till date he is still living with the brother and still not working.
Some people are like that not only men, even girls follow.

Odikwa very critical

Viruscod3d:
My 2nd uncle has about 8 children with his wife and i hear he has another family with one calabar woman somewhere .. this man's work on earth is to impregnate women. He doesnt even take care of the children. His own is to f#ck f#ck and f#ck .. always asking my dad for money .. a full grown man with no steady job .. today he is in the north tomorrow he is trying to settle in calabar . That man has travelled round this country.. the only thing he achieves is to impregnate women. His children have no regard for him. His 1st daughter call him by his name .. she stopped calling him father a long time ago.

Oooooomo! This your second uncle beats the first one in this lazy game
On a serious note,what type of woman settle down or agrees to get laid with such men? This life she!

You won't understand the true meaning of 'completely finished' until you marry that dumbhead you called your boyfriend.

Hiaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! Must you expose your chest/boobs?
All I can see is a Lady seeking for cheap attention coz of perceived low self esteem.

I really feel for the young lady. I blame her for losing hope in how some Nigerians might be kind to her plight if she had narrated subtly to some.
On a second thought, she didn't have faith enough to believe the little she was making could actually make her achieve in Naija,with sheer determination and hardwork. Anyways,she should thank her stars and the spirits of her parents.


Welcome back home and always remember.......NO PLACE LIKE HOME!

anienge001:
There are some useful YouTube videos if you invest a bit in data. You can learn from there. Alternatively, find real bee keepers and understudy them. Most of them don't have time for the Internet thing.

When you start producing let me know your monthly capacity. One of the products that I am developing has honey as one of the major raw materials.

Noted!
I certainly look forward to doing biz with you.

anienge001:
There are some useful YouTube videos if you invest a bit in data. You can learn from there. Alternatively, find real bee keepers and understudy them. Most of them don't have time for the Internet thing.

When you start producing let me know your monthly capacity. One of the products that I am developing has honey as one of the major raw materials.

Noted!
I certainly look forward to doing biz with you.

I've had dirty female neighbours while in school and I know how frustrating it could be,esp when the person in question is as close as your babymama. Just give her more time,more close monitoring if you got the time and more corrections with a mild tone. She might change in the long run but put a hold on all marriage plans for now

Moyanbe:
I just set up honeybee farm at kobape side of ogun State. After bathing the hives twice, there were presence of bee workers but they couldn't colonize the hives due to far location of their main colony.
I am now looking for where to purchase a colony of bee workers and queen around Ogun, Lagos or SW. I will be glad for any useful information

Thanks bro!
I really can't help you with what you seek but confident you'll get it sooner.Goodluck bro

Cocosmite:
Please I am interested in Honey producers in Nigeria

I'm not one yet and I equally don't have the contact of any producer right now,you can create a thread on that subject. for more inputs.

Hmmm!
James St Patrick in the making, but this babe no fine reach Tasha's shadow sef

Chikita66:
She looks more excited than the man. Congrats to them.

If it was the other way round,you people would say she was forced.



Wetin person no go hear from people�

happyheart:
Be grateful girl! Lots of people are spending millions to have a child to no avail.
That said, hope you didn't let yourself go after child birth.
Are your boobs saggy? If yes wear a tight fitting bra to bed and apply a mixture if coconut oil and Shea butter to your boobs daily.
If your tummy is big, use the tummy water regimen, it works
If your vagina is loose( some face this challenge naturally not cos of promiscuity. Some don't return to tight) do kegel exercises ( google)and make sure you wash your v regularly with warm water, lime and vinegar tp keep it tight
Insert white fkagyl once every month after your period to keep it fresh.
Quit talking about your child all the time. Sometimes it scares the men. Keep whatever sob story you have About the father of your child to yourself. Don't spill all in the beginning.
Finally build your confidence. See yourself as beautiful and special. Don't have a low esteem cos you have a child.
A man who will love you, will love you even if you have 10 kids.
Hope this helps.

Do u realise wearing a bra to bed increases the risk of breast cancer? There is a better remedy to a saggy breast than wearing bra to bed daily...for how long will she do that?

