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I do,well  mostly on saturdays when am cleaning my room and want some noise in the background.

Fortunately I stumbled on Inspirational FM's "Focus on the Family" radio drama series.

It's just off the hook and it beats watching tv. I will be tuning in for each episode from now on

Is this private company well structured?

By well structured I mean

1. Roles and responsibilities are clearly defined (from the beginning and not later on)
2. There is a hierarchical structure and your reporting lines are clear
3. There's respect for merit
4. There are sound policies favourable to employees regarding your pay, bonuses, leave days, working hours which should also be clearly defined and agreeable with you and the employer.

Look carefully before you jump ship ooo! Private companies tend to be run in a sort of dictatorship fashion that often favours the employer more than the employee, you don't want to be trapped in that sort of environment.

Outstrip:
Nobody should demand anything from anybody

Why don't you say that to the OP, and don't quote me.
The issue of ''demanding'' originated from his post I was only making reference to it.
Did you even read through his post before refering to mine? Duuuuhhhh

LOL , @ enjoying the holiday.
I was so reluctant to resume work this morning and thanks for the goodluck wishes.

Thanks all for your contributions, I appreciate it.

yamakuza:
Seems the masters option has been dispensed with.

Oh yes, it has definitely been dispensed with as far as I am concerned .
The positive feedback reinforces my courage to do this.

AjanleKoko:
No need to rush on the Masters.
Attend Goethe Institute and Alliance Francaise. Both of them have language learning programs, and might even be able to give you a leg up into the career you're looking for.

Great advice, that would be a good starting point.

You sound hesistant and reluctant to me, which indicates you don't feel WOW-ED by the idea.

You've got a conscience let it judge you, then you can decide what to do.

Whatsoever God has put together let **************** I am sure you can complete the saying.

@ Wallie,

Am checking out the website and liking what I see so far. I'll take my time later to thoroughly read everything about UFK cos am still at work.

Thumbs up   for your involvement in this.

blackpanda:
How many of us can still speak in our native dialect? When you become a "public servant" the first person to knock on your door will be your father, demanding that u build a house in the village and loot as much public funds as you possibly can.

Mmmh I will agree and disagree with the two points above respectively. Here goes

I feel you on the part about some people not being able to speak their native dialect. I cringe mentally when I come across such people and they say it out loud with no remorse as if it is a thing of pride.

What I find even more appalling is the youngsters (4 - 10 yrs old) who can speak english with all the oyinbo accent and slangs yet they can't say a single word in their dialect.

A father can demand for a house in the village but with the outrageous sum public servants are paid that house can be built without the need for looting.

All in all I think our parents didn't do a bad job at all, however the current crop of parents we have may be the ones overlooking certain crucial things. The quest for money to provide a good quality of life for their children may be taking it's toll on them

@ erico2k2

I be woman ooh not a man , and yes I hear you about the embezzlement issues that have torn this nation apart. I don't have a problem with Nigerians who want to remain abroad my own is that, If you are going to criticize and condemn, when you are done criticizing please offer or provide a solution.

The solution doesn't need to be on a grand scale, it can be in a simple and personal way such as drilling a bore hole for your community people in Naija, sending good quality medicines back home for common ailments like cold, cough, fever etc

Just do what you can, wherever you are as your quota and leave the bigger issues that are out of your power. Someone said something about self preservation and selflessness. Selflessness for me is a matter of choice ooh! I can choose to be kind and compassionate with the little I have now or wait until I am rich or have big bucks in my account.

Come to think of it has anyone noticed how rich people in this part of the world tend to be stingy? My point is: don't wait till you get that great job, have more money etc etc, before you perform an act of kindness or selflessness towards your country or at least the citizens of your home state be it in Kaduna, Abia, Kogi etc.

What do you think of learning/mastering three international languages as against acquiring a masters degree in any program?

I am not fond of school or to be more precise formal education within the four walls of a classroom. It's a miracle that I made it through college, university etc with good grades am still shocked at that    LOL.

On a serious note I do not desire to further my education by acquiring a masters degree because I honestly feel it would be a waste of time and resources for me. The education and certificates I've acquired so far hasn't done me much good or afforded me the quality of life I hoped for,   well it has to a certain extent but you know how it is now. Life is good but it could be better

I am fixated on two things: 1. Doing honest and legitimate work to earn a living or generate extra sources of income and 2. Taking good care of my ageing parents before I lose anyone of them (Thank God they are still alive). I presently do what I can for them but there's this burning desire to do more while they are alive.

