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1- When a woman is angry, over half of what she says she doesn't mean it...

2- The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves.

3- A woman is not like a 'detol advert' if you don't take care of her... Others will.

4- It takes time for a woman to trust a man, it's hard to change when she does, but if you mess up, you might just forget it.

5- A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.

6- Your wedding certificate with her is not a "license", it's just a "Learners permit"

7- She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach.

8- A woman hardly forgets things, she remembers what hurts more, avoid making her hurt.

9- A woman can be highly secretive... Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and friends to cry.

10- All women Love to be begged. men often miss out on this........

11- All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.

12-if she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as long as it makes you happy, so never force her to love you.

13-if a woman truly loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily!... That's what makes them special....☺

If you find a woman who loves and fears God, cherish her for life and never let her go. She will do you good for the rest of your life
Source.>>>>.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

1. THE SEXUAL INTIMACY
This is not when two people have sex. No! This is when two people who are in love make love. Sex is easy to get, but lovemaking involves the heart

2. THE DEEP CONVERSATION INTIMACY
This is when you two really talk and this usually requires length. So the more you two spend time together to talk, the higher the level of intimacy. Intimacy requires the sharing of personal and exclusive information. To love is to talk

3. THE EMOTIONAL INTIMACY
This is when you lay it all bare. Your spouse/partner gets to see your fears, your moods, and your tears. You two get to reveal your thoughts and become vulnerable. Your true feelings show in real-time and your spouse/partner is not ashamed, scared, or insensitive to deal with them

4. THE SENSUAL INTIMACY
This involves the sense of touch. It's when you two cuddle, rub, and stroke each other. It's the making out, the kissing, the rubbing and holding of hands, the playing with fingers, the massaging, the skin-to-skin moments

5. "The spiritual intimacy"
This is when you both are man and woman after God's own heart. When you two pursue God as a couple, you fellowship together, pray together, read God's word together, rebuke and mold each other

6. THE WORSHIP INTIMACY
This is when you two worship. You lock yourselves from the world and simply meet in intimacy in the presence of God

7. THE NUDE INTIMACY
This is when you two are naked and unashamed. When he sees all those things about her body she is self-conscious and reminds her she is beautiful. When she looks at the size of his penis big or small and still finds him man enough. When you two know each other's body in and out

8. THE -THIS IS ME INTIMACY
This is when your weaknesses, flaws, and failures come out in the open between you two and your spouse/partner loves you still, in fact, loves you even more. This is when the limit of your humanity is demonstrated and your spouse/partner still chooses you and covers you

9. THE -AMID STORMS INTIMACY
This is when life gets tough and your spouse/partner is present. So many people in a relationship/marriage go through trying times alone. But intimacy is when you can count on each other to be there through thick and thin

10. THE IN GOOD TIMES INTIMACY
This is when you share the good moments. You look back at the amazing moments in your life and see him/her there. This is when good things happen and the first person to call is your partner/spouse

11. THE WEIRD INTIMACY
This is when you two are so comfortable with each other that you don't mind being yourselves around each other. When you can show each other the cavity in your teeth, tell each other that the dress doesn't look good. When you can fart and laugh about it. When you can pee as you talk loudly from the toilet, when you know each other's quirky habits and accept them

12. THE AGING INTIMACY
This is when you are not ashamed of seeing each other's wrinkles, white hair, aging skin, and balding heads. When you age in love remember that...... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

The success or otherwise of your marriage is in your hands as a woman, you are the heartbeat of your home, and you can’t afford to allow your marriage to go down the drain. The truth is, God has packaged all the resources you will need as a homemaker into you. You are the excellence of God’s creation, the extraordinary creative of grace and glamour you can’t afford to fail.

How to Strengthen Your Marriage:

1. Make up your mind to make your marriage work by all means:
-Count the cost of marriage failures; God is counting on you.
-Be a woman, not a ‘woe-man’. Proverbs 12:4
-Don’t permit your children to suffer needless pain through your own mistakes.
-Always remember that your marriage is what you make it to be.
-Fight for your marriage.

2. Understand the mystery called man.
Your husband is not different from other men. We may have exceptions here and there, but men are generally the same. So stop thinking you will get a better one if you divorce this, they are the same. It is only the Holy Spirit that can make a difference in the life of a man.

They are generally:
-Hardly admit wrong or say ‘I am sorry’.
-Full of Ego
I want children but hate baby crying.
-They believe you are a supper woman; they want their food out of the kitchen in two minutes.
-He cannot cook, but can easily discover bad food.
-Respect all other women except their wives.
-Are likely to make mistakes their fathers made.
-He wants full respect in the sitting room, and won’t mind if you disrespect them a little in the bedroom.
-He can be hard, rough, dirty and unorganized
-Hardly appreciative; rather critical.
-They are not daylight lover but rather moonlight ones.
-Love sex with passion and want it no matter how you feel about it. They can beg or even cry for it.

3. Understand the man you marry: You need to study your husband, who is he, what he wants; how, and when. What is his joy; love needs, fear, vision, and plans? etc.
A man you don’t understand, you can not enjoy.

4. Accept your husband – Stop comparing notes; he cannot behave like your father, your friends o r, or your aunty’s husband. He is himself; accept him.

The Scripture says: “As apple tree among the trees of the wood so is my beloved (my husband) among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love”. Song of Solomon 2: 3-4

5. Deal with yourself. Stop the blame game. Your marriage is what you make it to be. If you change, he will change. If you become a lover girl; he will become a lover boy. If you make yourself a lilly he will not treat you as a thorn, “I am a rose of Sharon, and the lilly of the valleys. As the lilly among thorns so is my love among daughters”. SOS. 2:1-2

Check the following:
-Your spiritual life
-Your character/habit, pride, anger, laziness, nagging, etc.
-What he has been complaining about
-Your cooking?
-Your dressing?
-Your communication or crisis management skills?
-Your wrong or unspoken expectations
-Your bedroom performance
-Your homemaking ability
-Your motherhood
-Your level on the submission scale.

6. Give him what he wants in a woman:
Respect. …..” And the wife see that she reverence her husband”. Ephesians 5:33

Peace of mind. No nagging, unfaithfulness, fighting, strife, malice, etc.