If anyone were to give you a counsel of perfection, it would be that you forbear marriage until a later date.

I know there isn't a specific age for marriage, and that it's legal insofar as the 18-year pass mark has been met, but come on, girl...Don't you think at twenty-two that you ought to be flapping your wings at life's entreaties and exploring it to the fullest? – something which a newly-acquired marital status might deny you.

You would also have the opportunity of running through life's flames and learning wisdom from its heat – and you sure won't - like many others have - waddle to Nairaland's family section for help the minute your marriage feels the mild nudge of a turbulence, because unlike those who tied the knot in their callow youth, you would be armed to the teeth with an arsenal of experience.

I would advise that you rethink your decision, and ask that he bide his time until you clock twenty-five. If he truly loves you and if what he feels for you isn't some transient Squirrel fever, then I'm sure he should be able to delay plighting the troth for some three more years.



Is he Ijebu?

You are a woman, use seduction and feminine wiles to get to the bottom of his purse.

If the reason really is because he doesn't think you're seriously in need, then the next time you ask him for help, your face had better be a dreary halloween mask of solemnity.
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As earlier said, you are but twenty-two years old; you have a whole life ahead of you, and if you feel your Bf has become a dead weight and you're unsure about him, then there's absolutely nothing stopping you from putting an end to the relationship. He's just one out of the billions of men on Mother earth.

This ma'am sabi grammar no be small ooo.The idioms in your comment are top notch

Reading inputs from Richy4,Guitarlife,Mrphysics and Imalma i must say is refreshing. My concern,however, is what Ujujoan2 said about inculcating some of the things she highlighted in her daughters.

pls and pls,this generation has lost it already.Our sexual orientation is nothing to write home about.Don't make the coming generation worst with this your orientation.

At Op,i understand your point even as I missed your full original post.Your bf might be the type that suck at buying gifts but since you claimed to have gotten some for him on diff occasions, a sane man should have picked some lesson if really, it wasn't intentional.
The tfare is what really caught my attention,that's so not right.Boarding a vehicle with a close lady and unable to foot the tfare even if it would be just for once should be pretty embarrassing to him.

He can't claim to be broke for the whole 5yrs you folks were together now.It means he cannot pay for a stranger if situation begs for it.....nawa for am! hin own pass normal jare

TewMuch:
@ poster,
We dont always have to have something with everyone we flirt with or who we thought we should have been with. Life moves on, and he has moved on too. Dont worry, you will get over it. He already has a fiance who he has introduced to his family, and would not leave her for you. All that will happen is an affair, and at the end of the day he would still get married to his fiance. I think you are a little jealous of what he has become and are thinking what if. Move on and leave him alone to be happy, you will get over him with time. Just take your eyes off this one. Besides if he has an affair with you, you dont want to end up with a man that cheated on someone else to be with you. There is nothing special about you, he will cheat when you finally think you have him all to yourself.

The emboldened should guide to make a better decision and move on by doing things that make u happy more often,if u really know what you want.

Let's call a spade a spade.
To date a single mum or single dad is not a problem for most people but where the problem lies is. Marrying one, especially single mums to a guy who is just starting life, is a no no. Single mum's work well with single dads.. And single mum works well with a guy who knows he can never kids of his own due to no sperm at all.. There are men who cannot have kids, no. Matter how hard they try.. Such men will gladly marry a. Single mum and be father to her kids, likewise single dads too.

Our society is so. Messed up, that even your friends, neighbors will be advising you as a lady, hmm u know time is going, why not have a kid of your own?? At least u can afford to take of a baby.. As if children are commodities one goes to the market, buy and start taking care of.. Most children from single parents crave the love and attention of either a mum or dad, depending which one is available for now, in such child's life.

I can never be a single mum either by mistake or doing it knowingly, I will never trade that path.. Sorry single mums but it's true.
Have seen first hand emotional depression most children from single homes go thru.. Trust me, my future kids won't tow that line.
So it's about choices.

I was about telling people in this thread to kukuma leave enough space for TV01 and SHAYBEBABY coz in my own opinion, they were just paying little attention to the main point each other were trying to pass across.

