₦airaland Forum

ebonyggurl:
op women should say yes to any tom dick or harry cos he mentioned marriage abi

Even to read is a problem... useless generation of girls

ebonyggurl:
Oga Uk and Nigeria are not the same. If the women here decide to settle for poor unambitious men what will marriages here be like with this our economy especially when she falls pregnant?

I don't know when sane people Will stop comparing first world country citizens with third world country citizens

are you wealthy? Most of the ladies that call men broke are also broke and also unambitious...infact the only thing they want is a wealthy man that can spend for them

Safitu:
You can’t consider yourself serious if you are broke.
What are you bringing to the table if you can’t bring cash?
Most women have guys approaching them everyday, but they have one thing in common. Empty pockets.

Are you handicap? Or you be slowpoke...lol. what do you bring to the table apart from your body?

opebiboy:
Most Nigerians are brainwashed. No single Nigeriam artist has 100million naira cash, and that includes tuface and Davido. They dont have it

They can get it if they decide to do Money laundry for politicians

ednut1:
na victim dem dey invite or accused. Sigh

Accused? So you can just wake up 3 Moro and accused Peter without evidence and then you expect the police to just invite the accused based o. What you told the media....lol ...mad ppl everywhere

Iamgrey5:
There's definitely alot at stake

I believe Timi is doing the right thing by putting pressure on the police through the power of social media.

Social media is a powerful tool to fight against oppressors.

who is oppressing who?

Ikville:
Agreed, but u can't deny d fact dat physical closeness or union is an essential part of marriage. Tho it may not be built on sex, it's been known to hav kept marriages alive. Evrybody knows d benefits of sex in marriages & lack of it can bring a whole lot of pressures & frustrations on d marriage. If dez luv & un'standing, dere will definitely be a compromise (Daz wot dey need, not 'sacrifice')

what is sacrifice? You cannot say you love without making sacrifice

thesicilian:
So after 8yrs he should keep looking for her weak point to activate? Even the buttons to nuclear weapons don't take that long to locate.

why waste her time for 8 years?

omochelsea004:
bro, sex is very very important in marriage and again i will only be deceiving myself if i say i can cope with it, the truth is; i can't

so if you can't cope end it with her. Get another girl that is good in bed simple.... Please stop using the word love because I'm not sure you understand what it means. You have been there since and suddenly time for marriage you are looking for excuse and you want us to validate it...lol

omochelsea004:
Hi guys, my fiancee & i have been together for years now & preparation is on for our wedding later this year, the relationship has been fantastic, but there is this very big 'BUT' about my fiancee, & as a matter of fact she sees it as nothing or no issue at all, but this Same thing is giving me real headache & sleepless nights because i really do love her & i do know for sure that i cannot cope with it.

The problem now is my fiancee has a very low sex drive, she is not in any way interested in sex at all, it's not as if i love sex too much but at least i enjoy sex as every other human being should, so her lack of interest in sex is a very big issue for me, i have talked to her about it & tried everything within my reach to solve the problem but all to no avail because she is seeing it as no biggie.

Please guys what else can i do to increase har libido? because that's the only thing I see as solution.

Is there any medication or herbs you guys can recommend for me that will definitely increase her sex drive?

If you meet the one that likes sex now you will come and tell us she is sex addict and probably suspecting her of cheating...lol. Marriage is not about sex ok. There is no perfection anywhere, just imagine your wife to be was planning to end marriage simply because you cannot satisfy her in bed, how would you feel? When you love someone you love them with their flaws and imperfection and you have to sacrifice some of the things you like because of love... So stick to her and continue to do alot of romance

1x2x3:
Mr lover boy......Relationship and Marriage is far more than love. If you sit there without applying your sense then that thing you call love can send you to your grave.

