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Most ladies are hardly committed (don't take their guy serious) in a relationship, when the guy hasn't put a ring on her finger. So guys, get serious. Do the right thing. And stop playing games.

When a man is cheating on his woman, you will know. But when a woman is cheating on her man, you may never know. Cos, a father (man) usually has a favorite child among his children, while a mother (woman) usually loves all her kids equally...Most times an unfaithful man usually gives himself away by paying more attention to his new love interest while neglecting his main woman. And also by making it obvious to his main woman somehow. But in the case of a woman, she might end up loving both her main guy and any new lover equally. By dividing her time and attention between the two of them very well without either of them getting to find out at all. Most girls are expert when it comes to multi-tasking. And double dating is also an area some are very good at. So, one may never get to catch her even if she has more than one lover, if she's able to cover her tracks very well.

Each time I hear a girl says she's playing games with guys by having multiple boyfriends or having flings with this and that guy, I laugh. Cos in most cases, who ends up heartbroken or pained? Or with an unwanted pregnancy or abortion? The girl! So, stop fooling around, messing up your body or tampering with your destiny. Find a good, loving and honest person to be with.Love him, believe in him, encourage him and be his peace...so girls, stop playing games. Cos, you aint playing anybody but playing yourself.

guys are also not let out when it comes to looking sideways, but ladies are more prone to it. Its not good for anybody to indulge in it (irrespective of gender)...love your partner the same way you love yourself. the golden rule!

When you are in a relationship with someone, its wrong, bad and also an act of betrayer, to be looking sideways (flirting or hooking up with other persons). Outside influence or looking sideways are some of the main causes of failed/broken relationship. You need to be focused and dedicated to your partner/relationship. And don't ever allow outside parties/friends have negative influence on you/relationship. Be satisfied with what you have, and stop looking for what you don't need or already have. When the people in a relationship are committed and faithful to each other, the relationship is bound to work, be successful, and also lead to the altar. Loyalty, honesty, trust and fidelity are the ingredients needed for a successful and happy relationship or marriage.

The ways of most ladies is usually not straight. Trying to hold any down or put her in check is just like trying to catch the wind. Which you and I know is impossible! So, why bother yourself? What is good is good. And what is bad is bad!

1. Don't kill yourself...instead of committing suicide, kill any bad habit of yours. Or look for any rat to kill.

2. Don't stay indoor and cry your eyes out... Stop wasting tissue papers or getting your handkerchief soaked with tears. Look for any of those side chics to hook up with and stop thinking about your ex.

3. Don't delete your ex phone number...keep the number. So that whenever he or she try to call you, you will know who is calling.

4. Don't destroy any of the gifts given to you by your ex...turn these gifts (if its a shirt or gown) into a rag to clean your kitchen floor or windows. Or give it to your new catch and make sure your ex sees it on him or her.

5. Don't go about bad mouthing your ex
..doing that would make things more sober for you. Thank your ex for giving you the chance to meet a better person

6. Don't unfriend your ex on social media...keep him or her close and let him or her see how well you ve moved on.

7. Don't beg him/her to take you back...laugh or smile for being set free from the clutches of evil. For breaking your heart shows he or she never meant well for you.

8. Don't ever think of paying your ex back for hurting you...instead of doing that, put that energy into improving yourself and finding happiness elsewhere.

9. Don't try to retrieve gifts given to an ex...don't act stupid out of anger. Take it as a donation to charity...

10. Don't say anything when you are hurt...don't utter a word just be quiet about the whole thing. Don't even show you are hurt or angry. Just move on quietly...doing that would make your ex look over his or her shoulder for the rest of his or her life. Cos silence they say is golden. And not knowing if your are hurt or not, makes your ex very uncomfortable...

No woman will fight over any man that doesnt have anything. Have something, a job, a successful business or wealth, and see how a thousand and one girls will fight to have a space in your heart/life. So, my guy get something doing, improve yourself, and better your life first...the rest will be as easy as ABC...

The Title of the post is meant to be an introduction of the person, while the body of the post talks about the person

Hi, I'm Caitlyn!

Guess you're a 'cat' with two personalities
One who is both a father and mother,
to about 10 kids or more,
And also a grand dad/ma.
You've had affairs with lots of women,
in the past as a man
and even married twice or so.
But suddenly and as if struck by lightning,
You became a woman overnight,
Getting all the attention,
And displaying feminine straits
That would even make some women
green with envy.
While 'carting' away awards here and there
like someone with a magic wand.
Imagine all the things you did to women,
and about to start doing to men.
Still finding it hard to believe,
Bruce Jenner
The famous Olympian is gone.
Hidden inside the body of a woman,
turned against his own spirit by Kris,
A woman with an history of fallen men,
And known for her vain lifestyle.
Now, Caitlyn lives in isolation,
doing her best to be accepted,
but yet making millions of dollars by the minute,
Beaming, sobbing and clutching handbags,
meant only for women.
Cait, you'll always be a man
Forget all this media hype and charade.
Cos, it's all part of the Kardashian Kraze!

