when i say NO i mean a clear and resounding NO

dont have time for idiots and cetainly NOT STALKERS

tosyne007:

u sound like the violent type.

wont u feel ashamed reporting ur b/f (i mean ur dirty relationship) to the police or govt.
They are not even legally married for christ sake. No law enforcement agency will want to go into such things. Moreover, the poster never mentioned any case of being bullied, beaten or harrassed. (so nothing to pin him with). Just that he ignore her complaints, keeps doing wat she does't like and recently seized her items.

sounds like the poster still hav feelings for the guy and will take him back if he;s ready to turn a new leaf. No matter how sour a relationship goes, no one can bear it to see his/her ex wallow in pain or suffering (exclusive of exceptional cases). The poster might not want the guy again, but she wouldnt want to see in police custdy due to the fact that she once loved him.

@poster, u said he knows how to qoute the bible. Knowing the bible and living it are two different things. i want u to know that though u hav tried ur best to change him and he's not yielding, but there's still somone that can change him which is God. Just trust him to take control and like i said, try trashing things out wit him and inquire for reasons why he seized ur items.

that should help.

if standing up to a guy makes me violent then so be it - why has he got her documents in the first place?
If the tables were turned andshe held his personal docs - there is no saying what a person like this might do to get them back or make her 'pay'
why does he want to inflict 'agony' and 'frustration' over someone he claimed to have loved?
if the police do not listen because they are not married, then let her cancel all the documents and leave them with him - when he is tired he will come back and either beg for forgiveness or leave her alone - it will be upt to her to decide what she wants to do with him them

bullingy does not have to entail harrassment or beating - just inflicting any form of physical or psychological pain constantly on someone can be perceived as bullying.

I suppose we all have different ways of dealing with things - but a guy who insists on hurting me is of no use to me! If i do things he doesnt like, then let us try and talk like adults and work things out or go our separate ways rather than him behaving irrationally.
I suppose now the poster knows what she may potentially be in for, if she stays with him longer, hence why i think she decided to end it.

crase pikin!

for some girls it is a maturity issue
for other it is a provider husband issue
for others it is a father figure they seek that was not present in their lives

no matter your reason as long as you are not whoring then its all good - whate ever floats your boat really

show him love ke? he bullies her and hold on to her stuff and some ppl are telling her to show him love?

which kind love? holding on toher bank cards and passport? even if he got them for her - are they not in her name?

Look @poster - if you are ready to get rid of him - call him and tell him politely that he should return those belongings with your personal info on it. Give him 7days. If he doesnt you have 2options.

1. Go to the police and report them stolen - taken and kept by someone other than the owner without your consent

2. Cancel the cards and the passport and - report them stolen to bank and gov't and ask for new ones to be issued - let him eat those ones in his possession.

Na by force? - if a girl no want do again, leave her - dontpersecute her for expressing her mind!

If you enjoy being punished - continue going back to him and begging him - then he would know you really have his time and he has 'control' over you. I am sorry but for some men, it is all about knowing tehy have their woman under control no matter the circumstances, they blow the whislte and she jumps

break free - it is not a healthy r/ship and if he wont try to change his habits or reduce them for you, and you are not prepared to put up with it any longer - then it is only fair that you can leave the r/ship without feeling like he is out to agonise you

JJYOU:

healthy jealousy is ok but how do you define that?

when it is not a big issue that causes recurring arguments all the time - when you are able to let it go and see it for what it is, a bit of jealousy - when you can talk about it and leave it at that without it being like some big conspiarcy against you!

then it is healthy

i agree with whitelexi -

small Jealousy that is controlled and contained is good, healthy even. But when it gets out of hand, then there's a problem.

Its like everything really - good in small doses!

if you cant handle rejection then - dont take the plunge - now you have told her you have to live with it or abandon the friendship

iice:

I agree. . . i would say the same of the men too - like how they like to interpret a woman's indifference for interest via 'posing'

i agree

iice:

Thank goodness my hubby nefa send me this kind sms. It will not see the light of day on the phone.

@Lux Rofl

hahah yes ohh - see me, see wahala (hiss)

@190
na so you dey toast babe? - which kain yeye toastin sef - i beg make d bobo carry go jarre - i no send

you seem new, and deparate for a bit of attention (rolls eyes) - so i will ignore you

sweetpain:

Yeah, I think the babe is hot.

thanks unfortunately i can not say the same for you as i do not seek out your replies, but i will keep an eye out going forward

enjeria:

i think someone is tripping,

INITIAL YANGA

TIPS to the guys, thats how they get at first but with proper persistence,

DEM GO FALL, 

typical example of most modern day Naija guys - why can't you accept that this and your style of sms is not to my taste and let it go at that?
what makes you think my NO means YES?

why persist when all you are going to to is annoy and irritate the shite out of any decent girl with a mind of her own who knows what she wants?

