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The sofa goes for how much sir?

Here we go again.....!must any innocent post on family section be turned to a ground for brawls?what if his wife likes him calling the shots?they both own the baby and if the man thinks that thing can harm the baby then she should buy and wear by force?please enough of this fights abeg,no b only you oo!

Please let these women be o,any wise woman will think twice before taking to their advice.na them type hubby dey blow everymorning,so pretentious!

Chei am so sorry ma'am,may God give u more reasons to smile and move on!

babyosisi:
If I found out today my husband did 250 abortions with 100 girls ,before he met me,it won't end the marriage at the position we are in today
That news is not enough to end it
I will be shocked to my bones but it it's not enough to make me leave
I never asked if he sponsored any abortions
That is useless info to me
So if someone comes today to tell me he did,it is still useless information
Shocking but useless at this point


Same way if he heard I slept with okonkwo and okeke before meeting him ,it won't end things
He knew I had a past obviously
So kini big deal
Am I sleeping with okeke and okonkwo today?

But if u sleep with them today ud never tell him and u love him as much as staying with him even if hes killed in d past?all this negates eachoda op!

She might not b guilty o,please dont be so sure+visit a man of God or pray vehemently with her too,the only reason for such in ds naija is diabolical!

i dnt know who this ladies are angry with,there is nothing you can do to change the fact that its ur kitty-kat dt has d hymen to b broken,its ur body dt bears d cross of what uv done in d past not the man's.that is y men's past seems overlooked.will a single father have difficulty getting a wife?na him go carry d pregnancy?na him boobs go sag?will d guy incase of abortion b d one being drilled during D&C?there is nothing like gender equality because we are made differently.hardly wil a lady boast of having slept wt this guy n dt one but c our men.
i agree we all av one/2 things better left forgotten but let it b silly things u did as a child not while fully grown and concious of the consequences.
during my marriage counselling,the pastor asked me how many men have slept with(luckily for me tis just my oga ),he asked him same but he cudnt talk,d man sed he knws dt he myt nt b able to say it but dt he shld look me in d eye and appologise sincerely because he has bin sharing what belonged to me with diffrnt people!
No secret remains forever pls,couples should better spill all while trying to know eachoda so if u cant love ursefs and ur pasts then move on,how will u be at peace knowing uv aborted befor and ur hubby doesnt know?and you say ur vows conveniently?
am nt judging anyone please,just knw that NOTHING is HIDDEN UNDER the SUN!

freecocoa:
I may not agree with all the points made by the OP, but of what use is the abortion tale to the man? This is in a situation where nothing went wrong, that is.

,and you will still pray together?ask for a better life together?the man that married you and the father of ur kids does nt have the right to know uv done such befor?you only think nothing went wrong,alot did/still is till u let him cos even if its in 50yrs,d past wil still comeback to rub u and him in d face!

babyosisi:
I didn't read about celebration of death
She is just not mourning his death but living her life
They are not the same

Yes I encourage divorce in situations where a woman's life is in danger and I know you have a problem with it but I don't care
If your sisters get with monsters you can encourage them to stay,I will ask mine to leave
Even women who mourn are made to sometimes swear they didn't kill a man who died of natural causes
Almost every widow in Nigeria gets blamed for her husbands death,is that a new thing?

Aunty but if she was a man and he looks good and glows when the cheating wife just died would you still think so?
what is bad is bad ma,she cudav pretended to mourn the man!

She will smile again,tell her to keep her hopes up in God,He will give her joy in due time,i pray that He will shine his face upon her in ds dark times,if she visits the hosiptal,shell thank God for her own!

Chai......see the number of pages wasted on you said this i mean that,haba,i no longer enjoy family section bcause of this fights.must everything be about you?state ur opinion on the matter and quit giving us headache,i had to scroll past several pages!!!!!

Op am sure if you brush ur stand of things through ur mom that has been married for this long,she will tell you some things youv never heard.
am sure you are not married yet!

why is sex the only problem u people see?companionship nko?ur kids wil grow wt no father figure til daddy gets bak?nobody to hold ur hands when u have malaria abi when d kids get sick,the woman bcomes the man of the house too!
heard of a lady whose Fiance came frm america to marry and went back after a week,luckily she got preggies and lost it after 2months due to stress.the man had startd the shipping process of a car for her immediatly she got pregnant,when she didt hear abt it for few months she asked him,he sed he stopped it till further notice ,fast froward 2years,the lady kept begging to come/he comes,he says he cnt come when hes not sure another baby will stay to term,imagine that.the lady is a devoted Muslim and hung btw divorce and keeeping on cos she sed the man has totally changed and rarely calls!
If hubby is transferd to Ib from lagos,na to pack up n follow o!

Enough of this ramblings abeg,na d person wey wear shoe knws where it hurts.aunty osisi says she cnt get married twice cos she knows how hard it was to get to a peaceful place with her hubby then she should understand that its differnt challenges for differnt couple,who knows if Op has done worse and d man forgave her?
if she chooses to forgive/divorce dont force her into a choice by screaming ur opinion,she had to come out and say so because yall got selfish,she knws what is best for her family and her own sanity.uv ruined so many posts because of ur argumnts and its amazing how u keep goin round same circle all the time!

Ugly shoes.....!

Its been N3 for my mum's family sinz forever and it will b returned to the groom.it was increased to 5k during my wedding and given back to the groom still.....
all depends on d tribe and d family u marrying from!

You should be happy nt worried na
Are u exclusively breastfeeding ur baby?i did exclusive for six months and my period startd the 7th month.theres nothing wrong ma,it wil come when it wil but please b careful cos u dnt knw wen you wil ovulate so u dnt get preggies again so soon,use ur normal preventive method even though the period has nt strtd yet!

