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Dont let your loss be someone else's gain.... When you know you have a very good guy or girl in your life, treat him or her well. Cos, if you dont, you might end up losing the person to someone else. And your loss would become another person's gain. There are girls and guys who have found themselves in such situation. And cant help but be filled with regret each time they see their good ex happy with someone else. Appreciate what you have.

No Guy should ever hurt any girl that has been nice, kind & loving/caring to him...when a guy end up hurting or breaking such a girl's heart, even God will be angry with him... Cos when you hurt a good girl, (that has been loyal, nice, helpful, supportive, understanding, loving & caring, and has made a lot of sacrifice for you and for the relationship), you'll surely pay the price later. Learn to appreciate a good girl when you have one by your side....cos good girls are very scarce nowadays.

I heard some girls usually double date or have more than one boyfriend at a time, in order to meet all their needs...like dating guy A for the sake of sex, guy B for the sake of money, and dating guy C to cater for their emotional needs... You know one guy may not be able to do all these, or satisfy/meet all the needs of a girl. And as a result and out of greed, most girls tend to double date alot nowadays... And if these are the reasons why most girls double/tripple date, then why do most guys have more than one girlfriend? What are their own reasons for not keeping to one girl?

After her 'terrible' experience in the hands of her abductors and Yunusa in far away Kano, Ese Oruru the Bayelsan girl kidnapped some months ago, says girls should be careful with the kind of people (especially guys) they play with or talk to. Cos its not everybody that is good or have good intentions...using her experience as an example...

Hope naija girls are listening..

Is it true that in Naija, if a guy shows his girlfriend too much love, she's bound to misbehave?

Was watching a Ghanaian program on TV the other day, and was shocked to hear one of the guests on the show (a relationship counselor) say there is nothing wrong in having/dating several people at the same time, so far you are not yet married to your boyfriend or girlfriend. The 'yeye' man went on to say, no man has the right to tell his girlfriend not to see or date other guys apart from him, when he hasn't married her yet. Saying having multiple partners is allowed, if you've not made any commitment (marriage) to each other. The whole talk got me surprised and shocked. If people are beginning to reason like that, then there is problem o. Cos, before you know it, everybody would start dating and sleeping with several partners at the same time. No wonder, a lot of people now double date without any guilt or conscience. And every Sunday, you see these same people with multiple partners in church singing praise and worship...my dear, all these are nothing but end time relationship and love... We've so abused the reason to love and the essence of relationship...due to yeye civilization...

Biko, Na true say if you wan marry any girl from Imo state, na all ds tins you go provide for your inlaws?

After all the promises they made, see what is happening. Guess come 2019, Nigerians wont vote for APC again...

When a girl keeps displaying her booty on social media, she wil keep attracting the wrong guys... And when a girl thinks she's only beautiful cos of her big yansh, then guys will only see/take her as a sex object...nothing more.

Modern marriage, modern couple, and all these end time relationships, are filled with so much drama. Rather stay single than get entangled in all these web of deceit, lies, betrayer and unfaithfulness among couples nowadays. To all the single ladies, take 5! But to all the married guys and ladies cheating on their partners, shame on you all!

Can a girl cos of love, forgives her boyfriend whenever he cheats on her. And can a guy also do the same thing? But most girls usually wont forgive a cheating boyfriend due to obvious reasons. Cos once a girl catches or discovers her guy cheating on her, its always difficult for her to forgive him for making her feel unloved, and unappreciated. But some ,say they would, if they truly loves their guy. But is love enough to make you forgive a cheating partner? There is none above mistake. But not doing it again, and being honest and repentant is the only way to show your gratitude for forgiveness...

Seriously, will you allow her, for the sake of love?

Most ladies feel any girl who doesnt have enough sex with more than one guy or have enough dating experience before marriage, would definitely cheat on her husband when she's married. That's why a lot of girls indulge in pre marital sex with different guys, date enough guys and have lots of fun while they are still single, so as to become normal and responsible by the time they get married. But does it work like that? I don't think so. Cos there is no justification for anybody to be irresponsible..

Some girls can lie. Catching them when they lie is like trying to catch the wind. They always have a way out of any difficult situation by lying. Imagine what a girl said when she was caught coming out of an hotel early in the morning. When she was asked what she was doing there, she said she went there to get wifi connection for her phone...can you imagine?

Advising a girl to be good, responsible or to follow the right path, is like speaking to the wind, nowadays. Cos, most times, its whats in her mind that she would end up doing no matter the wise counsel given to her. Imagine, like advising/telling a girl to mind how she mingles with guys or to avoid visiting a guy at home due to obvious reasons. But cos most girls are usually curious to know things, or experience something new, she would always end up doing things her own way. Only to start crying or regretting her actions later...so, its usually a waste of time advising girls these days to follow the right path...cos, they simply like doing things their way...

Believing in true love or love altogether is like living in space/el dorado, in this time and age....cos true love no longer exist due to alot of factors. Guys and girls now compromise or cheat on one another with reckless abandon...people no longer care or have shame. Cos they dont believe in love anymore. Even most couples getting married, aint doing it cos of love, but due to personal interest. More of a marriage of convenience. It has gotten so bad, that guys and girls now double date as if tomorrow no dey. Professing 'love' to every guy or girl they meet... If you believe in love, you are simply living in space!

When a girl is working but still single....what could be the issue? Is she engaged/about to wed, dating or just not interested in settling down?

When a woman looks like this, there is nothing bad about it. In fact, she is super gorgeous. It's not all about the size, but how you take care of yourself...

