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OMG!!!!!!!!Hmmmm,i pray my daughter's guardian angel will protect her from the evil of these days!who would have thought your daughter is not safe in your house?
Something like this just happend in my neigbourhood,1 woman kept her 4+ year old daughter wt her pastor neigbour,came back to meet her daughter soiled with poo and blood only for her to discover she was bleeding through her vaginal while cleaning her up,na d pastor 16yr old DAUGHTER touched her till d baby poo on herself.she wore pad for a week !Lord please KEEP watch on our lil girls!

The dress has been on sales in H&M for 10pounds for over a month now,thank God i did not buy it !

What your mother inlaw is doin is far from normal,please pray over this and keep cool.does you hubby know you are buying a car?il advise you buy in both your names so that the tension in the home dont rise more!

Congrats sir oo,i hope to share my testimony soon IJN!

u sound like a size8-10?if u don dey near size 16-18,u go hate am!

Not this ibo man beside my house,he drinks and chill with touts all day,causing trouble and fighting everyone in the estate+i just got to know he has a wife and 2kids

pishon:
Thanks for all the replys, I asked him now what was his reply to his mum he said he didn't say anything but I think he has made up his mind to get d house I just hope the mum won't be thinking I'm the. One behind his decision cause its too early to be having issues with MIL.

Please be careful ma,how would you feel if ur son that lives with you got an appartmnt without telling you about it?haba!its a right decision to tell his mom but how he handles the mom's opinion is the issue,he knows what he wants and am sure that is what he will,this does not make him a mummy's boy too+i cant marry a man that does nt like his mother though cos it should give an insight to how you will be treated!
about the house....to everyone that thinks they should stay with the parens:do you know the level of the project?the man earns low income too so how many more years before the house is done?how much progress will 70k add to the construction?its a house not a shop oo!

All i see from the picture is women being the ROCK of the home,yes my hubby is a big baby,Yes i take care of everything with any help i get,YES I AM HAPPY doin it because i have a happy home and its worth it!

dinachi:
Some reactions here confirms that a lot of guys here are either shemales or something is seriously wrong with their heads.
1, I lost respect for the poster when he said he told his father he has lost a son. For starters, parents have a lot of hold spiritual and physical over their children even when the kids are grown and you must REMEMBER that whatever you did to your father under whatever guise will always come back to you. Your own son will tell you exactly the same thing and confront you in anger.Mark my words!
2, Again the OP made the fatal error of thinking he was now mates with his father to confront him anyhow. Some extremely foolish boys of nowadays make such silly mistakes always taking sides with their mother against their fathers .They are children of perdition, who have absolutely no regard for their kind. The are quick to judge their fathers but very slow to extend the same ccourtsies to their mother. I love my mother to bits but will NEVER interrfer with her relationship with my lovely dad.
3, If I am slapped for whatever reason by my father, I will go away with shame not come here to think about how to plan revenge against a man that carried me in his organ for years before even meeting my mum.
4, A fathers curse can cripple OP for life and render his life totally useless.
5, I can bet that OP confronted his dad angrily and I am very sure that had it been the mum that slapped the dad, he would not have reacted the same way.
6, Finally If OP is wise he should get wine, go on his knees and beg his father to forgiveness and stop listening from advice from foolish women.

Seriously?he should get wine and kneel for defending his mother?no curse can work on a child that is not wrong abeg,he dint even slap him back,please re-read ur post,ha!

fem29:
Very disappointed

U read my mind ma!

texazzpete:
Bully? Me? My friend, I am giving him sterling advice here.




People always find an excuse to allow them live with their weakness.




There is space in my father's house. a large portion of all Nairaland adults have space in their fathers houses too. Is that why he will remain a burden permanently?
I fail to understand your point about saving rent money. Are you seriously saying he doesn't contribute to the rent money even while staying with his dad? And he is a man in his late 20's.
The standard model is, a father trains his kids up until adulthood (which in the Nigerian context usually means until they graduate from University, complete NYSC and get a job). Why would anyone linger on and on until he is chased out?
The father's reaction should tell you how the fellow is now being seen as a parasite.




Atrocious grammar aside, you sound very foolish. Do you know me?
I can understand your ire sha. You're probably in a parasitic situation with your parents right now. Your type is the one that still stays in the boys quarters even after marriage. After all, why waste money on rent, eh? Maybe you should even convince the OP to keep running home for breakfast and lunch so he can save money on food. Smh

At least, if i'm being laughed at, it will not be by anyone from my family. I was out of the house and paying house rent right after NYSC at 23.

