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Every man appreciate and value a woman that will make him save (become a better person, plan for the future and also be more prudent) more than a woman that will make him spend recklessly

Guys have now device a means of deceiving girls and forming big boys just to sleep with any girl. And guys usually use this trick whenever they are with a girl they want to sleep with. Especially if the girl is someone that likes money. And they are ready to spend any amount on her and also pretend to be a rich guy by making some fake business calls in the presence of the girl, (calling huge amount of money or transactions) just to make the girl think he is wealthy or highly connected, thereby falling for his advances and into his bed afterwards. A lot of girls have fallen for this tricks by guys. And many are still falling for it...ladies be wise...be wary of the sharks out there pretending to be gentlemen. Most of them are only after sex....

The way most guys are so determined to chase, catch and sleep with any girl they meet, is becoming so alarming these days. I feel for girls. Cos, its like swimming in a sea filled with deadly sharks, for them. anywhere they (girls) turn to, they see sharks (guys) with their sharp teeth aimed at them...

I dont know why most ladies dont like pounding yam for their men to eat. Each time one brings up such an idea, you see most ladies complaining or refusing to do such. They say its a stressful task to do, and that a loving or caring man wont suggest or bother his wife/babe to pound yam for him. Instead of going through the stress of pounding yam, they can easily get the processed one sold in packs in supermarkets. But funny enough, most of these ladies enjoy eating pounded yam oooo. But to pound yam, na problem for them...chei, naija gals.

Is it true that all naija girls are the same.... They all use cream to tone/lighten their skin, They all keep more than one boyfriend, They all use make up so much to look beautiful and attractive to guys, They are not loyal, They lie alot, They cant be trusted, They dont keep their promises, They are heartbreakers, They are confused... Is it true that all these traits can be found in most naija girls?

When a man is cheating on his wife or girlfriend, he sees himself as the king of girls, and a smart player. But once he's caught cheating, he becomes so sober and apologetic. Making himself look more like the victim and not the villain... Imagine?

Atimes guys make the mistake of going after the wrong girl, while the one destined for them, is right behind them. Most times, a guy could be influenced to go for a particular girl based on her looks, level of education etc, while ignoring another girl who actually might be the one for him. A friend of mine had a similar experience some time ago, when he decided to go for a particular babe instead of the babe he knew before her. And cos of the new babe, he paid less attention to his other female friend that liked him so much. In the long run, he ditched the other girl, and started dating the new girl. To cut a long story short, the former girl later got a job in a big oil firm wt a fat salary plus other specs, while my guy and the new babe are no longer together. Now, his former girl is now a big babe with her own guy...atimes, we miss out on the one destined for us, cos of longer throat...

The use and abuse of make-up by most ladies is really getting out of hand...Everywhere you go, you see faces painted and splashed in different colors, many looking like 'ojuju calabar' instead of looking beautiful and outstanding. Abeg, ladies try to make it moderate. Stop over doing it and spoiling your looks. We love you just the way you are...

Forget about single guys who cheat, every married man out there cheats on their wives steady. While single guys do theirs in the open, most married men who cheat, do theirs secretly...So,when you are referring to all the bad guys, include married guys/men too. Cos many of them cheat on their wives...

Most guys are saying its a bad idea to have ony one girlfriend at a time. Since most girls aint loyal. Having or dating only one girlfriend could spell doom and more pain for the guy should his girlfriend suddenly start misbehaving or decide to dump him for another guy without any prior notification. To them, having more than one girlfriend at a time, provides a guy with a plan B (back up plan) option should plan A doesnt work out in the long run. One can easily switch over to plan B without feeling much pain. And that having another girlfriend by the side will make a guy not to put all his mind on his main babe, and it will also make the main girl not to disrespect the guy and also put her in place knowing that her guy can easily get or switch over to another girl, anytime she bleeps up. You know most girls dont like competition. It tends to keep them in check. Guess guys and girls have now made up their mind to be playing games on each other. No wonder relationship/love sucks these days.

Baby-daddy drama. Lot of people are only concerned about baby mamas. What about the issue of baby daddies? who will forever remain in the life of the girl and her child. Its never easy dating a girl who already has a child for someone else. Cos in most cases, the girl will not only be attached to the father of her child emotionally, but will have to keep communicating with him cos of the child between them. And such situations tend to bring lot of issues for the girl in any new relationship she finds herself. A male colleague at work once had the same experience. He met and fell in love with a girl who already has a son for another man, she was no longer with. This colleague of mine loved the girl so much and wanted to marry her and also take her son as his. But the girl's baby-daddy (ex) became a constant pain in the neck for both of them. Her ex kept calling, always wanting to see her and also visit her often using their son as an excuse. And it got to an extent my colleague couldn't take it any longer. Him and the girl started having issues cos of the constant presence and disturbances of her ex (baby-daddy) in their relationship, until their relationship eventually crashed. That's why most guys don't like getting involved with single mothers (ladies with baby daddies), cos of the emotional attachment such ladies tend to have for the father of their child.