Taking into consideration my fixations above, what is your advise or honest opinion on what would benefit me more. The Masters or Languages?

Me: am thinking languages because I am eyeing the UN, foreign embassies and becoming a translator who would charge good money for her services. But I would appreciate mature input on this, especially from those who have a masters under their belt. Has the masters really helped career wise at home (Naija) and abroad?

Did I hear INTRODUCTION and NOT TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE?.

You absolutely do not have to wear the same material for this purpose (introduction).

The same attire thing, applies at the traditional marriage proper and not at the stage of introducing the spouse to be.

Mind you anything could happen from the time of introduction till the time you finally seal the deal. So personally I wouldn't want to over do things (such as this), be publicly identified with a guy in such a manner of wearing uniform only to have the whole transaction fall apart later.

Erractic power supply, lack of quality healthcare services, poor infrastructures like bad roads etc etc, are amongst the many complaints I have heard and keep on hearing from my superiors based abroad and some other Nigerians I know in Yankee as their reasons for staying/remaining abroad.

The matter dey tire me sef, with the way they carry on condemning practically everything. Suddenly nothing is good or praise worthy in their own country and homeland. I often hear, in America this or that wouldn't happen. In the US they would do it like this, In the United States blah blah blah and the list just goes on.

Everything has become a comparison between us (Nigeria) and the developed world/countries. What I find really exasperating is the constant strings of complaints from this people (my bosses etc), who do nothing and offer no solutions to the problem other than talk and criticize.

They left this country (Naija) for greener pastures and expect to come back to a well developed and fully functional nation. Who were they or are they expecting to rebuild the nation and make it comfortable enough for them to return to? Is it the Govt or those who returned after school or is it the ones that have never left at all.That would be a classic case of monkey dey work baboon dey chop.

In a nutshell I wish Nigerians abroad who are particularly fond of criticizing and condemning this nation would equally proffer solutions in the wake of their criticism or just do what they can in their immediate environment or communities in Naija like sinking a bole hole in their village or even sponsoring a child or two to secondary school level. Contribute your quota as you honestly can in whatever capacity.

The facebook matter is not the only issue here, let's not focus on that one thing and forget the bigger picture here; which is her husband's unwillingness to get a means of livelihood or hold down a job for any reasonable length of time.

There is dignity in labour, as long as a person does honest work to earn a living am cool with that, but excuses about a job being beneath one's status when jobs are becoming hard to find in the UK is not acceptable. Meanwhile the man who says a job is not good enough for him is busy relying on others for financial assistance and going into debt

I believe the poster would react in a similar way (as her husband) about the facebook issue, but I think the dude is just holding on to that and using it as an excuse to pick a fight and not deal with the real issues threatening his marriage.

Mind you the poster did not ask to be called ''hey love'' her ex may have just used the phrase innocently with no pun intended and according to her they've not been in touch for 8 years.

@ afrobaby

I am honestly not jealous of you or the fact that you've gotten married and that's the truth.
There is nothing wrong with thanking God for good things, but you can do that privately without announcing it or putting it the way you did.

The title of your topic has k-leg in my eyes because you make it sound like being a Mrs. is the most ultimate goal women folk should aspire to, and that by getting married you have arrived and it's your biggest achievement ever. Therefore woe be tide all un-married women.

I am not a hater and I didn't mean to burst your bubble If I have accept my apologies. I was just pointing out the fact that your marital status (your previous status) shouldn't have prevented you from contributing to family issues if you had something meaningful to say.

However with your last post in response to me, you really come across as immature and I have no apologies on that. Now that you've joined the married club as you put it you need to equally grow up, marriage is not child's play.

That you have answered Mrs. is not the end of the story ooh the story is only begining but you will realize that soon enough when the euphoria of the wedding fades out.

I would recommend FM perfumes. It is a business where you can sell perfumes but I think that may work better in an environment where you are in constant contact with others such as colleagues at the work place, acquaintances at church may help too.

FM perfumes is a multi-level marketing business where you have to get people to sign up under you, in order to move up to the next level, get more points and benefits etc.  I am not a fan of multi-level marketing businesses.

However I recommend it because you can still do very well by just selling the perfumes. Your focus should be selling to make profit NOT getting people to join under you. But if you find people by all means sign them up. Just don't make it your focus otherwise you will have a hard time with success

You can try this: Make tasty sandwiches and take them out to offices, schools or places where people usually congregate every morning and sell. Sandwiches are easy to make, it doesn't take much, people are often hungry and looking for a quick snack while working. If you can't sell yourself find a contact person in each organization where you can leave your goods and return for your money at the end of the day it's risky but worth a try.

