₦airaland Forum

Is there enough reason or excuse for a good girl to become a bad girl? Some girls are quick to give excuses for being loose or for having and sleeping with several guys. While some succum to circumstances, others simply go gaga all cos of greed. The greed to have what other ladies have, thereby selling their bodies for money or fame. There are girls who had to become bad just to make ends meet, help a younger sister go through college or raise funds to provide for her family. But are these enough reason to become bad. They say most men dont help a girl except she gives him sex. Which is a fact. Cos the society is so cruel nowadays. I ve heard cases of men sleeping with girls even while in tears. All they care about is just the sex and not the girl. Certainly, when a girl is bad, there is a man/situation to be blamed for it.

Please trust no girl. cos the rate most ladies pretend to be responsible these days is something else. Many of them use Church to cover up. But by the time you get to know their true color, you would be shocked to your bones. Just like the story of a lady who pretended to be a responsible church girl, but is secretly dating/sleeping with more than three guys at the same time. And even dating a man old enough to be her father. And not only that, people later got to find out she was also once married though traditionally to another man somewhere while in secondary school. But refused to stay with the man. I don't know why girls of nowadays are becoming so loose and deceitful. Biko trust no woman! Even that small naive girl you think is innocent or still a virgin, might no longer be a virgin, and may even have enough lovers servicing her steady. The society is so rotten and full of deceit that those that are saints are now seen as fools. Lots of girls are now competing among themselves to be bad. Telling lies to them is just like ABC. They now do it with so much ease. Biko, trust only yourself, and no one!

Some of you must have had a wicked ex in the past, who gave you lots of tears and pain. Or probably made you looked worthless throughout the relationship. One who cheated on you severally with other girls even right in your presence, daring you to go to hell. Or who took you as a maga/mugu, laughed at you with her friends, cheated on you with reckless abandon, and yet pretended to be holier than even the pope. If you've had such a terrible experience before, its advisable to forget about such memories for good and try to move on. It would help you to recover faster and better. Dwelling in such a past can be very demoralizing and damaging. It can make you hate yourself and others (transfer of aggression). You just have to believe in yourself and in your ability to find true love and be happy. In life, there are some things you can't do anything about. Cos as you walk down the road in search of love and happiness, you are bound to find/meet all sorts of human beings along the road...the good, the bad, and the ugly. May God deliver us from evil...

Forget about the sex and companionship talk, the pain most girls bring into a relationship is enough to give one sorrow, tears and blood. it's better and advisable for a guy to just stay on his own until when he is ready to get married, rather than indulge in a relationship/crave to have a woman in his life. cos no woman, no pain. girls of nowadays aint loyal nor honest.

Dont know why most guys dont like or find fat girls attractive. Guys do feel fat girls aint good in bed and are usually covered with stretch marks. Like a fine sexy girl I used to know, when she was slim, guys used to chase her a lot. Including some married men. Who were even willing to divorce their wives and marry her. Proclaiming fake and true love to her daily. But when the girl started getting fatter, big and out of shape, the number of guys chasing her started reducing. She immediately lost her attraction to guys completely cos of her fatness. Guess she killed their lust for her body after adding so much weight and losing the sexy shape she once had in the process. This goes to show that most guys are only interested in a woman's body and beauty. And not in the beauty of her heart. Cos her getting fat doesnt change her from whom she is, if she is a nice, sweet, loving and caring woman. And this is also the same reason most married men cheat on their wives when the woman start getting fat and big unneccessarily. Especially when she starts having kids. All those sweet compliments and love they used to shower on their wives, will suddenly ceased once the woman starts getting out of shape. Bros, na cos of her body or beauty u marry her? Then if na so, ur love na fake!

When a guy is being nice, over-nice, or kind to a girl, the girl might start thinking the guy is genuinely nice or probably kind naturally. Not knowing that his kindness to her might not be for nothing...in most cases. Cos for one to really know if the guy is naturally nice or not, one need to compare how nice that particular guy is to other guys generally. Cos most guys are hardly nice or kind to their male friends (citing several reasons for it), but when it comes to girls, you see such guys being so nice or going out of their way to help a girl in need, due to what he hopes to get back in return (sex, frienship or relationship)...even if the girl fail to pay back any borrowed money, but keep asking for more help, he would still be giving it to her. With the hope that someday he would surely get his reward...in her bed. Which is always the motive of most guys. To them, nothing goes for nothing! Many always find it difficult to help a girl genuinely without asking or thinking of what to get in return.

