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Kalatium:
Drills done and dusted:
DRILL NUGGET 15:DEALING WITH REJECTION
DRILL NUGGET 16: NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
THE DIFFERENT PYSCHOLOGICAL MAKE UP OF MEN N LADIES( ladies experience faster n blow older men, boys grow slower n look to younger ladies)
DRILL NUGGET 17:BLEND D BLISS..... CLOWN NOT
DRILL NUGGET 18:BE EXPERIENCED/BALANCED
DRILL NUGGET 18B:Women Words & Their Meanings
DRILL NUGGET 19:
A. P0RN : The Positives
B. M PROPOSAL

DRILL NUGGET 20:GURL TYPES/GRADES
DRILL NUGGET 21:HANDLING LUV & BALLS
DRILL NUGGET 22: MARRIAGE LIGHT









Awaiting drill:

DRILL NUGGET 23:
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LEARN LINES, RHYMES, PEOTRY, AT LEAST ONE MUSICAL INSTRUMENT, IF YOU CAN, SING!

U smoke Hw come

dancok:
This is my first salary though but debt was already on ground before the salary showed, so am clearing the debt now and the situation of corona virus now.

I don't how long this will last, so am cautious of my spending.

Have I not sinned? Can I shift my tithe till next payment? Pastors in the house.

Tithe is between you and your God not you and ur pastor

Makah00:
pls can I message u

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Iamsoworried123:
Hi guys!

I and a friend are looking to migrate to the same country by January 2021 via post-graduate studies and we don't want to make the wrong decision. Your advice would be appreciated.

We've narrowed the countries down to three (U.S, Canada, and the U.K.). Although the dream country is the U.S., we're looking for one out of these three that is;

A. Easy to get a job in and stay back after graduation (with a high chance of getting a residence permit)

B. Relatively inexpensive (Although cost would not be a big issue, but the easier it is to get funding and GA positions, the better)

Quick profile of the two of us;

Person A studied Geology

Person B studied History and International Studies

I'm aware those in the STEM field have a higher chance of getting jobs and it's difficult to get a H1-B U.S Visa (please correct me if I'm wrong).

Given the recent change in U.S. immigration laws, which one of these three countries do we stand the highest chance of getting jobs and residing after studies?

Please advise.

Thank you very much!


Can this get to the front page, please? I need as many contributions as I can get. Thanks.

Canada.... No need arguing.. Delay is dangerous

drnoel:
girls? Am obviously not ur mate. I don't believe u can ask ur father that question? As a matured question and I may humour u with an answer.
Cheers

Something you said above nw can't be answered... Ur talking as if I was beefing you... Me that am asking for myself

drnoel:
Time is the best teacher. Ideas u peddle now changes as u mature into the kind of man u will be. Don't be quick to decide or form an opinion of complex creatures like women. The heart of a woman is deeper than an ocean. Even wise men can't explain why a woman who hates the father of her child can love the same child (with so much devotion) who happens to be a splitting image of the man she hates. Cheers

can you explain to me how you became an asshole to girls, that just what I want to hear

burner44:
This happened a week ago

My girlfriend doesn't know my place, we had a little quarrel on Friday night so she tried calling me on Sunday so she could pay me a visit at home. Unfortunately I was away from home and I also forgot my phone at home as well.

So she called a friend of mine who happened to be a neighbor and explained to him that I wasn't answering her calls and made him understand i was angry with her so she wants to come see me and apologize. So he described a meeting place so he could pick her up and bring her to my place but unknowingly this guy had another motive, he met up with my girlfriend, took her to a nearby fast food and they ate, after which he took her to his own house and went ahead introducing her to his family.

The thing is that this guy happened to be a person I called my friend, he went ahead making advances to my girlfriend, forgetting why she initially called for his help. She said she couldn't express her anger at him as she wasn't used to the area and would need his help to get back home too.

