Married women, have you ever wondered why some randy husbands prefer to always visit their side chicks? There are certain things these women do which you are not aware of. Below are some of the things that attract married men to strange women (Proverb 6:24):

1. They wear seductive clothes that most men might not be able to resist whereas wives at home don’t bother to seduce their husbands again. Some wives even wear dirty clothes.

2. They offer men different kinds of sexual styles that make men always ask for more whereas many wives have become a log of woods during sex at home.

3. Side chicks don’t deny men sex. Wherever they meet with men, they have it in mind that part of their duties is sex where many wives deny their husbands at home in ignorance.

4. Side chicks use highly attractive perfumes and deodorants whereas many wives ignore such attraction at home.

5. Some side chicks use charms to talk to men. Some side chicks rob some charms on their private parts in order to capture men. Once a man sleeps with any of these ladies, it will take the mercy of God for them to remember home, whereas, many wives cannot even pray.

6. Some side chicks kiss, romance, and hug men publicly without any iota of shame but many wives have abandoned kissing and hugging their husbands at home.

7. Some side chicks prepare highly delicious foods for men which may even be better than their wives’ foods whereas many wives don’t care about the quality of foods they prepare for their husbands.

8. Side chicks are usually punctual when they have appointments with men whereas many wives take their husbands for granted at home.

9. Many side chicks send highly romantic/seductive messages on WhatsApp, text messages, and other platforms including porn, whereas many wives don’t know how to seduce their husbands at home.

10. Side chicks keep their homes neat with a good air freshener whereas many wives keep their homes dirty and smelly.

11. Many side chicks feed men whenever they are together in a restaurant or at any other place whereas many wives don’t know how to pamper their husbands at home.

12. Many side chicks respect and honour men whereas many wives are not respectful at home.

13. Side chicks are never tired of sexual escapades with men but many wives are already tired and have retired from active sex activities.

Beloved wives, you have great work to do. Side chicks are becoming highly sophisticated these days and this is one of the reasons why many ignorant men are going after these strange women.


Put your home in order and improve on the relationship with your husband. Always pray for your husband and be innovative on the dining table and in the bedroom.


NOTE: As a wife, ask yourself a question thus, “As a wife, what am I doing wrongly that side chicks are doing better?”

And as a man, YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE OF CHEATING ON YOUR DEAR WIFE. REAL MEN DON'T CHEAT. BUILD YOUR MARRIAGE so that....https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

He sent me this:

"Good evening Mom,

As you know, I am one of your followers on social media. I finally got married last Saturday a virgin. Before my wedding, I was really not looking forward to the stories I was hearing how "First time sex is painful... So on and so forth". After a bit of investigation I realized that many of us men lack the right knowledge in this area and I always believe nobody succeed with information gathered from the street. So I got in touch with you four weeks to my wedding and got your book " Sex sweet sex", I sat down to devour that book as if my life was depending on it, anyway I knew the success of my marital life was depending on it. Wow I never knew there was such a practical, exciting Christian book on sex before, I couldn't wait to practice everything I read in that book. Finally the big day came last Saturday when I got wedded, that night my wife was a bit scared but I knew from that book how to go about things, hummmm after giving her a "treat" lol, after tasted to this blessed gift from heaven, ehehe she has been chasing after me for more in the morning, in the afternoon and in the evening. Wow I am a witness that the knowledge in that book works, I am a witness that you can get it right first time. Thank you so much ma'am, I waiting for part two of that book lol.
God bless you Ma'am.

All the way from Zambia."

Mr Kashoba.

I love hot testimonies. This one is hot!!!

I wasn't boasting when I say the book is hot! It is hot!!And it works!!!

Men who know how to give sex hot to their wives don't lack conjugal bliss! Not only is it an ego boost for a woman to practically chase you for sex, it is an hormone boiler and sweet orgasm booster for.......https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Fall on our bed my love
Like you did when you fell in love with me
The horns of my fingers are Hot
Hot to touch you

I am aroused my love
Not for your sex, but for your embrace
Come lie on the bed with me
This is not an invitation for sex

Make love to me without having sex
Hide here in my arms and I hide in yours
Squeeze me till all I pour are unseen tears
Take me to a place where I can put my shield down

Take me to a place we just lay in silence
Shh.. don't say a word
Words will ruin this moment
Listen only. Listen to my one heart beating for only you

Breathe to my ear, look deep into my eyes
See yourself in me, get lost in the forest of my eye lashes
Don't kiss me, place your nose near mine
Share my oxygen

Every night I find you sexy
But tonight let's keep sex out of the equation
My wife, tonight just hold me
Your husband needs you

Each day I show the strong side of me
Tonight my Queen
My vulnerable side is putting up a show for you
My spirit, my mind, my hold calls out for you

Don't tell me you love me, show it to me
Feel it with me; don't swim my love, drown
Forget the world, let go of every worry
Love is now in session, do not disturb

Forgive me for the times I have fallen short
Your shortcomings will not keep us from being long-lasting
My love, look at me, I still need you
Tighten your grip, you're not losing me

Make love to me without having sex
Penetrate deep inside me till you reach my inner being
I want no other woman, I am a taken man
Take me to sleep in your arms, bearing all my secrets in your......https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

© Dayan Masinde

I want to start be saying that while there are ladies who are single by choice, that is, they have suitors seeking for their hands in marriage but they chose to remain single for reasons best known to them, also there are many ladies who are single but not by their choice, they desire to be married, to have a man of their own and to settle down but they're finding it difficult. They are the ones I'm talking to.

So, what I want to do here is to show you some of the reasons why you are probably still single...follow me

1. You are desperate
You just met a man, you barely know him and you have already started talking about marriage, you've started throwing yourself at him and performing some wifely duties so you can be wifed etc., this is wrong. The man will get choked and he will leave you immediately to catch some breath.

When you are desperate you don't have a choice, standard and can settle for any kind of man. You'll be exploited and taken advantage of. Have some respect for yourself. Stop searching for husband. Let husband search and find you.

2. You are not visible
You hide yourself in the secret place of your room and still want a husband to find you. Probably, God will send you one through angel Gabriel, the heavenly messenger.

Attend church and stay behind after service. Let bro Ken and Peter greet you, stop rushing home, what did you keep at home? Allow some of these anointed and Spirit filled brothers to find you. Attend functions(workshops, seminars, parties, etc) and network.

Jesus brother once told Him that, a man that wants to be a public figure, doesn't hide himself. So, they asked Him to show Himself to the world. I tell you the same thing, show yourself to the world. Be visible(John 7)

3. You're not approachable
You build a wall and a hedge of fire around you and still want some men to approach you. Your face always looks unwelcoming, your disposition is sending wrong signals to others that they aren't welcome. Will you come to such a person if you're the one?

Put a smile on your face. It's attractive. Stop carrying long 7face. Let your disposition and demeanor send positivity out. And then in your playing hard to get, there should be a limit. Don't over do.

4. You're unkempt
Your hair is not taken care of, you don't mind how you look and smell. You're in your twenties but looking as if you're in your late forties, if you're the one will you marry such a person?

I am a guy and I want to tell you a secret: almost every guy wants a woman he can pride in, a woman to boast with before his friends, and a woman he can showcase to his world. That's why you see many of them going after beautiful, naturally endowed ladies, etc. You have to look good. Dress smartly in commensurate with your age and contemporary. Be neat and smell nice.

5. You have a bad character
Everybody is complaining about you, the exploits of your mouth. You're a one man army, all the people in your residence. You've quarreled and fought with them. You lack respect, you don't care about anything. It's either your way or nothing. My sister will you marry someone like you?

Listen, having a good character is one of the easiest and fastest ways to get a husband. A man may overlook many things when you have a good character. So, cultivate good character.

6. You're being followed from the village
Village people are solely responsible for a lot of ladies that are yet to be married. They're beautiful, educated, well behaved and all that but they can never married because of village people. They've done something spiritually that have made it impossible for them to get married. For some ladies, it's spiritual husband. This could be another reason you're still single.

