when she slept with this other guy - were you 2 dating then> or were you still wooing her?

if you were not dating - then it is not CHEATING - i am sure even YOU have a past!

if you 2 were dating then - its another story altogther as you need to decide whether or not - she is is sorry enough and if YOU CAN MOVE PAST IT

JJYOU:

very very glad with thanksgiving discovered some when i moved last year. it is quite amazing how much foolishness we tolerate when you dont know no better.

that is exactly what happened i think - i didn't know any better - although i could say thanks to them i have an in-built bull high sensitive bull shit detector!!

gosh - you see how some of them ignore you for weeks - then turn up wth some long ass story and apology and then when all isstettled they tell you they are about to be evicted and you 'lend' them money - lol - those are bad debts written off - now i know better

twerps!! - they must have had the last laugh

was just going thorugh my inbox and e-mails from 3+yrs ago from a couple of exes and i just kept thinking - what were you doing with some of those guys

obviously paying you - all their excuses and sweet names, an apologies and i felt my skin crawl!!!

Does any one else keep e-mails, letters, text msgs from exes?

Do you ever read them and when you do what goes through your mind?

Do you cringe at the thought of some of it - or doesn't it even feel like it was you doing those things? Do you miss anything about them or are you just glad to be rid of them?

Holla

sistawoman:

You took the words right out of my mouth.

God created woman to complete man.

We both equally love to have each other around. We both gain greater happiness from being loved romanticly by someone of the opp. sex. It is quid pro quo in full effect.

Yes that is true and a lot of ppl are in denial about this - the minute the realise we exist in co-dependence of each other - the better off eveyr one will be

@whitelexi
hahhahaha - well there's a bit of cheek in everyone isnt there!

JJYOU:

[/size] happy art thou. u are always a breathe of fresh air on NL

eyahh thank you huney bunny!

whitelexi:

Promise, not to mention any man's name, or the word man. Do not gossip with friends or relatives today about any man, do not see any movie concerning a man, do not admire any man in fiction or reality, flush all men out of your inner thoughts and your dreams when u sleep. Do not accept any form of help or assistance offered by a man, dont even think nasty thought of any man today.

Tell me u can be happy today even for an hour with that

_{off to lunch}

hahahah ermmm i think you'll find you cant do same with women huh? just cant keep me (worry i meant us) outta your mind

iice:

Somebody went on an opening threads spree.

@Topic. . .can't stand tears.

someon'es been on a 'closing threads' spree and giving advise on searching for topics before posting - uh huh dont think i aint been watching your pink typings cos i got ma eyez on you baby gal

whitelexi:

That bitch has been hitting me, wish karma was human - i'd be kicking my leg dead off her bum! I've really calmed down, infact i think i'm a changed man, i stay so alert now when i'm in a budding relationship, i'm monitoring every sentence, every gesture, every move. . . Its really gonna be tough for even karma to find a way through

funny thing is she always comes right back and bite syou in the butt - when you least expect it - at the risk of totalling derailing this topic - i say we adjourn this for another forum more deserving of exploring this line of thinking

whitelexi:

@Topic:

Your thoughts are not too far off from the truth, a brother's only looking for the right sister to quit the game for

i hope when you find her - you don't play her - or she doesn't play you - you know what they say!! karma is a bitch!

whitelexi:

Lets just say i used to be a good boy until the female folk corrupted my mind and i turned into something else - I hate to call myself a playa, i just think i became more carefree in my dealings with the female folk. Even a playa has to change sometime

chei - and i thought you were one of the caring ones - those that actually give a hoot about the female folk and their feelings - seems like i was wrong then huh?!

whitelexi:

What can i say? I was shy as u can think. Thats what u get when u face books too much and leave your social circle for a bit

hahahahah nerd turned playa - is that it?

whitelexi:

I just cant stand cry babies
About 4 yrs ago, my girl used to use this trick on me cos she knew if she starts to cry then i lose my nerve and start consoling her - so even where she had really pissed me off i'd end up pleading with her to stop crying. . . she even got me to apologise for making her cry when i should be mad at her.

