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You are doing the right thing calling unto God,patience ma,He will show you the way!

wettbabe:
Madam, find a Guy to be Fucking U at least 3 tyms a week. Hav multiple Orgasms and be FREE. Life is Short!
Starving yrself is Stupidity

orisi-risi,afi wettbabe naa!

Carinaflo:
This is the kind of "Nigerian reasoning" that people use to scare women into staying in an abusive marriage. In this jet age, a human being is still reasoning like this.
How can a full grown man not know anything about personal hygiene? And you have the nerve to tell the wife that "there are girls out there who do not mind the dirtiness...... I weep for Nigerian women

Am so sorry for you madame,so u advice she quit because her hubby is dirty?how many times are u goin to leave a man and pick another?am sure she saw d traits before she said'for better/worse'+i hope u are not NIGERIAN too!

Father have MERCY on ME and MINE,so heart-breaking!!!!

Timbuktou:
I'm giving that brother major side eye right now.

hahaahaha

carefreewannabe:


Did you ever think he could be this one before this Xmas holiday?

Hmmmmm,not before he came o,but i was sure the minute he did cos he asked me to marry him str8 ni ,my mum wasso excited she dint sleep tru d night because wev know the family for ages and he was obviously a gentle man!

We lived 5houses away from eachother for years,i was very young though and he graduted early and moved to a bigger city so we only see during the holls but he was closer to my mum.He came home for Xmas dt year and i caught him staring at my hips and sayin,you are big girl now oo (me i was lyk see ds boda o )not to bore you,we dated for 4yrs and we now have gorgeous 1yr old,il choose him in d next life and after..........!

dinachi:
Shut it! You should be embarrassed already. So you encouraged Op subjecting a minor to child labor and abuse? I do hope you are not the type that enjoys inflicting pain on children, because that is the height of wickedness. Her story doesn't make any sense and I have asked her to clarify some points to no avail. Did she attack the husband physically to warrant him transferring the cane from the poor girl to her?

Please stop with the pretence sir,you DONT CARE about the child at all,dint u say the Op was beaten because the 'annointing' transferd from the girl to her?now that people are showing you the kind of man you are,you looking for a way out...!please change your ways of reason sir,u are TOO BITTER!

freecocoa:
Lol at start bashing me, you are free to and you don't have to believe what I say but the fact remains, if he had to call her a househelp then she's nothing more than that to him, believe it or not, we called and still call my mum's ward 'Aunty or sister', never did I hear my mum refer to her as 'househelp' it was always 'my daughter' when talking about her to someone and 'your sister' when talking to us about her, which is why we didn't know she wasn't our direct sister till we became of age, no one here would pay me for my comments so why would I need to lie, especially since you raised the topic? if I'm saying something different from what I said in the thread you talked about, it would have been a different ball game.

Again, he went wrong by referring to her as a house-help and we all know what that means in this part of the world, how you refer to someone goes a long way to show what that person is to you.

You have every right to be bothered if your 11 years old daughter stood unconcerned while her baby brother cried, but that's not the case here, the said girl not even in the room, she was in the living room and was confused as the lights came on, which I strongly believe is because she was sleep walking and wasn't aware of her environments till the lights jolted her, plus, you would ask her as your daughter why she was standing there, not call your hubby on the phone to raise unnecessary alarm, this singular act by the OP's wife has told us all we need to know, na today?

You wont call your hubby if you find your daughter standing in the middle of the room in d dark?at that time of the day?calling a maid a ward abi househelp is d same ma,d least of d problen here is ENGLISH!

aisha2:
A child at that age range is going through puberty, will the employee be patient enough to explain the body changes?

A child at that age may have an active imagination, when she starts voicing it out she is bundled off to a pastor and flogged to confess witchcraft

A child at that age may still bed wet, will the employee understand that its part of growing up and the child may be reacting to some fear or will they just flog her and demand she gets to work and they get their moneys worth

A child at that age will have challenges with school, will the employee have time to ensure the child is fully developed academically or will they be too busy with their own childs work and ensuring that maid does her duties?