So, if that's the case then you have got work on your hands. You have to pray your way out. Pray against every anti-mareiage spirit, spirit husband, every forces delaying your marriage. Go for deliverance. There are powers, don't deceive yourself!

7. You're too archaic
Your mgbekeism and grandmasm is second to none. You are too old fashioned. You're a lady in her twenties but you behaves like a 60 years old woman. Your philosophies and mentalities are abrahamic. Come on girl, this 21st century.

I tell you, no man wants to have mgbeke as a wife. Every guy I know wants a smart woman, classic and a woman that's in tune with her contemporary. So, you have to upgrade. Go to school, read and learn. Upgrade.

8. You're a liability
You're not adding value to your life. You're just there waiting for a man to come and marry you off you can transfer all your family problems to him. That's why men running from you. Adding you to their lives will be a minus. Don't be such a lady!

Be a kind of woman men will be stepping on each other to have. Be a kind of woman a man will be thanking God every day to have. People gravitate towards value. So, make yourself an asset. Go to school, learn a skill, start a business, enroll for trainings and courses. Just make yourself valuable.

Let me stop here. I believe there are many other reasons why you are still single as a lady. Examine yourself and know where you are found wanting and do the needful so that....https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

1. CONSENT
You should never force your spouse into having sex. Both of you need to consent to it each time even as a married couple. Don't be the person who offends your spouse and demands sex when your spouse is hurting.

2. CONSCIENCE
Whatever sexual position you two do, whatever location where you two have sex; both your conscience should be OK with it. Don't force your spouse to do things that disturb the conscience.

3. MUTUAL ENJOYMENT
It is not just about your sexual pleasure, both of you have to enjoy it. As your spouse makes you feel good, make him/her feel good too.

4. pre-intimacy
pre-intimacy is not just the touching, licking and rubbing before intercourse; but also treating each other special when sex is not the agenda. This makes your spouse feel your good treatment is not a tactic to get sex, but genuine love.

5. HINDPLAY
Hindplay is treating each other special after the climax. This involves cuddles, kind words, prayer, compliments and acts of service.

6. HYGIENE
Sex being an exchange and mixing of body fluids and collision of bodies; maintain good hygiene. Brush your teeth, shower, wash your vagina well, wash your penis well, wash your butt area well to prevent foul smell, change inner wear, keep your finger nails clean, keep the bedroom clean, smell good. This encourages intimacy.

7. CREATIVITY
It is called love making because you are creating. Avoid monotony, create new memories.

8. COMMUNICATION
Communicate how you want your spouse to please you; don't suffer in silence and assume your spouse knows. Make requests how you want it. Communicate when it is painful. Communicate when you are made love too well. Moan to encourage your...https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

1. PREPARE HER
Sometimes it is not that she does not want to make love to you but that all you have to do is prepare her with pre-intimacy to get her in the mood

2. DO NOT FORCE HER
Do not force yourself on her in the name of demanding for your conjugal rights. Forcing an adult to have sex is rape, whether that adult is your spouse or not

3. CHECK IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURTING HER EMOTIONS
If you have been hurting or ignoring her emotions, she will struggle to be sexually attracted to you. Women make love with their heart. If her heart is bruised, she will struggle to give you her body

4. CHECK IF LAST TIME YOU WERE TOO ROUGH ON HER
If last time you were too rough on her leaving her vagina, clitoris or nipples sore; she might be uncomfortable about letting you have her. Learn to be gentle

5. CHECK IF YOU HAVE UNADDRESSED ISSUES
If there are matters in your marriage that are not being concluded, intimacy will suffer. Stop ignoring the issues. The sooner you solve them the better

6. CHECK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU OF CHEATING
If she knows of or suspects you are cheating, it will be a barrier between you two. If you have been cheating, stop it and win back her trust. If she suspects but it is not true, allay her fears and make her secure

7. CUDDLE HER
Sometimes this means more to her than love making. This goes a long way to show her she is not a sex object. This secures her and in doing so, she will enjoy making love with you

8. GAUGE HER MENSTRUATION CYCLE
Know your wife's monthly period cycle. Not every wife lies they are on their periods

9. FIND OUT IF SOMETHING IS STRESSING HER
Maybe there is something outside of your marriage that is disturbing her, maybe it is work issues, financial issues, her health, the children, her parents, a past trauma. Hear her out and show her that you are on her side

10. DON'T CHEAT ON HER
Just because she is not in the mood today, doesn't mean you cheat. She might come around tomorrow depending on how you two treat each other, but if you cheat on her you might lose her for good

11. BE PATIENT WITH HER
Life is fluid, with ups and downs. Sometimes she may not be in the mood just as you are also sometimes not in the mood. Understand her

12. PUT HER ABOVE YOUR PENIS
Show her that she is more important to you than sexual pleasure. There is more to marriage than an orgasm. Once you make her a priority, intimacy will be richer

13. GENTLY ASK HER WHAT IS WRONG
Don't assume or get furious that she is denying you sex. Simply ask her if she is OK, she will open up and you two will grow closer to...https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

© Dayan Masinde

1. If you value your health and you want to live long and have a happy home, let your wife always win an argument. Trust me, it's the shortcut I know to peace of mind! Where there is no wood (fuel), the fire goes out!

2. Stop trying to figure out your wife or understand why she does what she does. It's a waste of precious time. Remember that you (Adam) were put to sleep while she (Eve) was being produced? How can you try to understand a piece of equipment that wasn't assembled in your presence?

3. Marriage is about ACCEPTANCE, not tolerance. Make your marriage relationship-driven, not performance-driven. She was NOT created in your image. Stop projecting YOU onto her. Show her the need for change through leadership, not coercion.

4. While a man is rational, the woman is emotional. One (the man) processes via his head, and the other processes things through her heart (emotions). One thinks things through, the other feels her way through things. Facts drive you. Intuition drives her. What she can't FEEL, she doesn't SEE!

5. When sex becomes a weapon, a duty, or an entitlement, it loses its very essence, LOVE-MAKING. It simply becomes another chore like dishwashing which nobody looks forward to doing! Play with her. Flirt with her. Serenade her. Hug. Cuddle. Hold hands. Surprise her. Blow gently into her ears while she is cooking or while you are watching a movie together. Be spontaneous. Being a king-kong overlord in "ze oza room" and puffing and panting like a worn-out locomotive while she wonders what just happened can only lead to frustration. Remember, it is never about the size of the weapon but the fury of the attack! (Decode that!)

6. Go out often. Make regular, unscheduled date nights. Take a bath together. Make room for movie nights together either at home or at the cinema.

7. Remember that ONLY THE TWO OF YOU started the journey together and when the children have jumped the nest, only the two of you will remain. So, keep the bond ALL THE WAY and never drop the ball

8. Impregnate her with VISION. Allow her to dream too. Every woman loves a man working towards a future in which she can feature. Remember, a woman simply means "womb man". She always wants something to incubate and nourish. You give her a seed, and she incubates it and turns it into a baby for you

9. She is your wife, companion, and confidant, not a washing machine, cook, or slave. You can't wear her out with chores all day and expect to 'ride' a functional "bicycle" all night! Impossible! Partners help partners by giving a helping hand where needed, even without being told.

10. Love is not 50/50. It is 100%. God didn't say to love your wife when she is submissive. It simply says to love her as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.

11. Be PRESENT. Don't be at home married to your computer, football game, or your phone for that matter. Listen when she wants to talk. Even when you don't know what to contribute to the discourse, you will soon discover that all she wanted was for you to listen. Your opinion may not even count!

12. If both of you are born again children of God, you are SIBLINGS!!! You have the same Father and the same Father-in-law, GOD!!! Ever thought of that? Treat your wife with the dignity you would accord your blood sister. If you are fond of disgracing your wife in public and calling her all sorts of unprintable names, remember, it wasn't God who named EVE. He created a woman, and Adam gave her a name. Whatever you call your wife, that is what she will reflect on you. If you call your wife a Jezebel, we need to check if your middle name isn't Ahab! Call her your Queen and she will make you her crown! It takes one to find one! When you see the glory of your Father in her, you will be a great Son-in-law too! A wife you don't honour cannot bring honour to.... https://www.gistreal.ng/2023/11/12-decisions-to-make-before-you-marry.html?m=1

Bisi Adewale

“And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand.”
‭‭Mark‬ ‭3:25‬ ‭KJV‬‬

There are thirty things you must do to have an enviable marriage. A marriage that is full of joy, peace, fun, and romance. Doing them in your marriage will make people think you are foolish, stupid, or that your spouse has used “Juju” to capture you.

