iice:

rofl, right on the money
I know.  .  .if i had had a break like you.  .  .i'd probably have the energy to remain fresh and sweet
Some days it's easier.  .  .other days, it tests one's patience

hahaha i know - my dear you are doing a good job on here and i couldnt commend you enough for it!

i envy your level of patience, because me? hmm seun would have banned me by now, for banning stupid members with high number of irrational posts

hahaha - lol - but then thats me - good luck - we'll remember to come in every so often to bring the sunshine back into your virtual life!

@poster - are you man or not? in fact are you an adult or not? why are you complaining here? have you told her how you feel about this whole thing?


Is your problem her expectations or your finances?

either way talk to her, and if she is a reasonable girl she will listen and understand your position if she isnt - you can either continue or walk away

Bottom line - no be you give her hair - if she wants to maintain it, she should be prepared to pay for it if you aren't - or she can cut it off!

set the tone of r/ship now! so you both know where you stand, what you expect and how the r/ship is to be going forward

biola44:

she can work on herself, dis aint hopeless

didnt you read him tyep ''she is.nt eager to develop herself'' wettin? d babe no send! she thinks being pretty is the be all and end all and it will get her though - Einstein over here (poster) can either accept that and be with her whilst praying her views change, if not he can leave - but now he knows where he stands he shouldnt marry her in the hope of changing her!!

posakosa:

@ luxoire


good advice.

thank you - its not the easiest to do when there are emotions involved but the best way forward

whitelexi:

Dont do that again! Dont go running off like that, u had me wondering where u was

ahhh did you miss me? sweet!! just say so intead of using teh term 'wondering' - lol ok i will try not to, but you know when duty calls sha - its been a long and hard week, but God dey! and He will see me through

iice:

Precisely, hence the thread title. He forgot his own role in the play.
LOL, i tire for some people sha

my dear sometimes i come in here and read it and the level of stupidity just makes me log right out again! unelss i see ppl like you and lexi - lol
its like d guy and d babe go tiff meat for pot, and after eating he wipes his hands but forgets to wipe his mouth and he uses that very mouth to go and report the girl for stealing meat!! ahahhahaha - who is the fool?

@poster - no mind the idiot his nemesis will cathc up with him - you too grow some back bone and stop being such a sucker for love!

me i don love well well - infact i don do love kolo!! and i have learnt a valuable lesson - I dont give to any body in any situation if there is any chance that i will be bitter / regret it tomorrow. so when i help any man it is an act of charity to be forgotten after that until he decides to recognise it

move on with your life and leave him to his - he will find what he is looking or and trust me - it wont be pretty!! its hard but take control, delete his number if need be and change yours. let him go and be a parasite to another woman's resources and emotions - good riddance!!

whitelexi:

[size=20pt][center]Luxoire!!![/center] [/size]

lol - na my name!! - i dislike immature idiots on the face of this earth - what did he expect? to be hailed as a hero? or for us to condemn the girl in question?

@iice - lol - hahaha - you know me i go tok as as i feel am - he is just lucky it is not me, i for don tell am a few things internet or not, public or not!!

assess what you want from a r/ship and the kind of guys you ahve been choosing - DO NOT LIMIT yourself or place boundaries on yourself.

and learn to love yourself first only then will you be able to say confidently i know he is NOT good for me

dont date guys for convenience, he must contribute to your life somehow - psychologically, physically, meantally, economically

actions speak louder than words - its not how many times they profess love for you that matters, but how they express that love to you

when you have realistic targets in your mind, you will know how to separate the wolves from teh sheep

@poster - so because she pitied you and accepted to come over that is why you assume she is deaparate? did she say she was coming to screw you all weekend?

if you like her - why dont you take time out this weekend to really get to know her and decide if you want to take things further as friends or lovers

for pity's sake GROW UP!! if she reads this i wonder how she feels - i hope she stands you up, and when you call she tells you exactly what she thinks of you!!

no one is PERFECT - take it or leave it those are her flaws - you can keep trying and praying and hope she changes, if not its your choice to either live with it or leave

redredwyne:

Hi Luxoire!!

That's a very tight situation because unfortunately the people in the home office pay a lot of attention to details like that. But what I want to get clear is was it during the period of his appeal that this happened?

No, he was never granted an appeal, it has never been to appeal. Due to their error after the first place they granted him the chance to make a fresh application.
This new reply is as a result of the 'fresh application' but he does not have the right to appeal.

Hope some of the legal minds in here can be of help.

my bf applied for PSW visa based on the new points based system. Initially he was refused due to a problem with fees. After the intervention of the MP, he was granted a second chance to enter a fresh application.
Which he did. He met all other criteria but for the maintenance funds. He had the maintenance funds on his accounts for 3month and 3days before the application, but on the 23rd of Feb thinking that the 3months was sufficient he withdrew the funds and used it for something else. Unfortunately his savings passbook does not end till the 23rd of Feb therefore showing this withdrawal and as he didnt make his application till 9/03 the decision came back last week rejected on grounds on insufficient maintenance funds with no right to appeal. he's been here 6yrs now.

