It seems some demons are battling with you. Try exorcizing those ones first. Obviously you have your mind made up on what to do but out here whining all of us. It's also pretty clear why your mother's own advice failed.
royalfly: Talking about the pain of men and you talking about beaten up women.. u have been married for 22 years, i guess u have been married based on finlandisation treaty. See enjoy. If you cant understand a simple view of men then u be mumuman.. abeg nor be insult but a fact. That u have been enjoying urs dont mean others dont have issues. Well just dont mention me again.
The real mumu is you if somehow you don't know that every marriage is unique, that every marriage has challenges, including mine. It's how you deal with the challenges that defines success and failure. What if I told you my marriage has been a bed of roses? That will be a fat lie. Not every man is fit enough to be a husband. Not every woman is fit enough to be a wife. Marriage is hard work, men. If you can't stand the heat - or if you think a solution is to be beating on the woman - get out the kitchen before you kill her or she kills you. IT IS THAT SIMPLE.
yongg: It is understandable if the vileness happens once in a while or scarcely or maybe I meant one with a noble rationale but not a go-to for a supposed partner, soul mate, a second skin.
Even the good book understands that no man can hold it together long term... It's not just a healthy way to live.
You lot make it look like marriage is compulsory or that you're forced into it. This is a completely voluntary experience. It requires a lot of maturity, tolerance and patience. You know, those things you do because you're really into someone even when that person may be undeserving from your own standpoint. If you lack any of these, why do you even want to try?
Linda Ikeji was part of the reasons my marriage failed - Carolyna Hutchings
In the 3rd episode of Real Housewives of Lagos reality shows, Carolyna blows hot as she defends herself against Laura Ikeji who had revealed that the reason she doesn't vibe with Carolyna was that she insulted her sister, Linda.
This is why Linda Ikeji is trending. Linda Ikeji's blog really caused people alot of pain pic.twitter.com/9ltOfeYbLl
janejjjjj5000: No. I grew up in Winners Chapel and Papa and Mama always say they have never argued in their marriage. Even last year, Papa still said that he and mama have not had their first argument almost 40 years later. That is the kind of marriage I always wanted but now, I feel bad because I cannot boast of the same thing. Shouting at your wife is abuse. And worse is that our children see it. I have read that it can affect children psychologically. I feel that I have failed.
Your papa teĺls you that in 40 years living in the same house as husband and wife, they've not argued. Ever. And you believed him? Little wonder bad ideas are playing in your head. Your papa lied! And believing this lie is obviously what's leading you to avoidable disaster.
TheWolfen: I know this is your opinion. But it is stu/pid and sense/less
I'm just seeing this drivel. If this is senseless and stupid to you, it's proof positive that maybe marriage isn't for you - you'll end up killing someone's daughter or getting killed yourself. It's that simple! You're probably one of these boys who like to think that by beating women up it means they've become men!
Inasmuch as I kick strongly against domestic violence against women. But if we want to be objective and look critically into most of domestic violence carried by men on women, we'll see that about 68% of it are caused by women.
The way and Manner wives talk at their husbands is always sad, and it's enough to make a sane man go insane immediately and unleashed his anger on the wife through beating.
Men should learn how to control their anger, because when you lay your hands on a woman, the society don't want to know the level of insult the woman gave you, all the blame will be on you.
Any man who cannot hold it together, cannot maintain sanity in the face of even the vilest provocation; if he thinks anger from a woman's verbal abuse is sufficient justification for physical violence - he should enjoy his life by himself, unmarried. Not everyone is mature enough for marriage. And marriage is not by force.
Nobody. Apparently, because it's not Toto Dike, Bobrisky or some story about a naked butt. You'll sit down, cross legs and read every word like you're writing an exam on it!
Okoro_foreign_agent is not looking his usual self. He's lost weight and his eyes have sunk in. I may be wrong and it turns out he's on exercise or diet. That's life, though.