Yep! Its not only women that feel the pressure of getting married. A man can also be under pressure to get married. Especially when the man is old enough to be married with kids. Apart from having personal desire to settle down, the pressure can also come from other areas. Such as parents/family members, friends, colleagues, or even from ladies as well. who keep wondering why the person is still single despite having everything. And as a result you find such men so eager to get married by all means, so as to have his peace of mind. But being under pressure to get married, can also lead some into making the wrong choice or complicating matters the more. Marriage is not something you rush into. You need to plan, and also be ready for it before venturing into it. So that you don't end up full of regrets.

Do you know how and why most girls carry out their filthy act of double dating very well? cos, they tell any new guy they meet and like, that the guy they are actually dating is her ex that doesn't want to let go especially whenever she's with her new guy and her real boyfriend is calling her on the phone. She's always quick to tell the new guy you are an ex who is calling and probably begging her for reconciliation. She might even lie to the new guy, that she broke up with you cos you cheated on her. Most girls do or say such just to make themselves look single and available to the new guy when they are already in a relationship. And this is how many of these girls end up double dating and complicating issues for themselves. Jostling between two or more guys, all in the name of being smart and foolish. Bros, the earlier you know what you are to your babe, the better for you, so that you don't end up being dumped and heartbroken. Most girls are confused these days. and many of them aint loyal. To them double dating is just like multi-tasking. Which alot of them are very good at...

Any married woman that is finding difficult getting over her ex(s), should have her head examined. If your ex loved you so much, why didn't he marry you. And if you loved him that much, why didn't you marry him. Don't know what's wrong with women who cheat on their husband. Especially when everything is being provided and given to her by her husband, and yet she can't help cheating on him. Such a woman is not worth being a wife. Men need to be very careful so that they don't end up with strange women...

Before she became famous, and how fame has made her to become something else. Learnt she's now pompous and arrogant.

whenever a guy impregnates a girl out of wedlock, its the girl's life and plans that is disrupted and not his. while the girl is saddled with the task of nursing and taking care of the baby, the guy is busy furthering his education, making his life better and achieving his dreams. Girls need to be careful and let sex wait until when they get married. Don't kill your dreams cos of sex!

Its not advisable for anyone to keep hanging around a guy/girl that no longer loves you or wants you. Doing so, the person's fate would be just like the case of the stubborn fly that ends up being buried in a grave wt a corpse...When you see such signs, pls run for ur life....

You no that look on your face when you see a man married to a fine woman, taking another girl/prostitute to an hotel to sleep with her. That was how I felt the night i saw a married man i no, negotiating with a prostitute at Casablanca in port harcourt, on my way home. Guess he felt he wont be seen, recognized or caught in the act by somebody that knows him. I was totally shocked when I saw him that night with the prostitute, smiling and taking her to his car. when you see the things some married guys do with other girls outside their home, you will pity their wives. Especially if the wife is even more sexy and beautiful than the irresponsible girls they sleep with outside...men and their love/craze for sex no get part 2!

I find it so annoying whenever I see women being harsh, mean or wicked to other people due to their privileged status. Most especially when it comes to the issue of house maids. If you see the way some women treat their maids, you will feel so sorry for them. They so maltreat and care less about the health or wellbeing of their housemaids. While buying nice stuffs for their own kids, they clothe their househelps in rag clothes. And many of them dont even bother sending their housemaids to school. You see their housemaids taking their kids to school everyday until they get to secondary school, while the housemaid remains as she is...uneducated and helpless. This is not fair at all. These people are also human and deserve to be treated fairly. Just like the case of a particular guy i got to no about, who works as an househelp for a family. This guy has bn working for them for years, and the family have not even bothered to help him get his school cert or GCE atleast. Cos I learnt the boy doesnt have school cert yet. And the boy is not getting any younger. Most people are like that. They watch and allow their housemaids to remain uneducated or redundant while their own kids grow to become graduates and successful in life. And tomorrow, these same people would start forming holiness in church or to outsiders. Its not fair o. God is watching everybody.

If you are lady dating more than one guy at a time, you are not only confused, but also a prostitute....

Most girls desire to have an honest and very open boyfriend, due to obvious reasons. And there are guys who tell their girlfriend virtually everything they do. They say na love. Like when another girl buys him a boxer, shirt or perfume, he tells his girlfriend about it. And even whenever he goes out on a friendly or harmless date with another girl, he ends up telling his main girlfriend about it. Some even disclose their salaries or the amount in their accounts to their babes. Girls love it when their guy is so honest and open like this. And you see such girls boasting and talking about it to their friends in school or at home. But come to think of it, is it right for a guy to be like that? Wont some see it as an act of insecurity or foolishness on the part of the guy. Cos, most girls are hardly honest. And yet, they want a guy to be honest and open with them

I really dont understand why most girls tend to get angry whenever a guy doesnt give them what they ask for (especially money)... Most times, when a girl ask a guy for financial help, and the guy is unable to help her, it usually makes the girl to be angry with the guy. To the extent of not talking to the guy anymore. There are girls who sees their friendship with a guy as a means of getting some favors from him. Even if the guy doesnt want anything from her. Naija girls are just too dramatic. Same way some girls use guys to step up in life, only to start claiming they made it through hardwork.

when a guy is good to some girls, they end up treating the guy bad. And when a guy is nice to a girl other guys don't want to mingle with, she ends up thinking the guy is only talking to her out of pity. You begin to wonder how complicated the world is. Guess its better to just be who you are, and let the world be on its own!