Even though I met her through him as they were neighbours while in school, he made it clear to me that he doesn't like her, even she said it in front of us that she doesn't like him before we started dating and all that but to my surprise he has actually made advances at her on 2 occasions and went as far as wanting to force a kiss on her and I'm quite fed up.

I don't know what course of action I should take next to put an end to this and I'm in need of your advice as I won't want to handle it wrongly.

And you still call her ur girlfriend??
SHAME!!!!

Toby122:
Hello, Nairalanders, I am 27 years of age and just passed out from service October last year, with a 2.1 degree cert in Geo/Envi Mgt.

My PPA retained me with a pay of 20k just this January they added 5k to my salary.

On Friday I got a call from my pastor about a security job in first bank. To cut the long story short, I was given an appointment with a salary of 40k, and now I am so confused. I have plans to further my education by September this year and am not really comfortable with leaving my current job...

Pls I want your take on this....

It's simple, with a security Job... U keep on being in d security related sector while in the teaching job, you can expand to another sector if you want to later in life.....the choice is Urs....

Ifesinachi22:
I suffered a heartbreak just yesterday.
But i won't commit suicide because of her.

To even imagine it was still that yesterday that i bought a phone for her. She lost her phone and put her Sim in her roommates 2nd phone. I emptied myself and bought a phone for her. She saw my ex pics on my phone and flayed up calling me many names, a womaniser that can sacrifice anything to have her tight pussy. The thank you she will tell me is that am a womaniser that she's done with me. The insult was too much that i blocked her yesterday. I unblocked her this morning and made a threat that if she leaves I'll release her nude. With this i pinned her down. I love her so much and can go to any length to keep her. Am never going to release her nude. But she calmed down immediately she heard this. She has been seeking for advice on Facebook groups the whole of this evening. I've been seeing her "i need advice" on Facebook groups.

She has been loyal since 2pm that i told her this.

Am the boss

...

If I were you, I will start finding another gf.. This ur current one is a time bomb waiting to blow... Use ur head.. And stop laughing

lordally:
Anyway... do you have any other ideas about Canada and how I can get in Legally I would be very much willing to listen

Best way is to go dere using schooling as ur means, else then u can use skills as ur ways

Brodapounds:
Hello dear nairalanders.

Please I'm going through a state of mental confusion.

Currently i have approximately 20 million and 300 thousand naira in my bank account.

I have two thoughts.

1) I am 25 years old but I'm not a university graduate, i only have ND (National deploma) from a polytechnic In Edo state, Auchi precisely.

I would have become a graduate years ago but after my "ND" years ago, i refused to go back to school and i decided to hustle for money.

Most of my classmates in school back then are all graduates but all the same, looking at my bank account now, i have no regrets.

So this is what i plan on doing.

1) Can i further my Education In any university in the United States with the money and plan on staying back after my degree, for the fact that I'm 25.
Will that be advisable?

2) should i stay back in Nigeria and use part of the money to build a house In my hometown in Benin and use the rest for business?

3) Is there a chance of going to USA and start all over again, look for job.
Will the money be enough to rent a house, foot some bills untill i see a job in the USA.

Note i choose USA only because it's my dream country, I'm not scared of the traveling ban because I'm 100% confident that it will be taken away few months from now.

Please i won't be replying any mention or questions.

All i want is to take note of good advice.

I already know a reliable traveling agent.

Please other suggestions are welcomed apart from mine.

Please help

Why America Why not Germany, Canada?

Go sch and den work after sch den get Blue card/PR n the rest dey say is history... Using that money in Nigeria is risk if u are planning on using it for business..... If you can hustle In Nigeria.. Canada will be shit if ur legally in dere

lordally:
Can you be of help to me too?? please
FINANCE is not my problem ...getting out is the problem ...I was denied a US Visa last year December

Y use USA when u can use canada

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

You dnt av a means to take care of a child and you went and impregnated her?? First offense...

Second offense which will be future action you will take.....