In marriage, there will always be reasons to disagree, but always disagree to agree.

Support. Financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and morally.

Pray: Pray for him. Your greatest weapon in your family is prayer.

Appreciation. Learn to appreciate him for everything, even for eating your food.

Unconditional love. Love him whether he has money or not, for it is wrong to love him around “payday” only.

Neat house. Make the house a palace for him, a place of rest and pleasure.

Good dress sense. From underwear to nightwear and outing wear; be creative, neat, inviting, and glorious.


7. Romance. Be romantic and playful with him. Make him rush back home from work to come and meet you, be creative. Never allow your girlish instinct to die.

Send romantic text messages and e-mails to him. Give him a romantic treat on the phone. Hug and kiss him generously, massage his body, and let him be happy he married you.

Great sex. NEVER ALLOW BOREDOM IN YOUR BEDROOM. Give him great sex, not a grudge match, make it a sexual relationship not just sexual intercourse. Love making not a mating, makes him forever happy by lightening up his bedroom because....... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name.

There are many ways to love her..

1. KISS HER ON THE FOREHEAD when the alarm rings and she struggles to wake up

2. RUB AND SENSUALLY TOUCH her thighs, hips, back, nipples; so that she wakes up aroused. She loves being turned on by her husband for morning glory

3. OCCASIONALLY PREPARE BREAKFAST IN BED. Let her wake up to being pampered. Surprise her once in a while

4. STARE AT HER WHEN HER EYES ARE ABOUT TO OPEN. She loves it when your loving eyes are the first thing she sees

5. PRAY FOR HER FIRST THING WHEN SHE WAKES UP. Then kiss her lips to say "Amen"

6. LET HER WAKE UP TO YOUR HOLD, YOUR EMBRACE as you have a calm and intimate conversation with her. Sometimes a woman wants a quiet morning

7. LET HER WAKE UP TO THE VIEW OF YOUR CARRYING YOUR CHILD, giving her a break; especially when she stayed up till late looking after your child

8. GO INSIDE UNDER THE COVERS AND LICK HER BETWEEN HER LEGS; especially when you two sleep naked. She loves it when her husband makes her wet in the morning, then make love to start the day with passion

9. CALL HER OR TEXT HER A SWEET LOVING MESSAGE, words of blessing; if you two wake up far from each other. Distance shouldn't be an excuse not to start her day with a smile

10. KISS HER SKIN, FINGERS AND PARTS OF HER BODY as you tell her how beautiful she looks, how proud you are she is yours, how amazing she is, how she is going to have a great day. Tell her she is still the one, even in this new day

The woman determines the mood of the house, the mood of the woman is dependent on how her husband treats her first thing in the morning. When a man makes his woman feel special, he is actually looking after his own interest and home. A loved up woman, governs the home with love, she loves good in return. She glows through out the day. Start the...... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Advice needed please, I am Ibo, while my husband is Yoruba. I have been married for almost 2 years now. While dating my hubby, we were always quarreling and fighting, but we resolved our fights in the end.

Sometimes, the fights turned bloody. I decided to move on with my life and meet someone better, but my boyfriend came back crying, begging, asking his father and cousins to beg me.

I went back to him, and from then on, we had a smooth relationship, no fights, and no discord. Along the line, I got pregnant, so my boyfriend and I had to get married even though we were not quite ready as we were both job hunting. A few months into the marriage, the fight started again.

I won’t go into details of what caused the fights, but the fights always end in bruises, black eyes, and so on. My husband doesn’t hit me for no reason only when we argue.

Please should we part ways as we seem to be incompatible, or should we forge ahead? .

Dear Sender, The issue here is that you ignored the reasons that both of you were always disagreeing on issues yet you went ahead and married him. It's not wrong to disagree but any disagreement that would result in bruises and beating isn't disagreement but trouble.

It takes two to tangle, it takes two to Quarrel, and one to murmur.
I don't advise anybody to stay in a violent relationship. Because you need to be alive to talk about Marriage.

It takes Godly understanding, courage, patience, Compromise, sacrifice, and a good Christian to Marry another tribe in Nigeria.

The worst is, if your partner is not a Believer in Christ Jesus then you are in trouble. Because he or she may always end up obeying the family's pressure to........... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

This is a mystery that most people cannot explain. After lots of study, research and wisdom from the Creator, I've come to realize that the main cause of the 90% of misunderstandings couples face in Marriages today is as a result of lack of sexual satisfaction.

One of the major reasons why people cheat is lack of sexual satisfaction, when a Man/Woman is not satisfied sexually they are tempted to cheat, not everyone can overcome the temptation of cheating, absence of sexual satisfaction means absence of peace and happiness in your Marriages.

Your spouse can tolerate your bad character but your ability to give them sexual satisfaction can guarantee your stay with him/her, when you can sexually satisfy your spouse you have already taken over 90% of their being.
When you don't satisfy your spouse sexually, nothing you do pleases them, no amount of money, love, gifts and so on can measure up to the happiness that comes after a good sex.

When you don't satisfy your spouse, anything you do becomes annoying, everything you do gets them angry, little issues they are already reacting to and creating a scene, sometimes you wonder what you did that they are acting so harshly, it's all hidden behind sexual satisfaction.
If you can satisfy your spouse sexually there is nothing they would not do for you, that young girl that is about to take your man from you is only doing one thing, She is satisfying him sexually.

The same applies to that young man your wife is chasing here and there, sexual dissatisfaction can destroy a home.
Know this and know peace because..... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

S*x is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important sex is in marriage.
When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex, you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you, what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married, sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily get married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches them for marriage, they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately, only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.

The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the Holy Bible say in Ephesians 5:22? "Wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many young ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit, don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be or poor he is.

When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love and love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the QUEEN you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid, nothing will happen. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and also be his maid, don't mind all those big mouth ladies who come online to pretend by advising you to do something they won't dare in their homes.

Submission is the key to a man's heart.
I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage and may God bless you with a good marriage so that...... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Dear single women, you are welcome to the New Year. As you keep searching for life partners, below are some red flags or warning signals to identify a wrong or fake suitor:

1. SEX: All he wants from you is sex, sex and sex. Every time he meets you, it is sex he demands. If you refuse to yield to his sexual advances, he gets angry with you. If you open your legs for him, he is happy with you. Any man who demands for sex before marriage is a fake suitor. Run for your life..

