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People not taking a chill pill!times are really hard and people earning well cant hold up talkless of helpless people.hubby works but I dont though I do business but things so slow that im home awaiting a miracle of 4k to run few errands.if you see me,u wont believe I only need 4k today

EfemenaXY:
Yes, but how exactly do you plan to achieve this? You saying you've seen people with little or no income go to school doesn't explain anything.



I'm actually more interested in you explaining yourself clearly here.

Chei.....so much drilling.if he is able to scan the evidences............!

Chei,na so Bolade enter nairaland oo !

My shoes right now is very similar to the posters except the girl is my own niece and 13yrs old.im at the verge of taking her back to the village,those up there judging the poster you need to be in her shoes to know how frustrating it is.me I beat her when necessary cos I beat my 2yrs old daughter too,if my neighbors hear her scream this days they don't come knocking anymore cos they know what am going through.she dips her hand in my Pot of stew and then move to the freezer to deal with the things kept there too.shesbeen here for over 3years and I can't point to any change.i take her bedwetting as something that will fade away someday + she's not doing it intentionally,but when you steal and deny it for hours?lie so much that everything you say needs clarification?i won't spare the rod to spoil the child o,as long as my conscience is clean and I can sleep at night knowing am doing my best for her,I'm good!

So sorry for your ordeal@poster,I went through this in 2014.i labored and bled for hours till I couldn't see again before the bAby came out dead.that was the worst day of I and hubbys lifes.but God shined his face on us and He will do same to you.please you need ur husband as much as he needs you,mine kept his sadness from me till he got to d breaking point and it took him longer to get over it.put away ur past differences and hold hands at this time.......IT IS WELL WITH YOU.we have a 2 nhalf year old daughter and a 4months old son so please know that there's is light at the end of this tunnel!

Oga i dont even know if to take you serious!stop sounding NEEDY like Mr Mind said,go about your daily activities with your shoulders high and stop thinking about your parents,u wil know wen u finally meet THE ONE.,im not sure your dad was/still is as abusive as mine but im happily married and learnt/still learning from thier mistakes.
check yourself carefully and be sure its not YOU that attracts the wrong girls!

joseph1832:
Excuse me lady, who started spewing the insults? Me or you and your friend BellaElla? I urge you to go back to page one and see for yourself, you started it, and I merely put you where you belong. Simple.

Your comments spurred my own comments so please stop trying to claim being the victim.

The emboldened shows you're one don't pay attention to what is being said, but jump head on and rant. Its all in the thread, I even posted the first comment I made just so you can see, but you choose to ignore.

Madam, saying I'm in a bad mood is you being sarcastic, I've been warming you, and you're edging me on. Please, don't push your luck. I won't repeat thiss again.

So you will beat me now?hahahahaha..imagine the choice of words even when im talking calmly.il try not to reply you in kind!

joseph1832:
Ah... So much like you to mix what I said, when you quoted me half of the thread and started spewing what you don't know about.

Postmann, ishilove, the above was my first post on that thread, lumppy and her elk didn't see it, but decided to jump in the discourse my self and the OP were having.

As at then, I was with my friend and his wife, I showed his wife the thread and she told me its a lie, from what she herself experience, cos she was always Hot. I made that known in the thread, but hey, lumppy still decided to go on, and on.

What you and your friends feel is different from what others feel, I've asked women who were pregnant before, not just married ladies, but baby mamas as well. Some say they're Hot, some say they aren't, but most said they were. That's why I told the op, if he isn't getting sex, he should masturbate, simply. Only for lumppy to come gun blazing.

Madam lumpyy, don't call me names, after that episode, I don't remember calling you names. I'm not in the mood to start calling you names. A word is enough for the wise!!!.

Gun blazing ke?see the beautiful post you wrote first?then go back to the thread if u have time and see how you were coming on to all the ladies that supported what you wrote yourself.
name calling?your posts assured me im a patient person,go check all d insultive words and assumptions you made.seeing what you just post to this Op makes it seem you were just in a bad mood earlier .

postmann:
I have read that pregnancy increases the sex drive of some women. I'm careful not to say all.