surely you wouldn't want to be like an unwanted fly on someone's favourite meal

lol hahaha no shout Lexi - type

enjeria:

U've cracked d shell dat holds my pride,

I want to make u mine,

Every1 gazes @ ur beauty, but i've seen the beauty inside,

I'll give the world 2 hav u by my side.

mai fren come come - which kind of girls have you been toasting? when dis kain text msg go make them love you? are they hungry / deparate for love - or maybe they have watched too much Holly/Nolly wood starring Ramsay Nouah (no offence to his fans)

na wah ohh - ppl dey loff - if anyone i dont already love sends me dis kain of msg i would just classify him as another vagina thief!

nonsense!

cracking ke? - are you a palm nut?!i some men sef dey sabi yarn utter bull

biola

wettin taht one mean?

whitelexi:

Very good points but i did mention nigerian girls in my post so leave the mongolians and the yanks out of it oh1

hahaha that is why i said apart from that - meaning the social environment (which is what i believe if responsible for the traits you may not be fund of in Naija girls)

so take that social influence away and no way 2 women on differnet corners of the globe will act same way

so i can justify bringing the yanks and mongolians, into it

whitelexi:

Naaaa, u r [and i dont mean to swell your head] my favourite female poster by some distance. You seem to control your posts properly and your arguments are not biased many ways
I would skip many posts to read what u have to say before going back to read other opinions. . .  I'm still looking out though, for the day u'll make a horrendous post. I have a strong feeling that might take some time though

eyahh so sweet - see i knew underneath all that was a sensitive, smooth talker - bursting to come out!!

thanks for the compliment - the feeling is mutual, you are my favourite male poster currently too and your post make me laugh

about you waiting for me to trip up - funny thing i was doing the same thing - waiting for the day you would come across crass, uneducated or down right stupid!! - i get the feeling that day isn't far  (joke!!)

whitelexi:

Sometimes i think there's a serious stereotype with naija girls, like they were trained by the same rabbi or something, from the initial gragra stage up to the main course. . . I've only met a few girls who had a mind of their own!

so they are testimony that those type of girls Do exist. like me abi? (dont even say it smarty--pants!!)

women who spend a lot of time aroung ppl of similar behaviour will unavoidably pick up some of the traits around them good or bad!
it is a human thing even men do it - havent you seen where a man starts behaving like an idiot because his new group of friends are certified clowns?!! me i have ohh

no stereotypes - it is a human thing

but apart from that there is nothing to say a woman in north America will have the same reaction to something as a woman in Mongolia.

whitelexi:

I love my life, i no fit fight nairaland girl kingpins - those ones wey dey drink panadol on another person headache. . . Their mouth no dey connected to their brain at all at all

hahah as long as you no mean say i be one of them then no le-le

whitelexi:

I feel sorry for u though, there's not much u can do if he said those words exactly. So, u have 2 options, choose wisely:

1) Give the dog a bone and leave the dog alone: stick with him and hope for the best or

2) Show him your right hand: Wave goodbye, leave a complimentary card and ask him to call when his situation changes.

u dey talk smull sense sometimes!

@poster - if you are like me, then na number 2 i go choose oh - this is avoidable heartbreak and i will put myself through it - some women like punishment, but me i say Walk away. if na your own, he will come to you when he is ready

whitelexi:

See wishes sha

If wishes were horses hmmm, why do the finest girls end up with dudes who just have the dough? whether dem fine or not na the money dey talk!

And luxoire. . . Dont let me even start on your case!

because d poor ones come here and complain if we order ordinary fried rice, a glass of wine, some chicken and some side salad - them go say we no chop rice for our papa house before 

on a serious note - not all fine girls sha!! , i am living proof - lol - oyah start on me make i hear

patwhizkid:

No

hahaha this has got to be easily one of the funniest threads i have ever started and read on here - just reading it now, made me laugh

krazynaija:

d most annoying thing now is d one dey call human hair n brazilian here !, so annoying

so annoying you know the different types and names abi? i bet if we prod deeper you will tell the diff colour shades too

no be my hair? when i said fake - look at the posters list?
just cos i put chemicals on my hair to make it straight - dont mean it is a wig? i am not a 'naturalist' i do quite like the head-ache free mornings when combing my hair

whitelexi:

That is such a lie

hahahahaha - i no blame you - yeye boy!!

i fear he is not going to look after me the way i want - and is going to turn out to be just like every other w*nker i have ever trusted

i dont wear anything fake - no fake hair, no fake nails, no fake nothing (apart from the relaxer used on my hair)

i am just me, and i wear make up occassionally - so i am natural all the time every tiome - even my bf begs for a bit of lip gloss sometimes - but na vaceline i dey use - bless him

if you cant love me naturally, then you love an 'image' because what happens when all the add-ons come off and you dont like what you see?

it is not a crime to love yourself - however vanity is a sin and useless pride too - just be yourslef - love yourslef and be respectful and kind to others