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Shinatu: |@timmy

Please, which of her home keep roles do you share, since she must share your God given manly role because she is working, or she simply adds some of your own roles to hers? does that sound fair?

I cook sometime, clean and wash the cloths
I do 90% Shopping for the kids
After dinner sometime I wash the dishes with my hands

Orikinla: It is really ironic to whine about someone cheating on you when you are not innocent of cheating on another person.

A guy cheated on a girlfriend as he started dating another girl. But he nearly committed suicide when the girl cheated on him! He barked and snarled at her in anger and came on Facebook to whine about how Nigerian girls cheat. But he never told his ignorant "Friends" that he once cheated on his ex-girlfriend.

I am a widely travelled Nigerian man who can tell you that the fact is Nigerian guys cheat 10 times more than Nigerian girls.
While Nigerian girls are ashamed to even admit that they have cheated on any guy, the Nigerian guys boast and brag about being fast and smooth operators as serial daters.
They brag about their cheating runs as they dine and wine at their clubs.
Most of the older men chasing campus girls are married. So who is fooling who?
Nigerian guys are fooling themselves.
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If you don't want to be cheated on, then don't cheat! [/size]

Widely traveled doesn't not make you completely know what is going on in the Nigerian communities
You get second hand information ear say
You have to be on the ground to see things for yourself
Lot of ashawo

Vikin: Why do you think she is seeking attention? yall need to grow up!

What if she just needs your input or comment to the subject @ hand?

If you dont have anything to contribute just hit the back button and let the thread be.

Attention seeking

Girl I am still waiting for all the photo
How soon can you sent the photo?
Be nice

She is playing hard to get
And she is F around you

jp philips: bros!! i get am before no be property, he who has the money runs the show,
if your wife earns higher and you expect ''total submission to the will of woman'' then you are just ambitious.
loyalty is a function of consequence, wen you talk as a man in the house, your wife always weighs her options, where she earns higher there is little or nothing you can do to remain in charge.
if your woman earns higher and still loyal (though unlikely) she is doing so at her descreation not necessarilly your influence.
i tell u what, in most homes where women are the bread winners, the man beg for pus.s.y.. will it be the case if she was expecting upkeep cheque from him in few days time? i guess not.
what exactly will you threten her with?
leave my house? hello!! she just paid the rent.
no food in this house anymore? hello!! she can afford all the eateries in lagos while you starve at home.
dont touch the car? haba!!whose car?
i doubt you can do much, and when she has the money buying stuffs for kids and paying school fees where they see their friends, broda!! you are no longer dealing with one enemy but ''principalities and powers''
you cant sanction ur child without the approval of 'i will tell mummy' bros at this level, you are ''finished''
drive down to your village, sew a jumper and start conducting sunday school for kids or hang yourself. those are the realistic options you have.
at the height of starving you with pojo and u make one wrong movement, bros!! not even your area pastor can negotiate your home comming.

Sorry Bro
I am well to do on my own
I have a secure job and things the will always bring me money
She run a small business , I have made more money than her in the past
I pretty well can tell any middle class woman to F off if she fool with me.
And replace her

Selfish Dude
There is a saying in Nigeria this hand wash this hand the other hand will wash the other

acidtalk: I forgotten to tell you something yeaterday

I was sitting in a gathering of Nigerian men last summer
This dude came over to other dude
And said I heard this person's wife wear the pant in the relationship
Guess what?
The man make lot of money and pay lot of the bill too
A man and woman that was raise well know what is call respect
It is not about paying bills but values, moral, fairness,and consideration

slimyem: work themselves to death?
Where did i say that?
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A woman will gladly share responsibilities with you if you treat her like a partner that she is.. not something lesser.
But treating her like an insurbordinate and expecting partcipation in responsiblities alongsides 100 percent
respect is a big FAIL!!!

Your dumb ignorant, greedy and selfish self don't understand what is called a family
Relationship is pilot and co-pilot
Married or relationship is partnership not me, me, me mentality you have
If you don't not want to participate in our joint responsibility to better ourselves
You can walk out and keep moving your dumb A??
You will get F??King Child support that is what you want right?
So go die a lonely,selfish single lady

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]A "grown man" acting like a chick on her period. Sure childish nigglet.

Don't get mad cos I called you out. Get over it.[/quote]You are Nasty
Real men don't have period like chick
Are you on your period?
Get help, You need it
You have lot of issues and go F dealing with your problem
Give a grown man some respect and stoop acting like a fool sometime

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]In order for two people to share financial responsibilities....both parties NEED A JOB.

