₦airaland Forum

Olaideolayemi:
...Sister that your comment is not good enough.. Things can change tomorrow... Money is not everything...

braine:
If a guy/girl is broke at 35, thats a big red flag.

Its not about the money. Money comes and goes. But do you have resources/skills that can bring in cash flow? Is he educated? To what level? Does he have a sellable skill? Does he have work experience that can propel him to get a job?

If the answers to all of these questions are mostly no, my sister, its best you let him be to figure out his life.

toye440:
I keep telling ppl marriage no get manual. Some months back we had this debate about getting the right woman in most cases na luck.
Imagine our fathers, they never attended any marriage counseling yet no divorce. On the contrary today we pass through 6months of marriage counselling and yet divorce few yrs down the line.
I wish it works out like a movie script with a happy ending but life is not a nollywood script were u can tell how the end looks like.
From her narration its a no no from me. But we dont know if the guy is industrious and learned, cos some broke guys only need a push and they will light up the whole place.

koyyes:
That negroe may not marry you. Stop dating financially unstable negroes. It's a gamble. You have everything to lose.

When they have money, that's when you will see their true colors. He is pobably among the typical frustrated nairalanders using a moniker that you know nothing about forming redpill and negroe version of alpha.

Guy self no dey shame say you dey feed am. If he can't afford to get married, why be in a relationship?

LordIsaac:
You don't know the meaning of the word love. What you described above negates the concept and it's pure self centredness.

seanwilliam:
u go sabi write film die

willingheart:
I'm trying all I can. It gets difficult as he has no support from even his family members. I've given his CV to quite number of people to help, but no positive outcome till now.
He had OND, I don't know about getting a well paying job with that result, but so long as he have something to manage, it's fine. But right now, nothing. I feel responsible for every of his things. In marriage, I'm not sure I can handle that all alone and I really want to settle down.

chinchonglee:
What did u buy for him on his birthday?

pocohantas:
You didn’t lie. I think people who say otherwise about then haven’t lived closely with them. Those women can sell even broom to feed their kids. They can hustle ehn. Their men get away with a lot.

willingheart:
I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.


He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.

Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.

Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.

My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me.
I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.

Married people in the house please help.
I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?

JovialJune:
You are 30 for goodness sake, pls go for a financially stable guy, money is important in marriage don't let anyone coarce you to manage or cope with rubbish, Nigeria isn't smiling lately, if you marry that guy, that lovey dovey will vanish when you experience suffering, use your head pls.

TheLionofLasigi:
No it's largely because Yoruba women from the time of moremi are largely independent women who can stand on their own, it's why they cannot be controlled, the unfortunate thing is that strong independent women hardly focus on the financial capability of their spouses, thus they end up with the irresponsible ones the society has to offer, truthfully it's only a Yoruba woman that will be sponsoring one stupid boy's education because of love.

pocohantas:
This guy sef!!
They can’t be completely useless na.

As for Cuppy, I don’t know her to have dated anyone irresponsible. I don’t even think she has dated any of those guys she famz. A lady can be flirting around with you in public, because nothing dey involved. But the day she sees your nakednèss, all that will change.

Cuppy is just an easy person. Nigerians are too hard on her.

lekki1444:
in the SW people have pride. they dont use their daughter as poverty alleviation scheme lol

perrydolla:
Am dating a guy who is older than me but I feel he is the best for me now because he gives me attention and cares for me but the has someone whom he has been dating for 5yrs now and I know about it. I feel he has plans on settling down with the lady because his family knows about his relationship with the lady. Pls I need your advice.

Sebastine1994:
i came back from work on Friday to discover that my wife has ran away with our son and some properties in the house, my neighbor said she is a bad woman that I should let her go, they caught her in adultery and she ran away because of shame.

for the first time in my life I discovered that I have not played my role as a husband. I was just focused on bringing back money home for the family and forgot the sexual responsibility, I agree I am at fault too. but if I calculate all the bride price I spent and wedding cost, I feel like going to bring her back. if not for her sake but for the baby, please advice is needed now

she is an igala while I am igbo,

generationz:
Are you normal Mutty? I respect you but this is complete trash. He was raping/Abusing teenagers and you are talking about sin?

He deserves to be in jail whether he went to the throne of heaven and begged God personally or not.

You people will have daughters o. Develop a conscience and stop hiding behind fake religious humility.


The other day, Fatoyinbo an alleged rapist sat with Oyedepo and people were talking about people being judgemental for calling him out.

I no blame una. Na the way we dey run things in Nigeria. CAN is dead and buried. A pastor was accused by multiple women of rape and wasn't called and questioned by the disciplinary committee. Didn't step down or ask for forgiveness. He just continued as if the ladies who were molested can go to hell.

If we don't call them out how do the women who were molested find closure? How do they trust God again since vipers like this claim to be men of God?

The bastard up there carried out virginity walks and organized virginity day while molesting teens and you are talking about human judgment. He is lucky he isn't in the old testament. What happened to Aarons's sons? What happened to Eli's sons having sex at the door of the temple?


This Covid 19 has exposed the true nature of many pastors and who they truly are. The political terrain exposed them even more.


Churches have been instrumental in helping people and rehabilitating many. It has helped with development and job/business creation for the poor masses.

But most church leaders around the world have also been exposed as phonies. If they had any fire, it has long been exchanged for monetary gain from politicians.

stanech:
What makes them unequal? Maybe you should ask sports organisers why we have separate events for men and women, or maybe you should ask why the cosmic gave women the super ability to bare children or let's ask why we have different reproductive organs, i can list 30 differences between men and women off the top of my head. And these differences are the reasons why we are not equal

stanech:
The whole modern feminist thing is confusing, If you get close to them you will see they are just men haters and nothing more, Women are men are never and cannot be equal. There are incomparable differences between both genders and I actually think they were made to compliment each other. My thought though

NeoWanZaeed:
Let me play your game. . Broke man go blow someday. . U are broke, u are hopeless, ur pussy is your office .u think the only way u can make it in life is to jam one rich guy neck. . Rich guy that was never poor. . Just face ur osho and stay hopeless

Angelfrost:
Trust me... What those friends of mine call pocket change is something you won't earn running 3 jobs in a day.

Then again, believe whatever makes you feel better about yourself.

BabaIbo:
Why calling Imo State here? You can respond to his reply without state-shaming others.

The funny thing here is, you might be one broke person in reality but here you are typing senseless stuff about others.

It is a known fact that Imo men are the best when it comes to taking care of their family, that is why they don't have high rate of murder between couples, adultery etc, the way your state do.

You can deny this but it is the fact.

Angelfrost:
Leave them... It is already backfiring on them. Go research the region with highest number of desperate and aging spinsters.

A lot of my friends from there either married from abroad, from less greedy regions, or are simply co-habiting.

They will eventually bow to the pressures of the fast changing times!

livinbygrace:
Nothing wey you wan write wey go surprise us,the fact remains,if you no get money it will very very very hard to marry an igbo girl.

Aguilar:
No matter how tempting an igbo woman is, once I hear that she's igbo. I go just japaa

NeoWanZaeed:
Let me play your game. . Broke man go blow someday. . U are broke, u are hopeless, ur pussy is your office .u think the only way u can make it in life is to jam one rich guy neck. . Rich guy that was never poor. . Just face ur osho and stay hopeless

NeoWanZaeed:
YOU WILL SAY RITUALIST not rich guy. . No guy wud marry or date u with this ur mentality except ritualist. . Be like say dem don use u xef. .talking trash confidently. . . B like say na brothel u dey live xef