If you are a man, people will say your wife is using diabolical power to control you. They will warn you that your wife will ruin your life. If you are a woman, they will say you’ve lost your mind. They will tell you that men are not dependable and that you should not put all your eggs in one basket.

You see, the things they call “stupid” or “foolish” are the actual things that make a marriage work. You need to know these “stupid things”. Do them regularly and make your marriage what you’ve ever wanted it to be. Your dream marriage is possible if you can do these thirty things I will be showing you. If you fail to do them, I'm afraid you can NEVER have a great marriage. Reading this and practicing it will bring your struggles in marriage to an end. Let me show them to you here.

1. LOVE YOUR SPOUSE WITHOUT SHAME
“And it came to pass when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife.” Genesis‬ ‭26:8‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Do not be ashamed to love your wife or husband; don’t hide the fact that you are in love. People expect the unmarried to love each other and show it, but the married must not do the same. Don’t mind them. Let them think you are stupid. Love your spouse without shame.

2. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR SPOUSE
Lots of your friends will prefer you spend time with them than with your spouse. They will think you are stupid if you don’t club or party with them. You are doing well if you ignore them. Spend time with your spouse.

3. TALK ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE OFTEN
People hate it when you talk about your spouse. Rather, they will want you to keep quiet about your marital status. Don’t mind them. Let everybody know you are married.

4. PUT ON YOUR WEDDING RING ALWAYS
How many guys are wearing their wedding rings in your office? You will discover that they are few. They are not wearing them because they don’t want people to mock them for being a “woman wrapper.” Don’t join them. Put on your wedding ring; there is dignity in it.

5. WEAR MATCHING CLOTHES WITH YOUR SPOUSE
Can you wear matching clothes with your spouse? Most men do not like this; they don’t want people to mock them. Don’t mind them, put on your “Anco” with your darling spouse and enjoy your moments together.

6. TRUST YOUR SPOUSE
"Women cannot be trusted”, "all men are polygamists", "don’t trust them”, etc., are the music you must have been hearing over and over. They are telling you not to trust anybody. This is not true. Of course, we have some people who are not trustworthy, and we have millions of people you can trust with your life. Unless you have good reasons not to do this, trust and love your spouse with all your heart.

7. SHOP WITH YOUR WIFE
You must have heard that “only weak men follow women to the market”. So they discourage you from shopping with your wife so that you will not be a weak man. This is not right. Have delight in shopping with your wife. Only real men can do this.

8. SHOP FOR YOUR WIFE
Don’t shop with your wife only, shop for her. Go ahead and get what she needs. Hit the mall and get what she wants for her. That makes you more than a husband. You are a lover boy.

9. DISPLAY PUBLIC AFFECTION
Boyfriends and girlfriends can display affection publicly, but married couples do not. This is wrong. You are legally married. Hold the hands of your spouse in public, touch each other, and give each other goodbye hugs and kisses at the airport and train stations.

10. LET YOUR WIFE KNOW YOUR MOVEMENT
They told you your wife must not know your movement because you are a man. Sorry bros, you are not just a man, you are the husband of somebody, and that person has the right to know where you are at every time. This is not monitoring; it is responsibility and maturity.

11. LET YOUR WIFE KNOW YOUR PHONE CODES
There is nothing bad if your wife knows your phone codes. Why are you locking your phone if you don’t have a skeleton in your cupboard?

12. LET YOUR SPOUSE KNOW YOUR ATM PIN
Letting your spouse know your ATM PIN looks stupid to many. But to mature married ones, there is nothing bad about it.

13. COOK FOR YOUR WIFE
The kitchen is not labeled “for wives only”. So get into the kitchen and cook. It may look stupid to ego-filled and village-mentality-controlled people, but it is a great thing to do if you are a good man.

14. SUPPORT YOUR HUSBAND FINANCIALLY
You are not a "help eat", you are a helpmeet. Open your bag or wallet and support your husband to pay fees, rent, rate, fares, bills, etc. That is why you are his helper. You are not stupid; you are only Godly.

15. BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR HUSBAND
To some people, it’s not modern to be submissive to your husband. But you must know that it is still Godly, loving, and wise to do so. Also, it is a sign that you are a virtuous woman.

16. OBEY YOUR HUSBAND
Don’t just submit to your husband, go ahead, and obey him and his leadership. Your husband is the head of your home; humble yourself before him.

17. MAKE YOUR WIFE NUMBER ONE IN YOUR LIFE
Your mum, siblings, ings or friends must not be number one in your life but your wife. That is the only face you will see in your old age. Your parents must have died, and your children must have got married. It is only your wife that will be with you. Love her and put her first after God, no matter what they say.

18. MAKE YOUR HUSBAND NUMBER ONE IN YOUR LIFE
It is wrong to make your children number one in your life. Your friends, parents, and siblings are important, but your husband should be the most important. They may think you are stupid; you are not. You are only building your marriage. They will come back to envy you.

19. CONSIDER YOUR SPOUSE WHEN MAKING CAREER DECISIONS
You have a “better offer” somewhere, but it will take you away from your family and make your wife/husband a single parent. Please, don’t take it. Let me give you the BEST OFFER, stay with your spouse and build your career together. It is more expensive to be alone than to be together. It will affect your marriage, children, and everything around you if you go. Let them say you are stupid. Stay together.

20. LOVE YOUR SPOUSE MORE THAN YOUR SIBLINGS
Let your love first go to the one you chose; your spouse. Loving your siblings or family members more than your spouse is wrong.

21. BE OPEN TO YOUR SPOUSE
In marriage, secrets are as dangerous as lies. Be transparent and honest with your spouse about everything, no darkroom. Share everything from passwords to Facebook, phones, ATM pins, etc. No part of your life should be hidden from your spouse; there should be no off-limits to your spouse. That is why we call it marriage.

22. HAVE SPOUSAL BIAS
Be biased in favor of your spouse. You should always be in the camp of your spouse. People should be able to predict what your loyalty will be and that it will be in support of your spouse.

23. DEFEND YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND NO MATTER WHAT
This may look stupid to people but don’t mind them. Always defend your spouse in public. If your spouse is wrong in public, it is better to keep quiet than join people and fight him or her. Go ahead, defend your spouse in public, and tell each other the bitter truth when you get back home.

24. SLEEP WITH ONLY ONE MAN OR WOMAN ALL YOUR MARRIED LIFE
Your friends may be hailing you to get a side chick or side cock. Don’t mind them. Sex is not better abroad only; get it at home. Sleep with your spouse only.

25. GET A SEXY GIFT FOR YOUR WIFE
Be the one to get your wife a bra, sexy pants, camisole, sexy night dress, etc. You should know the size of what your wife wears, from shoes to pants to a bra. I mean everything. Be proud to buy these and let your friends know you do. No shame.

26. WASH EACH OTHER’S UNDERWEAR
Don’t just buy your wife underwear, go ahead and wash them if they are dirty. Most women don’t find it difficult to wash their husbands’ underwear, but men are reluctant. If they do, they can’t say it before their friends. Change the narration. Wash them and say it to your friends if they ask.

27. GO ON REGULAR DATES
Create time to date each other no matter the age of your marriage. If you can’t date, your marriage will be out of date soon.

28. PLAY TOGETHER LIKE CHILDREN
Enjoy playing together with your spouse. Playfulness is the mother of romance. Don’t be official in your marriage, don’t be an executive, be playful and romantic.

29. KEEP TOUCHING
Enjoy touching your spouse. Holding hands, hugging, lapping, cuddling, back scrubbing, massaging, etc. Make sure you touch each other regularly every day.