Back in the day....one income was wealthy. However, everybody that can work need to be working and if people are still stuck on that "women need to be at home" bullshit that is on their dumb arse.

If your sole income can support two incomes then by all means do you however, if you are struggling and the other person is able....GET UP OFF YOUR ARSE AND WORK.[/quote]Ms Chima
You know me and you agree and disagree on issue
That is real life
You are very right sis
One income of 80.000.00 can not provide a mid class life style
Some dumb ass thinking all they need in life is P

slimyem: you can say it but do you practise it as such?
Do you treat you wife as a partner or as someone lower in ranking?
Do you consult her before you take decisions or you just do because you are the man?
Do her opinion count?
Y'all can cry foul about how women disrectpect you and bla bla butyou do nothing to earn the respect!
Nothing except typing it out on NL.
Nonsense!
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M with you on some of these op..not all!

I am a real man that goes all out for my family
Yes I do practice it and have respect for women
That is my problem
You sound selfish
The men should work themselves to death for you?
I hope you have a brother

@pronysha: The issue here is some of this girl are just like there mother
So apple doesn't fall far from the tree
You have a great mother give her my love

acidtalk: Sir, I totally understand your point and see reasons to it. But do you think the respect she gives you now will be anything compared to if you are 100% responsible for the upkeep of the family?


Just let's share this whole scenerio without insults and quarrels. Honest facts are needed here.

No disrespect brother
Dude
Please don't no call me sir
The respect is not different like I told her I have made more money than her in the past
I am working on thing the will still bring me money
You have a great day
From one brother to other bro love u

acidtalk: now let us deliberate like gentlemen.

When you were earning more than her was she also sharing responsibilities (bills) in the home?

Now that she is earning more, is she footing more bills than you are?


Sit deep, relax, breath in and out and be TRUTHFUL, since then and now did you notice any 'slight' change in her behavior (respect/submissiveness) towards you?

I will honestly like to know sir.
You are the ones (married men) I need their honest contribution on this thread


Thanks in advance sir.

I still pay the mortgage
but there is a car I have always wanted to drive, I am not ready to get the car now or next year
She want to get the car for me I f I need any thing and ask she will give it to me
She just paid off a car she bought last year

acidtalk: if you make 10,00.00 and you wife make 30,000.00
so tell me the story here
Dude I use to be the type of dude that will say
I will take care of it NO problem
You make money
You are going to contribute or you can keep moving

I have a rule today and for all men
If you make 100,00.00 and you wife make 20,00.00
make her contribute some, she has to have a stalk in the married
If she make 70,00.00 some day, she will still think you have to do it only because you have done it in the past

acidtalk: One more Insult from you and I will make Nairaland as a whole in miserable hell for you (not just this thread).

Must your comments be filled with vulgar language? If you can't keep your low self street life off nairaland then it isn't a must you contribute. Must you derail the thread?

Obvious you are a freaking sorry a$5 irresponsible man.

We don talk about none sharing of responsibilities see as him blood don the rush.

Na your kind useless self no go drop money for food begin cross leg in front of tv dey wait for dinner.

Kid
You can not do that
The goal here is not to insult you
You talk like we are in the 1960 or 1970
I am very bless, the lord is good to me
So I am not a $5 man
My wife make more money than me now
Yes but I have make lot more than her in the past

acidtalk:
If you married to a Doctor and you work in the bank
Most likely your wife will make more money than you

acidtalk: Yeah! I now sound ignorant because I am coming out as a Fellow Man in the open to state why men no longer get the respect they deserve because they have intentionally belittled themselves by fighting agressively for their wives to share domestic responsibilities with them right?


When it comes to issue of finance, you all are quick to shout "Equality" in marriage, anything aside that you want a "totally submissive wife".

See gendal sentiments oh!

Married should be equal
I am not looking for a slave
There always have to be somebody to lead in some area in a relationship
Your wife might be better in management money

pharmking: I wonder why there are primitive man as the OP nowadays...Things are evolving and we need to change our rotten mentality. Your wife sharing responsabilities with you doen't mean she won't respect you. Respect is earned and deserved. The women that know what they want in marriage and knows how to keep a man give repect and treat their men well. You just have to find the right one.