You sound married and like someone who has experienced pregnancy. Have you?

Ah bros....its the cause of the argument that spilled to this thread.VERY few of us feel what you read oo
Iv been pregnant 3xs :1st till 24wiks,2nd till 38 and d last till 40weeks and theres was no single day i craved IT.hubby does not even ask cos he sees how it is so i end up being the one begging cos i know say body no be wood .same with all my friends and gist from antenatal classes.
its y i told the fighter from that thread to stop generalising and telling the Op his wife is pretending.he said all the women around him are hot while pregnant and im saying i RARELY hear it so does all the ladies that came on the thread!

postmann:
Definitely, not every woman deprives her husband of sex with a lie or with a flimsy excuse. But for as many that do, they are unwise.

I'm not an advocate of polygamy but I'll never pretend to underestimate the role of sex in marriage. When a woman frequently denies her husband sex, she's asking for trouble and if that trouble comes in the form of polygamy, so be it.

Exactly sir......no pregnant woman knowing how important sex is would intentionally keep giving excuses except the ones'looking for trouble'. .but i tell you that MOST of us endure it in pregnancy not enjoy.how would you feel giving mouth-action when your mouth already feels like youv not brushed for months?its best to be sure of your love for your partner before getting married sir......cos if the feeling is strong,it will stand the test of time!

Ishilove:
It is rather ironic that the men who say a pregnant woman is inconsiderate because she doesn't feel up to sex are the ones who are single to stupor.

It will be interesting to know how they will handle their own situations when they get to that stage

I tire ooo.....see them deciding how thier pregnant wife should feel.im almost certain that Mr joe joe is VERY single,il be praying for him to get d kind of wife dt will SATISFY his EVERY need while pregnant!

postmann:
Hey, I appreciate you took the time to clarify your stand without being rude.

Next time Mr joe mentions your handle I'll try to ignore him if I think he did it without a good reason. There are lots of similarities in both threads cos they bordered on women's insensitivity or self-centredness in their sexual responsibilities in matrimony.

Personally, I wonder if polygamy is the answer to women's sexual unavailability during some stages of pregnancy and postnatal.

Did I call anyone in particular foolish for speaking his mind? Even though one can actually be foolish for speaking one's mind.

You didn't bother me.

I understand perfectly how some women take advantage of situations to gain whatever.....but its wrong to think EVERYONE does.u might end up making a COSTLY mistake by not taking her serious when she says she doesnt feel well just cos you have decided that ALL women lie.
Taking polygamy as the way out simply means your marriage is all about sex.....but then,whatever rocks your boat!

postmann:


I don't know much about those monikers you singled out. But I know this much: a lot of contemporary women are lost, overran by fantasy and selfishness.
For a man to earn their praise, he might have condescended to a wussbag.

Eh oga pls ignore Mr Joe joe when he mentions me!how is this thread similar to a concerned hubby asking how pregnant women feels?his wifes preggies for the first time and cant DO but Mr joe said she must be pretending and inconsiderate cos all pregnant women are HOT .and he said he was talking from experience...hahahah!
ohh sorry postmann for bothering you with a reply as am just seing your post to the link he sent u,u call people foolish for speaking dia mind?welldone sir!

joseph1832:
Nope. But I want you to have a brain transplant.

toor......you really need Jesus,im tired of exchanging words with a block-head sir.obviously na u sabi pass.....hahahahaha!olohun ma je kin rii oro brain transplant,ontop wetin o?please peace be unto you!!

