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etrange:
First, a kid who does not even know what "uncle" is doing to her is more likely to talk about it innocently and casually. On the other hand, a teen who understands the full implication of "uncle's" action might need some courage to spill especially if the so-called uncle is a well known/respected individual. Such persons usually believe the weight of the immediate saga would be more traumatic than the rape itself (wrong). Some believe speaking up will expose their perceived loss of dignity to the world (this why some parents fly their children abroad after rape incidence). Some would be thinking about what their fate would be if people do not get to believe them. In fact, self doubt would normally creep in and gradually they recline and keep it in their hearts (forever sometimes). If you've never been a victim or have no close person who's been there, you might never appreciate this.

Secondly, I don't even understand why the emphasis is on how long it took her to come out. Does time change the concept of rape? Even if she spoke up after 50yrs, the question is, did the man do it? The good thing is that she's not keeping mute forever and other victims would derive courage from her case. It would have been a different thing if the man had come out to apologise (maybe before now). In that case, we'd be saying he did it before he met God.

Without proof you already believe the man is guilty

kennygee:
Stepping down isn't an admission of guilt. It is just about him respecting the position he holds

so imagine neyma was suspended base false allegations. This is the objective nothing else

chukwuibuipob:
.kip qwayet and gerrout.Tell ur Pastor to drag her to Court for slander.Nor be pastor ibiyomie do dat ibadan base woman winch strong thing?.Challenge him to take her to court if she lie against him.Same way one useless Pastor like dat in lekki do his own ..Nonsense. *pour/splash male goat urine on dis thread*

Distorted brains...lol. Thank God the media is not a court

Bloggers are just capitalising on the suicide trend.....fake stories

Safitu:
As long as you are providing and paying all the bills, make sure all my expenses are paid for and more. Have
Millions in the bank, you will get all the submission you need in return. Lol.

you can aswell be a seventh wife...lol.

kennygee:
You men these days wanta working woman and make it your right that she splits the bills with you and still submit to you?

If she's sharing the bills with you, doesn't that make you both husbands?

I'm no feminist but you men are really letting feminism become stronger.

I'm done with replying on topics like this.

In short, the entire Romance section.

Like someone rightly told me this morning on one of the topics, y'all can't take it.

idiot ....love is not gender specific. A man cares for you because he loves you so if you love him too you should do the same...Gold diggers are always focus on Bills and how to split

kennygee:
I am not saying women shouldn't build with a man but starting a family on a 50k salary is not reasonable.

If they'll both take a year or two off too prepare better and save after the wedding, fine.

Me I can't bring kids into this world with a man who earns 50k monthly considering how much I earn.

what is your own earnings? So if they can be boy friend and girlfriend taking a year and 2 years to grow income why can't they do the same as husband and wife? Girls will just be pretending that they are struggling with you lol with one hand and leg on other suitors so just incase income to increase them go just fly leave you....lol

Whitestory:
But has anyone thought about this .... Marriage is not just love its beyond love...

What then happens when the love isn't there or isn't as strong as when you initially got married.

What other qualities do you posses that can keep it... Many folks don't think about this....

Marriage is beyond love.

what is love ?

bammy00:
Most girls? No vex reach that level abeg.

lol....some girls just annoying. The person is yet to say anything that will warrant blocking

bammy00:
'Hello, I'm Benson from Alpha Consulting.' Is that so hard?

Do Normal human beings just wake up and block ppl for no tangible reasons? Most girls are just idiot

Godoverevery:
wish I listened bro.....but d most funniest thing is am not angry as am supposed to be...... like have just been laffing has my guys dey para here.

so if you are laffing like you said why are you disturbing us? So you gave your girl money 150k and you want to arrest her for 150k...lol the girl should even block your shadow...lol. Why give her another 50k when she is yet to pay the 1st 100

Winnairaking100:
Sex.do u think it easy to open our legs

idiot!!!! Close your legs

DrCruz:
BREAKING NEWS!!!

The main girlfriend to the guy came to my place through my tenant. She revealed everything to me abt my girl with her boyfriend who is her husband to be. She told me to warn her never to enter her guy's room again, else she will have her to contend with. I told her I'm no more dating her again. I went to report what that girl said to my ex's parents, they refused to listen to me, saying I should've come with a drink and I left.

