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sisisioge:
Amelian, your gist too dey long. Anyways, I forgive you .

This dude needs to add weight like kilode.

Ssthorm:
Both

maclatunji:
On the scale of 10 in terms of cooking. I give myself a 6. I learnt to cook without adding flavour enhancers a.k.a. Maggi, knorr etc. My mother is convinced that they lead to an early grave.

Ssthorm:
Lol sure, yar arewa...

Empiree:
Nice. I won't say. I'd refer you find out yourself

Ssthorm:
Lol.. y'all keep bothering us too much ne kawai... it gets tiring at times.

Empiree:
Welcome Aboard. wa iyyakum

Empiree:
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Empiree:
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Mofpearl:
Found this to be very comprehensive. Posting because it might help someone else.

100 PRE MARITAL QUESTIONS

What is your concept of marriage?
Have you been married before?
Are you married now?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

What is the role of religion in your life now?
Are you a spiritual person?
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
What is the role of the husband?
What is the role of the wife?
Do you want to practice polygamy?
What is your relationship with your family?
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
How did you get to know them?
Why are they your friends?
What do you like most about them?
What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
What is the level of your relationship with them now?
What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
What are the things that you do in your free time?
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

Do you travel?
How do you spend your vacations?
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
Do you read?
What do you read?
After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
Do you like to write your feelings?

If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
Do your friends use foul language?
Does your family use foul language?

How do you express anger?
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?
Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
How do you support your own health and nutrition?

What is you definition of wealth?
How do you spend money?
How do you save money?
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
Do you use credit cards?
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
Do you support the idea of a working wife?
If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?
Do you believe in abortion?
Do you have children now?
What is your relationship with your children now?
What is your relationship with their other parent?
What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

What is the best method(s) of raising children?
What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
How were you raised?
How were you disciplined?
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
Do you believe in public school for your children?
Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?

...............
Modified to include my own questions
Asides family relatives, do you have non-mahram contacts on your phone? If you do who are they?
Do you watch movies?
Do you listen to music?
How do you spend your weekend- do you invite friends over every weekend(if you do who will cook for them) or spend time with family?
Are you a gamer? If you are, how many hours a day do you spend playing video games?
Do you smoke or drink alcohol?
Do you have a problem with eating outside?
How important is food to you?
How do you think couples should make their decisions? Should they both discuss it together or does the head make the decision and wife follows?
If you and your spouse were to have a fight, who would you talk to?
Do you get up for Fajr?
Do you have a problem moving to a different country or state?

After all the asking questions- find out where suitor lives and ask people in the neighborhood about them. It's unfortunate but people lie about themselves during proposal.

Mofpearl:
Found this to be very comprehensive. Posting because it might help someone else.

100 PRE MARITAL QUESTIONS

What is your concept of marriage?
Have you been married before?
Are you married now?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

What is the role of religion in your life now?
Are you a spiritual person?
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
What is the role of the husband?
What is the role of the wife?
Do you want to practice polygamy?
What is your relationship with your family?
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
How did you get to know them?
Why are they your friends?
What do you like most about them?
What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
What is the level of your relationship with them now?
What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
What are the things that you do in your free time?
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

Do you travel?
How do you spend your vacations?
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
Do you read?
What do you read?
After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
Do you like to write your feelings?

If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
Do your friends use foul language?
Does your family use foul language?

How do you express anger?
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?
Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
How do you support your own health and nutrition?

What is you definition of wealth?
How do you spend money?
How do you save money?
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
Do you use credit cards?
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
Do you support the idea of a working wife?
If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?
Do you believe in abortion?
Do you have children now?
What is your relationship with your children now?
What is your relationship with their other parent?
What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

What is the best method(s) of raising children?
What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
How were you raised?
How were you disciplined?
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
Do you believe in public school for your children?
Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?

