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MrBrownJay1:
- lack of proper suitor
- not desperate to get married
- doesnt believe in marriage
- happy being single
etc etc etc

Did u mean it's a good thing to be desperate to get married?

IamD18:
Any guy who attended boarding school can stay weeks without speaking with his parents.

You may be right coz this applies to me.

Samsung004:
It's best you have someone over there, who will pay and check out the car for you. Then send the completed paperwork to your email. You can try auction export.

Thank you very much bro,I appreciate your contribution

Still available ooo.

desiregold:
God forbid I will have to create thread online to seek advice on how to stop an ex from coming my house. My house? My matrimonial home?

I will handle it myself. I will so show him madness, I will so embarrass him that he will forget the road to my house.

As for my husband, I will level allegation against him that he wants to set me up with my ex, I will threaten to tell his family members. Let me see if he won't send my ex away sharply by himself.

Dear, you just told us how tough you could be,you never can tell how tough your hubby would,coz he might just be a step ahead of you in all aspects of madness and shege

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Selfkontrol:
How can I find a good and matured man for my single independent mother. (She’s 46)
I am a young guy in my 20s and I just recently rented an apartment that’s just like two hours drive from her because I need my own space and privacy and to hussle as a man.

I lost my dad when I was still a teenager but before then my mom and dad where separated. (He married other wives thought)
Truth is deep down I knew my mom never wanted me to rent the apartment but I had to make that decision and move out for my sanity because I can’t do any reasonable thing in the Godforsaken state I am so I needed to move out and start life as a man

The problem now is I know for sure my mom will be lonely. She has already started disturbing me to take her to my house I rented even when I have not packed in lol. She had other relationships that I knew of but non worked out. She’s overly spiritual too and believes you have to seek the face of God for a man lol. That made her loose a good man that I know. Her reason was she had a bad dream about him lol and a pastor told her he’s not her husband and so many bullshit

She’s not into social media so that option is ruled out.
It has to be physical. She needs a man in her life before she start invading my privacy because of loneliness
She doesn’t have any female friends. She ends up having problem with them at the end.

He life is just church and business. Infact she’s mostly in church. So please guys if you have any good idea and advice, kindly drop. Thanks

To say it is impossible to get your mum a befitting partner isn't outta point,and if it's gonna happen, it's an herculean task considering her personality. Your best bet is to marry early so U can give her grandchildren that will keep her company. She will even get tired of shouting, especially if those children are stubborn.
Goodluck!

Samsung004 come and read ooo

Just see what free fvck has gotten this Op into.
My advice for you is to reason deeply and take whatever decision is best for you. You know your wife better than anyone here

ayteaz:
Hiiiiiiiiiii
Thanks for the feedback I really appreciate,
I actually had to go check the meaning of sassy I may or may not be, depending on who I am dealing with.
My twins are doing great, thanks

Amen to your prayers, I have loved twins too right from secondary school, and sometimes I wonder how boring it will be for my child if it was a single child I had.
Merry Christmas.

You are welcome.
@sassy,I guess your first thought was like I have subtly insulted you I understand that feeling.

Thanks for the prayers,I say a big ameen to them
Happy boxing day!!!
PS: @ur personal text...I am

ayteaz:
When you think you have the worst life experience then you read other people's stories you have no choice but to be grateful for yours.
My own journey to single motherhood is in my diary here,not completing for the money, there are other more deserving mothers who have written their story, although it can come in handy for Xmas sha
A thumps up to every woman who had the courage to say their story, what I use in consoling myself when I am stucked, sad or in a bad mood is that I have been through worse situations and I didnt die so this will also no kill me and that last last I go dey okay.

Your diary is the first I'm reading through on this forum and I must say,you must be a very sassy person,full of life.
I enjoyed reading through your diary with its originality and articulate way of writing. Anyways, how are you twins doing? My warm regards to them all.

PS:Oh lord,I've always loved twin or multiple birth,pls grant my wish and let them be birth Hale and healthy and lemme and their unknown mum live long enough to reap our fruits....ameen!

GreeneLamb01:
I'll be brief and simple with my narrative, I promise.
To the glory of God, I have just graduated from KOGI STATE UNIVERSITY (KSU) with a 2.2 CGPA in English and Literary Studies.

