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Yeah, there are lots of guys who only got married cos of sex. Just to have unlimited sex day and night with their wives is usually the main reason most of them got married. And their wives wont tell you how they've been turned into a sex machine by their husband. Some men want to have it first thing in the morning before going to work, have another during lunch break, and take another round of sex as desert before going to bed in the night. They just want to have sex all the time with their wives. You see them buying loads and loads of porn clips and movies, just for the purpose of achieving their selfish sexual desires. They only see marriage as an avenue for unlimited sex. They don't even care about the feelings of their wives or the after effect of too much sex on their body. If you get to see the fantasies of most married guys concerning sex, you will pity their wives at home. And their wives feeling so helpless, usually agree to their sexual demands in order to safeguard their marriage and also prevent their men from going outside to sleep with other ladies. But yet some men still dey do for outside...

Have you noticed that guys are now happy having babymamas instead of getting married and settling down with their girlfriends. Most of them now prefer to impregnate girls rather than marry them. Calling them their baby mothers instead of wives. And these girls are not conscious of this new technique by guys. They are always ready and willing to swallow and believe any excuse given to them by their guys to avoid any commitment. Forgetting that the ladies are the ones losing and not the guys. Cos, when you're giving guys regular sex and also end up having babies for them. what else again do guys want if not sex and a child to call theirs? Ladies wise up!

This goes out to guys who are fond of hurting/deceiving girls intentionally... Don't think that girl you have been dating for like 3 years, and who has been giving you enough love and care all this while is happy just being a girlfriend when all her mates are getting married every weekend while you are busy delaying things and enjoying all the privileges of a wife from her.

If care is not taken, she might start having or looking at other options, since her biological clock (or goals) runs faster than yours. And before you know it, you wil be surprised to hear she's getting married soon to someone else. Bros, stop wasting time, and stop playing with the hearts of ladies. When a woman loves a guy dearly, she'll be willing to make sacrifice for the guy. She will be willing to wait and also endure. But mind you, there is a limit to every woman's patience. Women work on time... Lets do what's right for the sake of love!

As a guy, you do have what turns you on and also what turns you off in a lady.

what are those things?

A lot of ladies are in a haste to get married, but most of them are not even ready to a wife. Marriage is not the same with dating/courtship. Marriage is a different ball game. where according to African tradition, the man is always right, he's the 'boss' and the law. while the wife is usually the submissive and supportive partner. Saddled with the task of tending to her man (husband), their kids and their home 24/7. Cos getting married and becoming a wife comes with a lot of responsibilities. Though a man and his wife are suppose to be helpmates. But you know how most men behave and couple with their African mentality. They usually end up making their wives do everything at home. And most ladies are usually not prepared for this.

As a woman, if you can't cook, you better go and learn it before getting married. Cos, most men despises women/wives that can't cook. They wont say it to her face, but deep within them, they'll be complaining, telling their friends and also insulting the wife behind her back. There is nothing to manage about the situation than to be a good cook for your husband. Even if the wife goes to bring her mom to be cooking for them, one day the mom would eventually leave. And should the wife bring an housemaid to do the cooking, then she's only inviting trouble into her home. Cos, sooner or later, the housemaid seeing and knowing the wife can't cook, would start making yanga, and also becoming stubborn and ambitious later (you understand what I'm saying). Ladies, biko master how to cook for own good!

Girls are born to lead and set good examples, and not to become runs girls or irresponsible girls.

All those bad heartless guys you see everywhere deceiving, playing and hurting girls, were once good guys before heartbreak made them what they are now; Beast! Even those runs girls, mean and cunning girls you see going about hurting guys here and there were once good loving girls until heartbreak made them become like Karishika Babes. They weren't like that before, but after being maltreated and heartbroken, they become heartless and loveless. Please if you see heartbreak anywhere, tell him he's wanted for wrecking and destroying the happiness, love and lives of many. Its cos of heartbreak a lot of relationship are full of drama and deceit. As none wants to fall a victim again...Heartbreak are heartless!

Most times, whenever a girl is caught cheating by her boyfriend, and she is looking for a way out of the relationship (just to cover her shame/guilt), you see her making up some lame excuses by telling her guy tales like '' It's not you but me'' or ''You are too good for someone like me, and I don't deserve you.'' Most girls say such things whenever they've bleeped up just to put the heat on their guy. It's usually a smart ploy used by most of them to arm-twist their guy and also turn the tables against him whenever she's caught cheating. You know some girls are usually smart only when they want to be mean or cunning. And some of these girls are choir girls, ushers or church workers in their various churches. You begin to wonder if they ever listen whenever their Pastors are preaching in Church. Cos, if you see the hearts of some girls, you go fear fear!