...............
Modified to include my own questions
Asides family relatives, do you have non-mahram contacts on your phone? If you do who are they?
Do you watch movies?
Do you listen to music?
How do you spend your weekend- do you invite friends over every weekend(if you do who will cook for them) or spend time with family?
Are you a gamer? If you are, how many hours a day do you spend playing video games?
Do you smoke or drink alcohol?
Do you have a problem with eating outside?
How important is food to you?
How do you think couples should make their decisions? Should they both discuss it together or does the head make the decision and wife follows?
If you and your spouse were to have a fight, who would you talk to?
Do you get up for Fajr?
Do you have a problem moving to a different country or state?

After all the asking questions- find out where suitor lives and ask people in the neighborhood about them. It's unfortunate but people lie about themselves during proposal.

EmmGee:
Wa alaikum salaam.
The pet issue is a no no.. i can't think of an animal that i could use as such.
I like cats (or i think i do) i look at cat pictures and admire them. But honestly they freak me out.
Birds? I like them, i like them too but not to the level of making it a pet.
I HATE dogs, plus they're haram.

Anyway i think if i find a girl i truly love, i won't get "tired" of her.
Plus, with the roommate ish. I found a solution.

Wale112:
1. Ghana girls bath 3 times in a day...they always clean and fresh.


2. Ghana girls don’t eat that food eba so they don’t have mouth odor.


3.Ghana girls have big assss and they don’t know how to operate generator. Electricity is taken for granted in Ghana.


Dicuss

Moaby:
2, 1 year difference doesn't count to me. And besides you said the ladies didn't know you were younger. And may I ask where you base?

cymontempler:
Loshyhab.

You will download an app on your phone.
Open the app once downloaded.. Follow the instructions and then you will need to scan the code of the other person with your phone.

Hope you are not hypertensive?

ScotFree:
Two people on NL that should never be taken seriously
Onila
Mamagee3

One person suffering from extreme depressive tendencies and insurmountable inferiority complex
Mamagee3

Only pathological liar on nl
Mamagee3

cymontempler:
If I were Op,

I will conduct a DNA test on kids. Segun may be the father of the kids. For her to be soliloquizing could be a sign of confusion, troubled and desperate thoughts followed by action.

On one hand, she may be building house secretly. On the other hand, she may be fcuuking Segun both with knowledge of her sister.

You need to monitor her closely. If she uses WhatsApp message me I will tell you how to read all her messages directly on your phone.

I hate cheating & ungrateful women.

Ajokebelle what do you reckon?

EgunMogaji:
Ibadan mesi ogo, ibi ole gbe njare onihun.

EgunMogaji:
OP, this is totally your fault. You did not set out ground rules in your relationship. People will treat you as you allow them to treat you.

I trust my Wife, Hajjia Kudirat Ibadi Aran Iya Silifatu Anike, she will not try me like that. When her lineage are not stark lunatics

You're the man and the head of the household. You are to set the tone on acceptable and unacceptables.

A man is in your wifes car driving your wife and kids. A man is providing loan to your Wife. Bet why?

Icekeeng:
Lord have mercy on me.
Mr OP I'm going tell you a little bit about my past;
I use to have an affair with a married woman. it all started when she'd come borrowing money from me which she regularly paid back. it continued for sometime and we were communicating more freely and frequently.
it got to a stage where I made advances to her cause I felt she was letting me in or should I say giving me the green light.
She sometimes didn't need to repay the loans cause well, you know we were sorting it out elsewhere.
She one day suggested to bring her kid along to my apartment so no one would suspect or notice what was actually going on.
I'm not asking you to use this as a yardstick but you've gotta wise up because when a married woman starts borrowing especially from men;
1. She shares with him some marital *space*
2 He begins to lose respect for the husband, having that feeling he may not be financially capable
i pray God help you.

potent5:
May we never fall victim to cheating women /wives. Amen.

rightwingz:
One of her military colleague (man) came to meet her there, then i disappeared.
Immediately the military guy came i took-off. No need to try luck to avoid frog jump. She reacted sadly when i was about to leave; either she pity me or she saw me as a coward or angry that the male colleague came.

rightwingz:
This reminds me of my experience with a female soldier in Ikoyi.
I was scared of frog jump, i couldn't approach her and she noticed i was crushing on her.