When a lady dresses like this to Church, what's really on her mind? To worship and listen to the word of God, or to advertize herself and also look out for eligible bachelors in church. Which is now a trend among most ladies who troop to Church every sunday...

Some few days ago, I read an article on a blog written/sent in by a lady, about her past mistakes, her regrets and desire to make amends concerning a previous relationship (she was deceived, used and dumped by a guy). One thing we need to understand is that life usually gives us enough choices to make. But when it comes to the issue of relationship, most ladies tend to overlook some red flags while delving into a relationship probably due to their naivety, curiosity, greed or adventurous traits. They always like to dip their finger into a fire first, to know if it'll burn them before learning their lesson. Imagine,entering a relationship with a guy knowing fully well it might end up bad for them. Some ladies are usually carried away by the opulence shown by some guys while wooing them. Atimes a girl's background also play a part in all of this. Lots of guys do capitalize on it to deceive and catch gullible girls. And while the girl/lady ends up heartbroken and pained, crying her eyes out, the guy is busy doing the same thing to another girl/victim. Guys are always looking out for weak points in any girl they meet, so as to capitalize on it. Like using romance to woo a girl that likes romance/love, using money to woo a girl that likes money/material things, or using lies to woo girls that love fantasies. Most guys are like that, cos they are just like an hunter. who is usually cunning, observant, and vigilant. And who goes out daily to prey on girls. Ladies, need to be a step ahead to avoid making mistakes or being caught in such traps. And they also need to stop living in fantasies, and face reality. Life is full of choices. All you need to do is use your head to make the right choice when it comes to matters of the heart...Don't let any guy fool you or use you to play ludo/draught. Make the right choice, choose the right person!

Long courtship or dating a lady for long (more than a year) comes with a lot of disadvantages. Cos in the cause of dating and trying to know more about her, you might later change your mind about her or the lady might even end up leaving you for someone else. who probably is ready and serious to marry her sharp sharp. These days, six months is enough to meet, date and get to know someone well enough before walking her down the aisle (if you're really serious about marrying the girl). You don't need years to know/study her. You'll continue to access and study her when you two are married. Cos you can never know everything about someone no matter how long you spend with each other...

When a girl dresses like this to work, what does she expect from her male boss or colleagues?

The topic is already self explanatory!

There's nothing bad in a girl marrying a rich guy. But what happens when the cars, house, money/wealth is no longer there tomorrow. How do you cope, manage or adapt to the situation after getting so used to being spoilt with money, gifts or trips. And being made to rely so much on your husband's wealth or money. As a lady/wife, you need a man that would challenge/motivate you, make you realize/utilize your potentials, and also teach and encourage you to become independent and self reliant. As well as preparing you for the future. He who does this, truly loves you, cares about you and wants a better future for you...

Guys should stop hitting, chopping and dumping girls like tomorrow no dey. Guys should try and make a wife out of any of their girlfriends for once. Atleast every girl can't be bad or slutty. They should stop adding to this vicious circle of using and dumping partners anyhow. The society is already saturated with enough heartbroken, bitter and vengeful guys and girls. So, lets not add to it by hurting and breaking people's hearts. Try find a good girl among the bad ones, to settle down with. No girl was born bad or mean. Something must have triggered/caused it. And heartbreak/betrayer is one of it. So, lets stop it! Guys treat your girls with love and affection. And girls do your best to reciprocate and be loyal to your guys. Commitment and loyalty makes love stronger and sweeter!

Every man should cherish and respect women. Cos a woman gave birth to you, after carrying you in her womb for 9 months. So, mind how you open your mouth and talk bad about women or girls...except no be woman born you.

With the things one sees and read online (on nairaland especially) and the way most guys talk bad about girls these days, I fear for this generation. Its like we are in a society filled with lots of bitter, heartbroken and vengeful guys, who are hell-bent on hurting, breaking and manhandling the hearts and lives of girls. Its like almost every guy out there is on a revenge mission to hurt any girl they meet. Always badmouthing and disregarding ladies like tomorrow no dey. And alot of guys are so obsessed with sex nowadays. Its a crazy world out there. Ladies beware!

Most times when you see a couple getting married, dancing and smiling on their wedding day, the bride is usually the happiest on that day. Cos most times, they (ladies) tend to be the ones who push or coerce their guy into marrying them by all means. And girls usually have a way of doing this. Sometimes when they see that their main guy is not showing any sign of taking them to the altar any time soon, they either pretend to have other serious suitors ready to marry them once they say yes, or simply start giving other guys attention just to make their main guy jealous and also sit up aspa marriage concern. And you know guys naturally don't like competition when it comes to the issue of girls or relationship. Once they see a rival getting too close to a babe they intend marrying, they tend to get jealous and also jittery. And this is now a tactic used by most girls to make their guys take them to the altar. Girls no longer use pregnancy to force guys to marry them, cos it doesn't work anymore. No thanks to the rise and acceptance of babymamas in the society these days. So, what they do is to create competition or flirt openly with other guys, creating the impression they are still available despite being in a relationship. And cos of this, a lot of guys have been made to rush their girls to the altar in order not to lose them to any fast/sharp suitor. Girls don't take chances anymore these days. If you are not ready, they simply move on to the next available bus...

Something like this, shey?

With the rate alot of girls are becoming light skin overnight, people might start thinking those with dark skin dont bath very well (bleach or tone their skin also)...guess that's why alot of girls now use cream to look clean!

Woman “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4. The Bible has said it all. Ladies, over to you!

Who does it better between Vimbai and Uti Nwachukwu? Cos ever since Vimbai replaced Uti as the new host of Tecno Own The Stage TV show, she has brought more excitement to the show. She does her thing with so much passion...