When a guy catches his girlfriend cheating on him or she is aware he knows about her secret affairs with other guys, she will prefer to break up with him, rather than stay in the relationship and live with the shame everyday. Nobody likes to be reminded of their dirty past. That's why some girls (especially those without shame) would prefer to move on with another guy who doesnt know about their shameful acts. Most girls would prefer to leave their guy rather than remain in the relationship after being caught cheating. Cos staying in the relationship would be a constant reminder of what they did and how much they ve hurt the other person, even if the guy is willing to forgive and forget, some would still prefer to leave him/end the relationship out of shame and guilt.

Hoping for a bad, ill mannered and irresponsible wife to change...is just like a guy praying for the safety of his girlfriend who he didn't know left home since morning to go and sleep with another guy...atimes, you don't need to kill yourself over such issues...if that woman or girl is yours...she will be yours!

Any woman that truly loves a man and wants to marry him, wont cheat nor play games on him. Cos, in him she believes she has found her soulmate and true love! Same thing applies to men too.

As I waited in the departure lounge of a local airport, I noticed there were many children about but it was understandable since it was summer holiday. One other thing I noticed was
the way most of the children were dressed.
Most of them, especially the girls, were dressed in
bum shorts, halter necks, cut off jeans, etc. The clothes in themselves weren't the issue per se; it
was the overall look of the children that had me bothered. That was definitely not the first time, I noticed it.
A few months before, I had taken my kids to a
birthday party and found myself in what could easily have been a night club for kids. Scanty clothing such as tight or very short clothes, bum shorts, long weaves, etc, seemed to be the dresscode.
I noticed my daughter glancing around
her, probably wondering, "What in God's world
are these other children wearing?" Or something like that.
Not long after, the kids were called out to dance to the hit songs of the season -these songs in my opinion should be rated PG 13.
4-6 year olds trooped to the dance floor,
miming the sexually explicit songs and gyrating their bodies in the most sensual manner.They could have given Beyonce a run for her money.
They ran their hands over their bodies, shook their booties hard while their parents cheered
them on. The boys had their upper shirts
unbuttoned and rapped along perfectly to
gangsta raps while doing flawless break dance.
Those who danced like actual children where
shooed off the dance floor while the lewd ones were cheered on. As I watched, my child stared out of this circle looking longingly at the others dancing. I knew it was time to leave. As we left,
we went to a eatery where I bought them ice cream and gently explained to them the concept of decency and dancing with decorum.
Another time, at a game arcade for kids, I ran into a lady who had made-up her kids' faces like they were mannequins for Tara or Mac beauty products. Their skirts were so tight, that
running up and down the slide was
uncomfortable for them.
So the question is, why are we sexualizing our
kids? Why does your 4, 6 or 9 year old girl have to look like a chick? Why does she have to be hot
or sexy?
Should your 8 year old son go around with a comb in his hair and his pants sagged
almost to his ankles? If your child wears bum shorts out of the house at age 3, why should she be expected to wear longer ones at 15? If she wears 2 rings and 12 bangles at 6, why won't she pierce a second ear hole at 17 and her bellybutton at 19? Why won't your son pierce his own ear at 15? Are you setting your children up to be immodest and indecent? What trend are you starting them on?
That all these are
fashionable or trendy doesn't mean it's ok.
Some parents even dress their children like this to church. Church!
What are you teaching the child? What happened to children wearing dresses to church?
Children can look very nice and decent, they can be well covered and still look good. In this age, when children are being abused, is it wise to make your child an object of anyone's sexual attention?
When I hear some children belt out sexually explicit lyrics, I ask myself how they became exposed to this songs!
As a parent, you can't
play the CD of such songs and not expect your children to pick them up; the same goes for watching Mtv Base, Channel O, etc with your children.
Studies have shown that children exposed to a high level of sexually explicit information tend
to become sexually active early.
Is that your goal
as a parent?
Being a Parent involves sacrifice.
You will need to avoid listening to such music where your children are. Most of those lyrics demean women and teach your daughter that she's just a intimacy gadget and her body is for squeezing. It teaches the boys that money is everything and women are things to be used to satisfy their primal urges. These music
introduces them to a degrading pop culture.
Our children have their lives ahead of them,
let's set them on the right path by teaching them to dress decently and sing nice or age-
appropriate songs.
Let your children be children.
Train up a child in the way that s/he should go and when s/he is old, s/he would not depart from it.
Do you agree that children are unnecessarily
exposed to sexually explicit elements? Is it
possible that some parents are victims themselves or is it that they don't know any better?....