2. FAMILY INTRODUCTION: He is always postponing family introduction. Under normal circumstances, a man should introduce himself to a woman’s family within 3 months of any serious relationship. If you, as a lady, are in a relationship with a man and he keeps postponing or gives you flimsy excuses, he is not serious.

3. WORK: The man you are dating does not have any specific job he is doing. He keeps promising you marriage but he is not working. He is not serious in starting something. He seems to have a dream but cannot start anything.

4. MONEY: He is always asking you for recharged cards and money. He even gets angry with you if you don’t accede to his requests.

5. MEETING: The guy meets you in hotels, friend’s place or restaurants. He refuses to give you his house address.

6. LIES: He is full of lies. Everything he tells you cannot be relied upon.

7. OTHER WOMEN: He has a job but flocks around with other women. He tells you those women are just friends. Sometimes when you visit him without notice, you find other women in his house.

8. TELEPHONE CALLS: When he is with you, he switches off his mobile phones. He may even refuse to answer some calls if he is with you for fear of exposing his secret relationship with you. He padlocks his phones and you cannot have access to it.

9. ATM CARDS: He maintains several bank accounts. He has over 10 ATM cards with different banks but his source of livelihood is shrouded in secrecy. He does not allow you to know his sources of incomes but keeps spending money lavishly at all times. Such a guy may be a criminal.

10. FEAR: Anytime you are with him, he is always afraid of law enforcement agents. When he sees policemen around, he is not comfortable. He is always in a panic mood. He is restless any moment he sees policemen around. Such a guy may be a criminal.

11. IDENTIFICATION: He has different names he bears on his means of identification. If you ask him why he bears different names, he tells you that it does not matter.

12. STRANGE FRIENDS: He has strange friends around him. Some of his friends are people of questionable characters.

13. ASSAULTS: He is always abusing you even in the public. He molests you. He gets angry with you and starts insulting you. Later, he will apologize and still repeats same.

14. RAPE: On different occasions, he has raped you because you did not cooperate with him. After raping you, he apologizes and still continues to rape you. NOTE: This may sound strange but some ladies foolishly date rapists

15. RESPECT: He has no respect for you. He talks to you as if you are a slave yet he promised to marry you.

16. HAPPINNESS: He is always angry and fights you but the only time he is happy with you is during sexual intercourse. Immediately after sexual escapade, he starts insulting you. NOTE: This happens and any woman who continues with such a man is a big fool.

17. TRIBALISM: He hates your tribe. He detests your culture because he is from another tribe, yet he claims he loves you. NOTE: A man who loves you must love your tribe and cultures.

18. RELIGION: He practices another religion that is different from yours. He is an extremist but you don’t like his religion. NOTE: Marrying such a man is disastrous.

19. ALCOHOL: He is a terrible alcohol addict. He drinks himself to stupor and loses his senses anytime he is intoxicated. He apologizes later but still continues his alcoholism attitude.

20. SMOKING: He smokes weeds and cigarettes. You are not comfortable with smoking habits but you only want to manage him since there is no alternative. NOTE: You cannot cope with a smoker in marriage if you cannot cope with him now.

21. PROPOSAL: Since you have been dating, he has never proposed to marry you but keeps having sex with you. After sex, he pays you. NOTE: The man has turned you to a prostitute.

22. ACCOMMODATION: He squats with friends. He has no plan of getting his own accommodation. You meet him in his friend’s house and he gets angry when you advise him to get his own accommodation.

Dear single women, this is New Year. A lot of men are destroying the lives of ignorant women. If you notice any or a combination of the above characters in man’s life, don’t take the risk of marrying such a man. Many women are regretting now in their homes as they failed to be sensitive to these warning signals.
Be wise because........https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1


Evang. Johnson Ojo
Lagos.

1. Touch him/her in the stimulating areas to get him/her in the mood. Nipples, neck, back

2. Kiss him/her. Kisses almost always make us think of making love

3. Take showers or baths together. Invite your spouse to the shower, make it a habit. Get playful there, sex will happen

4. Send your spouse naughty messages during the day saying what you will do to him/her. By the time you get home, you both will be in the mood

5. Massage your spouse's body, touch and care to arouse your spouse

6. Dress for sex. There is lingerie that you wear that tells your spouse "I want sex. I am feeling sexy"

7. Sleep naked together. The greater and easier the access, the more the sex

8. Treat your spouse well. We get Hot when we are near the spouse who treats us well

9. Touch your spouse between the legs. Don't beat around the bush. Lady, take your fingers inside his boxer and stroke his gun to hardness; man, take your fingers inside her panty and rub till she swells. Men love a sexually aggressive wife; women love a husband who is hungry for her and unpredictable

10. Whisper naughty things into your spouse's ear. There is something sexy about hearing and feeling your spouse breathing in a Hot way

11. Invite your spouse for a sensual, intimate dance. Salsa, slow dance, bump and grind. There is no way you two will be close to each other, body to body, and not want to make love. This is why married people need to go out on dates more, go out and find intimacy. Find intimacy in dancing in the house too

12. Strip, tease, and seduce your spouse. Whine, kata kimono, slowly reveal your body

13. Be playful. Lady, take your husband's hands and place them on your butt, blindfold him with your bra. Man, grab her butt as she works, unhook her bra when she least expects it

14. Pose seductively. Sexually lying in bed, the lady deliberately bends in front of him in a manner to suggest an invite for doggy-style

15. Master a seductive look. Man, your wife gets turned on when you give her a piercing look that says "I want you now. She gets wet when you UnCloth her with your eyes". Lady, pull your husband to you with "Come inside me" eyes

16. Ask for sex unapologetically. Tell your spouse without wasting time, "Sex me"... "I am Hot". Stop suffering alone in the sexual fire. Sometimes all you have to do is open your mouth and say, "Sweetheart, let's have sex so that.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

There are many lies people are branding around about Church weddings that need to be corrected as they have led lots of youth and singles astray, making many incur heavy debts that take years to pay after the wedding guests have left.

Here are 13 lies you must not believe about church weddings.

1) IT MUST BE LOUD AND EXPENSIVE

It need not be loud and expensive. You can do it in a very low way and save yourself from unnecessary spending.

