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I have an unfortunate problem. My decently paying job is super boring. It's seasonal, so for a couple of months I'm very busy, then other months of the year I sit at a desk and attempt to look like I'm not playing solitaire (which of course, I am).

I have access to the internet but I can't stream anything. I can't stay on it for extended periods of time either or I get a lovely slap-on-the-wrist email from HR.

I've asked for more work. There isn't any. The bosses don't LIKE to see me doing nothing, but since they know there isn't anything else to do I'm in no danger of getting fired. What can I do with myself all day? I have to sit at my desk, that's my major restriction. Any suggestions for anything constructive I can do? (or even just good time-wasters?) Thanks.

*I know I need to look for another job, easier said than done, but it's definitely part of my future plans.

El Guapo:
Sure life is what u make out of it, then u fail to understand that at a time in life one cant forget to plead for Destiny interferance into life's traumas, Destiny stil play a key role in every human life

Guapo please explain to me what destiny is? I'm curious to know and understand this word/concept called destiny. I would rather plead to God/Jesus Christ to intervene in my life on different issues than plead to destiny cos I sure as hell don't what it is. But God is by far a certain and reliable helper not destiny.

El-Guapo

I am not sure about any of this things you mentioned, but I have oftened wondered what destiny is. Well I once read somewhere that there's nothing like destiny and that your life becomes what you make of it (i  guess through the choices we make )

Dear poster,

I will give you my personal and honest opinion as a woman and then you can decide what to make of it. Personally, I wouldn't date a man whose academic qualifications were below mine not because I am proud or like to look down on people and it is not about status either. I wouldn't for the following reasons

1. There may be issues of inferiority complex on the man's part
2. Insecurity on my part; most women (let me speak for myself here) like to know that the man they are dating or intending to marry is sound and well rounded in most ways i.e academically, career wise and otherwise. Because we tend to feel more comfortable and secure with such men.
3. Thirdly, to a large extent there has to be compatability even on the level of our education.

On the other hand, a woman may over look the disparity in education if you are sound, decent and well put together as a man.

To all (who wish to) please kindly google Angelica Zambrano's story.

Angelica's story tells of her encounter with Christ, and of her visit to heaven as well as hell (where she saw a number of famous people we know here on earth).

The story has been an eye opener for me concerning the christian faith and our walk with God. I hope her story helps others too in the many different ways it can.

AND PLEASE PEOPLE SHOULD STOP DISTORTING THE TRUTH OF GOD'S WORD AND QUOTING OUT OF CONTEXT, IT IS AND CAN BE VERY CRIPPLING TO PEOPLE WHO SINCERELY DESIRE TO KNOW CHRIST/GOD OR WHO ARE STRUGGLING TO BECOME BETTER CHRISTIANS.

Dear All,

I just spent the last 30 - 45 minutes diligently reading the thread " Stop Judging: There are different callings in God" which has been a thought provoking thread for me because of all of the comments and arguments put forward. And now this thread some what appears to be a sequel to that one.

Having read both threads (this one and the one mentioned above) I have come to the conclusion that as an imperfect and struggling christian sincerely seeking to know the Blessed Trinity and live in God's way; The Word of God i.e the Bible, is, should be and will be the final authority for me on all things and not what people or men say.

At poster the words in bold below cause me great concern is this actually true? I am neither disputing nor condemning this but like I said I am truly bothered by your statement. As a believer I know and believe that only in Jesus' name can one be healed. This is not meant as an attack so don't take it as such

Juliet94:
I still do not know why jealousy and envy exists in the heart of men when they discover that a man is flourishing.
Several people have told lies about DADDY ADEBOYE. But I believe God is using him.
He is not God, but God has used His name to heal people. I m a living witness to that.
During the 2011 June Holy Ghost Service, a man testified that his daughter that had been dead for 4 days rose up from the dead after four days, when he prayed that the God of our father in the Lord should intervene.

Mmmmh let me see, I think I do have a crush on Sagamite, Davidylan and someone else whose user name I can't remember now. If Chaircover and Tpiah were men I would add them to the list, cos like the other two mentioned above they comes across as level headed, mature and decent people, I hope am right about this

It can be abolished if an organization makes it a mandatory rule. I've walked that road, I've done it and[b] IT'S NOT WORTH IT MAN[/b].

It's unhealthy and can lead to ill/hard feelings about your self and the other party involved (especially when things go sour). Not walking that road ever again, by God's grace and with His help in Jesus' name, Amen.

A woman who wants or encourages you to leave your family for her, is a dangerous woman who cannot be trusted. Perosnally I believe you are in lust and not love. Don't throw away your marriage and family for another piece of ass it's not worth it man.

Someone please save us from men who are constantly complaining about women being after their money. Not all of us are this way ooh! And am glad your topic specifically says "Abuja Club Girls".