30. ENJOY SEX WITH YOUR SPOUSE
Enjoy kinky time with your spouse, I mean real tantalizing sex. Play for it, crave for it, date your spouse for it, look forward to it, do it with joy, spend time on it, and do it with great creativity. You are married, don’t be ashamed to have sex with your.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Yes, you should make love anytime you both want to but here are strategic times you don't want to miss and means the whole world to your spouse. Make your spouse feel super special during this period, enjoy love making like never before and help them overcome sexual temptation out there and stick to you -their honey pot, sweet sugar pie and paradise zone forever *winks*.

1. Before they travel.

2. After they return from travelling.

3. Second to fourth days before and after menstruation for those with regular period and wants love making without the drama of pregnancy, condom, pills or injection.

4. Ovulation period for those seeking babies.

5. All through 9 months pregnancy day in, day out as your power can carry. (Don't vomit on uncle during the first trimester sha).

6. When they are not happy.

7. When they feel so lonely or depressed.

8. On a cold rainy night.

9. Early harmattan morning.

10. During celebration e.g new job, business breakthrough, promotion, award of contract, etc.

11. When you are looking super sexy and he can't take his eyes off you.

12. When you are super charming and she is prowling all over you.

13. After settling your "quarrel".

Alright, there you go baby, go rock your lover's bed. Here you go uncle, start doing some press up and weight lifts, you need some energy to do your job during this period, laughs.

Seriously, there is no time limit or barrier to anytime you want to make love to your spouse.

Follow your schedule, rhythm passion, time table or whatever.

Don't neglect those special moments either, love making during those periods are more meaningful, deep and affectionate but each family differs. Just do what works for you.

I want you to experience uninterrupted bliss, joy and peace in every way you can in your marriage.
Keep the ball rolling so that... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

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Many men leave their women because of their billing mentality.
Lady, calm down when you meet a man.

If you cannot feed yourself as a woman, then you have no business with a relationship.

When a man asks you out… please leave his wallet and money alone!

*Ask him about his intention towards the relationship.
* Ask him about his future plans.
*Ask him his views about marriage.
*Ask him what he does for a living.
*Ask him about his spiritual life.

Don’t start having emergency needs and wants that you think he has to fulfill because he has asked you out!

Demanding from a man is not actually bad because naturally men are PROVIDERS but when your demand becomes too high then that is wrong.

Many ladies have turned relationship into buying and selling. That's why they are too expensive to keep as wives.

A relationship is not a POVERTY ALLEVIATE SCHEME where you can just enter because you're hungry or looking for house rent.

If you cannot feed yourself as woman at least 2 square meal in a day don't fall in love. Relationship is not a restaurant.
Your fiance is not your father.
He's not under obligation to provide for your needs. He can do it voluntarily but don't feel or think you're entitled to it.

You need cream; him
Your toiletries is on him
Your rent is on him
Your school fees is on him
Your food stuff is on him
Your family expenses is on him
Your undies, pad and bra; on him

Then why won't the man see demanding for sexual satisfaction as his right over you?

Sister, if you find him interesting, devote time to study him.
His values, attitude, behavior and character.
A man and woman coming together should be for the sake of love and building something beautiful.

A Man should not be billed because he is interested in you.

You only become his full responsibility when you start bearing his name.
And mind you; bearing his full responsibility does not mean you should be a liability.
🙏👏
Class dismissed 🥂

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Attracting women is not solely dependent on money. I know financial stability can be appealing to some individuals, but there are other qualities and actions that can help you attract women regardless of your financial status.
Here are some tips:
1. Display confidence and positivity. Confidence is attractive regardless of your financial status. Focus on positive aspects of your life and positive outlook. Women are often drawn to such people

2. Enhance your appearance. Take care of your personal grooming, hygiene and dress neatly and in clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident.

3. Cultivate a sense of humor. A good sense of humor is universally appealing. Trying to find opportunities to make others laugh. However, it is important to be respectful and avoid offensive jokes.

4. Show respect and kindness. Treat women with respect, kindness and empathy. Be a gentleman. Listen to their perspectives and value their opinions. Small acts of kindness can go a long way in making a positive impression.

5. Develop talents and skills. Invest time in owning your talents and developing new skills whether it's playing musical instrument, painting, cooking, writing, et cetera. It can be appealing to others.

6. Focus on personal growth. Continuously work on improving yourself both physically and professionally. Set goals for continuous education or skill development and strive to be the best version of yourself.

7. Build a supportive social circle. Surround yourself with positive and supportive friends.

8. Develop your communication skills. Learn to communicate effectively and confidently so that.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

1: The Most Beautiful Women
-It takes holyspirit only to make a beautiful woman to be in a marriage.
-They are on high demand
-Many beautiful ladies are still single, and you keep wondering what is keeping them
-They use their beauty as a capital for money making

2:. The Most Educated Women
-A woman having a degree, masters, PhD to have to stay in a marriage, its the grace of God.
-Their qualifications makes them independent.
-Visit offices in the companies, most high ranked women and rich are single, divorced.

3: WOMEN FROM RICH FAMILIES
-Women raised under rich families find it difficult to get married because they want same environment they grew up with it a marriage.
-They want no on to advise them

4: The Most Anointed Women Of God
- Most women with the calling of God have no husbands ,either divorced
-No time to do house works
-No time to care for their husbands
-Their husbands can't advise them because they only listen from the holyspirit.
You will find a man with a phd goes to the village and marries a grade 5 woman,what is he looking for Because that is the one that would understand and respect him better.

Speaking in tongues will never make you a wife, only a submissive woman will stay in a marriage and not the beauty and the like.
I know you will oppose this message, but read it again and again before you oppose it

5. Drunkards or clubbing women.. most men don't want to settledown with these kind of women but if they are to go for a one night stand, they will.. thats how some of these girls have kids that they dont even know who the father is.. just for hit and run because..... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Question 1: Each time I fall in love, my lover will break my heart: Honestly speaking, you probably fell in love with the wrong person. Some lovers aren't for you. All you need to do is to pause and change your approach to relationships. You might need to learn how to identify a real lover.

Question 2: I don't want to fall in love because of cheating. Not every man or woman out there is a cheat or can cheat. Cheating among other things is a choice. Some guys and ladies won't cheat on you. But you need to identify them.

Question 3: Women are materialistic; Not all women are materialistic. All you need to do is to go for your type.

Question 4: These days it's very hard to find men who believe in the "No-sex till Marriage" mantra: There are many guys out there who won't demand a lady for sex till marriage. All you need to do is to trust God for one of such men.

Question 5: The guys coming for me are not financially buoyant; With the economic reality in Africa, most men are not financially strong. I think you should be financially independent or empowered to support when married.

Question 6: I am a man, women keep rejecting me because of my level of education.
Many, if not most people, have specs about who they want. Most times, people go for their type, education-wise inclusive. Probably you should further your education some more or you should look at the other type of women who won't mind your type.

Question 7: The lady I like wishes to further her education, but I fear that after seeing her through school, she might not marry me again. Yes, that happens, but especially to men who are very low in terms of formal education and certification. What you can do is add more value to yourself or forget about that lady.

Question 8: The lady I am in love with wants a wedding I can't afford. A wedding means a lot to many people out there. There's nothing wrong with having an elaborate wedding provided you can afford it. But it becomes very disturbing when you can't afford it and that lady pressures you into doing it. My advice is: End that relationship because it's a red flag you shouldn't ignore.

Question 9: The lady I am in love with isn't favorably disposed towards my family. I'm not sure she likes them. Some ladies are like that. But find out why she is acting that way. If she has some genuine reasons, then her fears might be justified. But if it's because of sheer hatred, then end the love relationship with her.

Question 10: Each time I date a man, he wants me to come to his apartment within days of meeting him but I don't like it. Any man who acts that way is immature and shouldn't be taken seriously. How much of the man have you known for you to go to his house just like that? Why can't you both meet in public for now? That's a plan to have sex with you. Please don't oblige him.

Question 11: I am impotent but I want to marry: You shouldn't marry in that condition. Please go treat yourself first. There is a cure for it.

