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aribisala0:
I am sure you think that .To me your question has no meaning.I have no idea what you mean

Do i think you are honest?

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aribisala0:
Was there abandoned property or not? I am sure in your mind what you are trying to say makes plenty sense. Communication is about sharing the content of your mind with other minds using a mutually comprehensible medium.

If you do not communicate clearly I am not prepared to make assumptions about what you mean.

Asking me whether there was abandoned property is like asking me

Was there fried egg or not .

What is the context or meaning of that?

I though my question required just a "yes" or "no" answer.

aribisala0:
What of it?

What is your question? I am not a mind reader

was there abandoned property or not?

aribisala0:
Play? You folk are always sentimental and childish. So we should allow you rewrite and distort history unchallenged?
Just like your claim that 3 million people died? Which is another claim that has no basis in ANYTHING
Histoty is about establishing TRUTH
The idea that Bank accounts were taken over by the Nigeria State is one that needs examination.
Is it possib;e that this happened without any law,gazette or one single newspaper article.

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As far as [ictures go who started the picture posting game? Scroll up and look for the first picture on this thread?

Please spare me the whining

Were orher Biafrans Affected or Just Igbos?
What about Ikwerres and Delta people with Igbo names

What of "abandoned property" am sure you will deny that too.

Everybody seems to be taller than "Buhari" these days.

life has really lost its value in this country that people can talk and advise on abortion with a straight face. everyone, pls a take home assignment, how old do you think our Blessed Mother Mary was when she gave birth to our Lord Jesus Christ?

A baby is the only thing a woman can claim to be truly hers. If you want to see the tiger in your sister, then hurt her kid. shebi you said you are still in the streets, don't worry, when she finishes with you, you will be in the garage.

doctorkush:
] did someone really left his phone in this bros car or he is only trying to flaunt his recently acquired kabu kabu ?? because all he keep posting is the car with different poses... anyway congrats on your newly gotten motto

where is the chill brev

juanmiguel:
Those who spell theirs as Chidinma just chose to do it that way. if you are talking about the correct spelling so long as Igbo Language is concerned it is spelt CHIDIMMA. Cos in Igbo Language, there is no consonant cluster

All this "consonant cluster" you guys keep saying, what of words like "mkpi"

It is chidimma not chidinma.
In Igbo, N and M are not found in a word.
Mma is a word.
But can only be seen in a 'phrasal-word' like oMe-Na-ala.
N and M behave like vowel but they are not vowel in Igbo language (ie myiri-udaume).

i dont think so.. What of Mmanya (drink)
meanwhile, i think it has to do with dialect, both are correct in my opinion.

9jaDoc:
That Ogundipe was one funny guy. While Ojukwu was busy still insisting Ogundipe must be head of state he had already ran to UK and no one heard a peep from him after that.

on another note, let it not be like this Nnamdi Kanu own that they are telling us he has ran to London, who actually saw Brigadier Ogundipe in London?

Shybubet:
Guy, stop to lie na!!! This is a big fat lie.
You dey inside church with your phone and Bible, which one are you using to read this topic.?

my Bible, who tell you say I carry phone go mass?

only problem is.... am at mass now, reading this topic on.... Nairaland.

If you can't trust your own mother inlaw with your child, then, I wonder what you are really doing in that marriage.

But, where will the prisoner charge his phone in that prison?

Nwadiana. I can see where he got his looks from. Obviously Rich Northerners are excused from tribal marks.

selflessmaya:
when ppl say never hit your wife, they mean never become the aggressor. what is happening to to you is domestic violence and your wife is abusing you emotionally and physically. you need to leave that woman fast. she's poison! don't try to change her, don't blame yourself for anything, just, cut her loose!

EDIT: so I just read the old article you included in the link, i change my mind. with more insight to this:
OP, I dont mean this in an insensitive way, your wife has some deep issues and must have suffered some intense psychological trauma to cause her to feel a lot of bitterness and act out in sadism when angry, the knife, the fork, hitting you with a shoe on your head and not stopping when you didnt even react!! this last one is a huge red light, something is really wrong with your wife, she loves to inflict pain and if her personality is as contrast as u say, that everyone thinks she's this sweet girl, then whatever is wrong with her runs really deep, it's not normal at all to keep hitting a person with a shoe on the head when they're not fighting back, she wants to hurt you, she wants u to feel pain.