There is no girl in Nigeria that is single. Cos every girl either has a boyfriend, a lover or a guy(s) fucking her steady by the side...

There are guys who unknowingly are with someone else' wife or fiancee. Since most girls are fond of having enough options when it comes to dating or getting married. We've heard cases of ladies abandoning their boyfriends (whom they've engaged) to marry a rich suitor. in such cases, you see the lady unable to detach herself from her ex boyfriend/fiance even after marrying someone else. She wont be able to stop communicating or going to see the guy. And even have sex with him should the guy seduce her. That's why it's advisable for guys to make enough inquiries about a girl before marrying her. Cos, some of these girls might already be engaged to another guy, but due to some reasons best known to them, they wont mind dumping the guy once a better/richer suitor comes into the picture. There are married couples who are going through such experience as we speak. where a jilted/bitter ex boyfriend/fiance is constantly calling the wife on phone, texting, visiting her or inviting her to his place for sex or get together. And while some men have allowed such to crash their marriage, others are willing to settle (pay off) the ex, so that such guys can leave their wives in peace. Ladies are usually the cause of this. Many of them tend to keep lot of secrets and also double date. Some are even married, but wont mind to marry another man without ending their previous marriage legally. Thereby complicating issues for the new men in their lives...Bros, before you date/marry that girl, do your homework very well, so that you don't end up with enough problems or drama in your life/home later.

This is when a lady in a relationship gives her boyfriend all the privileges of a wife, by sleeping with him regularly, living with him, cooking for him, buying him gifts, washing his clothes and cleaning his house steady, when the guy is yet to do anything on her head (marrying the guy before he marries her). Sometimes, such display of love and affection by a girl towards her boyfriend is usually taken for granted by her guy. You know most naija guys are badoo, and tend to treat good girls badly. Imagine doing all these for him, only for him to end up jilting her later for another girl. How would the girl feel after making all these sacrifice for the guy and their relationship? That's why some parents used to advise their daughters not to marry a guy before the guy marries her...cos things ought to be the other way round.

Cos, most ladies are fond of having so many exs before finally settling down. And having so many exs bring alot of drama into their lives. Many of them allow their several ex to figure so much in any new relationship they go into. And some usually find it difficult to forget some of their exs. Even after getting married, some loose ladies still hook up with their ex. If such ex boyfriend is better than your husband, then why didnt she marry him in the first place? Girls love complicating matters for themselves. Imagine a 23 years old girl having 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 ex boyfriends before finally getting married. You can imagine how far such a girl would have gone and how exposed she would be when it comes to the issue of men and sex. Girls should stop all this drama about them and their exs. If you really want to move on happily, then you need to let go of the past...

Senator Ben bruce seem to be making sense cos of his privileged background. He is not in government to chop money but to help improve the living condition of the nigerian masses. Compare to most of the people in government, who only go there to enrich themselves because of where they are coming from. They think of themselves first before others. For real change to happen in our country, those in government need to think of the masses first, before themselves. Change can only occur in the country when those in government are sincere and committed to the people.

As a guy, who will you marry? Is it the girl that comes around to do your laundry, cook for you, clean up ur house and also advises/help manage your money, Or the girl that only comes around to eat ur food, watch tv, spend ur money and love going out alot... Between the two girls, who will you marry?

Most ladies' only attraction is money. Their own is just to sit down and eat the money. How you get or make the money is not their business. Just bring the money, and let them eat the money. They only care and live for money. When they see money, they are ready to give you anything you want. All they want is money, money, money. In most relationship or marriage, you find them (ladies) smiling or laughing only when they see their guy with money. Absence or lack of it, usually causes friction between a lady/wife and her man.

Is it advisable for guys to sponsor their girlfriends to school? Since the hearts of most girls are unpredictable. And just like the weather, they can either blow hot today and cold tomorrow. A girl you helped today might end up hurting you badly tomorrow. we've heard cases of girls dumping a guy after being sponsored to school or getting one help or the other from the guy. I guess whenever you help a girl to achieve something in life, just believe you are doing it for God. And if she decides to hurt you in return, just leave her to God.

There are girls who deep within them know they wont marry the guy they are dating (due to reasons best known to them), but yet they'll still be hanging out with him, playing the good girlfriend, giving him false hope and preventing other better girls from coming to the guy. And we also have girls who usually plan from the onset to date a guy for a while, then dump him once they find a better guy or option. There are guys who have fallen into the hands of such cunning girls. Such girls don't have any intention of marrying the guy from the onset, but will keep deceiving him while waiting and hoping for a better option to come up soon. This is not fair. If you know you don't have any intention of settling down with someone, stop fooling the person and let him or her go in peace, and not in pieces!