2) IT MUST BE ON Saturdays

Not at all, it can be on any day of the week history has it that the original day for the wedding was Thursday, that is why a day before it was named Wednesday. Wed-the-next-day.

3) IT MUST BE IN A CHURCH
No, a church wedding can take place in a Pastor's office or any other hall, where the groom, bride, Pastor, and their families are present.it’s not compulsory to be in the church auditorium

4) THERE MUST BE RECEPTION
Reception is good but it’s not compulsory.

5) THERE MUST BE BRIDAL TRAIN
It’s not bridal training that makes Marriage work but bridal training. Bridal train adds glamour to the wedding but they don’t determine the success of marriage.

6) THERE MUST BE CAKE
Cake is not a compulsion if you don’t have money to bake one, that does not determine the success of your marriage

7) THERE MUST BE WEDDING RING
The wedding ring is just a sign that you are married, you should be joined with a Bible in a Church, then bless your ring and use it.

8: THERE MUST BE WHITE WEDDING GOWN
you can wear a native dress for your Church wedding, it need not be a wedding gown

9) BRIDES THAT WEAR ANY OTHER COLOR OF WEDDING GOWN IS NOT PURE:
That is not true, you can determine the color of the gown you want.

10) THERE MUST BE BRIDAL SHOWER
A bridal shower is a Hollywood creation not part of the Church wedding at all, so don’t go into debt because of that

11) THERE MUST BE PRE WEDDING PHOTOSHOOT
This is good but it is not compulsory, don’t go into debt because of this.

12) WEDDING GOWN CAN’T BE BORROWED

We have many bridal shops that are renting out wedding gowns nowadays, this saves money and time, it’s not bad it’s encouraged since the gown is just for a day, so why not rent one?

13) YOU CAN BE PREGNANT AND GO FOR CHURCH WEDDING!

In every gospel and real Bible-preaching church, this is not allowed. It’s also not Biblical, two are expected to be joined together during the wedding and not three or four as in the case of a pregnant lady being joined by a., .... https://www.gistreal.ng/2023/10/8-purpose-of-relationship-before.html?m=1

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Men are different than women in many ways, but one of the most obvious is how they express themselves emotionally. If he’s never said “I love you” out loud or doesn’t seem very affectionate, don’t worry because there are plenty of other signs that show what he feels for you on a more subtle level.

She might help support your career, take care of all aspects of your life (from cooking to giving advice), never fail to surprise you with something thoughtful like flowers or cards, or even just love who you naturally are without trying to change anything about you. It all comes down to what he does and how it makes you feel, rather than just saying the words that we can often take for granted in a relationship.

When a man loves a woman, he'll do everything and/or anything in his power to show it. This means he'll make an effort to be with you, even if it requires overcoming big challenges.

When a man loves a woman, he won't disappear without a word or ignore you. Instead, he'll regularly call or text to check in and express his feelings. He'll always treat you with respect and often compliment you, calling you beautiful.

More than just words, he'll prove through his actions that you're incredibly special to him. You'll never have to wonder about his feelings because he'll make sure you know just how much he.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Every woman needs a man. To say "I don't need a man in my life; I can achieve EVERYTHING I want as a single" is hypocrisy. Ladies who run their lives with that mentality will stay single for a very long time. That is no longer self-confidence, it is pride and pride goes before a fall. The Bible tells us to think high but not MORE HIGHLY than we ought to think (Romans 12:3).

I need a man to feel complete. I need a man to get pregnant. I need a man to be the father of my children. I need a man to have sex with. I need a man to be my best opposite-sex friend. I need a man whose vision I can support. I need a man I can help. I need a man to fulfill destiny with. I need a man I can look up to, lead me, guide me counsel me when I need counsel, and correct me when I make a mistake, yes, I need a man!

Until you get to the point when you humble yourself to acknowledge this need, you won't attract the right man, and your marriage won't work because you won't respect him.

A time comes in our lives when a man needs a woman; a woman needs a man. We must acknowledge this, humble ourselves, allow the right person to find us, and submit to love because God is love. He wants us to love and be loved.

You deserve to be loved and yes! You need a man that.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

1. Sex doesn't keep a man, if you like, turn 360% on the bed, and he will still dump you. Bleach until you become white, if he doesn't notice the qualities of a wife in you, he will leave you.

2. A man who wins your love with cash may not stay forever. Real men don't settle down with fake women who love money.

3. The beauty of a woman can take her to a Palace but her character will determine how long she stays in the palace. Beauty attracts men but character keeps them.

4. Material things have their merits but they cannot alone provide the riches of a truly meaningful life.

5. Being sexy without a character will not get you a husband, you will only get a boyfriend.

6. Sex can bring pleasure but it can never bring love, sex is a product of love, love is not a product of sex.

7. Sex can make a man stay with you overnight but love will make him stay for a lifetime.

8. There are some things that money just can't buy like manners, morals, and integrity.

9. How you dress will determine how men will address you..... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

There is this man who began chatting with me around April. The man is handsome and with money. He began showering me with nice messages and slowly graduated to gifts.

We hadn't met but finally, we met and I liked him more. Slowly we began planning on some romantic out and finally, we booked a hotel out of town. I took myself there, weekend daytime. I had lied to my husband I'm going to visit a cousin of mine who lives there.

We got to the hotel and went to the room. We showered and we got to bed. However just as we began having romance, the door got banged so hard. The man seemed scared but went to open the door.

My husband came inside and found me n*ked. He told me: now I have proven that you aren't faithful to me. He told me it was all a setup to try me since he has always suspected me that I would cheat given the chance.

The man admitted it was true he was hired to try me. He dressed up and both my husband and him left. I felt so ashamed I didn't go home but went to my mother's place and didn't tell told why I was there because...... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

"You are stupid!"
"You are ugly."
"You are not attractive to me anymore..."
"You are fat!"
"What is that? Stretch mark?"
"You are a failure in bed."
"My EX is far better than you are."
"I regret marrying you?"
"Why are your breasts sagging?" (Who sagged them? 😂😂😂)
"You are a failure."
"You are lazy!"
"You will never amount to anything in life!"
"You are a bad wife"
"You are barren!" (If she is still looking for the fruit of the womb).
"You are a non-entity." (Because she came from a poor background).