A child at that age develops interest in boys, do you explain to her the bird and the bees or pure pepper in her privates to prevent her from " flirting "

A child at that age has so many issues of her own to deal with, she shouldn't be forced to grow up and take adult roles. She didn't ask to be born poor, lets stop making kids pay for the carelessness of their parents

Ma'am i understand you completely o and i know how badly some women treat ds girls but il stil stand by the fact that most of them live better in civilised area where they are being fed better,if most of the adults that end up being maids had d opportunity at dia early age they would have ended up better!

dein77:
Bro, you won't blame them for their opinions. I believe and accept my choice of words were wrong in the initial post, hence their anger and frustrations with me.....I still respect their objections, though.

I was literally BULLIED by these girls today. There are a very detailed folks, used to reading in between lines, will always pick out loopholes against you. You can't win
them in an argument.

Concerning the matter, I have decided to wave it aside. I believe she sleep walked.

Bros its all pretence, u dont want to know what most of thm do to thier full grown maids(i wnt say wards cos am realistic).so many of ds girls are better-off wt people dn in d village wt thiers folks where theyre forced into early marriage.my mum's maid came to live wt us at 9,i washed her cloths til she was old enof to do it and shes 19 now+all her elder sis av more dn 2kids in d village,d 12yr old wt me came 2yrs ago,i stil wash her cloths in d machine and she goes to school,few months ago,she knelt down all of a sudden and sed shes a witch and hs bin sent several errands to my hone but because am good to her shes nt bin able to do dem,we pray wt and for her all d tym.pls dnt let anyone tell u such is nt real!she myt b sleep walking and vice-versal,watch her closely sir!

[quote author=wwwkaycom post=29530540]After our family meeting yesterday, we instructed Deji (my brother) to go and have a meeting with his inlaws to be on the issue today and if they insist on their demands, he should ask that the wedding be postponed to October, that is by 9 months, telling them that I, his elder brother is only out to give support, that he's the one shouldering the funding of his wedding and would need the 9 months to save enough for the wedding, thank you all[/quote]EhnEhn dts d way to go sir,left to me sef,d bros should just look elsewhere cos what is happening now is an insight into the future def,if the wife is nt unreasonbly pushy later,d family wil talk her into it because she shld nt have allowed this happen in d frst place!

Basildvalour:
Guy, nah u flex doz cards abi?

Bros i wish oo+am a lady too

Diaris God ooooo

i musto catch one MTN today oo

Pele sir,God hears and knows,pls keep calm,hold on,pray more,He will guide ur feet and tell u which way to go!

Ma'am if ds story is true,its in ur hands to end ds nightmare,u can turn ur marriage into bliss by taking over,i know sex is painful for a while but u can learn and gogoole things dt wil make u d leader in d bedroom,its obvious ur hubby is highly concious of sex so u can make him happy by surprising him,he is ur husband so whatever u do to pleasure him is not ungodly,soon hel realise hes treated u badly and change too,take charge of ur marriage and be happy!

How much for d air conditions sir?bisola.olajide@yahoo.com,all d artworks are sold?

So many ooo,the most recent was when i came back home frm a trip abroad,couldnt thank my Hubby and God for d opportunity!

Am so sorry ma,may God keep u and give u strenght,u will laugh again!

Firstly,wud like to thank God for His love and joy unspeakable,He shld keep the lamp of love in my home burning,Bless my sugar and raise his head high(so he can buy me d muscle he promised me )and to keep being my shadow and keeper!

Yes ooo,infact am on BROKEN ANGEL rytnow

I thank God for our frst gift of d year,our beautiful daughter.A new job and the good trip my hubby sent us on,the Lord has favoured me more dn i can imagine,i will continue to serve and cast all my cares on him!