I'm honestly convinced your wife has suffered sexual assault at an early age that led to a break in psyche, she's mastered suppressing her feelings, her nice girl act is not an 'act', she's actually that nice. but when she's angry, all the bitterness buried beneath the surface emerges and she finally deals with all the buried emotion in its magnitude, it overwhelms her and she wants to act out to hit something or punch a wall etc. when she's alone and unhappy, even when she lived with her parents, u really dont want to see/imagine what your wife does to and says to herself, this anger she shows you, she's lived with it for a long time, she's been her own victim till now when she made u her victim. there is nothing she has done to you that she hasn't done to herself times hundred.

if you choose to for better for worse it, find a psychiatrist or psychologist and go with your wife for counselling, your wife, with or without you will never change till she finally begins to work on whatever buried bitterness she's had to live with for years. try to get help together as a family or get a divorce if u would rather not go through it. it's really that simple, your wife will live with whatever has happened for the rest of her life but how she manages the accompanying emotions, her anger and abandonment issues can all be taken care of with a good psychologist and emotional support on your part. educate yourself on the topic of sexual assault and learn the necessary sensitivity training and triggers. counselling will teach you all this.

no, i'm not thinking too far, your wife ticks a lot of boxes:
-extra charming cos of distorted/low self image and need to be accepted
-her over-religiousness is for closure that she needs and like u said her prayers are always for her god to attack ppl for her. even her relationship with god isnt healthy, it's a coping mechanism. the idea of a protector that will attack on her behalf.
-she talks from 12am to 4am alone when you're asleep, OP, your wife is full of a lot of buried emotion, she really wants to talk to someone about something.
-despite being a nice girl, before you married her, she had no friends
-she's very quiet, hardly finishes her words (withdrawn personality, mastered suppresion)

you should never have raised your hands to hit this woman, when she froze for 5 minutes, it's not that she was thinking she overstepped her boundaries, she was actually coming back to her senses, when your wife gets angry, she loses her mind and forgets who she's dealing with. even worse when the person who angered her is male, she reacts with more venom cos subconsciously he represents her aggressor and she wants to hurt him to make him feel pain. she probably has conversations with herself and imagines herself confronting her abuser and being able to hurt him back and make him regret his actions and cries alone cos it's only in her imagination that she can deal with him. when a man makes her defensive in her personal space, she attacks. till u actually hit her, u just represented something that she has bad blood with and now you've added yourself to the list of men that have ruined her.
she has stopped hitting u cos she has buried the incident of the slaps too but OP, the same place it's buried is the same place her demons she's battling are buried, she wont touch you but when her bitterness surfaces when she's alone, this time you're one of her enemies. the resentment is growing and when she sees u, she's filled with such bitterness she shoves u. if u do not intend to fix this marriage OP, walk away NOW. a lot of bitterness is brewing in this woman and if you add yourself to the list, we will read about u in the news the day this woman snaps. the same way u never saw her eyes so red the day she yelled, u will never believe she has it in her to go the extent she'll go, your wife will surprise you.

nigeria does not have a good support system for ppl who have had to deal with the trauma of sexual assault, society takes it lightly too but this is 2017, ppl should educate themselves on this, when we read here everyday '6 yr old girl raped in lagos by 43 yr old man', that girl is someone's future wife and she will NOT just be like everybody else, the scars of her trauma will show one way or another and she'll need extra sensitivity cos she's a "special" case. your wife is not a naturally aggressive person, that i can tell u and it's sad that another human being created this monster in her. OP, this is really not your battle, it's not you she wants to fight, you did not give her all the bitterness she's carrying, so let the slaps u gave her be the last, you wife is a very very bitter scorned woman whose hurt has taken years and years to germinate, the person who hurt her isnt dealing with it, u are. if u add to her bitterness and it gets too much, the person who created 99% of this mess will not be the scapegoat, again it will be u. i haven't dealt with sexual assault personally or with a family member but i have met closely with some of the victims and the effects of sexual assault are too underestimated. ppl should be killed for damaging another human like that.