My Rav4:
If you are a married man and cheating makes you "fulfilled" in your marriage like someone once confided in me, then please go by the rules:-

1. Be as discrete as ever.
2. No CD, No wire
3. Even when caught "pants down", vehemently deny everything and everybody
4. When the mistress starts seeing herself on the same pedestal as the legitimate madam, bros,,,,,,,,, it's time to shift base!!!
Good luck.

I don't approve of infidelity but I certainly agree with point 1 and 4 in bold. If anyone decides to cheat they should make this points the cardinal rule.

afrobaby

Congrats on your marriage to heartthrob and all. The title of of your topic abi na thread (Thank God I am Now Mrs) get K-Leg for my eyes ooh.

But seriously you didn't have to state your marital status here and then comment on the fact that you can now contribute to family issues because you've joined the married club (sounds rather immature).

You could have still contributed something meaningful and worthwhile as a single woman. Family issues are not restricted to only husbands and wives. Family issues relate to and affect anyone, who has a family or who belongs to a family as brother, sister, aunty, unlce, in law, single parent etc etc

Jenifa_:
here is where the problem lies ^
you are simply encouraging indiscipline and predisposition to infidelity.

to men who are used to that kind of freedom, cheating and sleeping around will become like a human right while marriage and fidelity like a prison or cage.
for example, you called his single life "the good times." So, doesn't that translate into his marriage becoming "the bad times"?

@ Jenifa

How am I encouraging indiscipline and predisposition to infidelity? Didn't you read the part about me not endorsing promiscuity in my first post? To spell it out more clearly for you I do not approve of cheating, flings or whatever people want to call it, and it is not something I would encourage anyone to do because I've seen first hand the damage that sort of life can cause.

Secondly I said if people so wish to  live that way, or if they are so inclined to cheat and all. . PLEASE NOTE I did not say people should live promiscuous lives while single and then ammend their ways when married. If anyone chose to live that way while single, in my opinion it is only reasonable that they stop when married because one would expect that they have matured and realized the emptiness in that way of life.

Did you even notice that my reference to good times was put in quotation marks? Meaning that what I call good times is in fact not good at all. Jenifa I spoke plain english ooh! not spanish. I honestly don't know how you could misinterprete this and arrive at the conclusion that I was encouraging indiscipline.

I don't like to be misunderstood which is why I've taken the time to respond to you, I didn't do this just so I could argue with you. Please try to read between the lines and seek to understand.

Cuddlemii,

Thorougly enjoying all the scenarios you painted above and am just LOL .U no serious ooh

sexkillz:
^^^^ Are you ADVERTISING?

U no well ooh, advertising for what?  

Didn't you read the part about my decision being a deliberate one? That is; the decision to not date or have a relationship for now.

You haven't answered my question are you the one masquerading as xkillz?

Mr, Cork:
so u call him 300 times a day. In the UK we call it Stalkin

For the first time Cork, you've said something that actually amused me and made me laugh .
And the good thing is that it wasn't vulgar or offensive. Thumbs up

Are sexkillz and xkillz one and the same person?

To answer your question, I am not in a relationship at the moment it's a deliberate decision and I am liking it. Except for the fact that there are times I really feel like holding someone and being held, cuddling in front of the TV to watch a movie or just cuddling on the sofa to talk/gist about stuff.

The feeling gets worse on rainy days, and I try to find ways to deliberatley distract myself and not dwell on it. I can't help but laugh at myself sometimes  

r231:
with your kind of English

you should be glad a girl is running after you

obowunmi:
You can entertain her with your grurramar!

I dey laugh oooh. You guys just made my day.

Why Get Married If You Don't Intend To Stop Cheating?

I've wondered about this and asked the same question. A male friend said to me that I cannot expect him to eat one pot of soup for the rest of his life, and his marriage is only 3 months old . His remark reveals to me, that he already has the mind set to indulge in extra-marital affairs and cheat.

My take on this is that people both men and women while single can play the field and sow their wild oats if they so wish to (I am not endorsing promiscuity) . But the moment they say "I do" they should commit to that one person to the exclusion of others. Remembering the "good times" they had while single and adopting a new lifestyle of one man, one woman.

I don tire for all this plenty infidelity stories on NL. I sincerely hope there are still men and women out there who can earn the trust of their partners and not betray it once earned?