I've graduated from that level now, if u fumble, i'm strict

i see where you are coming from - crying should not be used as a manipulative tool but rather as an expression of pain/sorrow/hurt same way laughter is an expression of happiness

but Men have this instinct to protect what is theirs - some times even from themselves - and women know this - so some women will tap into it and use it to their advantage - but if you meet someone like me that cries for the right reasons and you are still struct - then we no go fit proceed because i get sensitive like that

whitelexi:

I did that like many times when i was much younger. . . I[b] just didnt know how to say no to girls then.[/b] I seriously dont think i'll fall for that now

so you welcomed all of them to your loving kingdom abi?

whitelexi:

I just cant stand tears - dunno why

i am a bit of a cry baby - when i am angry beyond words and also when i am hurt!! - but i only let you see my tears if i think you will not take it as a weakness

no be by force

before you come here say she FORCE you to sex her!!!

you had better take control of the r/ship, your emotions, your life and your 'fella' and stop talking rubbish

if you are telling her somehting and she wont listen - why dont you just tell her to stop calling you and when she does - dont answer - she'll find someone else to stalk

hmmmm ok ohh

@Topic - you don't need a man to be happy - but you need a man to be HAPPIER - why because they give you that sense of Completion - that sense of you are not alone, that sense of togetherness. God made man and woman to live together and no matter how hard that may be to accept - you don't need another human being to make you happy - but they would take your happiness to another whole level

this works for men and women

wait until some ppl come and start telling you you are sinning!!!

infact you do what is right between you and yuor God and if you feel that way - then talk to your husband - and see his point - he might support you, or comfort you and help set your mind at ease

TheSeeker:

You are right and feel my point. The first time she visited me she stayed for a month and we had sex constantly she never went any wide, but I was just surprised that in 6 months she had gone very very wide. That showed she was up to something.

She said it was a rape and I doubt that in its entirety. I talked to one of her friends before her arrival and she felt a bit reluctant about everything and all, she felt my pains because I suspected something was going on. Some of us got instincts ya know?

sounds like deep down you know the trueth question is HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT?

smooooooth:

bro, they do. but blive u dnt wanna be there.

the got their own issues too.

hahah true said!

iice:

Well said

Like spike said, it's easier for some, harder for others.
I see it as a decision and sticking to it.

thank you mah

estrella:

Ive been going out with my fiance for five years now and things haven't been a bed of roses exactly.My fiance is still in school and I'm working.In reality,things have been challenging but we have both stuck together through thick and thin.we both plan to get married soon.I recently went to see a man of God concerning marriage to my fiance and was told that he isn't my husband.the thing is, this man of God is rarely wrong in the things that he says, I need advice about what to do.My entire gut is screaming that my fiance is the person that I'm supposed to get married to but here is this word from God, what do i do? marry someone else for the purpose of 'destiny' or marry the person i love and will love for the rest of my life? has anyone ever gone against a man of God's words in marriage and has a happy marriage? please,i really need your advice,

you went and saw one JAH JEHOVAH PROPHET!!  those ppl do not derive their powers from the same God us christians serve
women women !!! when will you learn - wettin carry you go PROPHET? wettin make u go dey seek help from the devil? because i am sure this is not an annointed pastor or priest! chai
Look follow your heart and draw close to God - the true one and only God - and you will find out He works in mysterious ways - He will show your signs if you pray and if this guy isn't your husband then you will know it - if he is, then God go allow una to marry without any dramas shebi He has kept you both as a couple till now?
open your heart and yoru eyes to God's wonders and signs and trust in Him. He will see you through
so because he is rarely wrong - means you have to go and entrust your life and future and that of your fiancee to this evil person?
infact you needs me to give you virtual slap!!

What can God reveal to him that He will not reveal to you, if you are a child of God and a prayerful and faithful Christian? He rules over our affairs and He will deliver us from evil and temptation - trust in HIM

sounds like shecheated on you though her 'widending' is not proof of this - more the lack of coherence in her story!

tell her how you feel and what you think and see how she reacts - if she is contrite enough to confess and apologise, then you know where you stand and can decide whether you want to find a cause to her cheating and work through it together or whether you want to leave

if you can't be bothered and dont think it is worth - it or she wont confess - walk away jeje-ly