In this harmattan, can anybody try doing the ice bucket challenge stunt a lot of people were doing some months back. If you want to try it, come outside as early as 5am and do it. Make we call this one the harmattan ice bucket challenge!

Imagining a lady saying pre-marital sex is a sin but getting pregnant out of wedlock is not a sin. Imagine that kind talk. Is it not when an unmarried lady engages in pre-marital sex that leads to getting pregnant out of wedlock? If most of them do have such mindset, then no wonder a lot of girls are becoming baby-mamas these days. Since many of them don't consider it to be a bad thing...wetin naija girls dey do, eh!

Each time you see married men pinging on their phones, you begin to wonder who are they pinging/chatting with? certainly it cant be with their wives all the time( if at all they do chat/ping each other sometimes), who most times are too busy at home, preoccupied with the kids or busy in the kitchen to have time for pinging or any social media stuff. So tell me, who are the people these married men are always on their phone, pinging, morning, afternoon and night?

Truth be told, a lot of people have already lost hope and confidence in the APC led government after spending just six months in power. And I bet you, should there be any general election now, majority of the electorates wont vote for APC again. Cos, right now, so many people are already regretting they voted for APC due to obvious reasons. APC, where is the change you promise us...so much pain, hardship and deceit in the land...Nigeria is still stagnant. Economy still dey as e dey...

Truth be told, alot of people have already lost hope and confidence in the APC led government after spending just six months in power. And I bet you, should there be any general election now, majority of the electirates wont vote for APC again. Cos, right now, so many people are already regreting they voted for APC due to obvious reasons. APC, where is the change you promise us...so much pain, hardship and deceit in the land...Nigeria is still stagnant. Economy still dey as e dey...

Is she a wife or a girlfriend

The other day while i was with a friend of mine around 7pm, we saw a matured guy with a small girl of about 16 yrs old. The guy was taking her to his friend's place to sleep with her (according to the gist we later heard) . I learnt the guy and the girl stays in the same neighborhood, and cos of that he decided to take her elsewhere to do the thing so that her parents wont find out. Since she is still a small girl in secondary school and also a neighbor to the guy. What baffled me was the level of exposure shown by the girl through out the whole episode. She wasnt even shy or afraid of being hurt by the guy. She was simply down with it. Guess most girls are no longer babies. Many of them get disvirgined at a very young age. No thanks to social media, bad friends and due to peer pressure. Lots of them indulge in sex a lot of these days. Some sleep with different guys every week. No wonder abortions is being done here and there by teenage girls these days, after being exposed to sex at a very young age. Most parents dont even know what their daughters do when they go out or where they go to. There are even those who still believe their teenage daughters are virgins. The rate at which people are getting exposed and spoilt nowadays is becoming very alarming. I fear for our future generation

I've been watching with keen interest the rape saga between Mustapha Audu and Sugabelly. These past few days social media has been on fire cos of this particular issue, as each camp tries to prove who is guilty and who is lying between Mustapha Audu and Sugabelly. Unfortunately there is not enough circumstantial evidence to prove any of this. Most ladies love adventure, and there are lots of guys who are willing to take such to another thing. But give and take, no man has the right to humiliate or treat any woman anyhow. Even if she is your girlfriend/wife. Humiliating or battering a woman is just like stripping her naked in public. I pray sugabelly would be able to heal fully from the pain of the past and move on with her life. And let this also be a lesson to girls out there. when a lady is in a room alone with a guy, whatever transpires between her and the guy is their business. And should the girl end up being molested or humiliated, she is simply on her own. That's how the society sees it. Ladies protect your dignity, for the sake of tomorrow. There are lots of guys out there, who are only interested in turning ladies into sex slaves and nothing else. They are not interested in love, but in sex only. And getting involved with such guys is like playing with fire. A guy may pretend to be nice and sweet at the beginning, but the signs would be there later to show what you've gotten yourself into. Ladies need to protect your dignity, for the sake of tomorrow...

Most girls feel its normal for them to flirt and mingle with other guys while it is bad for guys to do such if the guy is already in a relationship. Many of them feel jealous each time they see their guy flirting and mingling with other girls, when they themselves enjoy doing such a lot with guys even while in a relationship. Girls don't like seeing their guys mingling freely with other girls. I guess they usually feel threatened by such acts. Since they know flirting with the opposite sex can lead to something else. In that case, what you don't like, simply don't do it to others!