Congratulations sir o,you have done what nobody else could,at 23 u say?dont get me started on what so many young dudes of that age can/has achieved,you are not special and should not have spoken to the op that way,you are obvioulsy a spoilt kid who thinks life is a joke,il not give you 1 more thought as i am far from where you are in life!

loomer:
Wat if a lady rants in front of ur dad, and rains abuses on him, will he be wrong to slap such lady at a point in time where the insult has gone out of hand?

Yes o,VERY WRONG,hes stronger than her for one and am sure a good dad will never disrespect his kids by slapping a lady!

texazzpete:
Moral of the story?

Go make some money for yourself. How can you be in your late 20's, still be living with your parents and be whining about 'losing a son'? As far as your dad is concerned, you've moved to the 'Parasite' stage. He's probably in church now, doing dry fast to pray to God that you don't change your mind about moving out.





BWAHAHAHAHAHA!! 'Personality'? You're a freaking grown man in his late 20s that's still living with his daddy and mummy and you think anyone respects you in your area? you're probably the community laughing stock behind your back.

You are just a bully sir,did u read him say his mum stopped him from moving out before?so if theres space in his dad's house and hes nt married yet,he should b wasting money for rent?and your kind is usually the one being laughed!

loomer:
SURE, WE ARE ALL PROTECTIVE OF OUR MOTHERS, BUT WE NEED ALSO DO THINGS THE RIGHT WAY

So if you see a bus conductor slap a lady,ul ask him what she did first?theres no right way to act when your mum just got a slap right infront of u and the neigbours,haba,the man respects no one,am happy the op gave him back as though he got slapped,it wil even save the mom's face when shes walking on the street!

arak4love:
some people self are so funny, because ur father slapped you so d next thing forr u is to pack out? i wonder if u are really a true son or ur bible or quran dont teach u aw to behave to ur parents? even if he beats u he is still ur father and u are still under him

Mschew,she oro niyen?
Op i applaud you for not raising back your hand because i know how hard it wouldv felt.a 60 year old woman is being slapped by her hubby and her grown up son does nt have the right to say anything?shame to y'all that thinks so!you are grown up sir and u should tell him the things nobody else can.thank you for standing up for ur mother,please dont move yet,if he could slap her while you are around itl b worse if otherwise!

i just weaned my baby too but i expressd and disposed the milk ni,ur boobs will dry up with time if u express,by the third day it stoped being full so i dint express again!

hahhahahaaahaa,ds Op is cracking me up ,he doesnt think anything is wrong with his posts,dnt mind them jare Op,they want ur gf's boobs to fall ni!

Why would any use such word on the person you Love?it will keep ringing in thier ears but wait o,it cant b her first time,shed have been calling small small names and the Op not telling her its bad

Renaj:
Thank you Sir, am very much in love. That is why am seeking for advice so l wouldn't be blinded by emotions. As Urchbabie said, l need to see the business kick off before any other thing, to avoid stories that touch......

Very scary o as you are over-protective of him already(that is what he wants u to feel),if you are not careful,ul end up marrying him out of pity because you dont want to hurt him like d other lady,please pray and watch carefully,theres a reason why hes still single at 35 that you dont know!

moca:
@yadoctora,thank u.
Simple as abc.

@ marvellousGod, if the person likes the treatment,then why complain?
Abi u want me to tag A as B?
Realities of life are harsh my dear. Not what most of us paint here.
At times u have to be hash in other to survive.
If per adventure that man marries a new wife today who will not tolerate this,i tell u the man must adjust. It is a must
How u make ur home is how u want it to be.

My hubby grew up with dozens of househelp.
Till date,they still have plenty of them living with his daddy

So this automatically made him a lazy fellow when at home cos everything is always taken care of.

When we married, I don't want such and I groomed him into participating in d house.
Period.
When his dad came to visit(he even came with one) he was shocked that his boy can bath baby,enter kitchen while I sitand gist away
He actually complained but hubby told him,this is the right thing to do.
My FIL believed that it's the man's duty to provide,thats all. The wife does the same
We changed that mentality.

U don't condone what u can't stand in d near future cos u wanna be a mrs.
I'm grew up around lots of married ladies that I listened well when they advice me from their well of knowledge so I won't make their mistakes(assuming there is any)

So my dear, it's what u groomed,nurtured that u will reap. Hard fact of life.

No ma,i dont agree with you,your hubby changed his ways to how u want it because he wanted to,u could not have with nagging/whatever.everyone is different hence cnt be treated the same way,my hubby is far from domestic and i knew this rigjt from the start,hes not arrogant and wud nt let me touch anything yl pregnant,we have always had help,y create issues where there is none because someone else's hubby helps her sweep?