I've experienced enough to know when to let who want to go to leave and when to keep holding. Holding who wants to leave isn't love but foolishness.

ok prof

1x2x3:
Lol... Like wtf. I won't even stop her or cry afterwards. There's no need playing victim.

you don't know about love...the only thing in your coconut head is sex

1x2x3:
My point is; don't say you stuck by someone while he was poor unless you were rich and assisted. If you are poor and he is poor then tell me who is sticking by who.

so what if she is poor and a richer guy is coming for her and she decides to leave you, why do you ppl come and cry afterall who is sticking with who? Your point is very wrong. A beautiful girl that is wise can use her beauty to climb up the ladder.

Chidelis:
The lady will also think same......

I think it is the level of commitment too from both parties

I will reciprocate the gesture

Ppl have sex before marriage and still got married and enjoying their marriage, some ppl did no sex before marriage and still got married and some are not enjoying the marriage while some are happy they waited. If you say no sex before marriage to me it means you are already using sex as a weapon to manipulate me into marriage.

Cioccolata:
[color=#008080]People who defend rapist are rapist. [/color]

There is difference between alleged rapist and rapist

Kingpunter:
so rape is now alleged, is there ever evidence for it, the only evidence are the heart broken victims

lol so if any useless girl comes out to accuse a man and claim rape we should just pronounce the man guilty...lol. The big question I will like to ask is it impossible for a woman to lie? Women lie everyday and yet ppl want us to crucify an accused base on sentiments and zero evidence.

Godoverevery:
Good afternoon everyone.
it has been a sad weekend for me....hope y'all remember the thread I posted last month about my fiancée I gave some money to do business and she messed up.... just want to give an update of event.
After that day I posted the thread and everything I read here I decided to end things with her.....so I blocked her on whatapp and every other social media platforms and barred all her number after I told her it was over.
fast forward to Friday I received a call from one of our mutual friend ....he asked what wrong with my gf .....I replied I don't no ooo....so he asked if I have seen her status message s...... I said no so I told him to download or screen grab and send it to me.( I didn't tell most of friends we weren't dating anymore only 2 knew because I love keeping my matter private)....he sent it and to my surprise the message was shocking but I didn't give a shit.....I called my friend and laughed it off that is just a normal stunt.
Around past 11pm my phone rang I didn't no the number so i didn't pick but it kept ringing by the 4th time I picked to my surprise it was her twin brother.....he was just cursing and insulting me with several threat.......I tried to talk him down to know what was going on but he was just shouting and all so I cut the call...he continued calling and I was aborting the call ....later on I off my phone.
I was angry but later on slept off ....I woke up around past 4am ....switched my phone back on..... messages started flying in both SMS and whatapp......to cut the story short.
the girl cut all her hair off with scissor.... already bought sniper .....wrote a note down and was ready to kill herself.
I immediately called some of my friends explained things to them.....I also called one of her close friend and she explained everything to me that it was for real and she was going there as day break.
my friends came to my place very early on Saturday so with my neighbors........we decided to go down there to see what was actually going on.......on getting there we met few people at the front of the house so I was kinda scared going in but my friends insisted we go in.
so I called that her friend and she came outside to meet us gave me the load down of what happened......I was devastated ......this girl wanted to kill herself because of me...we decided to go inside ...when we entered she was laid down in room sleeping .....as I entered after my friends all her friends started cursing me and insulting......As we were trying to plead they should calm down she woke up and saw me....she just started crying with lot of crazy drama...we were pushed outside Nd told to leave .....we didn't have any choice but to leave.
while outside her elder brother walked up to us and introduce himself....so I explained what happened to him that lead to the break up....a while later her twin brother dash in with some of his friends charging towards me.....he was stop by is big bro with several slaps and hitting before he could calm down.....he was shouting they want to treat my Bleep up ......some elderly people intervened and he backed out with lot of threat.
Her elder bro then request we go see there parent together which I accepted... getting there I apologize and explained my side of things which her mum was aware of..... after discussion her brother collect my account number and transfer all the money back to me immediately......they told me to leave after then(I saw hate in her dad eye especially for me).
To be honest I felt guilty and I don't know why.......I was sober through out yesterday after getting back home......I couldn't even go to church today.
Have just been thinking what if her neighbor didn't see the status and immediately rushed to her house(becos she actually delete all her siblings number and all her friends around so they won't see the status message but forgot the lady number).....she has already written a letter which I saw and read myself.