Imagine marrying her nw how will she behave??

Less stubborn or more stubborn....

sylvestersamuel:
Good morning my fellow Nairalanders, I will try to make my story brief and precise.... I have a fiancée whom I am already engaged to. As a matter of fact I have already done all our traditional marriage and rites the only thing left is our white wedding which will be coming up in the next 3 weeks.

Yesterday, my fiancée came to visit me in my house so as to discuss our wedding plans. But before she left, we had a slight misunderstanding and the reason for our misunderstanding was because I allocated 50% of our wedding expenses to her i.e (she would be the one to sew her wedding gown, pay for the catering service amongst others) while I take care of other expenses...

On hearing this, she didn't even utter a word but left with annoyance, since then I have been trying to call her but she hasn't been picking my calls neither have she replied any of my messages....

Please I need your advice, did I do or say anything wrong, because I know how much I spent during our traditional marriage rite and mind you, she earns close to 200k per month.... Insult in form of advice is allowed all I need is just your advice.

postpone the wedding till you are ready to pay for everything in the bill

babavik:
Oga HARDDON and highly respected Profs,I greet..........
pls help me out......,
There is this lady at my place of work that have been on my neck for a long time for a relationship which I stylishly decline though she keeps coming around but not as before. The problem is that I want her back now and is like she's dating another of my colleague which she denied vehemently when I asked her.
Pls how do I bring her back even though I missed my chances earlier on.Help a brother out

Hmm you made a great decision earlier but ur n9w jealous she's following another of ur colleagues!!! Na wa o... Go get babes outside ur working environment n stick with them...Drop that nonsense jealousy attitude ur having... Am even sure she's the one that's making you jealous..

SipCoke:
I apologize for the long post... So the thing is, I am 22 years old currently in 200 level. My performance is very poor, in fact I'm currently on probation(I'm suppose to be in 300 level by now) and that's not because I'm not intelligent or I'm dull o. it's just that i don't show commitment towards my studies because I've completely lost interest in the course I'm currently studying because of its calculation aspect. I hate calculations a lot. Let me say, I'm more of a theory person. I have tried applying for change of course but i was denied maybe because of my poor performance. My Father doesn't know anything about this. "no issues at all Daddy, my result is good", my response whenever he asked me about my result.

So i have finally decided to apply for withdrawal from my current school to register and sit for jamb again. This time i will apply for a course in a different institution. This course in question is a course I've wanted to study long ago but my current school don't offer it. My friend studies it and I've done research on the course my self. I'm very sure i can do it this time.

Now i don't even know how to approach my father with this. I know I've fvcked up big time. The man will be so so annoyed and disappointed in me but i can't continue like this, i want to get things on track, i want to fix my life and start afresh. Right now I'm just confused and frustrated. Nairalanders, i will need your advice and suggestions. Please what's your take on this?

.. Before you tell your dad get ur admission for the other course. That will reduce the tension when you break the news to him... I dnt know why you didn't mention the both course, we may also help concerning that

Ubunja

My only advice for men is if you given birth to a girl with a baby mama or who ever try training the girl yourself... BE involved in it so she wnt come out the same way

Dracoe:
So I’m just curious, is it still necessary to still keep forming hard guy to your girlfriend ,someone you’ve been with for a while ..let’s say a year , a person who you claim to love and feels the same way about you and maybe even more, and not just love..someone who is loyal to you also.�

The day u stop is the day she start seeing a different you that she didn't love.... Think about it

strungup79:
I'm 42 years old and married with 3 children (2 boys and a girl). I got married to this beatiful lady 13 years ago and everything was bliss until three years ago when my business experienced a serious down turn.

My wife on the other hand witnessed an upturn in fortunes and practically became the bread winner in the home.

Her good financial fortune had me focussed on trying to get myself back on track. I tried getting a job, but it was not forth coming.

My business continued to dwindle and then I resorted to doing small odd jobs just so I could contribute to the family upkeep.