EfemenaXY:
So the Family Section is now your hospital / health clinic?

Smh @ a supposedly married man going to great pains to detail strangers about his wife's very intimate issues...

Haba!

Thank you for Lord for what you have done,still doing and what you will do,u alone are Worthy baba!

Op am so sorry about your losses,u have to be strong and determind to make ur mama and brother proud,be the reason why ur dad and sister wants to stay alive.ask God to console you and giv you inner peace,go before Him concerning thw bussiness and see what happens,He will guide ur feet and make u whole,pele!

Boss13:
There is nothing like spiritual attacks that is what I am trying to say. The living has nothing to do with the dead. If the wife is having nightmares she should change her routine. We all have nightmares but changing houses after rent has been paid it just ridiculous to me. The wife can try sleeping with the lights on especially when she sleeps alone or watch a very funny movie. If ghost wan kill am, e go don kill am since but for sure ghosts have no effect on us.

I forgot to add that pastoring is one of the most dubious profession in the world.

Sleeping with the lights on?shed just be lighting the way for em witches !
i pray u dont believe this things the hard way o,they are very real and right under your nose too!
Op was any revelations made abt the house/environment?i n hubby have ad several attacks indicating a lot of darkness in my neigbourhood and its been recently confirmed,only got us closer to God and asking him to protect us as we go about our daily lives till we can afford to move to a better place.your wife as a Christian should take her stand as she has more power than anything else because shes nt sure about the next area you might move to too ,!

would have said my experience but my success is stil on the way ,been trying to get a governmnt/federal govt job for ages!

Wow,i pray she comes back whole n aiit o,young girls ehn,too impatient,they dont get that theyl soon b old enough to visit guys as much as they want,they are being caged till they are matured enough to make good choices!

Achilies:
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it's more than that.
My soul has been tormented by such action of my that death seems to be the only cancellation from this nightmare I brought up on myself

Please forgive yourself,if it was not your dad's time to leave,he would not have died!

princesslucy83:
She was not ready for Marriage. what if she catch you slaming a gal, would she die?
only Sms she wants DIVORCE,

SHE NEVER CHI CHUM CHIN.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\

Really?are u sure you are female?

delishpot:
I do not need your prayers. I forgive you. I was angry at the way you felt you had a right to insult me just because you felt you could. I do not have anger issues, look at what you typed and look at mine, tell me who has anger and pride? I was able to calm down, sheath my sword and move on, you on the other hand felt this is another oportunity to show you are boss, to bring me down to my kbees properly, to pick on whom you percieve to be weak and to overcome me and emerge the winner. You did not win, you have shown how small minded you are, it shows you are a hypocrite. I was angry and meant every word I typed, calmed down because I came to realise that not all humans are smart. You are quick to insult or as you put it abuse because that is how small your brain can think,. I am and will be who I believe I should be. And yes, I will try to manage my feelings cos I know there are many pigs in this world who will like to drag me into their dirty muddy world. I refuse to stoop low. Not because I dont know what to say or cant give fire for fire as yoU can see already that I can give back in 3 folds what any one gives to me. Not because I do not know how to fight dirty but because I choose not to be dirty.
Maybe, just maybe one day you will come to know the humility and true nature of the God you spoke about in one of the topics you posted. Maybe then, you will see that turning the other cheek isnt being cowardly or weak but its about self restraint and respect for all irrespective of beliefs, experiences, ideas and life style.
Do not tell me God bless me, you clearly meant that as an insult.
The cautious movement of a lion does not mean the lion is a coward.
People like me exist and I know if you continue like this, if you carry about insulting people and think its a Just because word. Then you will meet people like me in person, and they will deal with you "just because" you insult or as you put it, abuse them.

Haba madam,you have derailed the thread already!!!

Hotstepper:
Instead of being scared, take a lot of time to pray and tell your God what you want and it shall be given unto you.

My 2 pregnancies were painless nd no contractions. Infact, the doctors are still wondering how that's possible. You can imagine them telling me to imagine pooing so I can push. 2 pushes and babies are out. Mind u, I just had a baby 5 months ago.

I tell God what I want and the funny this is cuz I don't feel pain or contraction, God always lead me to the hospital at the right time nd am always told I would have delivered at home if I wasted like 20 more mins

The God that did urs will do my next one oo,mehnnn,i screamed for more dn 24hrs

jaybee3:
How is this a practical solution Ma'am?
Patience on what exactly or God will just perform miracles without her actively seeking practical solutions?

So you didnt see the steps she said shes taken Mr Practical?