Right now am really lost in thought..,....am not myself.......am just devastated because if she has succeeded I don't think I can live with that for the rest of my life infact my parent will be very much disappointed cos is stigma I can't erase.
Right now I don't know if I should get back with her and carry it as my cross or I should lock up......but am scared what if she tries it again because she is taking the break up thing the hard way.....I should have attached pic of the status messages and all.....but scared she may have friends here and it won't speak well.

I need you guys honest and matured advise on what to do pls......

Don't you get tired of these lies and follish story....we don advise you tire and yet u dey create the third story so wetin u want us to do

PrincessNZ:
that means a woman can also fall short and cheat his man and be forgiven right?

just don't get caught tho

PrincessNZ:
thanks greatly for this. but can a man who loves me cheat on me with another woman?

A man who loves you can fall short and cheat on you... Please note not constant cheating. He will definitely put an effort not to cheat and over time he can be completely faithful...

Lol...only you post comments...wedon sir

AmazonTopaz:
You and I know say Nigerian judiciary no be am.
Let the man sue her but hell no he is keeping quiet and so people are free to assume he is guilty as charged.
Until he clears his name the man is guilty as charged.

Who charged him? Well that is the essence of going to media after all. It gives her the ability to gain victory from sentiments

Funmmyastic:
So you mean the story can not be true?The man should sue them if his is innocent,no qualms.

so you mean the story cannot be false? They should sue the man if they believe they have a true story... nonsense ppl

AmazonTopaz:
Since the accuser cannot file charges the onus is on the accused to clear his name

There is no onus on anybody... You went to a media to claim rape. Rape is a criminal offence. A criminal offence is taken to court not to a media house. Another blogger just wrote another story without a single proof and everyone is Saying jail him. Imagine the court is a place where ppl type story or just talk and ppl are arrested and jail base on speech and write up on blog.

Funmmyastic:
This one is more interesting.It even happened in 2017,this man should be jailed abeg.His cup is full.No peace for the wicked.

jailed because of a blogger wrote a story...lol mad ppl everywhere

AmazonTopaz:
Lol
This pastor is as guilty as charged.
If innocent I expected him to file charges against Busola for defamation, slander but he has kept mute and decided to step down.
Keeping mute and doing nothing only proves that he has a skeleton in his cupboard.

who is supposed to file charges? The accuser or the accused? Sentiment can make ppl think foolishly

Graduateacher:
Rape stories don't add up that's why it's rape. The way you're defending rape you should know how it works from past experiences

is it possible for a girl to have a consensual sex with you and later call it rape? Why is it that when it comes to rape issues we don't care about evidence and we just jump into conclusion? Don't you think alot of women are taking advantage of this ? Please be objective and stop the sentiment

AntiWailer:
F00lish idiot.

This is why the environment kept enabling rapists

The disgrace, the shame

The victim's life end up being messed up.

As for rapist and rape apologists, I know u want to fight for Ur pastor, please free me.

I am talking about you guys shutting up and listening to victims before u dismiss them with all your dumb comments and questions.

The foolish story of rape doesn't add up....I understand how desperate you want to believe the story but it only makes you look foolish. If cases are decided just because someone came to the media without proof then I can assure you that so many life's will just be destroyed for free. Media trial is not justice for anyone...it is more of defamation

OLAADEGBU:
Yes, especially if she's an enabler.

You are not looking for justice

daddytime:
Way to go...but he won't be missing anything so long as his wife remains there as his eyes and shot caller

so they should take down the wife too ...lol.

blujoi:
As an addendum, if you had watched the interview you would have seen where she stated that she reported to her immediate family when the incident happened, so yeah she decided to out the man publicly after 17 years. Probably her own way of dealing with the hurt and the psychological damage it brought to her

lol....her own way of trying to use the media trial to get the man to step down.... bunch of evil ppl