₦airaland Forum

I respect people who are bold enough to say they are single parents in this our 'judgemental' society where everyone is a saint but the next person is a sinner.

Tribute to u all

SAMBARRY: Because men see p@edoph1lia as a normal thing in Nigeria. It's not abnormal having sex with kids in nigeria

Babe,how come I cud pre-empt ur response? Paedophiles again!!!.can't a teen get another preggie?

Some private schs might actually resume you know....Ask d same authorities why haven't the summer lessons stopped?

ademega: Why do women always think they have the monopoly of disgracing men? Each time a fight breaks out between a man and a woman , the voice of the woman is always heard louder. wife are not left out in this top of the voice drama. Sometimes they even go to the extent of dragging the cloth of men.

Ur topic really got me laughing hard. I think ignoring them is the best but if a man can't cope and the abuse continues, PLS SEEK DISSOLUTION

damselleen: No Ma, what I'm saying is I'm not responding to him sexually

U don't need a 'soothsayer' to tell you that he doesn't satisfy u cos
1) U compare his performance to ur EX(s),AY inclusive.

2) U don't love.

Please don't start what u can't finish. Its better u let him be than cheat later.

kingviny: A very close friend told me he asked his wife to be, to when they get married be handing soup matters while he will still be buying other foodstuffs and provisions. This he said is not in anyway to abdicate his manly responsibilities, he just feels in this modern age, a working woman should be able to handle some minor bills at home.

His fiance is refusing vehemently. He said she prefers the man providing the fund for everything and then she using her discression to add her money if and when neccessary. As it stands now, they are both on a collission course on this divergent school of thought about family finance yet, they want to tie the knot soon.

Great people of nairaland, what do you think of this issues? I have given him my 10 kobo advise but I will like to know what others think, especially, married nairalanders.

Thanks

Well,I don't thinlk its right,marriage isn't a political appointment. Everyone should use their discretion to know what to handle.

Godmystrength: okay then. facts noted...

Gracias

cococandy: I don't share.

Obviously

Godmystrength: What part do you find interesting? the fact that i said you do not like polygamy (that's what you said) or that i said you keep helping them find excuse??

That I keep making excuses for them. I wasn't making 'excuses' like you claimed,just stated facts.

Godmystrength: not at all. you already said you do not like it.
just that you keep helping them find excuse

Interesting!

Godmystrength: well.... What do you think my conclusion is?

That I support polygamy,abi?

cococandy: That boat has sailed uncle sam.
So asking me what I have against a second wife is the most 'ridunculous' question ever.

Anything you have against a second husband is what I have against a second wife.

Speak for urself Coco,am sure u ar a very jealous lady!!!LOLzzzz

Godmystrength: was it in sync with what you think?

Nah,not what u think. Wait a minute wat do u think?

Godmystrength: yes i want to know.

U av already made conclusions about what I think honestly.

Godmystrength: good for them then. as for me, i have prayed to God not to let me have anything to do with such kind of men and i know he answered my prayer.

Only modern greedy men would want a second wife except they are muslims. Although av seen a situation were a woman asked d hubby to marry a second wife.Av seen some above 32yr old chics say they would rather be a second wife than remain single for ever(not as a result of societal pressure,mind u)

U wanna know how I truly feel?

Godmystrength: good.

Buh u know people differ in what they choose to want?

Godmystrength: okay...... how many is plenty??

More than one

Godmystrength: You mean the men?

Sure I mean Men.

Godmystrength: So why should any African woman or Nigerian woman in particular agree to this?

Because it had always been the Norm. Trace your family history a bit,u would discover that ur grand-uncle or someone had more than just a woman as wife. Honestly.

Am not in support of plenty wives please.

Godmystrength: bring her for where...
How can i still think of staying with a man that has brought in another woman as co-wife? So many things involved o plus will he be using condom on both of us or what? SO i should now go and catch whatever jagbajantis the other woman is bring. Once another woman enters, we stop being a couple maybe flat mates.

The key word here is just because he says it. I won't even act as if i heard him saying it the first time.

He should not even think of bringing her to my home. Let him go and make her home for her somewhere else......

For those that the 'second. Wife ish' catches their fancy,they would do say or do anything to bring a second wife in

Godmystrength: so there is a man somewhere that will say yes to the above (if it was reversed) provided there is no financial undertone??

Some Men would do but definitely not African n Nigerians in particular.

bukatyne: Bros, define love

Love is what it is, A feeling!!! Could be misunderstood for lust,obsession, or infatuation.

Love is what it is.

Godmystrength: I won't leave a man i LOVE so much just because he says ''i need a help mate, lemme get another wife''

Help me God not to do the unthinkable oooo

Exactly my tots as well....there is nothing a woman in love can do other than say am leaving or OK, bring her.

cococandy: Would leave a woman you love so much if she says 'Sam times are hard. Let me get a man to help you with providing for the family while I service him as well'.

All your answers are same as mine.

When I said help, I didn't mean finance. I meant maybe bedroom affairs,taking care of the kids,go out with him when u don't wanna go out or stuffs.

No Man would say YES Coco, cos ur comment has a financial undertone.

cococandy: It answers you plain and simple.

Would you like to share your wife with another man?
I'm guessing no. Pls correct me if you don't mind sharing.

But going with No for now.
The same you don't want to share your woman with another man is the same reason I don't want to share my man

Geddit?

Would u live a man u LOVE so much if he says, 'coco u need a help mate' lemme get another wife?

cococandy: The same reason you hate the second husband idea.

Hahahahaha. Am not in support of second anything, I even believe the concept of marriage MIGHT soon fade away.

Still your answer doesn't answer my question.

cococandy: Lmao.
Who wants to share a husband?

Na me go begin the divorce discussion.

Ok so over to you. Why would you marry a second wife?

Hmmmmm......Interesting,ONLY IF WIFEY says she no dey do again!!!

Y do u hate d second wife idea?

cococandy: no reason.

such a dude must not be loving his life to try and sit me down to discuss a second wife.

What if he says he wants a divorce instead if you say he can't sit u down to discuss a second wife?

kika23: How do you check mails on here?

Go to d mail you opened ur ursername with.