@ Poster
I honestly don't know what to say because I realize that men find it extremely hard to forgive the infidelity of a woman whether real or imagined . Don't get me wrong am not saying you've only imagined your situation. I think MrbrownJay, Mychalla and Dayokanu have all made good points, though two of them may not agree I see the sense in their posts.

I'm assuming  you are of the christian faith (correct me if am wrong)so here goes my advise. Why don't you make a confidant of the Lord and tell him all (how you feel, your suspicions, anger etc). And then ask Him to guide your heart and direct your footsteps in the path or way you should go. I give this advise because it works magic in calming and soothing my heart and anxieties when faced with stressful or difficult situations like yours.

Am not saying you should sit back, watch and wait for God to handle your situation. But confide in Him so He can better equip you and help you deal well with the situation. If you can bring the issue to a public forum to people like me who aren't perfect WHY NOT take it to the One who is not only perfect but is also a better judge of what you want and need.

At the same time you can sieve through the numerous advise here pick out the good ones and use it to your advantage.

Nashville:
Success in most jobs is not dependent on classroom work, but on intellect, prior experience and attitude which varies between individuals. So you can have 9ja graduate performing better on a job than foreign counterparts. But if what you want to compare is the quality of education, then 9ja unversities cannot stand most of the foreign universities.

I agree with the part in bold. It seems to me like some of the foreign graduates are just full of talk and no action. I've worked in an organization with one, who couldn't deliver results on the job, but she was always full of talk.

An acquaintance shared the story of her colleague (a nigerian trained abroad) who was brought in to head and manage their capacity building/training scheme, so far things have only gone downhill with no visible results . Yet this colleague keeps talking of the things that should be done, that will be done and which she will do.

Meanwhile this lady (the foreign trained graduate) is staying at the Hilton in Abuja on the organization's bill and receiving an outrageous sum as her salary infact when I heard the figure I was like what

My Question: If they are well schooled and better trained than their Nigerian counterparts why do they have a hard time delivering on the job, or showing results for their efforts? I am baffled at this and it honestly makes me wonder

190_@:
@madoba

come to think bout it cretin

you got a 190 post

intresting now i can vividly say you are living a life rite underneath 190

190 I am not surprised at your responses at all. You've become way too predicatble, I knew it was only a matter of time before you would start rolling the insults to people who aren't liking you on this thread. Honestly your insults don't bother me one bit, because I know what to expect from you at all times.

It seems you like to insult and bash others but you can't take the heat yourself LOL you are such an immature dude grow up. Seriously are you surprised that a good number of us find you disgusting and annoying on NL.

Richvkunt:
Must you open a thread all the time?
For crying out load its a monday.
You need to get yourself a job or a man or both.

Laughing out Loud.
I think the poster is a man or is he a homo?

Immoral Cohabitation, Hell No

I don't approve of it and I hope by God's grace I'll never be caught dead in it. I don't want to say I'll never do it because the adage Never say Never has given me a few hard knocks on the head.

The detriments in my opinion
1. It grossly hinders an effectual relationship with Christ
2. It creates issues (disrespect, contempt born out of familiarity),and it leaves baggages in cases where the cohabitation doesn't work out like low self esteem, bitterness, feelings of being used etc.
3. The milk is being gotten for free, what would be left of it much later? And besides the cow may not be bought afterwards.

I think it is an unhealthy way to carry on a relationship

sexkillz:
190 CARRIES THE DAY! Some time ago someone actually called him a ROBOT
BUT I've found out that he is actually AN EXPERIMENT IN ARTIFICIAL STUPIDITY!
HE GOT A BRAIN TRANSPLANT AND THE BRAIN OUT RIGHTLY REJECTED HIM!

@ sexkillz

You definitely got that right and am feeling you. I browsed through a thread where you and 190 were going head to head. I thoroughly enjoyed your come backs/replies to the fool's every word.

The dude (190) needs some serious re-adjustment I often wonder, is it by force to post and respond to topics on NL even when he has practically nothing of value to say. He needs to get a life

190
Mr Cork
Mobo44
MMM

My reson: they are a bunch of foul mouthed, trash talking and obnoxious set of people. 100% of their responses to issues are full of vulgarity and insults. They hardly ever say anything meaningful or reasonable.

For those who find 190 hilarious, am shaking my head and seriously wondering what is hilarious about someone who is soooooo obscene (offensive,repulsive).

@ poster

I totally feel you on this topic and I always just skip threads where the jackass 190 and his crew take over in their usual fashion.