₦airaland Forum

Orikinla: Only an immature guy thinks buying an underwear for a girlfriend is an embarrassment or wrong.

Completely agreed with you
I use to go to Victoria secret a lot
I had Victoria secret Charger Card and women shop charger cards

@Ecalos you represent the type of good woman lot of Nigerian that lives in the developed countries will kill to have.
Very few Nigerian women in the developed countries will do what you are doing.
You believe the marriage is a team not individual that your money is your family’s money
Why lot of Nigerian women sees it as my money is my money why her husband’s money is their money.
Lot of women will use the word “help” not contribution to make their family better

She doesn't want you
Look for a new GF

pendo89: correct.



I love that.It means I have have adapted to West.Isn't NL so good?

Are you a Nigerian? or Dating a Nigerian?
Was your last BF a Nigerian?

pendo89: Neither.
@ luck am from Land of hakuna matata

Kenya

happy98: ok pendo89banned.
Reason? no idea.


yep 'drug overdose by the mum.She followed a year later.Karma I guess.

You live in the U.S ?

pendo89: Lemmie summarise it by saying,he has tried to woo me back for years but I have stood my ground.
Only a dog goes back to it's own vommit and God knows how much I gave in that relationship.Not only for him but for his sisters.
I was acting 'mother' to his sisters who were older than me and had kids!!If I tell you what I went through trying to encourage them you would think I was insane. They respected me cz I was there when there bro was trying to kick the hell out of their lives. I washed their babies,visited them in hospital,picked one's baby from a pit latrine,(that one was just a mad case)got admitted to act as mother cz she had gone into hiding,plus many other things.
And all this while I was in college! I used to pass by their home to help out cz I loved and pitied the guy.
And to add salt? it was my first relationship.

When a man openly admits that his anger knows no bounds and that he's is to blame then what do you say? He admitted that he is not in control of his anger.
His own sister I rem told me to live him! can you imagine? but I wanted to be there for him because I had seen him change from a deprssed man to a lively one in the course of our relationship.
That is brief.

Sorry for your Pain
Hope you are right base on the information you provided me above
because I know people lie a lot
Hope you find happiness

pendo89: sagamite

And the more I tried to do my best,the more I became weak and drained within because it was not being reciprocated. I lost myself in the process.
Well eventually it was over and it was the best relief for me. My life came back.
I look back and think I was either stupid or blind. But I am glad he's only got himself to blame.

Have you done some self assessment to enure you have not contributed to the failure of the relationship?
Why do you think he got himself to blame ?
He might be very happy that you are gone too

Mrs.Chima:
Midol or Aleve? Tampon or Kotex?

I knew you have mental Illness
Go wash up your !!!!!!!
Pick one

marvelck:
"faithful, loving and caring. And also by dressing and looking sweet and sexy all the time"
It will help but not a showstopper
Men are dogs
Women don't have to be bad for us men to cheat
Just the crazy brain of men
You see some women
They just take you there
Issue of cheating for lot of men is not about not loving their wife
Greedy

::Andrew:::
I have had series of arguments with different ladies concerning how I will act with ma wife when am married and have kids.
I am a bosoms loving guy and had always planned to make sure my children feed only on baby food, never to go near my territory.
If you happened to be my wife and I instructed you not to feed my bosom to the baby except baby food, how will you react?

Ok what if after series of arguments I agree that me and the baby will share one each, no one crosses the border to another. The
smallest person takes the smallest size. ladies only please reply. 

I told my wife the same thing year ago
But You should not make big deal out of this
Guess what she feed my kid with her bosom

190: [color=RED]Keep your opinion to yourself, Let your man make the decisions for you, Do as you are told, Ask for permission when you want to do something, Speak only when you are spoken too, The man is always right, Men and women are not equal, A woman's place is behind her man, A woman's role is to be a servant, Your only job is to perform hous

Peace Out!!! [/color]

I am sure the was in 1800
Good luck with that--Master and slave

[quote author=sadiq tijani][/quote]"you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it"

Law of real life
You can put in a lot and still get less
Life can sometime be a B
So stop playing yourself

I want it all
Greedy Right? YES

y me: I will have to disagree with you partially on the quoted
It is said the only constant thing in life is change
If a woman comes to the way of that man and show him what it feels like to be treated right and like a king
and at this point he has tasted both ways of being treated right and wrong, any sensible man will opt to change and if possible falls in love and change for the best
but any man who refuses to change and still dwell in the past is because he is yet to encounter a woman who brings the best out of him

We all want the best and happiness
How do people miss it?
It goes to greedy

Goldieluks:
Lol ..your definition.