Omicronvaccine: Immediate past First Lady of Anambra State, Mrs Ebele Obiano was captured dancing and celebrating the start of her journey to the Senat, IGBERETV reports.
Let us not forget that when the then Goodluck Jonathan government wanted to engage Boko Haram in a dialogue to find out what their grouse against Nigeria was, they'd appointed Buhari as their leader and chief negotiator. If these people have forgotten, I haven't! Buhari cannot fight Boko Haram. When you know this, you know peace!
BloomingDale: Russia is one of the four craftsmen mentioned in the Bible used by God to achieve his aim. Nothing is going to happen to them. China is the other. I’m not sure who the rest are. Probably Iran and North Korea.
Must be some god then. This one that uses only tools and dictatorships to achieve his purpose. You lot also said that same god was using Trump the same way - to achieve his purpose.
tayepop: I have realised so many of my friends and colleagues at over 30 years are still single, this doesn't use to be the case.
Social media is a cancer destroying marriages. The young and unmarried read these stories every day. They're scared to death. I'm not talking about those guys sending their dick pics to women they know to be married. Those ones are staff of NFA - no future ambition.
But they will never hear.....they keep downing bottles.
Na una Sabi o.
Turns out beer may be the safest alcoholic beverage in the Nigerian market. All else are adulterated. Those are the ones killing Nigerians in their numbers. Our country is suffering under the weight of fake products, not just alcohol. The government doesn't care!
Reflect7: Slip back under the buttholes of Zelensky and Putin where you belong, you slave.
While in there ask them to stop hating ''themself'' and slaughtering innocent European women and children for no just cause.
I don't know what side of the bed you woke up today. But I guarantee you that there's a certain naivity or stupidity, if you like, with black people and African blacks especially. That stupidity makes it hard/impossible for them to think deeply and introspectively - like understand something as crass as their being a competition among the races. Every race will be responsible for their own salvation even though they may fight sometimes. The blacks will also be responsible for their own salvation. Watch what happens once they stop fighting in Ukraine. They'll quickly rebuild the place as if nothing happened. Nigeria? We can't even defeat mosquitoes that have been killing us way more than wars since the beginning of time. Whoever said Africans are wicked and resentful is correct �
How the igbos became so successful despite not holding unto presidency shock me
I sometimes wonder why they don't fight tooth and nail to be president like others in Lagos
Lalasticlala
It just tells there isn't a lot in the office of president unless you're using it like Buhari for resentment, vengeance and retribution. It is an empty office - check out all the states that have produced President since 1999. See how the Igbos, when they should have preserved their economies while Buhari's transient injustice fades away, instead they listened to a self-absorbed rabblerouser and have crippled themselves economically as a result. The key to developing not just Igboland but the entire Nigeria is the state governments. Period!
Once black men become famous, they get a trophy white wife who majority of the time wants only the money & fame. One of them so damaged Emmanuel Eboue, the guy turned destitute!
POS business is not an 'oddity' or a sign of poverty. It is a common sight in many African countries.
Even in the UK, you can get something called a 'cashback' where the cashier using a POS at the till helps you withdraw money.
Every country has a similar system. It's the endgame of a increasingly techified world. You can even do all that the POS person does except withdraw physical cash on your android phone, or PC.
Except POS actually stands for Point of Sale - the person holding the POS machine is actually selling something. I agree re cash back. But it's always for a small change - not like going to a bank to withdraw money. And you don't pay a commission for the cash back separately. It's deemed part of the sales transaction. Bottomline is what the POS merchants are using it for in Nigeria (or as you say, all over Africa), that's not the purpose. You actually have to pay a cut throat commission to access & spend your own money. What are the banks for?