My wife's upturn in fortune however brought out the ugliness in her. She started trying to assume control of the home. She stopped consulting me on decisions concerning our home, rather consulting her parents. She practically turned my kids against me as she painted me as irresponsible.

We initially had assess to each other's account, but now she has accounts hidden from me. I just found out she bought land somewhere, though she doesn't know I have that knowledge.

She has become rude and disrespectful and her parents and siblings have taken over my home. I am so pained because all I ever did was show her love and respect.

She didn't like the fact i tried to have order in my home and that seems to be my sin. I have never hit her or been wicked to her.

Right now, I'm pained and confused. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

... Go start again without her, tell the children you are going on journey to develop urself that you will be back for them. Just leave n start life afresh.. Giving urself too much stress is bad for ur business

StarScream95:
Hey house.... There have been this girl always wanting to come visit me.... I've used litrally 0 drill on her..... Is it too good to be true? Should I reject?
Have you regretted free food before?

Let her come but dnt do nothing use the drill on her
One step forward two steps backwards....she must be d one to start whatever.... Remember safety first tho.. If you doubt abort immediately

RamseyBolton:
My girlfriend came to stay for a week. 2 days before she was to go, she told me her gf would like to stay and from my house they will go to school. On the night before they were to go, i and my gf were in the process of kpanshing, thats how i her friend woke up and saw us and said she's hōrny too.

Testimony 1: I had my first threesóme with two girls
Testimony 2: I realized my girlfriend is actually bisexual. Cant marry her again.
Testimony 3: I staked 500k on 1.8 odds and I didnt lose my money to Akin Alabi. Winning goal came at the 95th minute. I was eyeing my sniper bottle on top my shelf before then.

If you insult me ehn? I will invoke my deities on your matter.

All girls are potential bisexual better dnt use that reason to say ur not marrying her o.. Cheers to greater 2020

Ardar:
The op wrote this hoping to educate men about the benefits of been Chosen not realizing the he is indirectly teaching women the same.

Women who have their men wrapped around their fingers will see this thread and like it cuz it validates their beliefs

while girls like me who are still learning about men will use this info to my advantage

Talk about shooting your self in the foot

Thank you ubunja for opening my eyes more.

I just hope ur self unconcousiousness wnt betray you..

Bscholarly:
By: Edeh Samuel Chukwuemeka

Nice.. Thanks for this...
How abt where the bill is presented to Nigerians in form of a gathering. Can't remember what it's called nw. I think it was missed

vowsng:
Met this beautiful angel sometime 2017 in school, we became friends but officially started dating last year December.

Things have not been Rosy cause I'm not the regular rich kid, although, she is understanding, mature and supportive.

I graduated last year, though have not been to service, with her support and that of friends, I got a 2.4 Camry I have been using for bolt.

She just graduated last week, and went home on Tuesday but before she left for home, I proposed we hang out to have some fun as her going home entails we would not see each other soonest, she accepted.

But on the other hand, my immediate elder sister had her wedding last month 23rd and as the first son, I know I became bankrupt, not forgetting that where I stay, (with a distant relative) I was given December to vamoose even though I know I'm of age to have a place of my own without being told.

So I thought about all this and decided I won't miss work that Monday, raising 200k working with bolt and my car is not too sound too, that means I have to work every single day, but on a second thought, it would be selfish of me so I skipped work on Monday and we were together that whole day.

She left for home on Tuesday, I was already out working, I saw a "stressed out" status on WhatsApp, I asked and she said she didn't leave in the morning that she was called to make urgent corrections by her supervisor.

On Wednesday we said the normal hello and good morning, most times I will be driving and a little stop or traffic I will have to reply her message or send a voice note.

But just today, no good morning or anything from the both of us, this evening, she sent in a message that she is tired, first thing that came to my mind was, "yes, i said it she would be bored at home" but I was still driving then, so I quickly replied, "I'm tired too" next thing is let's just end it and stop wasting each others time.