And so many other derogatory names I'm not comfortable typing. Women respond to words. Words can make a woman blossom or wither. There is no perfect woman anywhere! Virtuous women don't drop from heaven, their husbands made them. If there is anything you don't like about her, loving and prayerfully correct instead of abusing and destroying her self-esteem!

Women are very concerned about their body image. We love to look beautiful to our man and sexually appealing to him as well. When you focus on the physical effects, criticize, condemn, and abuse her, you register your rejection and her self-esteem goes down to zero!

No woman thrives on abuse! She thrives on admiration, affection, compassion, and love.

What are the areas she is doing exceptionally well? Appreciate her, admire her, sing her praises and she will be more confident to face her challenges and deal with her weaknesses.

Never use her family background against her. Her family means. a lot to her. Don't compare her with your EX, if your EX is better, why did she dump you? Never tag her as a bad wife or mother because she didn't perform to expectation. Be careful what you prophesy on your wife because they will come to pass ...he shall have whatsoever he saith..." (Mark 11:23).

That you are facing challenges in your marriage does not mean you should regret your marriage; you are simply going through a phase and that phase will pass. Be careful with your utterances.

Many women are suffering from depression, paranoia, psychosis, mental disorders, and satanic oppression due to the constant abuse they are experiencing in their marriages. It is like going through hell! Verbal abuse and rejection are like going through hell. No one experiences them constantly and keep sane!

A happy wife is the product of a wise, godly, mature husband.
Use your tongue wisely and your wife is going to..https://www.gistreal.ng/2023/10/5-quick-ways-to-get-over-your-past.html

I know, guys are moved by sight,
BUT understand this,

Your Manhood wasn't made for you to think with, hence it has erectile cells with no thinking capacity.

The Penis is a REPRODUCTIVE organ, not a COGNITIVE organ, it has ZERO sense.

Think and reach Decisions instead with your BRAIN.

Your Brain is Objective and THINKS OF MANY things,

Like compatibility, responsibilities, pregnancy, school fees, it thinks of the future, it thinks of character, life after death, and so on.

It UNDERSTANDS MANY things like every action has its repercussions,

It RESPECTS MANY things.

Your Manhood understands, thinks, and respects ONLY ONE thing.

It was never designed to be included in any decision-making process.

Do your research and read the News.. it hardly ever ends well anytime a Man thinks with his manhood,
Friendships broken
Lives lost,
Marriages packed up
Destinies mortgaged
Reputations soiled
Anointing/concentration jeopardized
Ministries closed down.
Because someone thought using the wrong organ.
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THINK WITH YOUR BRAIN

Don't allow your ERECTION to always determine your DIRECTION, DECISION, and COURSE OF ACTION in Life.

Thinking of who to marry?

Don't just be led by her looks, waist, sexy legs, and how she turns you on sexually, think with your brain. Many didn't and are unhappily married today.

In a Relationship?
Zip Up.
Wait for your wedding night, the thing is not running anywhere

Married?
Stay faithful to your Wife, Side chic today will bring a side headache tomorrow.

Stop chasing everything in a skirt, you're not a Dog.

Save yourself unnecessary problems and stress

Don't make your Manhood your Lord and Personal Savior.
Keep yourself and keep your.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

To make anyone do your wish, recognize or honor you, adore you every day, praise you, respect you as you expected, and submit and be loyal to you for a lifetime is not difficult at all.

Nobody on earth is difficult to associate with, except you married someone whose conscience is virtually dead because they don't fear God almighty.

In as much as the person is born in the image of God and his likeness, total respect, honor, loyalty, and submission will naturally and easily come to you and cheaply if you do the following things listed here.

1) Take Your Financial Responsibility Seriously. A loving woman can naturally submit to a husband who is responsible and does not wait for the landlord to scream at the top of his lungs before paying rent, neither does he wait for the children to be sent out of school before paying their school fees.

If you want your wife to genuinely respect you from the bottom of her heart, you must take your financial life seriously. Pay your bills on time, and provide adequate money for food, clothing, and shelter.

Your wife can assist you but it is not her responsibility to shoulder all the responsibility.

Men who take their rent, feeding, clothing, and the welfare of their wives and children seriously do not lack genuine respect from their wives. Women naturally respect men who care about them and take good care of them.

2. DO NOT DEPEND ON HER INCOME 100%: your wife can assist you in paying bills. She can share the financial responsibility by 50% but doesn't ever depend on a woman to carry all the financial responsibility in the home. She will not respect you.

3. OVERLOOK HER IDIOSYNCRACIES: we all have some little attitudes that may look annoying to others. A man who can overlook some idiosyncrasies and act maturely while correcting his wife in love will win his wife's love, respect, and submission forever.

4. SHOW HER COMPASSION: women need lots of empathy and compassion daily. A woman goes through a lot physically, spiritually, socially, emotionally, and financially among others to keep her home together. It takes compassion to know when she is exhausted and needs help. It takes compassion to show sympathy and empathy. Men who are compassionate towards their wives win their respect without stress.

5. BE A TRUE LEADER: good leaders lead by example not by shouting and screaming. When you are a good leader and role model to her, she will find it easy to submit to you without stress.

Do not tell her to do things you won't do.

Don't be a liar and expect her to always tell you the truth. You can't be sleeping around and expect her not to follow your example. Whatever you do not want your wife to do, never be caught dead doing it. That is how to win her respect for life!

6. PRAY WITH HER: Husbands who pray with the family, conduct morning and night devotion and organize special prayers and programs will win their wives' respect for life! Spiritually lazy men, who can't pray, and read their bible are a turn-off for their wives.

7. YOU ARE GENEROUS: generous husbands who buy their wives gifts and give her money even when she did not ask will naturally respect him. Love gives, love is generous, love is not stingy.

8. YOU PROTECT AND DEFEND HER before your people. This is crucial. Some in-laws can be very troublesome and seek ways to discredit your wife. A loving husband will stand by his wife. He will defend her in public but correct her in private in case she does what is wrong. And if she is right, keep standing for her.

9. HE LISTENS TO HER: not just for listening sake but to understand her and relate better with her. Husbands who listen to their wives when they communicate and show understanding win their wives' respect without stress.