Seriously; Stagger what do you expect from club girls If you want a one night stand don't go sharing too much information about yourself and don't give out your mobile number to just any girl (unless you want to carry on an affair).

A male friend once said to me that men you meet on the street (i.e men who offer you a ride, or who try to chat you up for the first time on the street etc etc) are very often not decent/good men, and from personal experience it seems my friend was right .

The men I've met on the street while waiting for a cab or just walking home have turned out to be really indecent and obnoxious men who just want to get in between my legs. My point: Equate those kind of men to club girls and try to avoid hooking up with women you meet at the clubs unless your instincts tell you otherwise.

HELL NO, there's no way I'll dump someone I care about because he got fat. I would find ways to subtly help and encourage that person lose the weight and maintain a healthy lifestyle, without being condescending or obnoxious about his weight.

I've seen an overweight 50 year old man, who lost most of his weight without surgery, pills or fad diets. If he could do he at 50 there just about anyone can do it.

Fella's you need to realize that a woman's body will always change with child birth so if you marry us expecting that we will keep the same size 10 figure/shape you know, THINK AGAIN OR DON'T TRY IMPREGNANTING US. The weight can be brought under control but that perfect figure will be gone.

Dear Poster,

Don't be too quick to throw away every thing she says, in all her ranting there might just be a bit of something good you can pick up and use to your advantage.

Am not saying you have to go along with what she desires, but weigh her words and try out a few things it might just complete your whole look and cause you to look even better.

I speak from personal experience; like you I strive to dress well and I love to look neat and very presentable however I have this friend who is often critical of my dressing and constantly tells me how to mix & match my outfits, what kind of shoes to put on etc etc, etc. Of course I tend to get upset with her "Know It All Attitude".

But guess what, I have tried out a few of her suggestions and in recent times I have allowed another friend to dress me up. The outcome was WOW, HOT and SWAGGERLICIOUS.

I hope you get my drift, other people can sometimes see the things we don't, so listen pick up the good stuff and discard the rest.

Jimoh Ibrahim strikes me as a correct "Money Miss Road Man". He buys up things probably with other peoples money but does nothing afterwards to sustain his investments and keep it profitable.

I live in one of the residential buildings in Lagos which he has bought, and things have only gone from bad to worse practically nothing is being done to refurbish or maintain the building. Some tenants still pay service charge but neither see nor receive the services they are being charged for. Some no longer bother with that. And within a short period of the building being bought over by him and things going downhill 5 families have moved out

With the way he keeps buying things over, he ought to have the brains, ability and competence to improve on things and not make them worse. He needs to get a grip

I am feeling her new look in every way. She looks good without the weight and looks chic with the low cut, nothing do her boobs either for those of you commenting on the size of it, abi na extra extra large size una want?

I like natural, because I tend to look older than my real age with make up. I scale it down to just white powder and lipstick and most days i don't bother at all.

I thoroughly enjoyed the debate, it was entertaining, hilarious and informative. BRF definitely outshined the other candidates he was (like someone said) articulate, composed and brilliant.

I believe BRF has a sincere passion and interest in making things happen (good things) in this state. He has my vote come April 16th.

Like someone said, there are disadvantages with both the male and female househelp apart from molesting your children and all, there is the issue of theft. Stealing (valuables) from employers is not uncommon with househelps.

Having said that, you need to determine if you really need a househelp. An option you could consider, is to hire someone who would come in twice a week to do your cleaning and other chores. If its possible let them come in on days when you or a relative are around to monitor their work and guard against theft, molestation etc etc

With the current trend of child kidnapping and all, you need to SERIOUSLY consider this issue of hiring a househelp.

I truly sympathise with Wizkid, though i don't know him personally. I was robbed exactly two weeks ago and I was held hostage in the robber's vehicle for 30 minutes before I was released.

30 minutes of terror, it wasn't funny ooh I got slapped several times even after they took all my valuables. still feel traumatized but am slowly getting over it. Armed robbery incidents are becoming rampant, what's with the trend? Lord have mercy.

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Seriously guys, you need to tell us what sort of actions you would consider disrespectful. I have a vague idea, but like someone said here what may be disrespectful to one person may not be the same thing to another person. So enlighten us

Yes ooh, I've got a crush on one of my bosses. It is definitely a FORBIDDEN CRUSH, I pray for grace everyday not to do something stupid that I may regret

@ High_Chief, I am not in a relationship at the moment and my mum hasn't complained to me about my lack of a husband, I won't even give her the time of day to do that (because that is how the pressure starts), secondly she already has grand children from my elder sister and she will be getting another one from my immediate elder sister. Putting a smile on your parents face in their old age is not just about giving them grand children, it is a lot more than that. Recently my dad needed cash to sort out some issues he had and I was glad to provide the money, now how would a granchild have helped in a situation like that?