With this your comment, you really hit the nail on the head. It's better for the involving parties to go for their likes or what's really good for them.
A goose should choose a gander and not a cock.

LastProphet:
you are right about 15 years ago but wrong now. my cousin a self made guy with very ok looks is marrying one by easter, bros try to learn how things are changing around you. for instance do you believe i avoided more than 3 opportunities of deflowering a virgin in the past? I avoid virgins like plaque and many experienced guys are towing this line incase you don't know

I presume u avoided the virgins not because you dnt dream of having a classic pleasure of tearing a hymen but partly because they don't tick other vital boxes of moral values.

As for me nitemi,i would pay a fortune for a well-cultured,cool-headed,religious and moderately endowed virgin lady








.....if i have the 'fortune' though!

Talkingboy:
You're most welcomed ...
Please , Refrain from dropping your phone number on this faceless Forum ...
That Aside, Welcome ; What shall we serve you ?

On her behalf,kindly serve her Dabino,kunun gyada. I'm sure she's gonna appreciate the combo.

preciousan:
The way some people talk,as if illiteracy is a disease,because you had to opportunity to be educated doesn't mean you should look down on one who's not.
The guy can actually groom her,to his taste.

That last statement says it all.it's as simple as that

eyinjuege:
My tailor isn't an outlier....
Nobody is waiting for others before they step up their game. Infact, i would say the uneducated folks these days are repping especially when they have a skill. They know to get correct customers who dont know how to price or look for other options, they have to step up their game. They also have to act posh to get the posh customers.
They know the importance people attach to effizy, especially the younger generation below 50years, i think i should make that 40years.
Nobody is waiting for anybody else these days o. People are working on themselves.
Thats why its sad to see graduates who can't even think or do anything worthwhile, waiting for opportunities and not getting prepared for such, or even try creating the opportunities themselves.
My point is, we should stop assuming all artisans are local and razz, who will embarrass their spouses. Nobody knows the background of the lady in question, other than bbeing a hairdresser. We don't know her social background, she may have even completed secondary school. We dont know how knowledgeable she may be. Maybe she's just like other successful well respected artisans/those who didnt even get a degree. Yet, she's being painted like a lowlifer where nothing good can come out of her marriage to an educated folk.
Because a man did masters abroad doesnt mean they're from a high class home btw. People also get scholarships in Nigeria if you're from certain areas and know how to go about it. It still means nothing about your social class.
I quite understand if you as a person believe you have to marry from certain social class. That's absolutely fine. What I'm just not in support of is to speak against others who see nothing wrong in it, and have made their choice to do so.
Its same feeling i have regarding intertribal/ interacial marriages. Because you can't even fathom the idea doesnt mean you speak against those who want it/are in it (not personally directed at you)

In addition to your points, the said lady might have completed her sec.sch education in flying colours and only into her handy work to further her studies. That might just be one of the reasons the 'jand' guy saw;the willingness and hustle to further and step up her social stratum.


Like a brother of mine would say......'koda mo le fe sisi al'aba,ni won gba to ba ti n'iwa'

eyinjuege:
Being uneducated doesn't make you a lowlifer, doesn't make you crass, doesnt mean you'll be a wrapper tying, chewing stick chewing, razz person. Provided you have worked on yourself.
Its all about individuals and not about how much of an education you have.
I will always use my tailor as an example. Beautiful woman, dress sense is top notch, her demeanour probably only associated with royalty, the way she carries herself alone. You just have to respect her. Her speech is equally good. Ever keen to learn and all her children went to gòod universities. She is a blessing to her husband, not a liability.
And a lot have people talking of class here have mothers who never saw the 4 walls of a university, and parents who probably grew up in poverty, but made something of their lives.
Some of them have parents who are still struggling to care for them , probably tired and exhausted from bearing all the responsibility of a grown 20+ adult, yet they have the audacity to look down on a woman who has a skill she's using to fend for herself and not depending on mama thank you.
Some ladies are waiting for a man to continue from where their parents stopped, and are probably wondering why the man in question should pick an illiterate over them.
He knows what he saw in her, he should be allowed to marry whoever he wants. I'm sure he's dated other educated women in the past, but there's something about this one that has held him captive. Respect his decision. His parents should get to know the girl.

