₦airaland Forum

Zzor:
Thanks darling, I don't know what their problems are on this forum, we all have our choices so do men,so why are they condemning mine is what I don't understand

King44:
Pele o, PA Burna.

King44:
kuku pay me lemme spy on him. Jokes apart, he has a baby mama and you know he keeps things off the media... He only showed the baby mama and his child once on instagram and that is maybe 3 or 4 years back.

King44:
though true but he has a baby mama who bore him a son

pocohantas:
Same here. He has all the major qualities;

Rich, good-looking, no pot-belly, family oriented and mysterious. I am working hard to marry him before I am 50.

emmaodet:
Nawaaaaaa for nija relationship.
Money for hand, back for ground pattern.
I pity men wey dey carry relationship for head like gala.
Las las, everybody go dey ok

jaxxy:
All the things u mentioned are nice bt not enough for Smtn serious. Commitment goes beyond funny jokes. If sm1 loves u they don’t need sex to show or prove it to u. Love is selfless to a large extent. And sex isn’t love. In other words there’s nothing memorable he has done bedsides being funny?? Ok

If he can’t move a finger for u he’s probably not serious about u. Point blank. If u want to waste ur time any further ure free.

I’m not going to say if he loves u or not bt the doubts are very strong.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
Well he confided in me sometime that his business wasn't going so well, And it was bothering him , I was able to get some of my friends to help out , and they did , he appreciated it of course, during this time I was okay at my own side , I was trying to refer him around too, so now I got quite unlucky and I literally fell out of balance, I exhausted everyone on my emergency help list before I swallowed my pride and revealed my unpleasant situation to him, we talked about it , but after the talk he left me to my fate , I didn't bother asking him about it , I still managed but something serious happened and I needed whatever it was I could get , after disturbing ppl as usual I came to him and told him what happened , I can't give details here , he did not even budge , he just asked this and that and then avoided it , which is why I felt like maybe now that I'm weak I should stay away and fix myself, I find it hard because I really love him a lot but it seems so....wrong

endsarrrs:
"I need a job". . .hmm i thought you were happy with that guy caring & giving u money making you feel happy. Why would you need a job? Pitiful

Roseey0:
He must be very young and still isn't planning his future.

Roseey0:
What of those that can't give sex

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

DamZik:
Any woman is see submission as a bondage or slavery should not bother to marry is she should marry a simp. There is no gender equality in marriage.

DamZik:
Then the wife should stop if he refuses. His "yes" should be "yes."

DamZik:
Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Any woman that questions this divine principle can never have a happy home no matter what or else she marries a simp. But I know most ladies don't like a simp as husband. The secrets of happy, fulfilling home are submission and love. Then you will the practicality of Heaven on earth.

DamZik:
Because he is your head. He has authority over you.

DamZik:
Because he is your head. He has authority over you.

kepstone:
That guy should go and give testimony in church you exited his life and he dodge a major bullet. You equate love to money, hear u my rich boyfriend. Guy i keep saying the best time to know if a lady loves u is when you are climbing the ladder. Don't marry a woman dt never contributed anything to your life. Oh my God i remember how my ex dealt with me despite everything i did for her, never ill i use money to buy or influence love. If its not coming naturally its not God sent

Frustrated007:
lie..
If you guys weren't that desperate to get married, then why all these kayamata and juju shit on social media?
Women and self deception are like 5 and 6.
It's very hard to find a woman who can be at least honest with herself.

lucky4west:
love is good money is equally good....pray and seek God's direction, don't follow physical attraction and resources....life is a funny place...a lady very close to me once had this dilemma u are having, she choose the rich guy over the poor guy who just graduated but very poor.....20 yrs later when they met again the table had turned, she was broke and her marriage packed up, separated and her once- rich guy (husband)now poor and the once poor guy now very rich and his wife having all the goodies and driving an SUV.. she narrated all these to me while in deep sorrow and tears, till date she cant forget that decision she made...so u must pray and wait for God's directive...do not be in a hurry to ditch the poor guy and do not be in a rush to accept the rich guy...

ojuu4u:
ND holder at 35 who refused to hustle but whole depends on girlfriend's money is a big lazy ass

She did say the other guy is rich ,but financial stable man.

Who told you if Op give chance for financial stable guy, that love won't come up.

If the yeye boyfriend, mistakenly gets money, he might change and become uncaring man, mind you op says she loves him, not that he don't have flaws ooo

Lover boy is behaving good & nice now, just cos he sees his maga fiancee as shield, if not he will die of malnutrition

That love will evaporate within second wen they finally married and only her foots bills.

ojuu4u:
I think you are the one, aligning with nolywood stuff here, love can not push koboless marriage to anywhere, its either it grounded or scatter.

Someone who is working and got broke, can easily rise up again far much more that indolent lazy ass from adam.

A guy of 35 with only ND cert refused to work since he clocks 27-35 now, forming handsome bobo with yeye love.

In fact, OP is her own bigger enemy, she refused to give space for financial stable guy in her heart, that is why she is not loving him, if she tenders her heart, provided the 2nd guy is a good guy, the love will come up less than a month.

Bye Bye to yeye Boyfriend oooo

Just imaging, naija guy wants to go for marriage without doing anything! Where is Africanism in you?

Lambarry1:
This your so called rich guy I can bet he is a salary earner. Probably a banker. Lol because he is wearing shirt ant tie driving to work every day in second hand tokunbo car forming busy and rich for you that's your definition of richness. Nigerian girl with low IQ. Una plenty. Majority of you dont even know what being a woman is. Instead of you to seek the face of God to reveal your partner to you in the journey of life ...you have already arrived at a destination even before starting by prioritizing. Fools! Fools! Foolish ... you dont even know anything about life . Do you even know if any of the 3 of you will live until the said wedding day.

Mrscarter:
Yeah help Ur man rise. That's wat love is

MadeMan01:
Are you saying love is stupid/irrelevant? Why waste time dating if it's irrelevant? Why not just sit back and wait for arrangee marriage

InvertedHammer:
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Wait until money enters his hands, they you will know if he truly loves you. Then you will resort to "after I suffered with him". You have no control over how someone feels about you. You can only go with what s/he tells you. You may be his only hope and he has to remain loyal for now. Let's see how love can pay rent and school fees.

You are wasting your life with a 35 years financially unstable man. If he were to be 25...then may be.

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misterniyi:
This is a rather selfish statement.

You have completely judged the poor man

I did not have money when I was 35. So imagine someone had judged me then.......without knowing about today.

I also know people who had money at 35 and are now broke as broke.......that one too nko?

LIfe is as it comes. You are broke....keep striving......you are rich.......dupe tie and stop judging someone who is trying to be

koyyes:
Nothing wrong with that ..I just sense that her so-called bf is very greedy.

tallerSSS:
I dey feel say that man dey lazy.. he lacks ideas how to make things better for himself, all him Sabi na love and woman Yash. Babe see ehn! No give am that thing for like 3month, just watch as him go start to hustle like tomorrow no de