Bad girls usually don't like good guys. But good guys end up liking bad girls, even when its so obvious these bad girls would end up hurting and breaking their hearts later. Its better to cut your coat according to your size. So that you don't end up like the foolish fly that follows a corpse into the grave. Don't let any guy or girl toy with your heart or happiness. Cos, you are special!

If not for the pressure from guys, left to most girls, they would love to wait till their wedding nite before having sex... Many of them are led into temptation and usually succum to sex cos of guys...if you dont want it (sex), then avoid those things that might lead to sex...cos if you dont give him the chance, there is no how he wud get under your pant.

A girl once dumped her struggling boyfriend for a rich guy working in an oil company. While her poor ex boyfriend was hustling under the rain and sunshine marketing small and not so popular products, she and her new guy were swimming in money and having a great time together. Suddenly her ex poor boyfriend later made a very big jackpot when one of his not so popular products became a major product seek by Government, corporate organizations and the general public. He became rich overnight. And while her ex was enjoying his new found fame and wealth, the girl's rich boyfriend later lost his job due to the fall in the price and demand of oil and gas globally. Which made oil companies to lay off most of their staff in order to cut cost. And as a result, her love and romance with the new guy started dwindling just like the price of crude oil, since there wasn't any money to throw around again like before. The story changed, when the rejected stone later became the cornerstone. This is an advice to all struggling guys and girls out there, if you are not loved, respected or accepted cos of your poor background or low status in the society, don't let it bother you. Just believe in yourself and in your capability to work harder and make your life better. And before you know it, you will become just like an honeypot to the bees...Tomorrow is always pregnant. Don't ever lose hope or give up on yourself.

As a guy, when you approach a lady, and she stubs you, is simply cos the girl doesnt fancy the guy. But if she likes you, she wont stub you but wil simply be smiling and 'punishing' you playfully (by making you to walk the whole distance with her while spinning her). A girl wil either stub or report any guy bothering her for friendship only if she doesnt fancy the guy at all. But if she fancies you, even while playing hard, she would still be giving the guy some green light. She wont even report the issue to anybody. Cos she likes the guy. That is how most girls behave. Girls are mysterious human beings. Their ways is quite different from ours.

Leave that thing. Most girls are now wise and sharp. True love wont feed them or take their family out of poverty. But having enough money would pay such bills...guys crave for true love, but ladies crave more for better life...

Advice to guys....when there is no money, there is no love. If you try to force it, you will only end up heartbroken...cos, there is a limit to a woman's patience. Some girls might get along with a broke guy at the beginning, but after a while she might decide to jump ship and seek for a better life elsewhere. Leaving the poor guy sad and heartbroken. Lack of money in a relationship is usually the cause of most quarrels between couples. Lack of money makes the romance to be boring or the relationship stagnant. And before you know it, the girl would start thinking otherwise (having double mind). And if you check out most breakups, lack of money is usually the cause of it. But most couples wont want to admit it. But that's the fact. Every girl wants a better life. And once she realizes she cant get it with a broke guy, she wont hesitate to jump ship once such an opportunity comes her way.Most girls are now wise and sharp. True love wont feed them or take their family out of poverty. But having enough money would pay such bills...guys crave for true love, but ladies crave more for better life... Guys, please make money first, then love and woman would be the ones to look for you...

Due to the rate of house help kidnapping their madam's kids these days, parents are now wiser and more protective of their children. Now, most parents take and pick their kids from school themselves. Parents no longer allow their house-help to do such task anymore. Even the working class mothers, now create time to quickly go to pick their kids from school during lunch time, take them home and rush back to work. My dear, things are happening, and one need to be safety conscious now.