Question 12: I am not earning a good salary and I am afraid no lady would like to marry. While a man doesn't need to be a millionaire before he marries, however, he shouldn't be incapable of feeding himself and at least one extra mouth. Marriage means increased financial responsibility.

Question 13: The men I fall in love with are always too busy to love me the way I want. Are you sure you are not demanding too much attention? No man will give you attention 24/7. Is that man jobless or something? Please check yourself and make the necessary changes because...... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

1) Any guy who cannot delay gratification but wants everything from you even before marriage needs to be watched. He wants early sex, undivided attention and adoration, he is all over you all the time and is extremely jealous, he disrespects your values in life and you opinion does not really count; he wants you to disconnect from your friends and family members and focus only on him. Such guy is a wrong guy!

2) Any guy who finds it difficult to be open or transparent to you and avoid talking about his past relationships, failures, financial challenges, emotional problems and is very good at concealing negative things about himself to make a good impression, must be re-assessed before you commit. Relationships cannot grow without transparency.

3) Any man who cannot take responsibility for his life but blames everyone for his challenges except himself is not worth your hand in marriage! He may also not take responsibility for his marriage!

4) A man who is a fault-finder and a perfectionist is difficult to please. In his world, there is no room for mistakes of any magnitude and if you make a mistake, be ready for harsh criticism. On the other hand, if he is good at messing up everything around him, unfortunately he could mess up your life too!

5) Never consider getting married to a lazy man who does not have a realistic vision for his life! A man who is going nowhere will lead his wife nowhere! A man's responsibility is to provide leadership and direction to his family! On the other hand, when a woman with vision marries a man without vision, she naturally becomes the leader of the home which will eventually lead to conflict or disorder! Believe me; it does not work out well in marriage!

6) Never marry a man who does not have a relationship with God unless you too do not have one. A man who loves and respect the Lord will love and respect you in obedience to the Lord!

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1. Taking alcohol
2. Using sugar
3. Using wheat products
4. Eating sausages,smokies and other processed foods
5. Raising dowry through WhatsApp
6. Smoking that cancer stick aka Cigarettes
7. Having stupid and reckless sex
8.Having unprotected sex. Soko ni chafu
9. Using WhatsApp GB
10. Having ringtones in his phones
11. Buying food from supermarkets
12. Entering kitchen unless the kitchen is on fire
13. Gambling
14. Giving CJs and receiving BJs
15. Wearing tight underwears and shorts
16. Masturbation
17. Calling your wife sijui swiry , sweetie, my better half, Hun, the love of my life etc. Call her by her name, Waruguru, Wanjiku, Waithiegeni.
18. Dating a woman who takes alcohol
19. Sleeping with another man's wife. Mûtumia wene ndahunagio maitho na ndaguragirwo nyama
20. Having two kids like a dove or one like a rhino. A man should sire at least six kids
21. Hugging your mother in-law
22. Sleeping at your inlaws' houses. They only gave you permission to sleep with their daughter and not to fart in their houses
23. A culture of not reading
24. Going home past 9pm

Kiriungi Kimotho Muceera wa mbari ya huria nondirariunga weerû ngiugaga nî thaayû na nî thaayû na nî thaayû na nî nondîrabîra mwano

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A respectful woman is a beautiful woman to have a relationship with or get married to. Though it could be said that some men take advantage of a woman’s respect and treat her with disrespect, but a man who values a good woman would value the importance of having a respectful woman.

These are some qualities a respectful woman shows.

1. SHE DOESN’T MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP ABOUT HER

A respectful woman doesn’t try to take control of the relationship; rather she tries to create a balance between herself and her partner. She respects her man’s opinion even when she doesn’t agree with them.

2. SHE’S PEACE LOVING

A respectful woman isn’t the type to throw abuses at her man at the slightest event; she loves peace and she isn’t the nagging woman also.

3. SHE HAS SELF-RESPECT

Respect starts from within and not outside; a respectful woman respects herself — she isn’t the one to start a fight neither is she the one that would create a scene. She has self-respect and acts accordingly whether she’s out or at home.

4. SHE’S CONSIDERATE

A respectful woman isn’t selfish; she doesn’t just think of herself alone, but she thinks of others. In her relationship, she puts in considerate efforts to make it better.

5. SHE KNOWS HER BOUNDARIES

A respectful woman isn’t the one to cross the line; she understands her boundaries and respects them. In her relationship, she isn’t the type to hit her man below the belt with words and abuses just to gain an unfair advantage.

6. SHE’S KIND

You can’t be a respectful person and not be kind and loving. Respect comes from within, and with respect comes other loving qualities like kindness and tolerance.

7. SHE’S WELL-MANNERED

A respectful woman knows how to comport herself; she has good manners, good attitude and knows the right behaviour to put up. Also, she’s the first to say sorry when wrong, doesn’t keep grudges and she appreciates everything done for...... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

aliandro:
You can go boss...I know someone that went for the interview yesterday.

What happened to the person please?

I got this interview invitation from this people, please is this fake job interview?

Dear Johnson,
Readi-Consult invites you for an INTERVIEW. You will be assessed as an OFFICE ASSISTANT
Date: Wednesday, 22nd November, 2023.
Time: 8.00am.
Venue: Suite A, 150 Oba Ogunji Rd, Beside Great Talent School, Agege, Lagos State.

Best Regards
RDC/001
Admin Unit

1. He drops you off and drives back to his wife and kids.

2. He throws away used Condoms as he goes home.

3. He buys sweets to clean your fragrance no matter how expensive it can be

4. He forgives himself for cheating as he is driving to the mother of his Children.

4 He first takes shower to remove your unwanted sweats.

5. He then convinces him self that he can't leave his Wife and Children because of you.

6. He hugs her and ask his children about education.

7. He eats food cooked by his wife not two pieces of KFC he bought for you.

8. After eating he relax on the couch, and they both go to the bedroom.

9. They discuss about the future while she is lying on his chest.

10. Then they make love (Not sex which he had with you).

11. He doesn't take bath after it because he is used to that Aroma of his Wife.

12. She continues lying on his chest while discussing their investment, policies and planning their Anniversary.

13. And you are alone struggling with sex because he just did a fast.

14. He gave you 100k and your Mother is boasting that she has a discplined daughter not knowing that you are slowly turning to the resting zone of a bored Husband of some one.

My sister it is not too late, know your values and have goals that Man will never take you anywhere. Find your own Man and God will surely bless you.

Thanks for Reading!!
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My Sister, don't marry a Man Living in a Family House, you will never enjoy that Marriage.

I may sound Stoopid and senseless but believe me the day you're married into a family house you'll remember this post. Even flies in the house will abuse you including your in-laws.

Untill you find yourself in this situation you may not understand this post.

Sister, if a man does not have money to rent atleast one room apartment, then you guys have no business getting married.
How will you guys now cope with family expenses?

Don't be deceived, marriage needs money.

The day your husband marry you into family house, both of you have lost RESPECT and dignity in that family.

Even if it’s one room apartment it will be much more better than living in a family house, for peace to reign.

If a man still lives in his parents house, tell him to get an apartment before paying your BRIDE PRICE. Statistics shows that, the wives end up unhappy, caged and frustrated.

No matter how good your in-laws are, pray you don't have any reason to live with them. They will show you shege. It's a matter of TIME. Just give them TIME.
Visit them, let them visit you.

Your parents in-law maybe good but believe me your Co-Wives, brothers and sisters in-law will fight you. Some may even go diabolical to make sure you're 7feet down.

Dear Men, leaving a family house does not mean neglecting your parents and your responsibility, it means starting your own life, living a private life and having a peaceful home.