10. YOU SHOW HER AFFECTION. Women need plenty of affection daily to survive in marriage. Men who are affectionate towards their wives will win their respect day in and day out.

True submission in marriage does not come by force, coercion, threat, manipulation, abuse, screaming, shouting, and abuse. It comes naturally by loving your wife like Christ loves the church.

Do you love your woman the way God loves you, do you or the... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

1. Don't marry her if you don't love her, you must love your wife in marriage, I mean you MUST!

2. Don't marry her if you can't accept her past including the baby she had by mistake.

3. Don't marry her if you don't want to have anything to do with all her family members.

4. Don't marry her if you hate her looks.

5. Don't marry her if she hates you or finds you disgusting.

6. Don't marry her if she does not believe in your vision and future.

7. Don't marry her if she is an unrepentant waste of resources.

8. Don't marry her if she is lazy, completely laid back, and incorrigibly idle.

9. Don't marry her if she shamelessly flirts around.

10. Don't marry her if she is proud, rude, pompous, unteachable, abusive, saucy, sassy, arrogant, snobbish, and high-minded!

11. Don't marry her if she is an unrepentant feminist and you hate feminists.

12. Don't marry her if you are the very jealous, hot-tempered type and she is very beautiful and intelligent. No matter how faithful she is, you will distrust, cage, and abuse her. Men with borderline personality disorder, chauvinists, narcissists, and paranoid can't handle an extremely beautiful and intelligent woman.

13. Don't marry her if you hate her religion.

14. Don't marry her if she earns more than you and you are jealous of her success. Either you go out and earn more or appreciate her, respect her, and encourage her to earn more and succeed otherwise, marry a woman below your size.

15. Don't marry her if she is not God's will for you.

The bottom line, marry someone whom you completely agree with and agree with. That is what is in Amos 3:3.

Marriage is the complete acceptance of someone else while helping them to become better.

If you can't accept her totally and help her become a better woman, please, don't marry her. Marriage is not by force so that... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

© Seun Oladele.

Fellas...You need to do more pre-intimacy to make sure that the woman is very aroused and well-lubricated before penetration. Once the woman is very lubricated naturally, penetration is easier no matter how big the man is and it makes sex pleasurable for both partners. Which of the pre-intimacy acts is your favorite? How long do you think a pre-intimacy should last or... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Pastor Bisi Adewale

Lots of Men are making mistakes in their Marriages, this is making life difficult for their wives and Children. We need to examine this and tutor all Men to behave better.

Here, I will be exposing 8 Mistakes of Many Men in Marriage:

1) SLAVE-WIFE MENTALITY: It’s not funny to know that lots of Men see women as slave, servants or something close to that. They believe women are good for nothing but sex, baby making, house chores and cooking. They operate with that kind of mentality with their wives. Many believe a wife should only be seen not heard, it’s really funny the way some men treats heir wives.

2) PUTTING FAMILY OVER WIVES:
Lots of African Men are fond of this, they put their extended family first, they even make their wives to slave for their extended family members. Some beat or even divorce their wives because of their siblings. This is totally wrong. It’s madness to allow your family Members who are in their own Marriage to destroy yours, it’s high level of foolishness to allow your siblings to take over your marriage.

3) SPERM DONOR MENTALITY: Lots of men are more-or-less sperm donors in their marriages, apart from getting tingling their wives pregnant they have no other roles in Child bearing and rearing. Whenever babies cries, It’s very common to hear Nigerian men saying, come and carry your baby, don’t you hear your baby is crying?,most of the time only women attends Children parties in School,only mothers attend PTA meetings and many other events in School, Men thinks they are too busy to do that what a mistake?

4) CLASS TEACHER ATTITUDE: Lots of Men believes their wives have nothing to offer, they believe they are wiser, stronger and better than their wives. So they develop Class teacher mentality, whereby they are only ready to teach, lecture and tutor their wives. To them their wives should not advise them. This is very wrong, God planted your wife into your life to complete you, if you don’t listen to her you are missing a lot.

5) LIVE AND EAT ATTITUDE: This is another bad attitude of many men. They believe their duty at home is to eat, watch Television and sleep. Anything in the management of the house does not concern them. They believe only women should cook, boil, clean the house watch the plates, fetch water bath the Children and dress them up, this is another very funny lifestyle of many men, they should please note that this is 21st century and improve.

6) WIFE BATTERING: In some part of Nigeria wife battering is seen as a norm, so many men are in this habit, some women where maim or even killed in the process. I wonder what kind of Man will beat a woman he promised to love, care and cherished if not an animal-like man, wife battering is barbaric and should be condemned by all.

7) MEN-SEX MENTALITY: Lots of men also believe sex is for men, women should not enjoy it, so they approach their wives with horse rider mindset, they have no plan to make their wives enjoy sex but to do their thing, enjoy themselves and go their way, this is very unwise and unkind to women.

CAT MOUSE SEX ATTITUDE: With Men-sex mentality most Men develop what is known as Cat-Mouse attitude towards sex. They grab their Wives the way Cat does grab mouse and begin to sleep with them, no romance, no pre-intimacy, no good or kind words, no mind for the ladies they are sleeping with, it is very unfair.

Men should wake up to the reality of modern life and improve their relational ability at home, loving and be loving and caring thereby becoming better husbands and fathers.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name

1. Touch him/her in the stimulating areas to get him/her in the mood. Nipples, neck, back

2. Kiss him/her. Kisses almost always make us think of making love

3. Take showers or baths together. Invite your spouse to the shower, make it a habit. Get playful there, sex will happen

4. Send your spouse naughty messages during the day saying what you will do to him/her. By the time you get home, you both will be in the mood

5. Massage your spouse's body, touch and care to arouse your spouse

6. Dress for sex. There is lingerie that you wear that tells your spouse "I want sex. I am feeling sexy"

7. Sleep naked together. The greater and easier the access, the more the sex

8. Treat your spouse well. We get Hot when we are near the spouse who treats us well

9. Touch your spouse between the legs. Don't beat around the bush. Lady, take your fingers inside his boxer and stroke his gun to hardness; man, take your fingers inside her panty and rub till she swells. Men love a sexually aggressive wife; women love a husband who is hungry for her and unpredictable