A woman can only keep her man and also prevent him from going astray not by cooking him delicious meals or giving him great sex alone, but also by being there for her man, to give him a shoulder to lean on, a listening ear/heart to talk to and also your laps to rest his head after an hard day at work (feel relaxed and happy)...What do you think makes most men (who have mistresses outside) prefer to spend the weekend at their mistresses' place rather than stay at home with a 'nagging' or less supportive wife? The woman outside may not using any love portion/juju but only the right methods. Cos there are things the woman outside is doing, you are not doing right. So ladies, start doing the right things!

Some people cant control their jealousy whenever they see others doing well. Imagine someone attributing Serena Williams success in tennis to her physique...which according to the person is like that of her man. What he's trying to say is that her manly built is being used as an advantage by her to crush her female opponents in tennis. Imagine that kind talk. This woman works hard for her money and also for the success she has achieved in her career over the years. So, haters should go and hug transformers...cos, you can't be as good as she is, doesn't mean you should start hating on her...She's good, she's sexy and beautiful, and you know it!

When a side chic is promoted to a main chic, she go begin form for the guy. Since she has succedded in snatching the guy from his main girlfriend. She tend to feel on top of the world, and sees herself as a better option. Most girls behave like this, and many of them usually go through this phase. Starting as a side chic to a guy (especially guys that have more than one girlfriend) before kicking the main chic out of the way and taking over her place and space. While she was the side chic, you find her doing the begging, miss nice nice, and doing her best to win over the guy completely. And immediately she succeed in getting the guy, the reverse becomes the case...shakra go become her second name...thats naija girls for you...

Dear sender,
you don't sound like you know who you are, what you are on earth for and what you need from a relationship and in a partner .
you were in a relationship with a man you so claimed to love but you deliberately and intentionally decided to cheat on him with another man who painfully isn't single.
you went ahead to defend your actions by citing that you enjoyed the new guy more forgetting that the new guy is only using you to supplement the sex he is getting from another lady.
and what is troubling you was that your man is angry at your attitude? please you need to have a rethink seriously and amend your ways.
let me also remind you that HIV and Aids is very much within us and it is fast spreading in Umuahia where you stay.
when you finish enjoying the sex from the demo new guy, I hope you won't return to the old guy claiming it was a mistake.
please set yourself free from this mess you called relationship.
learn to be committed and faithful to ONE partner at a time. your new guy has a girlfriend so you need to re-evaluate your need as lady and discover who you are in life.
you need to repent and renew your mindset to avoid regrets and disappointment later in life.
please this is not deserving of a precious and pretty lady like you.
apologize to your old partner and if you don't love him,please set him free.
the pride of a woman is the virtues of her character not how much she can enjoy sex. it's time you embraced God and allow him to renew your heart totally

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Ma I have been in a relationship with this guy since 2012 June. He is nice, loving caring. Later on around August I decided to give him my virginity. On d long run I came across dis new guy around September 2014 we started talking on phone until we became lovers. I love this new guy to much and he loves me. He told me he has a girl friend and I told him I have a guy I love so much. We agreed on dating, one day this new guy made love to me and I found out that I enjoyed him more than my friend. My problem now is that my friend found out that am double dating him with that guy, he went and confronted that guy but that guy didn't talk to him. Since he confronted him I don't love him again and everything about him makes me angry and he like listening to third party. He enjoy discussing our relationship with third party. I have told him time without number that I don't like d way he always discuss our relationship outside. Am confuse on the discussion am about to take because I have told him to stay away from me that I don't want him again that I wish to date the new guy and he vowed never to let me go. Pls MA help me out. What should I do.