Was he expecting that I will work with him for life and not move on to better prospects? Again I thought when a staff is leaving you should get friendly with him instead of barking out in anger.for example,when I tendered my resignation letter to him.i expected him to be happy for me and wish me well but he went into a tirade asking me why I didn't Tell him since morning and why i Told him I want to quit immediately after the meeting.i told him that I wanted everyone to leave so I can discuss with him privately and he said angrily that if I had told him since morning he will have delegated my job to other people instead of now looking and thinking of who will do the job ( in my mind I was like shoo? Na only me Sabi do the work? If I say I no Wan do am again are there not other colleagues who can do the work or are there not others outside looking for job that can do the work) I was expecting a friendly and tense-free communication with him but it was so stressful trying to resign.he then took my letter in a demeaning fashion,read it and demanded I correct it to state the date when I will be leaving.he also Said I should effect the corrections from my work.no show of friendliness as if asking to resign should be something any boss should take offense in.i am shocked and distabilized
You could have got yourself injured or even killed. Narcissists also tend to be extremely violent in a physical manner. Next time, pack your stuff. Go home and never go back. If they ask for your whereabouts, tell them from that safe distance that you're done and won't be returning. But when you consider what's going on in Nigeria today - the absolute wastage and decay in all that's needed to hold the social fabric together- you can't possibly argue with anyone who says majority of Nigerians are narcissistic by nature!
Check it out in another two years or so from now, you'll barely recognize it. I was physically there on the day the Abuja National Stadium was opened. I was completely blown away. The stadium was all shiny and brilliant. I am sure you know what it is like today. Multiply this experience with as many such beautiful structures as are littered across the country and being managed by Nigerians, and you know exactly where this one is headed.
chatinent: Nigeria has been reduced to the dregs. We produce oil but lack fuel. We are over-taxed but no development to show for it. If you have a shop in Nigeria, you'll hate this country. You are heavily taxed from the state to the local government, to the “land owners.”
One time LASEPA were distributing their garbage buckets, they'd go to shops who already have trashcans but insist they re-buy theirs or be sanctioned.
The funniest realities on ground now is you'll see POS operators almost outside every banks! And sometimes, when you think of it twice, you'll withdraw from the POS to avoid insult or another misdemeanor.
We complain of racist treatment outside! Aren't we the ones who will employ Whites with BSc to boss over Nigerians with BSc and the Nigerian will be digging tarred roads in the sun while the White will he supervising?
Aren't we the ones ready to fight for Ukraine for free while Boko Haram is there?
Nigeria wey after NYSC, e come bi like say your own hell done start?
And all you do is choose who to recycle between Tinubu, Atiku, Obi, and Osibanjo? Same people who have once ruled and still kept the country in damnation?
Dem do una?
Isn't Nigeria a bad dream never to happen again?
Little wonder these politicians beat their chest that you cannot do anything to stop their career! Of course, they can achieve the boast with N1000 bribe distributed to you and a promise to empower you with a bike when they come in. Same bike they will come and ban in the metropolis? Or the same bribe they stole from you...your money?
I was watching a video here how a lawyer was assaulted by, I think civil defense, for going to ask why his client's vehicle was ceased. Una don hear about am again? Dem don sanction broadcast agencies not to dare post it again.
Let me give you sth to think about: 1. The killer of Umoren Inibong, the job seeker, wetin don do am? 2. Why hasn't Abba Kyari been paraded by the NDLEA as they do to others on national broadcast?
Reason am o
I see many individuals prefer being nepotistic about who rules them than choosing the right person. Well, in anything you are doing in this life, never let Buhari or anything accepted by Buhari happen to you again.
That Nigerians have turned good old POS into an alternative bank has to be one of the weirdest things in life this century. Every time I think about it, I just shake my damned head. It is crazy, but provides a window into the rent-seeking predilection of the average Nigerians.
The Godfather. I've bought all the versions - VHS, VCD, DVD, Blu-ray, you name it. Still whenever it's on tv (parts 1 & 2 especially), it feels like I haven't watched it before.
That wouldn't be a surprise at all. Any time it seems the Igbos might eventually give Nigeria a President, a coup happens. As they say, no smoke without fire!