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Reminderz:
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I will speak to you from an Islamic point of view... generally speaking, there are many genuine reasons why Islam frowns on such marriages... unless she converted to your religion, then Islam frowns at marrying an unbeliever in the Deen... and it's quite a good reason as well...

supposedly you died before her, all your kids will revert back to her religion, and in the sight of your Lord, this is a grave misconduct , all this i love you, she loves you won't save you... when you're choosing a partner, you're not only choosing for yourself, but for your kids and their future...

even if God spare your life, your kids might end up confused and might later revert back to her own religion, and this might break your heart..children mostly generally incline themselves to what their women follows, this is why you should be very careful who you choose to be your wife.. you might not be the one who takes the Deen seriously, but if you fear for your own future and theirs, you would fear for the outcome... that's if you're truly God fearing or you fear His wrath.. but if you're one of those claiming woke muslims, then I have nothing to say to you... and since your wife is not inclined towards your religion, do you know the outcome and consequences when it comes to willing or sharing property when you're no longer on this earth?

you're one of the men who thinks emotionally, you're not the first person to fall in love and won't be the last.... some of the ones greater than your love ended in divorce, so have you thought of this possibility and the effects it will have on your kids?? or na still I love you, she love me too?? now you seems blinded by love, all this will seem like nonsense to you, but e go soon clear for your eyes...

from your story, it seems you guys still have issues on which religion your kids should themselves adapt to, this is just the beginning of the problem, that love go soon clear for your eyes when you're asked to account for that decision you took years back... maybe not in this life, but in the next...

even if you're a idol worshipper, find another idol worshipper to marry or someone who's ready to convert to what you believe in... when it comes to marriage, leave emotions out of it and think logically before you dive in... love is not what sustain marriages... the risks is much greater than the illusions of enjoyment in it... find someone who aligns with your interests and beliefs for your own peace of mind and for the future of your kids...

apart from religion, marry someone who aligns with your interests and dreams... even if it's the person occupation... if you know your wife is an actress, then you should all the things involved in being an actress, don't come out crying when she starts kissing random people on screen and eventually cheat on you and make you father another man's kids... religion is not the only thing that should be taken seriously, there are many other things as well, marriage is not a joke... it's better to be single than dive into marriage while leaving your brain behind... love won't save you when problem arrives... love is just the emotion to attract people to each other, not the emotion needed for a successful relationship, and the thing is that most people can't differentiate between love and lust, and that will be the cause of their downfall...

adelafe2019:
O.P. is not truthful yet he is asking for our honest advice.O.p. did not disclose her age and occupation which would have helped us in giving advice.

People asked about the children's father(s) but she keep mute and still expects readers to give advice.
It seems the children had no fathers due to promiscuity of her sister and that is why o.p. wrote that she did not want to explain how they were born.

O.p. has made up her mind to drop them at an orphanage and only want your endorsement in order to justify her consent and for future reference.

omejeb:
we just met and had unprotected sex..i barely know her

Ademola47:
Yes, since that's the reality of present-day Nigeria.

Not even paying to get the job alone, I can even pay to get juicy position/deployment after getting the job.

I once acted like a 'saint' some 2,3 years ago thinking it's bad. Now I'm literarily regretting it. Man can't afford to lose such again.

PortHarcourtcit:
Obi-hens at work...

Honeybadgerxx:
Tell us why every men you dated have been dumping you, you are forming an independent woman cos no one is ready to cope with your overstretched p*ssy

SAMUEL1947:
Op u dey mad.....if he give them now, u all go still complain. God and die

GODPUNISHALABI:
She's just saying cos no guy dey reason her wor wor face ,,why won't u stay celibate

DevilsEqual:
Vile and hate reside in most of them

I spit on their heads

Jewessgratitud3:
Ehen? What problem do you have with that? Or has she dipped hands into your pocket to pay the rent? I don't understand.

If you can't help her, pass. before you spoil other people's mind towards her because that is what you're trying to start here now.

Until we find ourselves in certain conditions, we will never show empathy to others.

beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best

UjuJoan2:
All I hear is excuses!!!

Do you really think you are the BEST man for your wife? The same way you are ‘managing’ her, she is doing the same for you.

Do you think numerous men will not be willing to sleep with your wife and help her cheat on your thoroughly?
God bless you.

You claim she is all sorts of evil because you have the ‘itch’ to cheat on her, but please understand that she can do the exact same to you.

But I don’t blame you, it’s her I blame. The moment a man refers to any of my child as a liability, I will walk with the child and he will NEVER see me or that child again.

I blame her for not knowing her worth, and for allowing a man to treat her with disrespect all in the name of marriage. I blame her for not carrying herself with dignity and being less that what God created her to be. I hope she learns, and fast!!!

Utanisco:
I dey ashaowo house
As you de post this shit


Delete this shit post

AchrafHakimi:
If you did, don't you think it would be one of the airline's requirements?

Mumu².

Nonexisting1:
But that's exactly what simps make it to be for them vaginarians. Who are the ones dating and who are the ones providing if not simps. Gentlemen like me who simply fucck and go do not present ourselves as saint nicholas so the issue here does not apply.

IamdbuII:
Due to the fact that I want to focus on my music career, I decided to cut off relationships and as body no be firewood and I no dey carry hook up and since I love to be alone and focus all I do when konji comes is to jgiribolibilibilibili


But my career has not been moving at all and am confused because I have beautiful songs just see the one below



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnKbGUIe--c

RecentHistory:
Ganduje has a PhD
Kwankwaso has a PhD
Your own father is in the village licking moinmoin leaf like a baby goat

Yet, you are here calling Ganduje ugly.

Khyrvxjzy:
it possible ibo have baby factory.... Nigeria should bomb them

PapaNnamdi:
you have nothing to offer to girls in life aside from a good dick,

polish that dick and use it to ur advantage, not looking for relationship upandan,

u never fucck girl make her eyes white before, u think she dead but the next morning she is back on your bed smiling,

that's what controls every lady , a good fucck..

use it to your advantage..

the days of women using men are long gone

when in with a girl waste no time in fucckin her, then do you have power over her, if the dick is good, she is one of ur slaves already

Kingsley34:
Las las everybody go still enter hell fire

Na that one sure pass

Nazgul:
I'm going to be very honest with you. That girl is a very self centered person. She doesn't love you, she just trying to use you to give her siblings a better life.

For you to even suggest that 2 of her siblings can stay with you after marrying her and she rejected and insisted that it must be 4 should tell you the kind of person she is. She's even ok that you guys can go your separate ways if you're not ready to accommodate 4 of her siblings. Did you bother to ask her if she's ready to cater for the additional 2 she's advocating for? Is she expecting you to feed people you didn't plan for?

My brother, if you marry that girl, you'll suffer. She won't respect you, she would fight you constantly, she won't shift grounds to do anything for you, whatever decision that must stand in that marriage must come from her. Yours wouldn't even be considered. And worse of all, she and her siblings would abandon you after milking you dry.

My advice, let her be, you're not making any mistake, you're avoiding one. Catering for a wife, a daughter and 4 additional people in this era isn't funny. And if she isn't doing any reasonable job to back you up, believe me, you'll die before your time.

Afamed:
Na waaaa.

Ndi 362 Jamb highest scorer

Ndi Ego Oballa

Resurrection212:
She is supposed to be in jail for that period of 3 years.

Candidlady:
Babana be having wet dreams

Men just useless wahalai... Sleeping by your wife still commiting adultery in your dreams

You cum for dream but in reality it was pizz 🤣😂

Ijust pity your poor innocent wife


Curse be on anyone who profers solution to your adulterous soul
Amin

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