With your points on this thread so far,I'm compelled to say you ain't only...eyinjuege,omidan/iya afin olopolo pipe ni e.
Opolo yin o ni joba òooo

Are u virgin? Omo! that my good friend shock that yearD;

Newboss:
You must be a teenager to be reasoning this way. Marriage is the most useless union in this generation. You better start planning your life alone, not with one fairy tale in mind.

Teena......wetin?
Odikwa critical òooo,can't just stop laughing.
I can see you ready to live your life like that if animals....May your Lord help me.
As for me,I'm very happy as a single and believe will be even happier when I get married by God's grace

marry early,they won't.
they will say they wan enjoy life....


I can only imagine how lonely and depressed she would be each day she comes back from work with no arms to fall into.

Pharaoh001:
I love muric

walahi! Especially that prof.

benzene00:
Somewhere in the village...A mother is thinking she has a daughter

;Dthis kind comment fit make the babe commit suicide if she see am

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Its not about islamophobia Oga. You muslims just want to blow it out of proportion.

If you know anyone who is a lawyer, ask him/her how the dress code rule is very important to the profession. Be you a Christian, Muslim or IFA worshipper, the rule is the rule.

She was not the only female Muslim there. Don’t blow this out of proportion.[/color]

Lol...Nay! bro
who made the rules?
It was made by our British masters and last i checked,the profession came with western education brought to Naija by the Christian missionary.
I know your hate and phobia will not let you see this issue in the objective spectrum,but next time,Endeavour not to see religious issue especially when it pertains to Islam, with hate.....it's refreshing!


Thanks!

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]The law does not work with religious beliefs and sentiments. It is clear, plain and simple.

While the constitution allows for the right to practice your religion it also notes that the law supercedes any religion in the land. Nigeria is not ruled by Islamic law hence things relating to that shouldn’t have an effect and cannot be binding on the set aside rules created for the legal profession.

The same way a lawyer cannot tell an Imam how to run a mosque so will religion not be allowed to influence the law to suite a group of people.

What do you think will happen if everyone decides to attend such a ceremony in their full religious regalia? If she wants to wear her hijab in peace she should have studied Islamic law and go to the sharia court.[/color]

Can u do me a favour by viewing the pic of the lady in question again? Only someone with hate for her religion would say she has violated the dress code.She only covered her head and neck in the most meaningful way without tampering with the elements of the dressing;the wig,rope,gown etc.

I strongly believe there is a way the basic components of dressing for both major religions can be incorporated into professional careers.

Starting with Islam, the basics include:
1-Covering the head together with the neck
2-The arms
3-The legs
.....considering the above and using the law dress code as an example,it shouldn't be difficult accommodating these basics using the lady's appearance to justify no1,the use of sleeves for no2 and under-leggings (for whoever is comfortable with it) for no3.

As for the basics in the Christian dressing,considering the various denominations of Catholics(which I think is the only one that would require some clear modification to be accommodated),deeper life members, other Pentecostal and new generation church members,it includes(I stand to be corrected on this):
1-The scarf-attached cap
2-Their regalia
3-The cross
4-And others I may not know of.

....the above too can simply be accommodated by the law wig replacing the cap and the scarf used underneath it for no1, the law gown already has the similar design for no2, the cross could be used under the scarf for no3 and for whatever others I don't know about.

There is just too much islamophobia and gross intolerance to the Islamic religion on the part of our Christian counterpart.
THE RELIGION IS FOR PEACE,SO AM I!

Cc:mikedimeji

mikedimeji:
I didn’t want to say more than that. When u say she’s the only one that’s “courageous” u are in a way saying others are afraid of going against the laid down rules. Probably everyone should dressed they way they like.

Nah!

mikedimeji:
I quite agree with u but pending when the provision is made u can’t do others, it’s tegarded as lawlessness.
My major concern here is we are quick to bring religion/ethnicity into everything that happens in Nigeria and it’s really creating problems for us.

I will also agree with you but we all know our country,if things like this don't happen once in a while, tell me what will make them think there has to be some amendments.