I repeat, Please don't marry a man living in a family house, you will never enjoy that marriage to its fullest.
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1. CHOOSE LOVE: Love is a choice, so choose to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is kindness, Love is a commitment, not an emotion, not just a feeling.
2. PHONE AFFAIRS: People honor girlfriends' or boyfriends' calls, but immediately after weeding they ignore their spouse's calls, this is bad, so as a rule Always answer the phone when your husband/wife is calling
3) PHONE HOLIDAY: Never allow the phone to strangulate your marriage, many calls can wait, and many will call back, you can also call back later, so as much as possible, try to keep your phone off when you’re together with your spouse.
4) TIME CURRENCY: Make time together a priority. Budget for a consistent date night. Time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage. There are no shortcuts. Building a strong marriage takes time.
5) SUPPORT SYSTEM: Your friends will impact your marriage, so choose your friends wisely. Surround yourself with friends who will strengthen your marriage and
6) REMOVE WRONG PEOPLE: remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
7) LAUGHTER TREATMENT: Make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage. Feel free to laugh together, laugh at your jokes and your mistakes instead of fighting about it
MOMENT OF JOY: Share moments of joy, and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh together.
9) PRESS JOY BUTTON: Get to know that thing that makes your spouse so happy, it's called the Joy button, everybody has it, what is your spouse's joy button, find, press it often, and keep the marriage lively and your spouse happy.
10) AVOID RED BUTTON: Red buttons are those things that easily annoy your spouse and make your marriage hot and difficult. Know how to handle this wisely and avoid conflict that hurts marriage deeply.
11) NOT OLYMPIC BUT PARTNERSHIP: In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you’ll either win together or lose together. Work together to find a solution.
12) STRENGTHEN
THE FEEBLE KNEE: Remember that a strong marriage rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak. Cover your spouse's weaknesses that is why you are together.
13) it is NOT 50-50: Remember that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they’ve got! given all without reservation.
14) NOT LEFTOVER John Maxwell said no Marriage can survive forever on Leftover. What a profound statement. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers of time, money, love, emotion, etc after you’ve given your best to everyone else.
15) TALK TO EACH OTHER, NOT AT EACH OTHER: Speak lovingly and respectfully to each other. Your words matter, but the tone of those words matters too. The tone of your words can set the tone for your entire marriage.
16) DONT PAUSE YOUR MARRIAGE:
Don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you’ll end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage. When your Children get Married you will live the rest of your life in loneliness, Dont pause your Marriage
17) NAKED BUT NOT ASHAMED Never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Be totally open, Marriage thrives when there is openness and transparency
18) LET YOUR YES BE YES, NO BE NO: Never lie to each other. Lies break trust and the absence of trust breaks love and love is the foundation of a strong marriage.
19) SAY SORRY TO AVOID SORRY MARRIAGE: When you’ve made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” When couples can not say sorry, Marriage ends up in a sorry state, avoid this.
20) BE GENEROUS WITH FORGIVENESS When your husband/wife breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You can't build a house without making mud, and you can't build a marriage without offending each other one time or the other, when that happens open your bowel of forgiveness.
21) GIVE VOICE TO FORGIVENESS: Don't just forgive in your heart but give voice to it, this is to reassure your spouse and heal you too. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.”
22) APPLY BRAKE: Be patient with each other. Your spouse is always more important than your schedule Don't be on the high of life 24/7 apply the brake. Patience is a strong pillar of marriage.
23) AVOID SCREEN SEX: Stay away from porn, blue film, or anything that creates sexual fantasy apart from your spouse. Porn is a prison, it's a cage, it's destructive, it breaks trust, destroys marriage, and damages homes.
24) AVOID STINKING THINKING: Don’t just be physically monogamous; be mentally monogamous. when you think sex, think only of your husband or wife, your thinking must not stink, stinking thinking sinks marriage
25) BE A FAN NOT A RIVAL: Be your spouse’s biggest encourager, not his/her biggest critic.
Be your spouse's fan, head of his or her supporter's club, and be in the same camp not in opposing teams.
26) BE A WIPER Be the one who wipes away the tears of your spouse, not the one who causes them. Wipe sweat doesn't become the source of your spouse's needless sweat.
27) APPLY MOUTH LOYALTY: Never talk badly about your spouse to other people when he or she is not there or vent about them online, this is a sign of disloyalty avoid it
28) BE YOUR SPOUSE ARMOR BEARER: Protect your spouse at all times and in all places. Be Chairman of the defense council of your spouse, defend, protect, and be a shield. Don't be on the attack, don't attack your spouse it is foolish.
29) WEDDING RING IS NOT A FASHION: Always wear your wedding ring. It's not just for fashion, it is a covenant reminder. It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!
30) FAITH BUILDS MARRIAGE: Make your faith a priority. Pray with each other and for each other. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it. Every Marriage is twice weakened when God is absent.
31) DONT NAG BRAG Instead of nagging about your spouse, try bragging about your spouse! Focus on what they’re doing right instead of always pointing out what they’re doing wrong.
32) NO BLAME GAME: When you’re facing struggles, don’t blame each other. Instead, work together with mutual respect to find solutions.
33) NO WAY FOR MY WAY: It was Dr Gary Chapman who said "Neither husbands nor wives can have their own way and a successful marriage at the same time" dont insist on "my way" give way for "our way" that is the secret of great marriage.
34) FLIRTING IS ALLOWED: Never stop flirting with your spouse and never start flirting with anyone else! Home flirting is great, away flirting destroys trust and marriage.
35) NO PSYCOLOGIST IN THE HOUSE:
Don’t expect your spouse to read your mind. Clearly communicate your thoughts and feelings. Take time to talk to each other AND listen to each other.
36) BE A PARTNER:
Work together as partners. Never let your spouse face a struggle without your encouragement, partnership, and support.
37) DON'T PUT YOUR MARRIAGE ON HOLD: Don’t put your marriage “on hold” for the sake of your career, hobbies, or any other pursuit. Don’t sacrifice your marriage in the pursuit of lesser things.
38) MAKE PARTNER'S FOCUSED DECISIONS: Consider your husband/wife in EVERY decision you make, because all of your decision will impact them in some way.
39) DON'T BREAK THE POT: Never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other! Don't break the pot of your marriage, the pot belongs to God your maker.
40) BE TOTALLY BIAS IN FAVOR OF YOUR SPOUSE: Let everybody around you see that you are biased, yes, biased in favor of your spouse, let them know where your loyalty lies, there are some things they will never bring you if they already know your stand.
41) HUMOR MONGER: Be full of humor. Joke with your Spouse, crack healthy jokes and make your home lively.
42) MAKE SEX HAPPEN: Prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without the...... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

A lot of men are single but they won't know until they loose their job.

Unfortunately this is the fact. If you doubt me, Pretend that you're having challenge in your business/job and see how your partner will treat you in few weeks of no money.

Indeed hard times reveal true friends.

A man can genuinely take care of a woman for years but i assure you it is very difficult for that same woman to genuinely stand by and support that man for up to a month in most difficult time especially when there is no money at all.

It only takes God's grace to find the one that will stand, encourage and support you during difficult time.

Same thing applies to knowing your true friends

As a man, work, hustle and make money if not hmmmm.. only God will help.

Lastly, if God blesses you invest in your wife, avoid side Chicks. Because side chick is on business of..... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1


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Sometime ago, I was anchoring a question and answer program on WhatsApp and someone asked me how she can avoid having sex before marriage. For the benefit of others, I decided to write an article on it.

Let me start by stating that sex itself is NOT a sin. Sex was created by God. As a matter of fact, God created us with sexual organs because He wants us to have sex. Sex is a gift from God to us BUT it's to be enjoyed by ONLY legally married COUPLE. The only time God expects us to have sex is when we are married not before.

Premarital and extramarital sex are sins. They may be fun but not honorable. If you notice those two words, one carries the prefix "pre" and the other "extra" and what's that telling us sex before(pre) or outside of marriage(extra) is not right. Sex is meant to be only in marriage (marital).

Avoiding sex before marriage, not just because it's the right thing to do, will save you from lots of avoidable ugly experiences, guilty conscience, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, stagnation, death, God's judgment, abortion, etc. It pays to avoid sex before marriage. You will make God happy and at the same time save yourself from troubles. So, close up and zip up.

Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." Avoiding sex before marriage is an honorable something to do. Maybe you are in a relationship right now and you sincerely desire to maintain sexual purity, to avoid sex before marriage, this article is meant for you. I present to you 10 ways you can avoid sex before marriage.