This is not the first time she is threatening me with breakup, she went on to call me heartless, i don't know, but I thought I found the right one, we always planned the future together, gisted about alot of things and the name we would give our kids, only for her to tell me she sees no future.

If this was a joke, then it was taken too far, I have accommodation issue, my younger brother is my responsibility for now, she knows everything about me, we weren't lacking in communication, now I believe a struggling guy shouldn't be in a relationship.

This is actually going to be a long journey to singleness. I was sad that I had to bruise some cars in traffic this evening, thanks for reading and sorry for the lengthy right up.

Message me on mo4tvce@gmail.com let talk

drlance:
She kept lying about this guy who happened to be a medical doctor, I am unemployed but sell phone accessories and do mini importation on the side but doing my Masters.

It happened that one time she told me she was to travel to Asaba to meet her family members, on hearing this I was happy and looked forward to talking to them.

After spending the night at my place I put her in a bus to Asaba, she didn't pick my calls till the next day.

The next day she posted an outing pic of herself in an eatery I didn't see it as anything but it's the next one that broke me.

A guy took a picture of her with her phone while backing a glass door so I could take that he wore a blue shirt I called that day and when I asked playfully to talk to the family members she asked me "what kind of talk is that ?"

Not long from then I got tagged in a picture on her wall on Facebook, low and behold it was a selfie of her and the Medical doctor in blue shirt and the caption "I love you forever, my personal person" someone she said I shouldn't worry about but he is asking her out, that she knew months before meeting me. She was supposed to be away for 2 days and ended up coming back after a week.

On seeing this I called to demand for an explanation if they were related, she sighed cut the phone on me and didn't pick my calls ever again.

She left me for a Medical Doctor!!

One month later now she calls me out of the blue to ask for 2k to buy foodstuffs. Which I gave without saying a word.

Fast forward to today I got a job with the government and relocated to Abuja.

She called me later shedding crocodile tears and begging for me back.

People of Nairaland, what would you have me do? What will you do if you were in my shoes? It's not my fault she didn't see the bigger picture.

She isn't the first woman that has left me for a better person.

Search for Ubanja and read his threads

me5you:
Stay there na.. baba cannot perform same level as when ronaldo was around.. too much expectations go lead to him exit �

Keep dreaming

user283:
I've done that before but it doesn't change anything bro

Then you shouldn't be here!!!... The relationship should av ended long time ago. You dnt marry stingy wives. Incase there is an emergency at home and you are not around,
Do you think she will help out??
She might just be saying "I told him to give me money before he goes o and he didn't... She will den leave it like that without solving the emergency..

Come and join Mo4-Tv for more advice.. 0-7-0-8-7-733472
Dm us on WhatsApp

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed the introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, tipping my girlfriend whenever she's stranded or not has never been a load on my neck since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is?

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to see "give and take" as one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend act nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I postponed our introduction no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I would want to end up with a selfish woman but her response shows it's her nature.

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently and he told me her sister is stingy. I believe her brother should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship. 

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much about herself alone

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving

Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man? Can you consider a marrying someone as stingy as this just because she has other good traits?

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

You man, your dating yourself o... If a girl truly loves you she would buy something without telling you.
Best advice---"buy something for urself and let her know it's New and tell her, it's one of your female friends that bought it and you love it soooooo much..
Let see how we go from there. Her reaction should speak more

labour that should focused that strength on restructuring the country.. 4yrs from now is this how you want to be fighting for another increase?

Scope for the his dream to come to pass even tho he doesn't win

keryj:
Men and stupity

Just her celebrity crush

So apart from the picture the girlfriend doesn't have any other bad habit to be corrected on.

I even thought its a random unknown guy.

you better use ur brain b4 i come for you!!!...
so if you get a phone for me n i decide to put chidima the musician as screensaver when your pics is dere!! u wnt get mad abi??