Dumb acidtalk:
Listen to a lady that I think has see the world
Know what it takes to raise a family
Not your Foolish BS Goat head

acidtalk: *laugh wan kill me*

I took the patience to read through your comment before checking your gender and lo and behold, I knew it was one frustrated man that would have gone rantting that bad.
If the post said "women respect and honor your husbands". Moro*ons like you will give us a billion examples how women of those days knelt to feed their husbands now you are quick to justify why the responsibility MUST be shared.

A word of advice, you can't have full control to a ground when you aren't paying the full bills. If you like, Hang Yourself. Na you sabi.

Your Dumb A?? need to grow up in the real world
Nobody in a relationship should have full control
Married is a partnership pilot and co-pilot
I am not sure what part of the world you live in
Try and find out
If you bless and make lot of money Yes you can F??king pay all the bill
You sound ignorant

pharmking: I bet you are thinking, you are the sole breadwinner of the house and your wife doesn't work or have a job? If she makes abt he same money you are somewhere. Of course the guy can make more but this is just a survey showing what most women want in "the perfect man" this is just the minimum I guess

You are very right
if she want to contribute
Not some women that say my money is my money
My husband money is our money
My wife make more money than me now because she run a small business
I use to make more than her
She gave me great Father's day gift rider lawn mower for 1700.00

pharmking: [b]This is the most funny thing I read a while on msnbc about the perfect man, women wants. Please read. it is fun
According to the poll by Austin Reed, the perfect man earns about $77K a year, drinks beer and drives an Audi.


30.Calls mom regularly

Sorry
$77,000.00 is not lot of money
You are still struggle class
You have a house that is close to 300,00.00
Student loan
Car loan
credit card bill
Cell phone and internet
Cable bill
Money to Nigeria
Your Vacation money

acidtalk: When young Nigerian men complain today on how their wives don't give them full respect as the man of the house unlike during their childhood days when their mothers basically 'worshipped' and feared their fathers. She dare not disobey his instructions and even if she was displayed at his actions, she doesn't point it out to his face in the public.

What so many (larger percentage) men of this generation fail to realize is that, their Fathers catered for the needs of the family 100% without asking a dime from his wife to support the family. Bust now, its a norm for men to share responsibilities with their wives like Feeding, house rent, power, water, security, childrens school fees, dstv, phone, feeding and even groceries bills with their wives and this same men expect to get 100% (full) respect and accord from their wives?

Where on earth is it possible for one 'partner in business' to be a slave to another when you hold equal or sometimes majority investment in the business.

Nigerian men if you want 100% respect and loyalty from your wives, then start taking 100% responsibility of the needs of the family and home from.

Dumb A??
Men that are doing 100% still don't get the respect
Today is different from 1970
In the developed countries of the world it now takes two income to support a family
Year back my man will have two cars in the garage, a house that is today 300,00.00 (in 19770 the same house was 40,00.00) mid-class income of 45,000.00
Women are have good education as man today and better income
So keep your BS to yourself

Vikin: Nice post.

But believe me, YOU GO SOON TIRE!


The best is just be yourself...

Treat him like your bestfriend and not your boss!

That the fun of having your man.

After all the wahala at work, and plenty assignment with your boss, i face another boss at home?

Me, when i have a rough time at work and more exhausted than him, he takes over.

He is just my best friend..if he makes me angry...we know how to settle it instead of all these formal bulcrap! Anyway, thats my opinion.

Why do you think she will be tired
All our experience in life is different
We men are hard head. If you treat me like she said
You easily take every thing from me
If you want to force things on me and talk to me like you are my boss
Bring it on

slimyem: you can do all of the above and the man still wouldn't worship,adore or respect you if he wouldnt!

Bad belly
Lot of men will appreciate you

She will get money from her sugar Daddy

Gospella: It is more honourable for a lady not to rip off a guy pretending to love and be willing to marry him only to abandon him for another guy. We must learn to treat others the way we desire to be treated. Many men see the money they spend on a woman they intend to marry as an imvestment that would yield benefits in the future. It becomes a big loss when the woman and the money are gone forever. But love gives in spite of the odds and does not demand anything in return .however,love that is not mutual is tough to maintain.


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Get real
Nigerian "We must learn to treat others the way we desire to be treated."
It is me , me, me mentality

You heard it from men and women
So what are you going to do?
Sell yourself short
Move on

Gospella: But nobody is saying anything about the lady who abandoned this guy. He is so shattered and is hurting!
Ladies should not in the guise of love rip off men.

Old story
Women 419
Use the dude to get to UK met other dude in UK
Now the dude that paid the school fee is history