JoeBlocks:
I'm well in my 30's thank you very much. To show how you still jump to conclusions without have facts and evidence shows you're the one who is petty and you're disgrace to your family and good women in general.

and what do you have to show for ur age sir?abeg abeg.....wetin concern this matter concern family/disgrace?ur wife don enta one chance ooooooo!

shollyblingzy:
your comments so far have just been ridiculous and disgusting, this shows you are not a matured man, look at how you are ranting on a serious forum like this, serious comments from matured married men are needed here, not from immature minds please. you are just arguing blindly. your comments portray you like men that abuse their wives on top small matter. Every one is entitle to his or her opinion here, you do not expect evryone to accept your opinion> If you were a woman now, thats another thing, but you are a man and you tend to argue with women who have experiences. You behave like a greedy man, cos if your wife tend to tell you she is tired or do not feel like, you can go further to rape her, as if the thing na food. Marriage comes with its ups and down, and also with full support and understanding, women are talking here, you are here arguing with them, wetin sef, if your mind is made up that such women are only pretending,, no wahala, please hold on to your opinion, and do not suck this forum with your babbling, am sure the OP has taken the good advice so far, and am sure because he wants to save his marriage , he would understand with his wife and play along with is wife, knowing fully well that is is just gonna be for a while, not for ever, please be wise, and act like one .......@ Lumpyy and BellaElla, ignore him please, what does a man like him know, than to do and not mind what the woman is passing thru, e think sey na yam to bring forth a complete human being to the world

see how defensive he gets?he is just a petty man of not more than 18yrs old.throwing around words like say na us frustrate am!

joseph1832:
Oh yeah? And you're not taking things too personal yourself Difficult times only affect people who fail to plan for it, just like failed marriages and lamentations only affect those who are too shallow minded to ask the right questions.

And if truly I decide to have sex with my wife, whether she is pregnant or not, how does it affect you? Or you secretly wish your husband should do to you, what I do to my 'supposed' wife?

oh yeah? What about your friend? Funny you focused on me and totally ignored her, or did you forget that she was the one who started the insults? This gives you oFf as one who is purely sentimental and a nepostist.

Oga....oya sorry,stop crying,u want ribena? .

joseph1832:
Guy look bush! Na people like you dey believe say marriage na achievement when their husband no even send una.

If ur husband dey respect you, you for no how to talk to person, but as e be say you no even sabi yan, I no even surprise. Na so una go dey take mata wey no concern una personal, that's why una husbands no fit sitdon one place, na from one beer parlor to another. When be de last time ur husband sleep for house sef?

Because you can't read and you make it your business to jump into conversations that doesn't concern you, you show just how frustrated you are! Here you talk about me wanking, when you are physically refused by your husband, that's why he makes it his business to sleep with small small girls, when women like you have become over fattened cows with molten fat as flesh!.

Just look at how your comments are repulsive, I believe that's how you are physically and emotionally repulsive. You shame your husbands and your inlaws by being an incomprehensible git, who's an ol' hag with a frustrated life, that's why you make it your business to come to social media and show just how miserable your life is. Anyway, I no blame you sha, na the man wey marry you I blame.

Yeye dey smell!.

see this your rant?gives you off as the frustrated one.

joseph1832:
Please I don't need your pity. You should go to the ffirst page and read my first comment before you make conclusions that will further shame you.

I believe you didn't read where I first told the OP to have a talk with his wife right?

shame me bawo?oga its you taking things TOO personal o,i sure say the Op sef don find solution...lol.enjoy ur experiences o jere,who fighting eep at this difficult time?as you have been told...raise ur pregnant wife's leg,tie it and knock yourself out because she has a responsibility towards you and EVERY woman likes to DO in pregnancy!

Choi.......very cool place to be.the cold no be here bet i wish i was there RIGHTNOW!!!@@@@

BellaElla:
Lol. u wan fight mi ni? abi u wan flog me? Taaa gbafuo! Na today we dey see your type? Me wey don marry tey tey. See who dey talk about sentiments. myself and at least five other ladies here have told your our personal experiences with pregnancy, which is same for about 80% of women, and you are refuting us with beer parlour gist. Anyways I no blame you, na those your leaky mouthed friends I blame, men wey no get respect for their wives, that would come and run their mouths to another runny mouthed bachelor, who in turn self-services away at the fantasies of how hot pregnant women are in bed. Lmao! Oga abeg don't come for me o! Go and marry, and stop relying on those lofty tales your friends are regaling you with. When people life experiences are talking, people with refurbished round table gist would talk too..