if u do choose to save your marriage:
apologize profusely for hitting her and become super sweet, if u choose to undo this mess, u have to be ready, sensitive, patient, very educated about this issue and strong for the both of u. if u choose to walk this path, u will watch her fall apart and u have to be ready to help her reassemble.
don't let her hit you, hold her hands and keep holding it and talking to her till she calms down. your wife is actually a very sweet person, the person you knew her to be when u married her exists, just buried under layers of bitterness. i dont blame u at all for hitting her, there's nothing illogical in hitting someone who came at u with a knife, i can understand why u snapped but let it be the last time. your wife wants to talk to you, listen to her, she talks when you sleep, when you leave she follows you, it's annoying but it's her subconscious, she really wants to reach out. listen to your wife! make out time and let her rant, she will talk about so many things, no matter how messed up it sounds, keep listening. then talk back about whatever and if she interrupts and tries to talk, let her talk, just listen. u can stop the midnight talks by changing it to day time. stop sleeping in your sitting room, move back to your bed.

when you're ready to make the move, try pulling it out of her, on top of your new sweetness, be extra extra sweet to her for the whole week like her sh!t dont stink, on a friday(so if she spills, you'll both have the weekend to grieve), make sure she's in a nice awww darling mood and when you're holding her, just brush by a conversation u heard at the office that made u really sick "about a dude that assaulted some teenage girl and how mad it makes you that men like that are still walking around breathing and if they ever dared it with someone u care about, u'll deal with them and how no matter what she was wearing or where she was, no one has the right on another person's body without consent and the worst part is there are girls out there who have experienced this and told no one and the animal didnt get caught"
stay on the topic of sexual assault and follow body language, dont change the topic, be gentle, when she cracks, try to get her to talk, say what u have to "she can tell u anything, u wont judge, u love her from here to japan, if it affects her it affects you, u are both one and she can confide in u etc" when she talks, encourage her to keep talking, show that you're listening, console her all you can, cry with her even if u have to force the tears though i doubt you'll have to force them, make her see that whatever sunken place she's in, you've somehow gotten there too but dont cry more than her haba. tell her that both of u will go for counselling together, find a good therapist and go with her till she makes progress to go alone. make sure u find a therapist before u try to get her to talk about this and once she talks, the upcoming monday, begin therapy. and dont expect to work this out in 2 days, give yourself time like 4-6wks to build the emotional environment of trust and zero judgement to be able to access her when the time comes. note: she has to open up to you before you can go for therapy.

-u can expect her to go into depression for a while, she might need anti-depressants, sleeping pills too, she will be dealing with a lot of emotion once she finally lets someone in.
-NEVER EVER make a joke about her incident or say something mean to her about it... NEVER EVER!!! NEVER EVER!!! I MEAN IT OP.
-if u want to divorce her and not work through this, which is honestly the easy way out for you, then pls dont bring up anything i just told u here, dont taunt her over this, dont ask her about abuse or anything, just let the marriage end and pretend u didnt even read this. she will still live with herself so she has it heavy already.

i really do sympathize with you, u have found yourself in a very unfortunate position and no decision u make will be easy. sadly enough, i feel sorry for your wife too, she's really lived her hell and she's putting you through it. both of u dont deserve this. i also applaud you for all the grace you've shown, it's very hard to break the cycle of abuse, abused ppl mostly pass it on to others, maybe not in the form they received it but they leave their mark, so i can imagine how strong a person u were to endure all the emotional & physical abuse. and no, slapping her back was not abuse, u defended yourself full stop! dont feel sorry for yourself, just do what u have to do: stay & do the work to mend this if u can or leave if u cant.
u have to accept that your wife has issues that cause aggression when it flares. in time, u will also notice she's protective of children or animals or things she pictures as defenseless, it'll show in her mothering, not wanting your kid to go out, being too clingy to the child, convinced the big bad world is out to get her child, all that u will both work through in due time. once you can get your wife to show you the dark place she's in, it'll not be her safe place anymore, she can't hide there anymore, whatever comes to surface will be dealt with by both of you and u will finally live with the smiling smiling girl u married. good luck OP

wow. just wow! You should have your own section on this Nairaland. I quoted you cos I am running late to work and will read through when I get there.