Thank Sis
No definition, Will always get my hotel room

190_@:
Of cuss going back to village sorry Nigeria is always the best

cos then the women can bow to our blow jobs needs

unlike the wild wild Jamaicans west

I will take a Jamaican over a Nigeria women
190 you know what you are getting from a Jamaican women

MRbrownJAY: @OP
its a very simple issue.........all these men who go back home to marry some village donkey, do so because they want to be with someone that they can CONTROL!!!!! if you listen to these silly guys then you would believe that most of the 9ja sistas abroad are wild uncontrollable beast, while they are just African women who adapted to their surroundings like any human being would (unless you are Chinese).

sadly, these foolish men get a WAKE UP CALL when that said village donkey goes back to the west and starts acting like her fellow 9ja sistas abroad. the only way these men can keep these village women the way they are/were is by KEEPING THEM IN THE VILLAGE IN AFRICA....... because any woman will adapt to her surroundings whether in Las Gidi London or NY.

You got it tweaked
lot of men and women don't balance their Africa and developed countries culture very well
There are lot and lot of issues in this communities not just Nigeria
Caribbean people too
I was bless to just sit in and listen to some young Caribbean girls
I was a surprise
Yes some Nigeria go to Nigeria to bring women and think they are going to control the busy girl
E.G you want to be an American but you don't want to give your husband 100% support like the American women will do
The Nigerian men and women have lot of issue YES

Beync: sorry to disappoint you, if a man does'nt like a woman even after doing all these she would'nt get any response.
But if a man loves a woman and the woman treats him like king then his love'll be come stronger and bonding.
i'v seen a girl who did everything for a man only for him to dump her for the girl he loves.

It is a two way street
for both men and women
Agreed

pendo89: That I believe comes out your expe with them.But some men wouldn't agree with you cz what they do is reciprocated by the women in their lives.

Lot will agree please

Goldieluks:
Yours sincerely..

Kingdom of Selfish : UK

y me: Be a good communicator even when you are angry.
Help around the (his) house in your spare time
Encourage him and try to inspire him in any little way
Try to share his interest (even if its 20%) in hobbies that you are not that cool with
Don't go out of your comfort zone just to win an argument with him to prove a point

Full photo please no secret

Pendo89's
“Did you read the thread a 20 year old opened complaining about his sister's wayward behaviour? yet the husbanda treats her and the entier family like queens?
Her case is exceptional but hey treat women right cz they are not all equal.”

She is ashawo
I am completely against men leaving their wife in one country and living in a different country
Girl please don't school me
Lot of women think you are a fool because you do your best to ensure that they are taking care off
Because you are doing a lot for them , they become selfish and Me, me person

Yvete: Can Nairaland possibly create a dating section where eligible young adults can create a profile in hopes of meeting a partner? Even if its just BB PIN, email, age, etc (Photograph is not necessary....for safety reasons). I'm a go-getter and would love to date/marry a NIGERIAN. I stay in Wisconsin and I'm finding it difficult finding a partner. I'm 25, a pharmacist and definitely not ugly. Facebook dating is not going too well for me. Any serious minded guy in the US ONLY should holla!

Travel around the U.S and attend all Nigerian summer gathering
Summer parties in park, August/Sept different gathering all over U.S for different tribal
July 4 in Midwest major city have a gathering all Africa

pendo89:
"Finding it hard to digest that.We have many sheep in wolves clothing."
Guess what?
You are one

life_style: Are you trying to tell me indirectly that you live abroad ?

No I live in ikeja

Kindluv3: I have been dating this girl fO̶̷̩̥̊͡Я the pass one year now and she always tell m̶̲̥̅̊e̶̲̥̅̊ I ɑ̤̥̈̊m̶̲̥̅̊ not romantic. What should I do pls advice m̶̲̥̅̊e̶̲̥̅̊..........

Ask her to tell you what to do
Send her txt once a week telling her you miss her
Buy her flower once a month or every 6 weeks
Take her out to dinner
Rob your hand through her hair some time
When she walk in through the door give her a kiss

Yvete: Good Nigerian men in the US are hard to find!

Not true

[quote ajavascript:void(0);uthor=cowgurl]Me likey Vikin! [/quote]You have start you mess ?
You need to go play with yourself
I am done with you

mizztee234: Why do Nigerian men in the diaspora particularly US/UK guys go to Nigeria to find a wife when there are so many beautiful, single and well behaved nigerian girls here in the west?

Men who have done this or intend to what are your reasons? I am truly curious.

pepper are wait lot of this people
They don't have to limit themselves
Please marry any women that treat you nice, and right, no secret and me, me, me
Your kids and you are not their first priority
You want a Nigerian women show time and stories O