10. Whisper naughty things into your spouse's ear. There is something sexy about hearing and feeling your spouse breathing in a Hot way

11. Invite your spouse for a sensual, intimate dance. Salsa, slow dance, bump, and grind. There is no way you two will be close to each other, body to body, and not want to make love. This is why married people need to go out on dates more, go out and find intimacy. Find intimacy in dancing in the house too

12. Strip, tease, and seduce your spouse. Whine, kata kimono, slowly reveal your body

13. Be playful. Lady, take your husband's hands and place them on your butt, blindfold him with your bra. Man, grab her butt as she works, unhook her bra when she least expects it

14. Pose seductively. Sexually lying in bed, the lady deliberately bends in front of him in a manner to suggest an invite for doggy-style

15. Master a seductive look. Man, your wife gets turned on when you give her a piercing look that says "I want you now. She gets wet when you UnCloth her with your eyes". Lady, pull your husband to you with "Come inside me" eyes

16. Ask for sex unapologetically. Tell your spouse without wasting time, "Sex me"... "I am Hot". Stop suffering alone in the sexual fire. Sometimes all you have to do is to open your mouth and say, "My love, sex me, NOW!" so you... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

© Akello Oliech & Dayan Masinde

Blow jobs, doggy style, missionary, licking; the question has been asked whether there is a Godly sex position. Some Godly people have the opinion that missionary style where the man is on top and the woman on her back is the only Godly sexual activity. Here are a few truths.

1. SEX IS GOD'S GIFT FOR MARRIAGE
Sex is God's idea given not just for procreation but for intimacy, pleasure, and the strengthening of the bond between husband and wife. Sex has been given such an evil name that even some Godly people still consider it evil or a taboo

2. NOBODY IS THE SAME
God deliberately created every person's body unique. Sex is not a copy-paste thing where you expect everybody to be the same. Everyone has their unique erogenous spots. For example, some women get turned on by kisses on the neck and ears, others don't. Some men have sexually sensitive nipples others don't. Other men have sexually sensitive balls that love to be touched, others don't

3. DIFFERENT PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENTLY ABLED
God gave different bodies different abilities. Some ladies have big clitoris, others have flexible bodies. Some men have a big penis, others small ones, others medium ones. Some men have a bending penis, others straight. Each person is unique. With this uniqueness comes different ways of experiencing pleasure

4. THE MYSTERY OF THE CLITORIS
The clitoris is a God-given organ for nothing else but sexual pleasure. Some men give their wives sexual pleasure by rubbing their clitoris using their erect penis or their fingers. Some use their tongue. A hardened penis comes with lubrication of the pre cum, but if he uses his fingers, he must lubricate it with his saliva or her wetness lest she will feel pain in her clitoris. This is why some men use their tongue which comes already lubricated with saliva. If as a man you don't use your tongue, don't demonize those who do. The goal is to give your wife pleasure. Each marriage is unique

5. SEX IS CUSTOM MADE
As earlier stated, each marriage is unique. Focus on your marriage and custom make it to both your preferences, pleasure, comfort, and ability

6. LOVEMAKING IS ABOUT KNOWING
"And Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the Lord." Genesis 4:1
Know your spouse's body, don't approach your spouse with preconceived notions. Study your spouse's body's response to your touch and sexual acts

7. KNOW THAT LOVEMAKING IS ALL ABOUT THE SENSE OF TOUCH
Kissing, rubbing, licking, sucking; all this is about the sense of touch on the skin. The act of penetration in itself is all about the penis rubbing on the sensitive walls inside the vagina. The fingers, tongue, and penis all give different types of sensations that are God-given. Study what pressure to use and how fast or slow to give those sensory pleasures on different parts of your spouse's body. Even kissing is all about the sensation of the skin of your lips meeting. Find out how your spouse loves the sensations

8. YOUR BODY BELONGS TO YOUR SPOUSE
"The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:4
This is why it is your responsibility to give your spouse pleasure as he/she likes it in the confines of love. Don't sexually frustrate your spouse yet you have his/her body

9. IN MARRIAGE IT IS NOT ABOUT LUST BUT LOVE
"Do everything in love." 1 Corinthians 16: 14. Whatever you do should be all about love. Lust is selfish, love is about seeking to please your spouse. Don't make your marriage all about sex

10. SEX IN MARRIAGE IS ABOUT AGREEING
Whatever sexual act you do together, let it be in mutual agreement. Don't force your spouse to do something he/she is uncomfortable with or his/her conscience doesn't agree with

11. CHECK YOUR VIEW ON SEX
Always check if you have a healthy sex view. Do you have an honorable view of sex or were you preached that sex is evil before you got married that even in marriage you still think sex is evil and are rigid? Is your negative view on sex brought by some mistakes you made before marriage such as abortion or fornication? It is not a sin to enjoy sexual pleasure to the highest and as often as possible in marriage

12. FORGET ABOUT THE NAMES
The names given to sex styles have made some Godly people see them as evil, names such as doggy style, 69, spooning, wheelbarrow ... Stop focussing on the names, just do things that give you both pleasure. You can even give the positions your unique names. You are allowed to be naughty and creative with each other

13. CREATE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE
Since you have different abilities, you can create sex positions that no one has ever even tried. You can have sex in other places, not just on your bed. You have been commanded to enjoy the wife of your youth. Each sexual experience doesn't have to be the same. Being Godly doesn't mean monotony, even God is creative

14. WORK WITH YOUR SPOUSE'S EXPERIENCE
If your spouse was sexually active before you, he/she has already become aware of the sexual pleasure he/she enjoys. Perhaps your wife realized in the past that she likes being the one riding on top, or your husband in the past realized that he likes his balls played with. Don't be an insecure spouse, use that information to your advantage. Ask your spouse "How do you like it?" and do it for her/him

15. THE KEY IS FAITHFULNESS
You are permitted to enjoy each other as you wish, as long as faithfulness is observed. Your bedroom can keep your kinky and naughty secrets

16. pre-intimacy IS NECESSARY
pre-intimacy is the adequate preparation of your spouse for maximum satisfaction during penetration. Find ways you both enjoy to make her sufficiently wet and him sufficiently hard

