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Lisaflex:
Whether na electric shock or clinical state of shock, he cheated(especially after he admitted flowing with it for a little while)... Getting emotionally invested in someone who isn't your significant other without even touching the person is cheating, talk more of getting physical(a kiss in this case).

hopefulLandlord:
Cheating isn't limited to YOUR intent, it also comprise ignoring the obvious intent of the person ready to cheat with you and it would take a very obvious biased mind to think the guy in the story didn't read the obvious intent of the woman before the kiss happened. subtle and obvious greenlights were given by her including her metamorphic stalking. cheating doesn't have to be until you sink your dick in the vagina of someone else.


Biglittlelois keeps hammering it not because she thinks its cheating - I think - but because most guys out there would adjudge it to be cheating if the gender were reversed!!!!! this is the subtle point of hers that apparently flew over (almost) everyone's heads which is summed up in the post below




Let me be clear on something though. I'm not saying she's right and I'm not agreeing with her at all. I just think it's unfair how most responders have been tackling her rather than her point. you just took your time to address her point which is what reasonable people should do not going personal

Lisaflex:
Lmao @ "I know my wife or gf can't initiate the kissing "..I'm sure the husband of that woman feels the same way.

"Suddenly" is the word you used here, but the op admitted to flowing with it for a while. There's a difference.

"Is like u dont know what it takes for a full grown married man in this day and age to reject such a luscious offer sha". With this statement, you just made it clear that you are lowering the standard because it's a man that is involved ...My dear it is also a huge deal for a woman(married or not) in this day and age to have self control...We've all got blood flowing through our veins.

It's your 100%,so it's okay if you insist on giving it to the op...Just make sure that you also give a woman who finds herself in op's situation a 100%. That's my humble submission.

Lisaflex:
Really? If it were to be a woman (your wife/girlfriend) who kissed a man but didn't have sex with him, will you give her 100%?

Do not even think of lying...We both know the answer.

Op tried, but a 100%? Mbanu! I no gree chacha.

BluntBoy:
It is not only things like this that people are scared to tell their wives about.

Let me tell you a full story. Like I wrote earlier, while I was still a pastor, a married woman kissed me suddenly on my lips. I told my fiancée (at that time) and she made a mess of it. Till we broke up, she used the word "cheat" on me every time we had a quarrel.

To reveal things like this, you have to understand your spouse. Some people can be understanding while some can be extreme and overreact. Like a wife whose story I heard. Who slapped a woman because she found the woman sitting in the front seat with her husband. The woman turned out to be her husband's big aunty.

OP knows his wife better than we do. If he thinks the incident would break his home, then there is nothing bad in keeping it away from his wife.

Thegamingorca:
He suppose fuk am oh

Daeylar:
You want us to clap for you that "resisted temptation" When you've already cheated? Kissing IS cheating.

Men doing the bare minimum as usual (this isn't even bare minimum, less than bare minimum) and yet still expecting trophies and praise

If it was a guy (who you suspected to be gay,) or lady you didn't feel sexually attracted to in the least who was falling on you anyhow in the bus wouldn't you Have told him/her to sit well?
If it was a guy (or the above mentioned lady) who grabbed you & attempted, (just attempted) to kiss you, would have gotten lost in the kiss or would you have pushed him away immediately he attempted to try it and told him to leave your room?

I ReSisTEd TeMPtaTIoN

Cheater.


I like the way you write though.

DedeNkem:
You kissed her and still had the guts to claim you resisted temptation! So you think kissing someone who isn't your wife is not cheating? LOL.

You should have fcked her as well!

lakkyflow:
I am very happy at this comment .. More also I will say kissing and having sex with each other is both the same. So if another person had sex with her , you guys are both in the same level ..

zed7:
Shut up little girl. Anyone can get carried with a kiss, it's allowing yourself get carried away and going further that is the issue. Yes, I will forgive a partner for a kiss and not more. All these kids on NL who know nothing about life.

hopefulLandlord:
Biglittlelois is making a good point here that everyone else seems not to get because "its coming from a frustrated woman"

I feel the ad hominems thrown at her are done to avoid addressing her point head on

nuelsam:
baba ignore her.... We fvcking know their types....... They think all men are pussy, they think all men are stupid enough to do their biddings, they think all men are YES MEN..... Bullshit, how stupid could it sound? a lady tried to straff me which i resisted whilst telling my wife that i cheated on her..... Rubbish.

lefulefu:
pls oo advice those young guys that will use the tuition fee given to them by their parents to throw a birthday party for their girlfriends

Mariangeles:
Happy birthday dude !

Wishing many more years, with success,good health and massive wealth.

Mariangeles:
Iwo gangan l'ode!
Oni iranu

MissJoy29:
I love your number 4. It's deep! And it helps me not to judge others too much or be hard on them.

BareFacedLies:
Mr man bear in mind that at some point you will still cheat on your wife...it's just a matter of time!

The reason why you were able to resist now is cos your marriage is still relatively new.

It's better to cheat with a married woman who will not want tibtrap you with a pregnancy and who is also less likely to infect you with a disease.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
They have mind ooooo.. How can a sane person be baptised by another man's watery shit just for monetary gains And the crazy thing is, you have to feign you love it.

GrabHisBalls:
Sorry, I don't have access to this email. All thanks to Lalas.

You can send a mail to X. Let me know when you've seen this so I can delete.

GrabHisBalls:
Hahaha.

Leave me alone, joor!

GrabHisBalls:
The world is coming to an end. Just imagine what married people are doing? Why is it so hard to stay faithful to one man/woman.

I may end up being single all my life 'cause my worst fear is being with an unfaithful partner. If his wife finds out now, she may start feeling inadequate.

JejeNaija:
I tire for the babe ooo.

Candiesramah:
I've been a quest. Decided to start using the forum.

JejeNaija:
So in all you have said even though you didn't answer my question, what is the point of igniting a situation that is not worth it when you have done what you could to resist it? Is a stupid kiss worth destroying the happiness of your home?

Biglittlelois:
Mr man, sane people wouldn't like to quote you too obviously

You guts should realize that sex is not the only form of cheating, there are different types, Google on that cos it's obvious you are not well informed

In Op's case, what happen to pushing her away when she was moving towards his face

Biglittlelois:
You are a clown, you obviously don't have any point to make, I'm done with you.

Biglittlelois:
I will ignore your first comment.


That is not 100% performance, he shouldn't be scared of telling his wife if to him he didn't cheat, simple as that.

SageMK:
This is why I hate quoting people on Nairaland.

They always find a way to twist someone's word and use it against that person after failing flat to comprehend.

Please where did I approve that a married woman or man can kiss someone cos it's a moment of weakness?

I only pointed that out because he wasn't even the one that initiated the kissing. She first kiss him & he kissed
back... That could have been instinctive?

After gaining back his senses, he stopped her.
So how's that cheating?

Seems like you have no idea what cheating is.

Biglittlelois:
If kissing is not cheating you won't be scared to tell your wife, you will convince her it's not cheating that it is just locking lips and exchanging of saliva, you did not resist 100%.