Hehehheheheheh. Bros and sisters, no be me ooo. na wetin dey happen in some cases...

They come to you when they are hurt, sad or heartbroken. And immediately you help her to heal her pain or get her groove back, she will suddenly leave you/gallop away like an ungrateful or heartless horse. Only to make the same mistake again and again...Girls will never learn!

Her looks, her success and her style stands her out among the rest.

A lot of people (especially Ladies) are now hiding under the shade of church and using the guise of being seen as a church girl or guy to commit a lot of immoralities, even right inside the church. They say, they are under the grace and mercy of God, and as a result are free to do as they like. But put yourself in God's shoes, how would you feel if your child keep commiting the same mistake/sin over and over again, despite knowing what he or she is doing is bad. How would you feel? Wil you be happy with that child, who keeps coming to ask for forgiveness and yet goes back to commit sin immediately after he or she is forgiven. And then come back again to ask for forgiveness after commiting sin intentionally. This is the level of hypocrisy going on in our society these days, and many are using the guise of goin to church to conceal these dirty and immoral lifestyle. You even see some girls after doing abortion, carrying Bible and going to church, pretending as if nothing happened. Some are experts when it comes to living a double life. You are not deceiving God but yourself. And ur day of reckoning is approaching. Even some of the so called church girls and pastor's daugthers are no longer quiet, godly or responsible these days. Some of them are now over exposed and crave so much for the things of the world. They've now joined the bandwagon. They now sleep around, have lovers and attend parties codedly, right under the nose of their strict parents. Those you never expected , would be found wanting on the last day. Shebi, everybody dey dance to the beats of the music, just like the days of sodom and gomorrah....tick tock, tick tock...

Most girls are always impatient with guys (a broke boyfriend). And as a result, cant dream with a guy forever. They always want a guy's dream(future plans, ambition, big projects) to run like jet and be achievable within a short time. But should your dream be running with the speed of a snail, by the time you look back, your babe don leave your side enter bus one time...cos, most girls no get time to wait nor waste. They dont have the time to endure/suffer with any struggling or broke guy, cos tins no easy for such girls too.

Poverty is the reason why most girls are not faithful in their relationship...their desire to get the best and find a man who will take care of their needs and also secure a better future for them and their family, is the reason why most girls jump from one man to another, cheat alot or double date while in a relationship. Always tasting this or that guy. Just to no which is better. They think more of their personal needs and fulfilment and care less about the success of the relationship. If any relationship they are into, happen to hit the rocks due to their cheating or unfaithfulness, they dust their feet and move on to the next happening guy. Most girls are like that, cos of their poor background. They look at where they are coming from, and are hell bent on getting to the top no matter what it takes. But it doesnt occur to most of them that they can still get to the top, without messing up or sleeping around...

Its not advisable for any guy to have too much emotional attachment to a girl, due to obvious reasons. For the sake of your health and also to avoid experiencing any heartbreak, its not good for a guy to love a girl too much. Cos, when you love a girl too much, she is bound to start misbehaving and start doing shakara for you. Forming what she is not. Try to be moderate when showing love to your girlfriend. Dont overdo it, before you develop high blood pressure. Cos should anything happen to you, life goes on...

A guy was wondering why most ladies (brides) are always very happy and joyous on their wedding day. why wont she be happy. After escaping from the claws and jaws of all the wolves and players in town. who go about deceiving, luring and taking advantage of girls. my dear, dance and rejoice. for its not easy to find true love and happiness in this time and age. with all the cheating, infidelity, heartbreak and wickedness everywhere. For your wedding day, is the day the Lord has made. And you shall rejoice and be glad in it....

Nowadays some girls no longer get married to guys that are based in the same town with them due to the fear of the past. They do this, so as to prevent anyone from spilling the beans about her dirty past to her would be husband/fiance. And there are also those who prefer to wed in towns or churches far from where they are known so as to prevent anyone from coming to spoil their show....These are some of the latest tactics used by girls, in order to escape bad belle people...and cos of this same reason, some dont make much noise prior to their wedding day. You only get to see it on facebook later.....