Where to go from here, i don't know. Any ideas please?

thanks

Hope some of the legal minds in here can be of help.

my bf applied for PSW visa based on the new points based system. Initially he was refused due to a problem with fees. After the intervention of the MP, he was granted a second chance to enter a fresh application.
Which he did. He met all other criteria but for the maintenance funds. He had the maintenance funds on his accounts for 3month and 3days before the application, but on the 23rd of Feb thinking that the 3months was sufficient he withdrew the funds and used it for something else. Unfortunately his savings passbook does not end till the 23rd of Feb therefore showing this withdrawal and as he didnt make his application till 9/03 the decision came back last week rejected on grounds on insufficient maintenance funds with no right to appeal. he's been here 6yrs now.

Where to go from here, i don't know. Any ideas?

it is choice and your view on whether it is wrong or not depends on WHEN you think life begins in the womb.

is it at conception? fertilisation? embyro, foetus? or full blown baby? (later stages of formation generally)

I am PRO-CHOICE - yes let all the christians who want to insult me, tell me it is a sin, but when you are btwn the devil and the deep blue sea, and it is hard decision, sometimes ppl do it for the right reasons. be it health wise, psychologically, fianancially.
Obviously it is a last resort and should not be used as a regular method of contraception (these kinds of girls annoy me)

iice:

Real romantic. . .i feel the ladies swooning or is it the men?

hahaha maybe na na men - lol hahah - watch them decend on us now

Secretz:

wow, I have fallen in Lurve with all of you. Your poetic skills is really something ohhhhh, I no fit sleep, I no fit eat. . . I'm sooo in love. . . . just from simple sms. yes ohhhh. somebody help me come back to my senses. !

hahah see what i mean by your funny!! (i bet you some ppl will tink you actually mean this and miss the sarcasm - whether intentionally or not)

whitelexi:

Thats a massive shame

indeed!!

iice:

Solid indeed. But however did you guys without having anything besides emotions in common?

ask him well mai dear - on what basis of commonality (not even sure that word exists) was the r/ship built on?

iice:

LMAO. . .I think i will stick with the literature section for poetic rhymes

hahahahaha no hun pls dont go!! stay and read some ROMANTIC 4 liners - that is why i guess they put it on Romance section - it is not so much literary as it is Romantic

gen2genius:

Why do some men INSIST on it?

because they may want to TEST she is fertile, esp is they intend on marrying d pikin na still him own, along with all the other brothers and sisters.

is it ideal? NO.

doesnt mean it is not done - as long as the couple agree on it, and the reasons then whatever works forthem i guess

izeek:

me no likey.

lol - who ask you? with your Stevie Wonder eye glass!!

iice:

There are more males in this thread than females. . .

It's working alright Falling over themselves

welcome in - wait until they start showing your their 4/5 line poetic talents

donsmoochi:

enjeria, u too much jo!

but allow me continue,

@donsmoochi - wettin u sef fit start? when all you know is SMOOCHING? until they have given you d crown and made you the IGWE (don) of smooching - wahala!!

abeg carry go!

By d way - no dey follow dis poster ohh, maintain your sanity

Secretz:

I like reading your posts, they are soo refreshing.

As for me? No means NO!! simple! Shakara? I'm sorry, but no time to waste abeg. !

If I say 'maybe' to something, it simply means that i'm not sure and I need to think about it, nothing more, nothing less.

tahnk you mai dear -no forming - you have interesting and funy views too - me likes

yes as long as there is no temptation there for them to comit adultery - why not?!!

because they can!!

iice:

Does it annoy you, when they lump you in with the general?

no mind them! because na so all naija babes dey, surely dis one too want me to stalk her

Liyola:

@ lux abi wetin u col urself, who u b 4 lagos self? We knw ur kind, na una dey beg 4 guyz 2 txt una. Even if u don use 10yrs 4 NL dat 1 concern us tseeeeew yeye gal wit blond womanliness go 2 hell jo. Abeg ma guy (enjeria) continue jare.

is that your worst?

topsy25:

Lux & co

Y the hatred nau the guy mean well o make una no kill am with una bad mouth

@The Seeker,

I be like say u and the guy dey fight on top woman, abi nah u dey do lux

no start trouble and rumours oh!!

trust me, when you catch a guilty person red handed - their initial reaction is shame/remorse/regret whether is at being caght red handed or being caught at all - it takes a while for them toadjust

there is something about unclothedness that tends to make ppl feel vulnerable

beatig is more painful when ppl are naked.

I will remove my shoes, use my bags and anything i can find!! and beat them both up mercilessly - thing is i have the element of surprise and their shame on my side, so they will just be defending themselves and their privates - before they gather themselves to fight back i would have ran out of steam and just walk out on them.

whitelexi:

Can a cock grow balls?

can they? i didn't even know they had any balls!! - No seriously can they?

whitelexi:

I think the confusion here is a cultural thing.

Most girls in naija will do that initial gragra thingie with a guy by saying no when they know they might change that in future, but u dont get that with most girls in europe or other continents. . . If they like u, they will even come to u and make conversation, but if u approach them and they say no, then it means no.

thank you jarre!!

gen2genius:

Luxoire, so any man who tries again after getting a "no" from you is an "idiot"?

Truth is, men have been made to believe over the years that women loved to wooed over a period of time before agreeing to date a man. Many women believe saying "yes" immediately is a sign of desperation


Sistawoman, what's there to discuss after saying "No"?

yes, because i am the type that will NOT say NO unless i meant NO. If i still think there is a possibility that i mayv get to like you - then i will keep things open and say 'let's see how things go - no rush' but i will not come out with a definitive NO.

So yes any man that oersists after a NO from me, is sadly a no brainer in my books