see me see trouble o,hes made up his mind that all women are sentimental,i just hope ur woman(if u av any)has noticed already abi kuku go for ur exct type so there wont be stories in the future..hahaha!.i just hope the Op is sensitive to his wife......its d same woman who liked IT and she will return to normal,just relax and dont think about cheating because o the consequences sir

joseph1832:
You don't expect me to believe what you say, do you? You're talking from experience, and I'm also talking from experience, from what I've seen and heard. If I have 10 friends, all of them are married with kids, so are my sisters, I've heard what they say regarding sex. Plain and simple.

Since you said every woman isn't wired the same, why should you then be telling me I should believe what you told me, without asking you questions?.

I gave the OP an advice, he should sit down and talk to his wife. She has a responsibility to him, as he has a responsibility to her. That's the way marriage should be, not play to sentiment. Tell me, if you were the one who is Hot and your husband is denying you sex because he's not in the mood, what will you do?

expect u to believe ke?why would i do that?im saying you should not generalise ur 'experience' to the Op's wife.imagine saying she has a responsibility towards him,u think she doesnt know that?u think she likes how shes feeling?abeg no more dallying words jare.....na ur wife i pity oo,i hope shes lyk ur 10sisters too

joseph1832:
But I've read articles that support my saying. Might I ask you how you know 2/10 of my friend's wife's experience what the OP's wife experience?

see this is not a debate sir,to each woman,her pregnancy story.there are general characteristics and some are peculiar too.its ur generalisation that is a problem to me.its very insensitive to tell a man who is not having IT with his wife as he used too that his pregnant(1st one for that matter)wife is giving him filmsy excuses.if he believes you and starts distrusting his wifes complains nko?i told you iv been pregnant 3tyms.1st one is till 24weeks,sec1 till 38weeks and d 3rd till 40weeks.iv been to anti natal classes and all my friends are in child bearing age.you are talking by the book sir,moi have seen ALOT and being hot in pregnancy is 2/10.

joseph1832:
Its more shocking to see the way many of these women chastise the OP because he wants some good loving.

I've heard countless women say they're usually very Hot when they are pregnant. See the comments of the women here makes me even wonder why they all play to sentiment and not reason.

I even showed this thread to my friend and his wife (she's pregnant) and she told me, the OP's wife is just giving him flimsy excuses.

bros please dont cause wahala for the Op's innocent wife.i have been pregnant 3× and i was never HOT for once truout.women are wired diffrently and hence.......its 2/10 of ur friends wifes experience to the ops wifes.i hope when your wife is pregnant you wont compare her body to ur friends wifes oooo.PLEASE!

patfenda:
mouth wetin she go gree?i dont masturbate.thks though

oga dont even dare to mention it.the last thing a pregnant woman wishes to do is THAT oo.her mouth tastes bad already,shes prolly spitting all the time and having to force food down her throat and u think shell want to do mouth action?u will just sound selfish .i pray shes nt lyk me o.bin preggies 3× and i hate IT in pregnancy+few months after delivery.thank God for a patient and understanding hubby.relax oga,things will fall back to normal but it myt take some time oo!

Bro please be calm,when you see what people are going through in life,ul be thankful for yours.if u know how little my debt is that i have a high bp over?its funny.hubby is constantly on pressure cos all our efforts to kickstart my business/get a govt or federal govt job has been frustrated.house rent due in june=0.daughters school due rightnow=0 but i woke up thankful and hopeful,am grateful to God for the gift of long life that He promised,it means things will get better.pls watch the video of that footballer that died on the pitch in romania?coudnt sleep after cos i saw the fear in his eyes as he was gasping for air.be thankful for you are ALIFE,dont try to end what GOd has not!

Wait oo Op,your house is on the first floor?so the snake climbed up the banana tree?pls asnwer me o cos im happy all d time we live upstairs so no snake story for me.......kai,i HATEEEE snakes!