There are guys who are fond of forming big boys to deceive girls. Only to reveal their real self after marrying the girl. Imagine telling a girl you have this and that car or house, take her shopping, buying her this and that or by giving her enough cash every time just to win her heart/love, and her hand in marriage. Only for her to discover after marrying the guy that he is a bricklayer staying in a one room apartment in Mushin, and without a car nor any money in his account. Or he's a sales boy who is still squatting with his oga. Some guys are fond of pretending or lying to girls about their financial status. They say they do so, in order to get the girl. Since most girls are in love with money and material things. when you go to okota, oshodi, ajegunle, nyanya, onitsha, etc, you will see lots of unhappy married ladies angry and sober for being deceived and lured from their homes with fake wealth by the men they married. They never knew the money, gifts and lies being showered on them prior to marrying them were efizzy/lies from the pit of hell. Let others learn from such women. Don't follow or agree to be with a man cos of his 'wealth' but cos of his potentials and ability to give you a happy and fulfilled life. There are lots of lies flying over the place. Don't get caught or carried away cos of greed. And guys, you don't need to lie or pretend to be what they are not just to get or marry a girl. if she truly loves and believes in you, she will definitely marry you no matter your status in life. Such a girl will be there to encourage, support and also pray for your success. So, be yourself. If a girl truly loves you, she will stand by you all the way. You don't need to borrow-pose (use other people's house, cars, clothes or money) to impress or show a girl you are a made man. Such a lie/fake life would surely come back to haunt or embarrass you in future. Be yourself. True love conquers all!

That's just the fact. Cos, such usually happen only when the girl allows it or gives a guy the opportunity. But if she doesn't, no guy would take advantage of her. Shikena! Just like what happened to a girl I used to know back then in Lagos when I was still in the modelling industry. She came to me and told me of her desire to be a model. Looking at her, I knew she wasn't suited for modelling cos of her looks. I didn't tell her she wasn't good enough to model, in order not to kill her self esteem. So, I had to tell her that I would get back to her once I get any modelling job for her. I took down her details and promised to get back to her. I advised her as a friend and also as a brother. But being that she was desperate and felt I wasn't going to help her get modelling jobs, she later went to meet another modelling agent. And guess what the guy did to her? The guy took advantage of her by sleeping with her the same day they met in his studio/office, and never got her a modelling job. He knew she wasn't good enough to be a model, but lied to her just to sleep with her. He used her desperation to have sex with her. And never got her any modelling job. The girl felt used and bitter after the incident. But out of shame, couldn't tell anybody or report the guy. Though, she later told a close female friend of hers about the incident. Guess she learnt her lessons afterwards. There are lots of girls like that. They don't like it when you are sincere to them. They like and prefer guys who lie to them. Only to end up being used and dumped. Cos, most guys are simply heartless. They forget the girls they mess up are sisters to other guys just like them. And they may also have their own sisters. Imagine, how would they feel if their own sisters are treated like that by other guys? Now, some guys are using fake beauty pageants to lure, deceive and sleep with gullible girls who are naive enough to believe them and also pay money to these scammers as registration fees. Girls beware! Most guys only think about sex and money. And can do anything to get it. Don't fall a victim to the tricks, antics and lies of men. They are everywhere. Be wise, and be smart. Don't allow any guy use your head.

The craze by Black Girls To Look white...

we hate slavery and racism so much, and yet some black girls will do anything to become white by toning/bleaching their skin and using all kinds of cream just to turn from black to white.The rate at which a lot of girls are now bleaching their skin these days is becoming very alarming. And all this has to do with the myopic belief by some dark skin girls that light skin (yellow girls) ladies are more preferable to guys than dark skin girls. And that light skin girls are more favored, and also easily noticeable wherever they go. That is why a lot of girls are now bleaching to look more white than even the white people. what happened to black is beautiful. why all this madness to look white. Some ladies that used to be dark are now yellow. Recognizing them is now a problem cos you knew them when they were looking dark. Guys who prefer light skin girls cos of their skin colors are cave men. For how long will a girl use cream and bleach her skin just to belong or impress a guy. Biko be proud of your complexion. Black or white...you are beautiful no matter the color of your skin. Stop this madness.

Girls who have more than one boyfriend usually have this guilty look whenever they are with any of the guys they are dating. Especially when the guy turns his back, the girl will just be pitying the guy for deceiving him. Sometimes they feel guilty or pity for the maga, but can't stop deceiving him cos of their mean hearts and greed. And despite knowing what they are doing is bad, they keep doing it out of wickedness.

Imagine when you take your girl out on a date to a concert, and the Artist says " Where my single ladies at?" and your girl immediately screams and raises up her hands! Lmaooooo. Some girls can be so dramatic and heartless.