Most girls (especially senior girls) have guys like Maje...Guys whom they've kind of arm-twisted or trying to force to marry them, when the guy already has a serious side chic elsewhere. And there are ladies who have gone through similar experience as well. After forcing a man to be with them, they end up being 'Majed' by him later. By being Majed, means when a man is somehow forced to be with a woman, while keeping another woman by the side. And what most girls don't realize is that by going to spend weekends or days with a guy so as to cement her position in his life and also prevent other girls from coming close to him is simply a waste of time. Cos, whenever he is not with you, he is either with the other girl, calls her or takes her elsewhere for fun. while you are at home or at his place playing big madam. And the same privileges he gives to you, he is also giving them to the other woman...Sex, money, attention and other promises. That's just the fact. If you want to find out or catch a cheating boyfriend, simply check his mobile phone when he doesn't expect you to. Especially whenever he comes back from work or early in the morning whenever you are at his place. Most guys' phone is like a Pandora box. You dare not open or look through it, if you don't want your heart to be shattered or your eyes blinded partially. Don't know why some men are like that. You have the best of love and care from a girl, and yet you are still cheating on her. What else do you want? Let what happened to Toke, be a lesson to other ladies. When you try to force a guy to marry you or be with you, apart from making you look desperate and cheap, you are also sitting on a time bomb. that would surely explode sooner or later. Ladies, respect yourself, don't be desperate, and don't ever think you can use sex to hold any man down...If he truly loves you and respect you, he wont cheap on you no matter what! That's just the fact. And once a man cheats on a woman, he will always cheat on her. And this is another fact.

Most girls answer calls based on the value they place on the caller. Check this out

When you love your partner truly and genuinely, you will never cheat on him or her, no matter what...love conquers all. Cheating is like a dagger dug into the back of an unsuspecting partner. Its an act of betrayal. Hearing the rumor surrounding what recently happened between toke and maje, I m not surprised. Cos such things is bound to happen when you still keep intouch/meet with an ex while in a relationship. Doing that is like giving room to alot of drama and trauma in your relationship. Desist from acts that can destroy your happiness, relationship or marriage...flee from all forms of temptation...as fast as you can...cherish what you have...

Forget about all these 5 steps to a successful relationships or how to love your girl and make her happy. The only thing that can keep any woman by a man's side is money. Money can get you any girl you want. Even an unfaithful boyfriend that is rich and comfortable will always be forgiven by his girlfriend cos he is rich. That is why you see most ladies sticking to a rich guy they know is not faithful, cos he is rich (or doing well) and can provide comfort for them. Its only when you don't have money that girls will be making shakara for you. But when you have money, even when you are maltreating the girl or cheating on her, she wont leave you. Instead she wil even be the one crying and begging you. Professing her love and commitment to you. She is doing all these cos of the money and comfort you have. Girls chase rich guys. They stalk them at shopping malls or at events. Begging for their numbers or business cards. They fake love suddenly just to be in the rich dude's life. My dear, forget about love. Love doesn't exist anymore in most cases. What most ladies are interested in is money and comfort...after that you can then talk about love! So go make money first, and see how ladies would start running after you from morning till night. But make sure you don't get broke or lose your wealth o. Cos if that should happen, you would start seeing the true colour of the girl or any woman that married you cos of your money or wealth.

Yeah, its not right to say yes or succumb to every love advances from guys. Cos most guys are moved by what they see. And tend to think about sex all the time. Their feelings is more of lust than love. That's why girls need to be cautious when saying yes or falling in love. Cos what most guys out there are looking for is not love but sex. So be wise.

Nowadays most girls choose whom they want to fall or be inlove with. Forget your feelings. Cos it doesn't move them. Its what they want, they do. They choose who they want to love or be with. They don't care about your feelings or what a guy does for them. Everything to them is by choice. She either says yes or no...na her choice. If you like cry and beg her for love from morning till night. It won't move her except she decides to give you a chance. And never beg for love. Cos when you do such, you might end up being rejected or disrespected (end up being controlled & manipulated in the relationship). And both won't do you any good...

Imagine all the fine girls and big boys wey don go chocolat Royale go buy and lick ice cream/chocolate made with expired products/ingredients. Imagine Una dey form big boys and girls while consuming poison? It's not all that glitter that is gold...

Imagine having a loving guy who gives his girlfriend all she wants and doesn't cheat on her, but yet she still wants to leave him for a bigger guy all in the name of adventure. Some girls are the cause of their relationship problem. Their hearts are mean that's why they get what they deserve at the end...

Many of you guys must have noticed that no matter what a guy does for a girl, if the girl wants to leave him, she will. Not caring if the guy is hurt or has given her the world. Cos there is no loyalty among women. Most girls are always looking or craving for more, even when they have enough. The desires of most ladies are insatiable. I ve heard and seen cases of guys doing their all, sacrificing their lives, money and even fame just to make a girl happy or comfortable. But these girls still end up leaving them for someone else. You know in life, there is always a better person. And girls tend to go for the highest bidder. It may not necessarily be the highest bidder in terms of money/wealth in some cases, but maybe in terms of better options. Most girls tend to follow the wind and not their hearts. Thereby complicating things for themselves. Just like a girl who despite all her loving and caring boyfriend did for her, left him for a bigger guy. Only for the new guy to use and dump her later. Now she's going about town lamenting, labelling every guy bad and craving so much for love. Imagine when she had enough love and care, she threw it away cos of greed. Now she is licking her wounds. There are so many girls like that. They simply don't know what they want and their hearts are never stable. Guys should learn to do the little they can and do more for themselves. Cos no girlfriend is worth dying for. Do everything only for your wives. Cos girls ain't loyal!