Nowadays most guys wont marry a woman that is not a graduate even if the woman is as beautiful as Agbani Darego or Genevieve Nnaji. Once she's yet to get a degree, most guys tend to withdraw or may simply chop and dump her for a much educated woman (graduate woman). That's what the society has become now. Everybody wants an elevated status in the society. Guys want to be seen around educated women nowadays. And marrying a girl who is still in school do come with a lot of challenges. You know how campus life could be for most undergraduate girls. And dating and getting the loyalty of a girl who is still in school, is like passing through the eye of a needle. And same way guys have set a standard or conditions for ladies to attain, ladies do have their conditions too. Do you know what it is? No woman will like to marry a jobless man! Life is now a rat race, where everybody must have some certain qualities before he or she would be accepted and respected in the society. Anything short of this, you are simply wasting your time!

Being number one comes not only with benefits but also with a lot of responsibilities. Being at the top, one need to do his or her best to maintain such position, in order not to fall or crash from the top disgracefully...same pressure being the first brings to the bearer, is also the same pressure most first sons and daughters usually face from family members. They always expect them to lead by example and also to carry their family name and image with pride. Any slacking on his or her part, their parents or family are quick to scold them or put them in check. Especially when it comes to the issue of getting married first before others in the family. Especially when it concerns the first daughter in an Ibo family. Such daughters (the Adas) usually face a lot of pressure to settle down first, and also live a responsible life for her younger sisters to emulate. Most times, parents don't like nor want their younger daughter to get married before the first daughter. Its usually seen as an abnormal thing or an abomination. Most times, the first daughter is usually rushed or pressurized to get married before her younger sisters, in order not to bring shame upon the family or be a laughing stock in the community for being single and still in her parents' house when her younger sisters are married and with their husband. Being afraid of such stigma and the pressure from family members have made not a few ladies to get married quickly to men they didn't love or wanted. Making some to later cheat on their husband or get stuck in a loveless marriage. But why put pressure on ladies, just to please the society...why? A friend of mine is presently going through a similar experience. Her younger sister is really pressurizing her to get married before her fiance comes to see the family. She says it wont be nice and proper for her to get married before her elder sister. And this friend of mine is confused and helpless cos of the pressure. Her boyfriend is still in school (final year), and not yet ready for marriage due to obvious reasons. Thought civilization has made many not to indulge in such practice anymore...

Another new maga for Karrueche Tran? Memphis Depay, wetin dey hungry you no go kill you oooo

Getting married to the one you love is just like getting to the finishing line after a long or fierce race...cos relationship (dating/courtship) is more like a marathon (pain, fights, quarrels, doubts, ambitions, etc) and not a sprint. And one needs HIS grace to win such a race...

Most campus guys like girls pass book. They are always thinking about girls, girls, girls and less about their studies. Whenever you see two or more guys talking on campus, its always about girls and sex most times. Some even neglect their studies cos of girls. Even during exams, they cant stop looking for girls to play and sleep with. Many of them behave as if being on campus is their only chance of getting enough girls to sleep with. So, they do all they can to toast, spin, lie, deceive and lure enough girls to bed, right from their year one to their final level in school. Some even use their school fees or allowances to woo and lure girls to bed in school. I just dont understand the craze for girls and sex among most campus guys. They forget that these girls are in school to study, and should be allowed to face their studies in peace.

WHEN you met your wife, she was a sex goddess, with a beautiful body to die for. Two years and a baby down the line, she has put on a considerable amount of weight, has a big tummy and rolls of fat. when this happens most men do not find their women attractive any longer.
They either start looking for another woman or stop any affection with them. Some even go to the extent of telling their women that they are no longer attractive or are a turn-off."most men did not know this could have grave psychological effects on women. There is nothing more damaging to a woman's ego as hearing that her body is too flawed to be sexually appealing, particularly if the words are coming out of her husband or partner's mouth.

Learnt the case was somehow settled out of court.