Sophyrocks:
You call him your husband when he is yet to marry you? Just call him your fiance o. Your fiance telling you to break your sim shows he doesnt trust you at all. It could also be a sign of a controlling attitude. Be careful. Who marries a person he/she doesnt trust? If you are marrying such, get ready for imaginary war over nothing in the marriage. He is even f00lish because all you can do is transfer all your contacts including that of Exes into your new sim. social media platforms dey if you wan cheat. So? will he always be there to monitor all your calls and chats? THIS IS WHY ANY MAN WHO ASKS FOR A CHANGE OF SIM IS F00LISH. if you know this lack of trust is something you cannot live with, better sort this issue now first before the wedding else be ready for War after the wedding.

Its not right calling another woman's man foolish ma,if hes asking her to change d sim,he must have his reasons,do u knw where/how they met?if am ex called wch triggerd his demand?she knows better why he is asking her to!

Am not criticizing or judging anyone but 13 is much,haba,considering dt shes only been in 4serious relationships,dt is 9 random men and imagine her saying shes better dn her friends,the guy should run abeg!
Not to preach but if a girl makes d same mistake of giving hersef wtot commitmnt 2/3tyms,shes becoming less of a woman@nobilis...13@26?d age aside,no woman shld sleep wt dt much men in my opinion,d earlier pple understand there is spiritual side to sex d better!

aisha2:
You have unprotected se-x with your wife meaning you trust her with your body.
You cook food she eats meaning you trust her with your life but you cant trust her with your money.

Where your treasure is that is where your heart is. You dont love your wife, you are only using her to reproduce and do househelp

,u don vex oo!

twerkjack:
rubbish so she should displease herself to plz the monkey, because she's the wife? Owes him her body, seriously? ȋ̝̊̅̄
Pity whoever married u.

How can u call another woman's hubby a monkey?has she tried to solve d issue by all means?so its easy to tell ur family dt u are divocing ur hubby because u stoped feeling during sex?

God please continue having mercy on me n mine.....,God forbid bad things

Sophyrocks:
So the fact that they worked for it means they cannot render help to others? Is there something wrong with someone who is more financially privileged helping out others who are not? You talk like there's something wrong with it.

The rich cant reach out to all the poor o,nobody knws d number of school fees a rich man on his way to vacation just paid!

DWJOBScom:
Somehow I smell trouble - don't confront the fellow, smile/work as if nothing happened cos any form of talks/conversation can make a good story of. "Jealous, over-bearing, are sure she's even Ur babe, guy park well" headline

Don't dwell on it.......simply accept her assurance.

**actually I have lost a girlfriend to a friend that way#smile

She claim they were fellowship members , little did I know he has telling her to leave me and come with him

They are married now

Jesu ,ur friend gan gan?

SeaGold:
Bia woman, you have not stated any problem on your long epistle but a valedictory sermon on your person.

What at least is he getting right in the family? If non divorce him.

If a man is handling a building project that is cost effective and beneficial to family and you biitch about children attending "A" grade institution, be ready to foot the Bill. Every sane man work for his family and his family is TOP priority even though our strategy to expand might affect our family initially.

If you earn little salary compared to his, please augment it in the family disposable expenses while he shoulder the capital projects. This area as a sacrifice on your part is non negotiable.

Men loves women who manages resources very well. Are you a waste? When a man discovers his wife manages financial resources prudently, trust me with time he will take you into confidence and let you manage all of his financial transaction but if you are the bring this, bring that even when you earns, expect loads of bullshiits and disrespect from the PAY MASTER.

What I can sense and conclude from your post concerning your marital ish is "MONEY". I think you want to make hold of his money and he is thinking of the future while your needs is immediate satisfaction.

Goodluck as you work on your temperament but if not guilty as charged...divorce the ADAM but in all sincerity I saw a FOCUSED man.

Choi......person wey marry u go work ooo,u are funny sir if wt u see trully is a focused man,ds man seriously needs jesus!