@ Nethacker, you obviously missed the last paragraph of my post where I said, I am African & Nigerian and I am not easily influenced by western culture, so what does Oprah Winfrey have to do with anything? I don't like the woman and I hardly watch her talk shows, because i am not certain what she is all about or what value system she subscribes to.

Do successful women really marry late? Most of the ones I know are already married with two to three kids.

Are we really desperate to get married? I don't know about other women I can only speak for myself, I am not desperate to get married. I honestly enjoy being single, I enjoy sharing a flat with my friend, paying my own bills etc etc

My core values are self sufficiency and independence, I grew up with a strong sense of these values and from the time I left school six years ago I have been driven by the desire to work hard and just take good care of my parents before I lose anyone of them. Marriage is often the last thing on my mind because I am practically consumed by the desire to cater for my folks.

In all sincereity (without any pretence) I haven't felt the need or that yearning desire to be married. I remember a conversation I once had with a male friend during my 4th year in school (I studied a 5 year course) he asked me when i would like to get married and I said to him that I didn't feel the need or desire to be married. He claimed I was only saying that because I was still young and in my early twenties BUT GUESS WHAT its been 5 years now and I still feel the same way I did the day we had that conversation.

Now the popular notion, is that the older we (women) get the more desperate we become, but I have grown older and my feelings haven't changed about marriage. Whether it happens or not my life goes on, I feel content and good about being single and I am not actively looking to be hooked or to become attached to any man. I know some of you here will say that when I hit my middle or late thirties I will become desperate. Don't know about that, but i will enjoy being single

Not everyone is crazy about marriage, I am not even sure i want to have kids of my own. But I love kids especially at their toddler age and i have no qualms with adoption. I am an African and Nigerian woman who is not easily influenced by western culture so don't think this is another black sister with western upbringing this is just my honest thought and feeling about marriage.

Is Daviddylan or El-razur on auction? I would definitely like to bid for this gentlemen, because they strike me as being decent and mature men.

Seriously Cork, how can you expect the females on Nairaland to act like ladies when you and the gang (Mobo44, 190) are constantly bashing and running down women with your vulgar and abusive language.

I don't know about the other two guys you mentioned i.e Yorib & D-sense, but I know for a fact that a lot of the posts by you, Mobo & 190 can be extremely insultive and offensive to women, regardless of who it is directed to. I usually don't respond to such posts or threads by you guys because I find it obnoxious and I keep wondering if you guys are this way in real life.

Please be informed that not all women are despicable, the way you make them out to be, and you can air your views/opinions on a matter without getting low, dirty and nasty the way you all do. Respect begets respect, people will often respond to you the way you treat them.

I figure the females here will stop hating when you all stop being so rude & insultive. And I hope i don't get misunderstood and insulted in the process too, for this post.

Hey Mangosteen,

You forgot to post your contact details for people who are interested in buying this garment. Please do post your email address or phone number, my cousin has been dying to get this garment but the initial price mentioned to her was discouraging, but i bet with your own price she will be able to purchase it.

Dear House,

A military officer wishes to sell a brand new Peugeot 307 for the sum of N1.8 million. The vehicle was assigned to him and it personally belongs to him but he doesnt need it, so people who are interested should please contact Anita on 07029217679.

Please note: The vehicle hasn't been used and the price of N1.8 million is not negotiable.

Like someone said; it is the failure to plan ahead or even paln at all how to put the money to good use once you get it. But the first and normal reaction of most people would be to go out and spend the money buying things they have always wanted but just didn't have the means to obtain it.

Talking about lotteries, please I need to know if Peugeot 307's 50 50 50 promo is for real. Are they really going to give out 50 cars to 50 people? Or is this another gimmick to make people spend their money for nothing.

@ thweraja10

I feel you on this, and without being arrogant I can say that I often pray for Nigeria because deep down in my heart I know that nothing is beyond God and nothing is impossible for him.

Though there are times I honestly feel overwhelmed by the state of things in our country, and I wonder if we can ever grow and develop into a better nation. For as long as there is life and a living God there is hope.

@ Tudor and others like you, I honestly don't see the need for the nasty and obnoxious comments you've made.

What on earth has the man done wrong to deserve such insults? Tudor, I assume you are not of the christian faith and you are entitled to believe in whatever you choose to believe in. But you really need to watch what you say about people who are sincere/honest about their faith and walk with God.

I mean what gives you the right to come here and talk trash the way you have, has he claimed to be perfect without any flaws? And are you a flawless person? I am not perfect nor flawless but I realize that the freedom of expression doesn't empower me with the right to insult others when expressing myself which is something you need to be mindful of.

You belong in the same class with Mr Cork, Mobo44, 190 and others like them, if you have had the misfortune of reading their posts on this forum then you will know what class I am talking about. A downright low, sleazy and obnoxious class of people, who are crude, uncivilized, immature and repulsive the way MAGGOTS ARE.