Some folks (parents) are very 'funny' and cunning. And I guess some choose when to act as such. Imagine,when their daughter gets pregnant out of wedlock, the parents won't waste time to disown her or send her packing. But once, the baby is born, you'd now see the parents of the girl coming to lay claim to both the girl and her baby after abandoning her to bear the burden alone. What kind of eye service is that? They love the baby but hate the mother of the baby. Just like an incident that happened recently. When a girl was rejected by her family for getting pregnant. They saw it as an embarrassment and a disgrace to the family. The poor girl was later taken care of and assisted by another family to deliver her baby safely. And the same family later adopted the baby, when she decided to give the baby up for adoption. But before you could say Jack Robinson, the parents of the girl suddenly appeared from nowhere to collect the baby from her foster parents. They started making trouble and cooking up lots of lies and excuses just to make sure they succeed in collecting the baby. You can imagine? Some people are something else. Where were they when the poor girl was abandoned and left to suffer the pain and humiliation alone? When you love someone, let it be for better for worse, and no matter the weather. That's what true love is all about. When your child does something wrong, scold her as much as you want, but don't ever reject her. That's just like rubbing salt to a wound....Some guys are also like that. Some usually don't like the mother of their baby, but love the baby so much. Which kind double standard e that?

Most times, a lot of girls do pretend to be good or have good character before dating a guy or at the early stage of their relationship. But as times goes on, you'll be surprised to see her displaying some nasty character in the relationship later. And due to lust or cos of the beauty of the girl, most guys usually fail to notice this or overlook it at the initial stage of the relationship or while wooing a girl. A lot of girls out there have mastered the act of deception. They play good and nice, just to trap a guy, and once they have him in their hands, they start showing their true colors. Guys shine your eyes very well, so that you don't end up in a toxic relationship!

You're in a steady relationship, you have a girlfriend/boyfriend and yet you don't mind hooking up (and later sleeping with) with any guy or girl you meet on a bus. You don't have to stand on the street hawking your body or lusting after every girl you see before being labelled a dog or a slut. Most guys and girls are fond of hooking up (flirting/cheating) with any random guy or girl they meet on a bus, even when they are already in a serious relationship. Some end up cheating on their partner through this process. Why kill love or give yourself a bad name. Why cant you keep to one partner. You're not a dog, for crying out loud. Respect yourself. Stay focus, and stop looking sideways. Stop creating problems for yourself and your relationship.

Yeah money is everything, but it cant really give you everything. Cos money can give you a woman but not a wife. Money can give you a house, but not a home. And money can give you joy, but not happiness...

Imagine a girl saying she's only with her boyfriend cos of what she's getting from him. That she doesnt love him, but just with him cos of the money and comfort he provides for her. Can you imagine? This shows that alot of ladies out there are married to men they dont love. Many of them give in to these men cos of the money and other privileges they stand to benefit by marrying such a man. A home without true love is like a house on a sinking sand...

When a governor spends eight years without achieving much, and with no tangible or credible projects to show for it, in his state after leaving office, such a governor ought to be stripped of any benefit/privilege entitled to ex governors and his tenure in office should also be erased completely from the state records. Why remember such person, if he or she didnt do anything for the state while in office. You go to some states, and see so much degradation, neglect and poverty, you begin to wonder what their governors did with the funds they made or got from the federal government. Corruption in Nigeria, is like a virus that is reluctant to leave the body of its host. President Buhari has a lot of work to do. The rot in government is so much, you can see the evidence everywhere. Nigeria is richly endowed, but looks impoverished, cos of bad governance and corruption...if you know you can help make Nigeria better, the country needs you.

With the presence of so many oil companies in port harcourt, port harcourt city ought to look like paradise on earth. We are not suppose to be seeing so much poverty and lack in most parts of port harcourt. Look at places like diob, lagos, sand field, eneka, rumudara etc. We have oil companies here and there, but most areas in ph are not feeling their presence nor reaping any benefits from them. Guess some persons somewhere are collecting, mis advising or mismanaging things. Abeg, to all the oil companies in port harcourt, make your presence count. Most parts of Port harcourt city is deteriorating and becoming an eyesore...pls make your presence count...

In the past, they used to say if one wants a good woman to marry, one would find them in the Church. But unfortunately it's not like that any more. Cos a lot of bad girls/ladies are no longer on the 'street' but now in the church, disguised as 'good' sisters, looking for men to catch, lure, seduce, deceive and also destroy. Many are godly in church, but at home they are like vipers. They are only deceiving themselves. Cos, by their fruits, we shall know them all...