1. Decide

In Daniel 1:8 the Bible says that Daniel purposed or decided in his heart that he won't defile himself. Likewise, you have to make a decision. Life is all about decisions. Nothing gets done without a definite decision.

Daniel was able to overcome because he decided. So, you and your partner have to decide too that you guys are not going to have sex, you've to make up your mind that you will not have sex till marriage. That's the foundation you are going to lay every other thing on.

2. Guide Your Mind

Proverbs 4:23 says, "Guide your heart with all diligence because out of it flows the issues of life." Your mind is the gateway to your life. What goes on in your mind determines what goes on in your life.

So, guide your heart from pollution, watch the things you fill your mind with, watch the music you listen to, the videos you watch, the things you read etc. These things have the power to influence your life.

3. Mind Your Conversations

In Colossian 3:8 the Bible says that we should put off every filthy communication out of our mouths. Avoid using obscene words, erotic words or suggestive words. Avoid sex chatting. Mind your use of words. In short, avoid words that can turn you on.

4. Renew Your Mind

Romans 12:2 says that we should renew our minds because that's only when we will be able to judge rightly. When you are always Hot or having an erection, you have been filling your mind with sexual stuff, your mind needs renewing.

Watch, listen and read positive things, mostly importantly the Word of God. Listen to nice songs, sermons. That's how to renew your mind. Remember, it's garbage in garbage out. It's what you fill your mind with that it will process and give you back in return. You can't fill your mind with negativity and expecting to live positively.

5. Avoid Too Much Closeness

The Bible asked a question in Proverbs that can a man take fire in his bosom will not be burnt? If you don't want fire to burn you, don't go close.

Avoid too much closeness. It can spark into flames. Men aren't the only one that lust, women too. Avoid too much unnecessary closeness in any form or shape physically or online.

6. Avoid Staying In Secluded Place Alone

Sin thrives in secret very much. To avoid having sex, try as much as possible to avoid staying alone in a secluded place together. If visiting him or her will make you both to fall into it, stop visiting, let your meetings be in an open place.

7. Don't Cohabit

Cohabiting means living together when you guys aren't married. Cohabiting for whatever reason is not right. That's actually a sin. We should avoid every appearance of evil.

You are only expected to live together after you are married not before you are married unless of course if sexual purity is not your thing. Body is not iron it must react especially when emotion is involved. It's a harmattan fire! You can't keep a goat and yam in the same house and expects nothing to happen.

8. Stop Collecting Or Requesting For Money

I'm talking to our beautiful ladies now. For some guys, giving you money or anything equals giving them right to ask for sex. So, don't ask and rarely collect when they give you.

When you keep asking or collecting money, when they ask for sex you'll feel obligated especially when they start blackmailing you emotionally, "After all I've done for you," "After giving you this or that," you get my point?

9. As For Grace

In time past, sexual temptations, immorality and perversions are not rampant like it is now. You turn here and there sex. In the midst of all these, you need God's enabling power(grace) to come out victorious.

The urge to sin is stronger than your will. It's not of him that willeth but of God that showeth mercy. You have decided many times not to have sex but you keep failing into it despite your decisions. It's good to make decision but much more than that, you need grace. So, ask for God's grace. You can't do it on your own.

10. Avoid Getting Intimate

Don't eat the food while it's still on the fire. You're the same person that will eat it when it's cooked. So, avoid kissing, romancing, touching, smooching, unnecessary hugging etc., these are launching pad to sex!

Let me conclude by saying that, maintaining sexual purity pays, it will give you peace of mind, it will save you from troubles and more importantly you are going to....... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Some singles ask me, "Ma, what is the least apartment we can live in as a newly married couple?"

A room apartment.

Preferably, a room self contained where you have your own toilet and kitchen.

Newly married couples should start small and grow big. Living in a room gives you the opportunity to grow and adapt together. Living in multiple room apartment gives opportunity to grow in malice, pride and the refusal to adapt to each other.

For instance, if husband is offended, there is a tendency to enter one of the rooms, lock the door and punish his wife with silence, bitterness, refusal to have sex till she "comes to her senses" and beg!

There is a tendency for wifey to do same. But when it is only one room with no where to run to, you will have to apologise, forgive and learn to adapt to each other.

When you know you are sharing same bed and her body keeps disturbing your peace of mind, you will apologise fast and face the night's business with multiple"Thank you" on top!

Visitors too won't prolong their stay when they know there is no where to sleep.

A room and parlour self contained also does same wonder! You have no where to run to! You can't lock your spouse out of the room or out of the sitting room!

When you have learnt to adapt to each other and your family begins to grow, you can then graduate to 2 bedroom flat, 3 bedroom flat, a duplex or more.

This is not a rule though. Don't build your life on it. You can live in as many rooms as you choose as long as you are mature, understand each other and won't use it to create separation or problems in your marriage.

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1. The wife that wins all arguments with her husband is not wise. The home is not a law court.

2. The wife that uses sex as a weapon in the home – placing embargo, going to bed in jeans shorts and trousers – lacks wisdom.

3. The wife that uses the modern trends and laws of “women’s rights” to insult or ridicule her husband simply makes a fool of herself.

4. A woman that makes her home devoid of peace through bickering, nagging and quarrels needs help. A man should be eager to run away from office to be at home, for that should be the safest and coziest place on earth for him.

5. Modern-day equality in marriage does not mean competition. It simply means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the de facto head of the home and oppress the man is tantamount to playing with fire. If you destroy your home, soon you will be the boss of an empty home.

6. A wise wife makes the man feel so good that he assumes that he is the head. Once he gets that feeling, the woman gently wields her power and the head actually turns to wherever the neck wants without a protest.

7. A wife that does not pull herself away from friends’ influence and advice or even from the control of her mother and father will have herself to blame.

8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife. But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks, shape, dressing, etc. Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man’s aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defense is that if he truly loves her, he should love her the way she is. But when looking for a wife, he saw people like the present YOU and ignored them and settled for the former YOU. Today, you go to bed smelling of onions and pap. You go to bed wearing grandmothers’ clothes. Why are you playing with your marriage? Love is not about looks – we know. But looks enhance love and marriage. There is a difference between someone disfiguring herself and the person being disfigured by an accident. Please don’t be complacent. As hard as it may be, work on looking like you were when he first saw you and began the chase.

9. If every night you are tired, sleepy, sore, down with headache or fever, “not in the mood,” you are a joker, a serious comedian!

10. If your children suddenly become more important to you than your husband, you need prayers.

11. If you assume that as the woman, only you need to be pampered and fussed over while the man is a stone that has no emotions, you need to be pitied.

12. A woman that has the mind of a wife does not excite her husband. Wives are usually complacent and presumptuous. A wife must strive to have the mind of a girlfriend. A girlfriend is always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always thinking of ways to wow her sweetheart; a girlfriend does not try to win all arguments, does not call the man a “useless man”, is not careless about her looks or dressing, always smiles and laughs with the man, sends the man sweet messages and calls, etc. Are you your husband’s girlfriend in word and in deed?

13. When you rely on your beauty, cookings, character, connections and bedroom performance alone to keep your man and your home intact without putting God in the.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

Alot of men struggle with masturbation.

Masturbation can easily make you a loner and ruin your communication and relational skills with others, including your partner since you get lost in your world and make you not need someone. Masturbation can hurt your wife as she begins to doubt how attractive she is to you since your prefer pleasing yourself. It can also make you use women where you sex chat multiple women on the phone to get them to talk dirty with you or send you sexy pictures, videos and nudes to get you hard so that you masturbate.

Masturbation trains your mind that pleasure is that you receive through your hand as opposed to that you receive from a vagina, so that by the time you and your wife get to have sex, you may not enjoy her vagina as much. Sex starts in the mind. What you train your mind your mind will accept.