As a hustling guy ( now in my late 20's), it was God's grace that helped me pull through my studies in that, I lost my only surviving parent while I was about starting my studies. And that made me had it rough all through my stay in the University.

Now, I have successfully graduated and don't want to be entrapped in this state, Kogi, any longer. I'm pretty sure you all know what is up here in kogi state; everything appears so gloomy and I seriously need to be totally out of it at least, for the time being.

Since I'm just a hustler with no ready relation to nudge me, I seriously want to use the NYSC period as an avenue to get out of this State. I so much desire to stay back wherever I'm eventually posted to for Service; I need a place with a lot of job opportunities with respect to my course of study, English and literature. And that's where the knot is. Which region do you think is appropriate for me to achieve this desire of mine?

Some persons I shared this with specifically advised me to move up North East; they suggested States like Gombe and Bauchi, even Maiduguri while others suggested Ibadan or Lagos.

This is where I need your advice and suggestions because as it stands now, despite the fact I want to register early, I am helpless and wouldn't know the right states to select for NYSC when we'll be eventually directed to start registration early next year. And I just need to plan well against that day.

To you, which states with more job opportunities in Nigeria, do you think I could choose for my NYSC and also continue my life there afterwards?

P.S
I'm also a computer technician and will like to set up my business in the event of not getting anything to lay hands on after service. BUT NOT IN KOGI STATE!

Please, advise me.

With your discipline and willingness to hustle after service with a relatively moderate financial muscle,I suggest you choose states with lots of media houses, moderate popular density and a relatively low/moderate cost if living.

With all those criteria in mind,Oyo state, IBADAN to be precise is your best bet. Thank me later.

amdman:
2006 Volkswagen Jetta

No faults reported

98k miles

N1.2m

Holy goodness.... This is a beauty,in price and in material

EASY112:
show some decorum, I wasn't talking to u period.

It's a public forum and once you drop a comment,anybody,I repeat, anybody is free to respond to any comment. That's what makes it a Forum.

So,you should show some decorum.

EASY112:
Bro look for single ladies, is better u remain single.Dont start what u can finish.

Are U for real ?

All U need do is to put urself in her shoes,only if U got conscience,will you get my drift.

OladimejiRufai:
Eez such a honourable

It's a honour. I don't mind at all please. Looking forward to your PM

Sent!!!
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OladimejiRufai:
Indeed, character is like smoke and it will find a way to show or come out if she's trying to hide it.

So engage with her frequently and observe the conversation carefully.

Then you don't stop there. I don't know the distance between you both. But if the distance is not very much and you can afford it, try visiting her and spending some time with her.

This is the time when you apply more measures to study her.

When you got to her home, how does it look like? Is there anything that puts you Off?

Who are the people who came to knock on her door to see her and how did their interaction go?

Who are her friends? And does she have any male friends? If she has male friends, has she told you about them just like she tells you about her female friends? And how close are they (she and her male friends)

how are the neighbours relating with her and how does she relate with them?

Let her take you on a walk around the whole street to observe how people are relating with her and how she's relating with people (but don't tell her that's your aim oo). At least If she bribed her friends or even close neighbours, she cannot bribe the whole neighbourhood now.

Also observe if she's quick or if she freely introduces you to whoever cares to listen as her lover or even "husband". If she does that to her friends, neighbours (especially when they ask). If she can do that, then she seems to be having nothing to hide.

Then while you are together, observe how much she's into you. is she happy the whole time that you are here? Does she play with you and love to play with you until you get tired? Watch out for how much affection she's showing you.

DON'T FVCK HER. I REPEAT DON'T Bleep HER. You have not paid her dowry (That's my personal principle by the way and I believe it's right for everyone)

Then out of all those neighbours and people on her street that relate with her, watch out for the ones that seem to be closest to her and try to study who those people are and what constitutes their interaction. THOSE ARE HER ADVISERS AND INFLUENCERS. And remember BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER. So watch out for such people.

You can then leave and visit again. This time you may not tell her you are coming on the condition that you are sure that she will be ready to receive you if you come. That is, if she's not going to be away from home.