Yes there are other things that contribute to the success of a relationship. But true love is the ultimate...

What is Love? Love is a feeling of affection you feel for someone at a particular moment, which can also fizzle out at any moment if care is not taken. That's why you see couples falling out of love, due to some uncontrollable reasons. Humans tend to get tired of things easily. Like a movie I saw recently, 'the five year engagement,' about a guy and a lady who meet, fell in love and got engaged afterwards. But were unable to get married for three years due to some issues. They later broke up and started seeing other persons. But cos of their deep love and understanding, they came back together and eventually get married after five years. What I'm trying to say is that, when you find or meet someone you truly love, please get married instead of allowing your relationship go beyond a year. Cos the longer it takes, you are bound to start having unnecessary but serious issues. when you find love, please don't waste time!

Is it right for a lady to rent a wedding gown or buy a new one to use on her wedding day? To me, buying a new wedding gown for your bride is better than renting one. Cos its not only her day, but the wedding dress is also her pride...something to treasure, keep and cherish for the rest of her life...

Smh, the Church has been infiltrated... Yeah, from what I'm seeing here and there, most churches have been taken over by some undesirable elements. Nowadays, the things some brothers and sisters do in church is highly condemnable. And now, they've introduced another thing in some churches, especially during praise/worship or while giving offering. And this has to do with the way some sisters dance in the church. Dancing has now become the shaking of waist seductively in the faces of brothers in the church. Come and see the way some ladies shake and wiggle their bum bum and boobs while dancing in the church, displaying this and that to the guys in the church to assess and also make their choice, I suppose. Just like what happened during a service I attended last Sunday. The way some of the sisters in the church were dancing and shaking their bum bum as they were going to give offering, I was really disappointed and felt such seductive dance shouldn't be allowed nor done in the house of God. I felt bad, that the church has been infiltrated by some bad elements who are bent on bringing down the Church. They do as they like in church and outside the church. They attend service and mid week programs regularly, but yet still live in sin. They double date, or change boyfriends the way they change their clothes, while some sleep around, or do coded runs. They don't care if God is seeing them. They don't care that the day of reckoning will surely come. I shake my head. Our pastors should rise up to the challenge and stop this rot and display of immorality in our churches. Remember what Jesus Christ did to those who wanted to turn the house of God into a market (Matthew 21:12). He was angry with them for turning the house of God into something else. Our Pastors should start doing the same thing. Salvation should be the ultimate. Say the right thing, and do the right thing. As for those dirty dancers in the church, take your seductive dancing elsewhere if you are not ready to serve God genuinely. If you want to dance, do it decently and moderately whenever you are in the presence of God.

Its not only mafia bosses that are godfathers...guess you are also a godfather to the kids of your ex girlfriends who are now married with kids or are baby mamas to some guys out there...bros, abi no be so?

I don't know if I'm in an alien world, cos every girl I come across is 25 years old. Even the ones that just left secondary school, are also not left out. Guess all of them were born on the same day and in the same year. Don't know why its now the trend among most ladies to claim they are 25. Maybe 25 is their lucky number!

Guy: How old are you
Girl: 25 (smiling)
Guy: 25, really?
Girl: Yep. Any problem?
Guy: Nope, not really, just that every girl keep saying she's 25.
Girl: Really (frowning)
Guy: Yep.
Girl: I don't nooooo

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I was in a church mid week programme last week and the topic was how Jesus died for us. The priest asked how many women can die for their husbands, no hand was raised but when he asked the men, 5 raised up their hands and I was wondering how their wives sitting beside them felt.

The other day a Nigerian musician said a child is a product of love and not marriage, simply cos he got a lady pregnant out of wedlock. Then if that's the case why do some single ladies still commit abortion whenever they get pregnant out of wedlock. If getting pregnant is an act of love, then why are girls still aborting and killing their badies? Like what happened some time ago to a female student who had to commit abortion after taking in for a guy while in school. She couldnt keep the pregnancy cos of her education and also cos of what people (especially her mom) would say. Its not every girl that get pregnant under favorable conditions. Some are made to face the humiliation and situation alone, while the guy responsible is less concerned or busy running after other girls...so, like i keep saying, lets do the right thing. Once guys start seeing girls like their own sister, they wont try to hurt or diminish a lady's dignity...if you're truly born of a woman, you wont diminish the dignity of a woman...