Tanxs guys!

He is a 400l student of agric eng in unilorin with limited/no funds most of the time.il be glad if someone here can tell us how/what we can do that will fetch him a lil change!thanks guys!

amunkita:
Guy, maybe what interest me in ur case is that u re as stubborn as my immediate junior brother who takes no sh1t..

Look at what majority re saying, u ve got an attitude if am to give a brief about you.

I ve advised u earlier with a different moniker but u seem to go with ur Kind(Lumpyy) who eats 3 square meal nd ve excess to spare.

What u ve gone through is like a tea spoon of water in an ocean compared to what my snr. Broda saw in the hands of my uncle.

He fed chickens as in big poultry with thousand of birds, manned a cassava grinding shop(if u ve any idea the stress it takes) nd has burnt scar on him when my uncle threw an ignited can of fuel on him while they burnt bones used for Feeds.
All this was to get his school fees paid that was less than 5k yet he was humble.

Just like I said earlier, if it was possible giving u a slap to reset that pride in you, I will....

This is very funny.....!how did u arrive at ur facts of me being born with a silver spoon?the majority does not have to be right sir!you dont judge others on your own perspectives.he doesnt sound ungrateful to me cos hes called the aunty his saviour several times,u dont want to know what iv been through myself so relax ehn

Poster God will guide you on the steps to take,i dont agree to most of this views too,they decided to misunderstand but dont be bothered.what do u guys want a desperate mind to think?his mates are rounding up in school while hes with an aunt that talks him down and give him chores without any hope of paying his fees,hes stressing she has more than enough too+how many of you will not rely on somone your dad trained to train you too especially when shes capable?and shes giving the impression of 'im taking care of it' to the others too.this same op has praised her in other threads and never complained about the chores until now.Bros hope u are a praying person?u need a lot of it as u mentioned your folks died
mysteriously?may God shine his face upon you and light ur path!

ILIDEFI:
Thank you so much, Kepstone. Wow, you really took your time to write such a detailed note to me. I appreciate your kind and godly concern. May God bless you abundantly, and may you continually go from strength to strength, in Jesus name.

I actually have a fairly clear understanding of most of what you listed. There is no way on earth that I can sustain a relationship with any girl that my whole spirit and soul isn't in agreement with.

In the case I presented, there was nothing to suggest that she was below 23 when I first saw her. If it was obvious, I wouldn't have even approached her in the first place. It was after I got to know her age that I started wondering if was okay for me to anticipate loving her, considering what I felt and got to know about her.
My concern has been that if I become friends with her, she appears suitable on most grounds for relationship and I develop true love for her, will it be considered right to wife a girl as young as that? Frankly, deep within me, something tells me that I can't pull it through.

I'm not really naïve when it comes to relationship. I've had a great relationship before which lasted for years, but things didn't work out. It was partly my fault anyway. I guess I've been kinda desperate in recent times, looking for a girl who will be as good a friend as the one I lost. I guess I've been desperately looking for another confidant, friend and lover.

I will do what is right, anyway. I won't disappoint God.
I will deliberately keep a distance, and if somehow something stronger connects us together in the future beyond my personal efforts, then I will confidently tell myself that it is the hand of God.

Thanks once again.

Bro if your spirit is at peace get a lil bit closer to her,she will be aware of your intentions but dont say it yet,get to know her first.i had a guy jokingly ask me out sinz i was in ss1,he finally got serious about it when i turned 20 and he 28,sneaked home to meet my mum to tell her he rilly likes me when i insisted i was not ready,twas my S.U mum dt advised i allow him close(no sex involved) to get to know him so i wnt turn a good man away.he messed up when he was tired of celibacy ,am hapily married to the man of my dreams who finished uni when i was in ss1 too , dou hes just 5yrs older,he was fast so u can imagine the gap in eerrything,if u tink u like her,relac and get to know her.most of this advisers bin de date alhaji's naa!