But please, I want to advise you something. While you are doing all these studies, make sure you don't let her notice so she would not get hurt that you don't trust her especially if she's the good girl. So whatever you think may cause her to be suspicious in the above measures, try to avoid it and do it only at the right time when it will be fine or don't do it at all if it is not necessary.

So after visiting again, try to observe. During all these studies, always pray for guidance. very important. for God sees what we do not see.

So after all your studies, if you are satisfied about her and you are very positive about her, your mind is so convinced she's the one, then FVCK IT, FVCKING TELL HER YOUR MIND

Let her be in the her room with you and while you are there, tell her there's something you want to tell her.

"Baby, I don't want to stress this any further lest I lose such a precious gem such as you to another man. Baby, I wanna spend the rest of my life with you. Will you marry me?" (of course, you should use your own words; that's just an example)

Then at that stage, watch out for her reaction. If she's very much happy (and even crying self) that you said that and she tells you yes with all happiness, congratulations man, you've got yourself a girl.

But still... DON'T FVCK HER. I REPEAT DON'T FVCK HER!!!! You haven't still paid her dowry. Besides, you not rushing to have sex with her will go a long way to convince her that you genuinely love her and want to marry her and not just to eat from her cake.

So after that, you may start discussing how you will marry at the right time when you are both ready. But before then, take her home and let her take you home. Observe her family and their interaction with her. And at your own home, let your parents observe and examine her.

If they are fine with her and you are fine with what you observed at her parent's house, start preparing for marriage with her and wed her when you are both ready.

So that's my advice for you man. @loshybab

Oh my goodness! I sincerely appreciate you for taking your time to write these. You've really said it all and I believe many would have gained a lot from these submissions of yours. I can confidently say it's one for the ages.

To answer some questions, the answer to most in the previous post is positive. However,i would like to reserve my comments,so as not to give myself out.

Can I pm you? I would like to discuss with you privately,if you don't mind.

OladimejiRufai:
You are probably not gonna like my advice but I'll give it anyways.

You are either one of two people. Either you're ready for marriage (you are physically, mentally, emotionally and financially) or you are not (you are lacking all or some major parts of the aforementioned conditions)

So if you are ready for marriage, and what you are looking for is to have your own loyal girl, I don't know why you are still chasing "love" and relationships here and there. What you should do is to go fetch for a wife.

it's true that many bad girls are out there but we have good ones too. But the question is how did you meet the girls you've been dating?

What are the circumstances surrounding your meeting? Where did you meet her? What kind of family did she emanate from? Where is she living? How's her upbringing? What are people saying about her? What are some major events in her life history that are enough to discern the kind of person she is? and so on.

These are things people used to consider in the olden days before marrying a wife. That's why marriages of those days last far longer than these days.

But today, we've been blinded by civilization and the stupid messages we see in love movies and we do not follow due protocols and undergo due studies on who we wish to marry. That's why we fall in the hands of girls that cause us problems of different sorts.

So if you are ready to have your loyal woman and marry her, employ all due protocols like:

seeking them in appropriate places. You go to club and you meet a girl, you see boobs and yansh and you're blown away and you go for her. When she gives you trouble, you complain. Where did you meet her in the first place? So seek a woman in appropriate places.

secondly, that may not be enough. a girl may be going to church regularly and she will still be the community property type. Secondly, study her. Ask people questions about her but make sure you apply wisdom. move closer to one or two aged women of experience in her area that knows her and ask them about her. make them know you are serious about having her as your partner. If they see seriousness in you, they'll tell you the truth.

Discover who her friends are. Who are her advisers, her family members and neighbours? in what environment was she brought up? this will give you serious hints about who she is.

after you have employed all means to study her and she seems to be fine, it doesn't stop there but you can still make your move now.

approach her and ask her out. when she accepts and there's a little chemistry between you, take her home to your parents. let your experienced parents examine her. let them use their experience and wisdom to discern what type of person she is.

So if your parents are fine with her and she has passed all tests, then propose to her and marry her.

That's how they do in olden days and that's why they have better marriages. all these "love me I love you" of nowadays is mostly scam.

And pray for guidance too. very important

That said.