HOW TO OVERCOME MASTURBATION

1. Accept that you are a sexual person, you have a high libido. Thank God for that, you are healthy. Having sexual urges is healthy

2. Have a vision for your life. Masturbation tends to make you focus on the hear and now, but when you have a purpose to pursue in life, it keeps you disciplined and busy

3. Forgive yourself. Masturbation has made many feel dirty and ashamed

4. Each time you look at yourself naked, pray. Pray audibly at a volume only you can hear. Pray thanking God for your health and physique, mention your body parts . Turn your nudity to an opportunity to pray

5. When you get Hot, channel the energy to something productive. Learn the principle of delayed gratification

6. Fill your bedroom with worship music to activate your spirit and bring down your arousal

7. Keep good hygiene, dress well, shower, smell good. Take care of your body so that you feel good about yourself

8. Do not feed your lust. No porn, no storing nudes in your phone or exchanging nudes with chat mates, no entertaining yourself with songs or movies that cheapen sex. Raise the standard of what you consume

9. Watch the company you keep. Keep off people who have a loose view about sex, those people who talk about casual sex like it's something to glorify, those who justify unfaithfulness and promiscuity. Bad company corrupts good morals

10. Work on identity. Masturbation to many has a way on denting the self-esteem. Keep affirming yourself and who you are

11. Enhance your social life, spend less time alone. Masturbation thrives in isolation. People who masturbate alot tend to struggle in making face to face connections and thrive on chasing after sexual online connections that go no where. They tend to even stay single longer because they are self sufficient or act single yet married

12. Serve God and people more. Have little time in your hands to use your hands if you know what I mean

13. Ask God to help you to do this. The Holy Spirit is your Helper

14. In case you do fall into masturbation after staying away from it for awhile, get back up and continue the journey of fighting it. Many relapse back into what they want to stop because they are ashamed they fell. Overcoming is a process

15. Let this personal struggle teach you about God's grace; that your relationship with God is not based on what you do or don't do but who you are becoming because of God's work in you

16. Stop yourself from clicking on controversial and sexual links on the internet telling you about women with the biggest booty, the men with the biggest penis, you won't believe what is so and so's best sex position, watch this celebrity's sex tape, watch this mama twerk... clicking on such links will take you to more internet pages that will sexually excite you

17. If single, imagine love making in future in your marriage. Have something to look forward to

18. Anytime you find yourself sexually attracted to someone that you don't intend to commit to, pray for them. That way you will start to see see them for more than a sexual tease

19. Have an accountability partner to report to. A volunteer you trust who will be asking you if you masturbated that week. Give yourself success stories, once you go for a month, two months, three without doing it, it will empower your.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

1. Most women subconsciously seek validation from men to feel good about themselves.

2. They know if you're confident or lack in confidence through body language.

3. Every girl had a first love whom she gave her entire soul to.

4. No matter how mature a girl behaves, she will always try to find a guy who can handle the little kid in her.

5. Women get mad at men for not sharing their feeling but most women won't say what they are truly feeling.

6. Your natural smell. Women find distinctive smells attractive. The next time she hugs you, she'll smell you too.

7. They lie about their body count.

8. They stalk your social media.

9. When a man sweats after some form of sport/exercise, the sweat on the face is a turn on for some women. If they like you secretly, they definitely enjoy eye contact. A lot of it.

10. Every woman is emotional and passionate.

11. Women's public bathrooms are lush havens beyond men's wildest dreams.

12. Nothing makes a girl laugh harder than when you copy something they said in a weird way. They just find that thing too funny.

13. They don't need any solution to their problem when they are sad. They just need warm console.

14. Just tell them what you are expecting from them from the beginning itself. Don't beat around the bush.

15. When they are in love, they smell your clothes.

16. If they get upset, they love it when you make up for it with kisses and apology rather than manliness.

17. They hope your guy friends secretly have a crush on them.

18. Girls will never admit that they like you. They just start talking to you everyday and start asking if you have eaten and other stuff.

20. They want a man who's good at seduction so that.... https://www.gistreal.ng/?m=1

My attention was drawn to an interesting question and I've seen many ask this question especially when you are dealing with the issue of submission in marriage. So I decided to give a respond as I think it will help many who are willing to follow the ways of God.

QUESTION.
Why did you skip Eph 5:21 as you taught the subject of submission in marriage?

‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:21‬ ‭KJV‬‬
[21] submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

MY RESPONSE.
If you study the book of Ephesians, you will notice that the book is divided into two broad parts;
* Part 1; chapter 1-3 Speaks of the scope and implications of the works of Christ
* Part 2; Chapter 4-6 Speaks of how the finished works of Christ applys to our lives or our responsibilities as believers i light of the fonished works of Christ.

Now the second part of the book which is the place of interest has it's broad categorisation;

Chapter 4
Vs 1-7 Our coperate responsibility towards the unity of the body
Vs 8-16 Our coperate reponsibility towards maturity and perfecting of the body
Vs 17-32 Sanctification and purification

Chapter 5
Vs 1-14 Sanctification and holy living
Vs 15-21 Urgencing and productive kingdom service
Vs 22-33 Instructions to wives and husbands

Chapter 6
Vs 1-4 Instructions for children and parents
Vs 5-9 Instructions to slaves and masters
Vs 10-18 Instructions to the church concerning spiritual warfare
Vs 19-20 Soliciting for intercession
Vs 21-23 Salutations.

Interpreting the bible in context shows that Eph 5:21 in not an instruction to husbands and wives but for the church. We all have someone we submit to in the body, even the Pope has a biological Christian Father he submits to.

If you drag Eph 5:21 into the context of Vs 22-33 which is where the instructions for husbands and wives is taught because you want husbands to submit to their wives, it will bring about a huge contradiction. This is because, in instructing husbands and wives, Apostle Paul used the relationship between Christ and the church to explain the relationship between husbands and wives with the husband representing Christ and the wife representing the church.

The questions you will now be left to answer are:
IS CHRIST SUBMITTED TO THE CHURCH?
IS THE SUBMISSION BETWEEN CHRIST AND THE CHURCH MUTUAL?

If the husband represent Christ and Christ is not submitted to the church, why should the husband be submitted to his wife?

We must be careful:
Not to read our mind into the bible, but rather read the bible into our minds.
Not to try to transform the bible, but allow the bible to transform us.

Again for clarity sake:
Marriage is an institution in the body of Christ with specific rules of engagement.

* The husband is defined as the Head and the wife the body.

* The husband is commanded to sacrifice for his wife as Christ sacrificed for the church and the wife is commanded to submit to her husband as the Church is submitted to Christ.

* The husband and wife are equal in essence as heirs of salvation (1 Pet 3:7) but are not equal in authority in marriage (Eph 5:22-23).

* The husband is commanded to provide for his household 1 Tim 5:8.
If the wife chooses to support him that's her choice not a commandment.

* The husband must relate with his wife with understanding as the weaker vessel etc.

It's important for us to note that Apostle Paul using the relationship between Christ and the church to explain marriage, is indicative of the fact that he expects every true Christian to understand that sacred relationship. If a Christian therefore argues this matter, especially out of context, it simply implies that, the Christian in question does not really understand the relationship between Christ and the Church. That person's problems primarily therefore is not the demands of love or submission, his or her problem is first of all not knowing who a Christian really is.

We must be careful not to allow either African or Western culture to influence us over and above the word of God to because..... https://www.gistreal.ng/2023/11/list-of-8-things-marriage-will-teach-you.html?m=1

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1- When a woman is angry, over half of what she says she doesn't mean it...

2- The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves.

3- A woman is not like a 'detol advert' if you don't take care of her... Others will.

4- It takes time for a woman to trust a man, it's hard to change when she does, but if you mess up, you might just forget it.

5- A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.

6- Your wedding certificate with her is not a "license", it's just a "Learners permit"

7- She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach.

8- A woman hardly forgets things, she remembers what hurts more, avoid making her hurt.

9- A woman can be highly secretive... Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and friends to cry.

10- All women Love to be begged. men often miss out on this........

11- All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.

12-if she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as long as it makes you happy, so never force her to love you.

13-if a woman truly loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily!... That's what makes them special....☺

If you find a woman who loves and fears God, cherish her for life and never let her go. She will do you good for the rest of your life
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