Imagine a daughter not having enough information about her papa's wedding day,and you want to portect him from backlash
u just made it worse sef!

steeze:
And what I did was so terrible that it cannot be forgiven? At least I came back inspite of everything. What about all I suffered in the hands of the mother just because I was trying to do the right thing, to which she was a witness?

I've come to realise that men and women think differently. So while a man might express horror and disbelief that I actually stayed and endured all that, a woman would insist that I should have stayed and tried harder. In the other thread there were some comments tearing me up and insisting I go back to that job. That I am wasting a golden opportunity.

Tell me honestly, would you have advised your brother to do the same?

Please dont bother with comments like this,if u were a woman,theyd av sent u money to run away from such degradation and limitation.

Madam its scary that all your posts is about how to get more sex,haba.pls dont disgrace ur hubby more dn u already have take a lover and shut up about it!

Mine sounds unbelievable but it was just from lagos to ibadan 2months ago,na cry i no fit cry as my 1yr old was stil composed and playing after spending 15hrs cramped in d car toe-fro.we got to ibadan frm lag after 5:30hrs(the intro we went for don finish already)we just ate and got bak on d road arnd 2pm,na 10:30 we enter i swear.funny thing was we got to that abeokuta jucntion smoothly and thought the traffick we met was a joke,after atanding at the same spot for 2hrs,luckily the cars behind us ad begin to reverse to go tru abeokut,we did too and it ws smooth till we got to alagbado....chai,to travel still dey fear me till now!

nickibarb:
for the staying out all night, I've come to accept that it comes with the nature of what he has chosen to do for a living. all i can do is trust him and pray. all i've asked is that he let's me know at night, when he realises that he won't be coming home. at least for my peace of mind. so far he hasn't done it again so lets hope that he has changed.

as for my MIL apology, somewhere in the back of my mind, I know that's what some ppl will advise me to do but I really don't if I have it in me. I feel like all this time she's been acting so nice to me, like maybe it wan't really genuine?

She might have be for real,maybe something triggerd this act?il say u wait a while to see how much longer she kips mum/call you+her coming and not asking after u is scary too considering ur relationship in d past!

Wow....all this is rilly deep.how much force did hubby use dt ur head got smashed?please dnt leave the issue of sleeping out too just cos of the kiss and gifts,u have to address them in a loving way+wat if something tragic had happend?how did he react after seing u wounded?i like that u didnt let all dt happned deter u frm travelling for the test,though i dnt see what u will appologose to MIL for as shes d one in d wrong but if thats what is needed for peace,pls do it!

Shey theres no Mrs Nairaland?he be lyk say i fine small oo!

Op can u move on with her and not remember what she has done?what happens wen she gets bored again yl u are married?and its more scary cos the thought to kill her came to ur mind.it will b harder if she cheats again after forgiving her for this....do u think history will never repeat itsef?if u are confident then forgive her and stat afresh,if otherwise,keep seing the therapist till u heal cos i dnt want to read in the future dt u are convicted for MURDER!

babies are senstive for real,my 15months old daughter cries if anyone cries on Tv
if i tickle hubby/vice versal sef,she go tink say na fight and starts crying+when am angry with the lil girl staying with us too!
i was laughing and crying yesteday when she started crying cos Sanyeri was displaying stupidity lyk he does on tv!

tearoses:
This is what you said, but not lets dwell on it.

Ma'am the guy already stated he cant marry her again in his post,lyk udz,i think you are coming on too strong as you were not present in all that happend,the op knows his mistakes from the begining+ofcourse he is a victim too he just could not endure all that was being said to him but should have thought about the baby and never have asked the girl not to call again!

Halleluyah........lucky u and wify that he came sharperly too

SAMBARRY:
Haaaa waste of money. That one na hamerikan loff o.e no rish here




He should just drop a blank shek in her office. That one is the most romantic gift ever

;Di thought so too,the woman will b so busy thinking about how much he paid d musician that she wont enjoy the music!
OP please buy her feminine things likes bags/shoes/dresses,have them wrapped and deliverd at work,her co-workers wil gossip for week !

you'v got great advices sir,but i dnt subscribe to the one about not checking her fone,there should be nothing private between you two as you have dated for 2years,it means when u married you cant even hold the fone/play with it.if none of you have ad any issues checking each other's fone,pls dnt stop now unless its d way u want it in marriage,God forbid that i cnt play/SEARCH my hubby's fone to c if any sisi has bin oogling him

Its getting difficult to read this last comments,if Op was not bashing himself already,he wnt be here.so all the faults is his now?if he was a girl will u all still say she should wait and work for the mum no matter what?will it be none of the girl's bizness if the mother inlaw changes men like cloths too?did he rape the lady to get her pregnant?i know what so many of u says to a man who stands with his mother during issues o,why did d lady beg her guy to work for her mum in d frst place?none of them thought avt the future is y it got to this.enof of the blame games abeg!
Op,man up,apologise to the lady and the mother as shes been taking care of them in ur absence,show how sorry you are and get to be in ur son's life!

kandiikane:
People do stup!d things. It could be the woman pushed him to do it, who knows, but as someone with such responsibilities, such big purchases should not be made even if you will only be short of funds for just a short period of time. You only do that when it affects just you, even that is a misplaced priority.
The car is a luxury that's all

Its annoying how you keep stressing about the car,are you one of the wife's brothers?mayb the reason for the drama is jealousy over the man's newest achievmnts.u go fit buy car for ur wife at all?