If you are not ready for marriage, Oga find something worthwhile to do with your life. Make money and become freaking successful and independent. work towards achieving all the major conditions that will qualify you as someone ready for marriage. once you attain that, then follow what has been explained above.

Good luck!

Not all women are bad bro. there are some women out there that are just too wonderful (like my mother). they may have some little shortcomings just like everyone else, but generally they are like angels in a man's life. Find them and you will see them.

I do not know you but your post is full of wisdom. It portrays you as a very wise man.

However,what would you advise for someone who is in a distant relationship,yet his/her mind will not stop telling the girl/guy is the one? The suggestions up there are relatively impossible or a herculean task to do to say the least for someone in such kind of relationship.

I'll appreciate your words of wisdom on this. Thanks

Vincad:
Thank you so much, I'm grateful.

I'm glad I could help in my own little way

Vincad:
Richard2007, endyowoeye, loshybab, can you please give me examples of questions that will be asked in human nutrition DPT. I did a little research and found that you once applied for master's at UI, human nutrition department.

Tips on where to read, questions that can be asked in the DPT and oral interview will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

As for the written departmental test,the questions asked were centred on nutritional diseases and deficiencies, Abbreviations used in Nutrition generally, definition of terms and other aspects.

As for the oral interview,I,like most applicants coming from a different Dept,were asked the relationship between your first degree discipline and the course/dept applied to.

Emily22:
Opportunistic knacks....that's true ,u av a valid point bro.


Prevention is better than cure

Correct,I'm glad you concur.

Ladycewhy:
thanks

You welcome

Ladycewhy:
not in any at the moment,based in Edo.

Ok,I garrit. You were when U met. I wish All d best

Annie001:
He now likes girls with big yansh and boobs so he left me, planning to go under knife when I have money
Anytime I reminder it hurts

He was never meant for you

Emily22:
U try...if na me...I go play along

Playing along has made some people infected with HIV,be smart so U don't get outsmarted coz of "opportunistic knacks"

Ladycewhy:
oh, that ,commented on an isalmic thread.

Yeah ,it sure is surprising,i guess some people's tribalism runs deeper than others.

Definitely!!!
So,are U in a new relationship now? Are you also based in SW?

Ladycewhy:
i am not etsako, am Bini ,yes he was yoruba.

Oh...Ndo
I probably got deceived by the proclamation in your profile.i guess you wanted to access the Islamic section.

That aside,it's quite surprising coz Yorubas to Edo people,to me have the highest no of intertribal marriage in southern Naija.

Solomon8144:
You're so right

Abi na...
Finding hard to trust for those with trust issues and risk of the relationship being boring if either of the lovebirds is too clingy or possessive.

Ladycewhy:
sorry dont get you,are you asking his tribe or mine?

I was simply guessing your tribe from the state you mentioned you hailed from.
As for the dude,I guess he is Yoruba.

Deporps:
Mine ended when bae started to draw back from me, she tell me what to do and not to do but when I tell her dont do this she will be like I will stop but not now, then I stop to tell her about my warfare, thats when she started complaining on how I don't love her again, care and blah blah blah long story cut short I told her we should break up, bae did not even bother then I knew she has be nurturing the feelings for long, then I broke into her privacy Omo come see shocking revelation from bae and her suppose apostle in fellowship, Omo I feel dejected and sad but dude have to move on cause I gat no time, I have many things am fighting for especially to become successful in life which is my priority. Though I still love her but what I saw on her social media with the so called apostle made me change my perspective over all this discreet, gentle and over religious girl. My brother if you wan choose girl don't choose a gentle one because they have motive or hidden character that will be unvail as soon as possible

You must have some deep hatred for punctuation especially the "full stop"

freshvine:
He told me he was traveling to Dubai for a business trip only to return home that same day unannounced and everything eventually ended.

Did he catch U "in the act"?

Solomon8144:
I told her i needed some space today on whatsapp already and she said no problem that i can have all the space i need but i know she's still gonna come back in few days time.
I just need to be alone for now I'm going through alot and I'm back to square 1 i wanna pick myself up and i can only do that when I'm alone

This is why I so much love distant relationships,but it has it's negative side too,which could affect both parties.