Meaning she is no more coming to my house and also have the guy's girl to battle with.

what kind weakling is this one....lol. the girl should even dump your shadow...lol

pocohantas:
Exactly!
I feel same about married women complaining of non-performing husbands. Just find a married fckmate and enjoy yourselves.

just move to your own house.... useless generation of girls... marriage is not for everyone

pocohantas:
I need the other side of the story. Men love to play victim a lot, especially broke/jobless men. Maybe it is paranoia or something.

Men love to play victim!!!!!! Really!. Women always play the victims and are usually very manipulative

funmisticqueen:
i am not a feminist all you simple minded men will call any educated woman whose viewpoint is different from yours a feminist. you actually refused to answer my question, can he take care of the extra responsiblity of a pregnancy if it comes in? condom can burst o.

so the only reason married ppl should have sex is to make babies...lol smh.

Liliyann:
Shameless man!
Is sex your next point of action?
What stops you from looking for something to do?
This is exactly one of the reasons why i can't marry struggling guys!
Always complaining!
Never satisfied!
Always finding fault!

so since he lost his job he should no longer have sex again...lol. This generation of girls are just useless

cyprus000:
what if there's an emergency(God forbid). what is he to do? come online to start a fund raiser

even those that earn 1 million can have emergency that they cannot fund. So what do you want them to do?

Mizwisdom:
I know you won't see anything wrong in it as you've been programmed this way. A man, over 50 won't be condemned for being single but a woman same age or younger will become the joke of all and there's absolutely nothing wrong with this, it's perfect to you. First off, is the issue of discrimination against single females, i think it's something we should start getting uncomfortable with, not accepting it outrightly, this is the reason why you'll see a woman close her mouth even when she knows her daughters are being sexually abused by their father because she doesn't want to become single, you might not know it but fear of discrimination leads to multiple problems.

why must you tie your self to Western culture? Why should it be your standard? The west have now accepted gays and I am sure you have also adjusted your stands on that too. You have a culture and you have to respect it. The issue of sexual abuse is a different topic so don't use that to drive your feminist agenda

erico2k2:
Seriously? so you are wiser than all these mega-rich women who still seek marriage and are married right?Talk is cheap,
I just realised here that the vast majority of you engaging me in these arguments are Not even married
This really speaks volumes.
Na so one Aunty on the Internet dey advise girls same same, she come see the future say age nor dey her side she sharply Born for married man come dey apologies online ahah Nowadays she, nor dey promote this line you dey aspire to promote so she respects herself since.

don't mind them...lol...bitter girls

Mizwisdom:
Bro, in a perfect world and a perfect family yep child care for the baby should be like 70% mum and 30% dad because most kids that age just need to eat and sleep but take note, it changes as the kids grow beyond only needing food and sleep and it will work if the man agrees to fully take care of all finances needed by the family without grudge. But we know that in many homes, there's nothing like this. More than 80% of nursing mothers still have to work, they still have to contribute financially. If a woman decides to take a year's break from work she would usually be viewed as being lazy. So the dynamics has to change. There's nothing wrong with buying washing machine but why can't you be the one putting the clothes inside and getting the job done especially when your wife is also a contributor to the financial upkeep of the home

why must you do competition in your family? Treat your man well and he will gladly do alot of things without fuss ..but kontinue to share work like an idiot because you think your financial contribution makes you the head of the family.... useless generation of girls

Preshy561:
What can a man offer a woman with her own money? Absolutely nothing.
The world is changing my dear.
Mothers should stop coarsing their girl child into believing that her life without a man is nothing.

if you have a good man In your life you will not sound like this. Can you imagine a mother with a loving husband and happy family following your recommendations?

Preshy561:
Deep!!!
Train your girl child as if nothing like a man exist, that way, she will be able to stand on her own. If man comes, fine, if man doesn't come, still fine.
That last thing i'd tell them is about marriage, it brings so much pressure to your girl child and mothers/society should stop this act.

lol...the internet always makes the crazy ones look like experts in a field..smh

zolaman:
she was his girl freind, not the wife. no big deal.

This is the problem of this generation...Even if she is the wife she will still do the Same thing... marriage don't stop ppl from cheating

Mk93:
Legend!
But you should have let her go privately instead of humiliating her

she should have let him go instead of cheating on him... don't you know cheating is also humiliation... imagine the ppl eating the food will be looking at both of you laughing behind you