17. SEEK HELP
Some wives don't get sufficiently wet, no problem. Use lubrication so that she doesn't hurt. Learn about tricks to help the husband keep an erection longer, how to understand each other better sexually, how to maintain a good scent in your vagina, and how to tighten your muscles. Don't sexually suffer just because sex is taboo to you. Sex is not taboo to God when it comes to marriage

18. SEX HAS A SHELF LIFE
The gift of sex has an expiry date. You don't have forever to enjoy the sensations of touch and sex. Don't let it be that you are married but don't enjoy sex, one day your sexual organs will stop functioning. Make memories when you still can

19. DON'T IMPOSE ON OTHERS
Some people say they can never use their mouth on their spouse's sexual organs because their mouth is only for eating and singing to God. Others believe that giving their spouse sexual pleasure using any creative way they choose is permitted in the name of faithfulness and that it is all part of giving God glory and celebrating their love. Whichever part of the two categories you belong to, what you do on your marital bed is private and between you two as a couple, don't impose your preference or judge other couples for what they do in their private marital bed.

Romans 14: 1-14 says,

"Accept the one whose faith is weak, without QUARRELING over DISPUTABLE matters. One person’s faith ALLOWS them to eat anything, but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The one who eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must NOT JUDGE the one who does, for God has ACCEPTED THEM. Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord can make them stand.

One person considers one day more sacred than another; another considers every day alike. Each of them should be fully convinced in their MIND. Whoever regards one day as special does so to the Lord. Whoever eats meat does so to the Lord, for they give thanks to God; and whoever abstains does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. For none of us lives for ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone. If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.

You, then, why do you judge your brother or sister? Or why do you treat them with contempt? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. It is written:

“ ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will acknowledge God.’ ”
So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.

Therefore let us stop PASSING JUDGMENT on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister. I am convinced, being fully persuaded in the Lord Jesus, that NOTHING IS UNCLEAN IN ITSELF. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for THAT PERSON it is unclean or...... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

© Dayan Masinde

TELL HIM THE TRUTH.

Whether you tell him the truth or a lie, it will be discovered on your wedding night. Not all brothers are daft not to identify a sister who is a virgin or not.

Let me share this story with you. A sister got married and on their wedding night, the brother discovered she had been lying to be a virgin all along.

This single lie of hers almost broke her new home. The brother wasn't angry because she wasn't a virgin but because she LIED. If you want to break a person's trust in you, tell a lie!

While they were courting, the brother asked to know about her past sexual life (if any), not to disdain her, he just wanted to know what to expect on their wedding night at least.

Meanwhile, the sister had lost her virginity. According to her, she had sex just a few times before rededicating her life to Christ. But she chose to lie to her fiancee for whatever reason that suit her.

Virginity is not something to lie about especially when you have given your life to Christ. Whatever happened in your past was only a chapter of your life, not the entire book!

It is better to let the brother know that you are no longer a virgin and trust is established than tell a lie and lose his trust for you when he finds out. But before you divulge such information, please hear this.

It is very important to go into a relationship with a Child of God who understands forgiveness and restoration. I mean a man who understands that when a sister is in Christ, all things become NEW and she can be trusted.

Some of our born-again brothers do not understand these things. Their born-again doesn't want to have anything to do with a sister's past. They are looking for a saint to marry. Some of them are even bent on marrying a virgin.

So, if you're in a relationship with a brother like that, just know that telling him you're not a virgin might birth the END of that relationship and you must be ready for whatever comes out of your sincere truth. Probably, he was never yours!

But here's the main thing. If the brother you're in a relationship with asks if you're a virgin or not, tell him the truth! Even if he doesn't ask, because some brothers might be shy to ask such questions, let him know the truth before you get married.

You don't have to tell him how many times it happened. Just let him know you are not a virgin and since you gave your life to Christ or rededicated your life to Christ, you have turned a new leaf.

Giving him the full details might escalate things. Not every man can contain such information, especially at that moment. It is wise to know what to say and how to say it.

The most important thing is, he knows what to expect on your wedding night and trust is established!

Also, divulging such information at the stage of friendship or the early stage of your relationship isn't wise. You must take your time to know the kind of man he is, and how he interprets things, and react to them.

Secondly, you must be sure he loves you so much not to allow such information to ruin your relationship. Thirdly, be sure he is not an 'I must marry a virgin' kind of man. If he is, then he is not for you!

His mentality about virginity or not matters a lot and you must be aware of it.

However, some brothers do not mind, as long as you have repented from that old way of life. So, don't be scared to say the truth.

Tell him the truth, not only because you don't want to lie to him but because you are a Child of...... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

Mary Balogun

Engaging in consensual and healthy sexual activity can have several benefits for both physical and emotional well-being. Here are some potential benefits of sex:

1. Physical Health: Regular sexual activity can have positive effects on physical health. It can increase cardiovascular fitness, boost the immune system, and promote better sleep. Sexual activity also releases endorphins and other feel-good chemicals that can contribute to a sense of overall well-being.

2. Stress Relief: Sexual activity acts as a natural stress reliever. It can help reduce anxiety and tension by releasing endorphins and promoting relaxation. Intimacy with a partner can provide a sense of connection and emotional support, further contributing to stress reduction.

3. Improved Bonding and Intimacy: Engaging in sexual activity with a partner can strengthen the emotional bond and promote intimacy. It allows for a deep sense of connection, vulnerability, and shared pleasure, enhancing emotional intimacy within a relationship.

4. Enhanced Mood: Sexual activity triggers the release of hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, which can improve mood and create feelings of happiness and well-being. It can also alleviate symptoms of depression and anxiety.

5. Improved Self-esteem: Engaging in satisfying sexual experiences can boost self-esteem and body image. The emotional and physical connection with a partner, along with feelings of pleasure and desire, can contribute to a positive sense of self and confidence.

6. Reduced Pain: Sexual activity releases endorphins, which act as natural pain relievers. It can help alleviate headaches, menstrual cramps, and other types of pain. The release of oxytocin during orgasm can also provide temporary pain relief.

7. Promotes Deep Sleep: The release of oxytocin during sexual activity can promote relaxation and may contribute to better sleep quality. It can help facilitate a deeper sleep, leading to improved rest and overall well-being.

It's important to note that the benefits of sex can... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1