Michael004:
I will die like a solder like Adolf Hitler than to run like a coward ojukwu . To be sincere, it was a great shame. It is a bad record. The first ever solder to do a marathon race. What a great record

Lie! The first soldier to do a marathon was

Brigadier Ogundipe .. The first of his name, Father of Cowards, breaker of records, The un-livered.

It is even a Yoruba Muslim that is making such assumption, yet they will say there is nothing like religious intolerance in Yoruba land.

someone that is doing NYSC, what and what will be in her CV, that is if she has one already. provide jobs Biko.

Old Roger is dead And gone to his grave
Hm, ha,
Gone to his grave
They planted an apple tree Over his head
Hm, ha,
Over his head.
The apples were ripe And ready to drop
Hm, ha
Ready to drop
There came an east wind A-blowing them off
Hm, ha
A-blowing them off
There came an old woman A-picking them up
Hm, ha
A-picking them up
Old Roger got up
And gave her a knock
Hm, ha
Gave her a knock
Which made the old woman Go hippity-hop
Hm, ha
Hippity-hop

TopGunFighter:
Kanu is dead and gone to the grave *hum haa gone to the grave. Buhari planted a hausa tree over his head *hum haa over his head. The hausa tree grew stronger and stronger *hum haa stronger n stronger... let the ipobs start to rain abuses I am ready

why did you leave out the last two stanza of the rhyme? every one should Google the rhyme, I know that those of you that attended LGEA primary schools did not have the complete book.

agbangam:
OP sef no wise, mumu Jona dat left over 25 states stranded cos he looted n emptied our treasury. 27 states cud not pAy their workers for over 8months not to talk of pensioners. Even with mama Harvard as d minister of Finance cud not think of ways of solving dat issue. It took PMB ingenuity with his hard working minister of finance to solve dat huge national mess. U guys shud be happy dat God gave us PMB else GEJ wud have completely wrecked dis nation.

The "Money" Jonathan "looted", where is it? where did he keep it? in Nigeria or overseas? pls answer, cos even you should be tired of that refrain by now.

let me just say

misano:
Go & take ur dose in peace and stop forcing everybody.. U well. . ?

You school for EKP?

Unik3030:
am an afonja n i support buhari till 2023 at least to deal with the chest beaters

Do not think this is a joke! If the Yoruba are asked to choose between their progress or the downfall of the Igbo, We cant say which group will come out tops.

The fact that after so many years, Jacob Zuma has not led South Africa into recession says a lot. Corruption ko, integrity ni.

Bros, if you can't recognize fake money even in the dark, you are not ready to start business.

Bro, you need to hit the gym, do you think segun would be bold enough to remain in your presence if you are looking like vuga?

Operation Crocodile Smile 2 Live in Orile, Lagos. I wa almost picked up right inside my shop by 5-6 Army guys. They even picked up an Igbo guy that sells food in the very restaurant that i ate this morning.

crackerspub:
We don't cherish what we have until we lose it.



During the time of the great Fela Anikulapo Kuti, he fought for the rights of average Nigerians by speaking out using his music



During his time, the corruption rate wasn't that bad, because we had people like Fela that was fearless, unlike what we have now.



He opposed Nigerian dictators which later cost him his life.



Fela's protest songs covered themes inspired by the realities of corruption and socio-economic inequality in Africa, He was a voice for the voiceless.


He was arrested over 200 times and his family members beaten but still kept fighting for the small people.



I pray if we would have such a man again.



Rest in Peace Sir

We had it, but since he was not Yoruba, it was okay for the Military to disappear him from his Father's palace.

Great!! Hope he won't turn to Aareonaagbaajooso or Aareonaanuajotea when jungle matures. The one on Nairaland has since gone the same way.