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To me, its not a big deal. The man can as well teach his wife how to cook very well. Cos, in a marriage or relationship, couples ought to learn from each other and also help each other to become a better person. So, anything the man or wife cant do very well, the partner should be willing to support or tutor the other person. There is no need to be making nyanga. Cos some men/wives or girlfriends are known to make nyanga once they know there is an area or skill they are better than the other person. And wil later be claiming to love the person after doing shakara. Love indeed

Doing that is like jumping from frying pan to fire. Cos 0+0 =0. Anybody that cheats on his or her partner has no heart nor human feelings. And joining the person to do the same thing makes you an heartless person. The best thing to do in such a situation is to let him or her go, if you cant remedy the situation...

A guy is worried cos he is currently dating a girl who left her last boyfriend (ex), when the guy could no longer take care of her needs. And this was also the same reason she left her previous boyfriend before the last one. And the way she left her ex boyfriend without feeling any guilt or remorseful is giving the guy a lot of concern. Cos she might also do the same thing to him tomorrow.

Before any girl or guy breaks your heart/dumps you, you will see the signs first. So, its always advisable to end the relationship amicably before anybody is hurt. These days, most girls dont even bother telling a guy its over. They simply move on by bn cold and unloving towards the guy. So, whenever you start seeing such signs from your girl, my guy quickly and sharply end the relationship before she does. Dont allow any girl take you unawares (most girls love it when they hurt a guy, but hate it when a guy hurt/dumps them before they do the dumping)...when the love and sparks are no longer there, just end it and move on jeje. It will save you alot of pain and also prevent you from bn heartbroken...

When a girl cheats on you, rather than take her back, just let her go. To avoid hurting yourself the more. Cos even if you forgive her, she will never forgive herself (out of guilt) until she leaves you. Its better to just let her go, and move on with your life jeje. Cos a cheat will always be a cheat...same thing applies to Guys.

When a girl is impatient with her boyfriend, she ends up not been around when the guy eventually becomes successful. Its only a guy that is lazy or without potentials that wont later become comfortable in life...so, when a girl is with a struggling guy, she shouldn't lose hope if the guy is hardworking and making serious efforts to become successful. Cos sooner or later, he'd surely make it. Its only when the girl is impatient, she ends up not waiting enough to eat the fruit of her labor. Cos, by the time the guy becomes successful, she is already gone, in search of greener pastures elewhere (which is common with most naija girls)...girls, be patient. Everybody started from somewhere.

As a guy who has a crib, its normal for your girlfriend to always assume the role of a joint owner of your apartment whenever she comes around, some girls tend to display this attitude even when their guy's friend is around. While others do their best to play the role of a wonderful host. But on a more serious note, who has more say in a guy's apartment between his girlfriend and his friend?

Any girl that jilts her guy, in order to marry another guy (richer guy) is a bad girl. And also when a girl marrys a guy after using and dumping several other guys intentionally, such a girl is also a bad girl. And any girl that gets married to a guy after snatching the guy from another girl intentionally is also a mean girl. These are some of the bad girls, guys are getting married to unknowingly. Not knowing what their real motives are, or the bad things they've done to guys in the past. To most girls, getting married is not cos of love for the guy, but an avenue for them to be married and also live a comfortable life. Many of them conceal their real intentions/character until after the wedding. And this is one of the reasons you find a lot of married guys staying out late at beer joints, drinking and hanging out with friends till late in the night, instead of going home to their 'sweet' wives...

Sometimes being a virgin is due to lack of opportunity, the right moment or the right guy.... When a girl is of age or matured and still a virgin, it might be as a result of lack of opportunity to have sex, doesnt have a boyfriend or yet to meet a guy that would wow her or sweep her off her feet. Most girls usually crave or dream to be deflowered by a great guy, and under a romantic setting. They actually create such a scenario in their mind prior to being disvirgined. A scenario or experience that is usually actualized by a few of them. Many of them want their first time of having sex to be a sweet and unforgettable experience for them...one that they'd live with for the rest of their lives...

Everywhere you go, you see and hear guys talk about girls, girls, girls and sex, sex, sex all the time. Its like every guy just wants to sleep with every girl in town. Even the married ones aint left out. Guys are just so obsessed with girls and sex....eeyeah!

Believe it or not, a lot guys and girls in Nigeria now indulge in pre-marital sex nowadays without using condoms and without the fear of contacting HIV/Aids. Anywhere you go, (especially on campus), its so common seeing people having sex recklessly and foolishly without using condoms. Even with random guys or girls. The only thing most guys and girls are afraid of is unwanted pregnancy and not HIV/Aids. To them, HIV/Aids no longer exist. And, Girls no longer ask guys to use condoms while having sex with the guy. All they care about is the guy not releasing sperm into her vagina. Cos of the fear of unwanted pregnancy...and cos of this, a lot of people are being infected daily cos of this foolish belief and mindset. That girl or, that guy you see, meet, like and about to sleep with, might be an HIV carrier... Avoid pre marital sex. Protect yourself, live responsibly for your own good...

Is it right for any girl to stripe and curse a guy after hurting and dumping her? Cos, most times you see some girls crying their eyes out after being hurt and jilted by a guy. And feeling used and dumped, they end up striping naked and laying curses on the guy. But since relationship lacks loyalty these days, people tend to hurt and break people's hearts anyhow nowadays. So, if girls like doing this cursing of a thing, then should guys also be doing the same thing, whenever he's hurt and dumped by a girl?

Why is it that its so easy to woo and sleep with any girl within few days or weeks of meeting her, these days.
Its like most girls don't play hard to get or get laid anymore. And guys are having a field day...

According to singer Yemi Alade, any guy that claim to love and cherish his girlfriend should be paying her salary every month if he cant afford to buy her a Ferrari...since love no be for mouth

Will flogging or treating any girl that cheats like poo, make her change her ways? Cos with the rate girls cheat and lie these days, I shake my head for this present generation. What do you think is the right punishment for an unfaithful girl?

Women are known to keep lots of secrets. Most of which they will never reveal till death. Trying to know everything about a woman is like looking for a needle in a desert...

when you are in a relationship with someone that loves you so much, you will enjoy the relationship a lot and be so fulfilled. Compare to when you are in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you as much as you love him or her. If its like that, the other person (guy or girl) might start treating you like poo. But when the other person is more loving, its sweeter and better. But relationship would be a lot better if the affection and commitment is 50/50

when a girl knows she has gotten a guy in her hands, she is confident and happy. And knows that no matter what she does, the guy will never leave her...this one no be love portion matter o, na something else!

When two people are madly in love, they do stupid things atimes...like eloping to be together against the wishes of their families. But after a while, a lot of factors might later affect their love and relationship when they don't have a back up plan. Thereby making the two of them to go their separate ways. I've seen such cases before. A girl running away with a guy only to end up regretting her action and hating the guy. Atimes, when you are inlove, use your head when making some decisions, so that you dont end up losing your mind.

Finally, the best solution to cheating and other relationship problems has been discovered. And that's applying the SMART Model in your relationship. SMART which stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Bound. SMART is a mnemonic acronym, that gives criteria to guide in the setting of objectives especially in project management or personal development.

After much consideration and realizing the effectiveness of this model in both business Mgt and personal development , I feel applying this model in our relationship will help ease the aches and pain common with relationship of nowadays.

Specific: Being specific requires you and your partner setting a specific goal at the beginning of the relationship. what do you two want from the relationship, and your expectations. You must try and define your goal together, and the purpose of achieving the goal. what is your goal? Is it to get married or just be playmates? You two need to define this.

Measurable: This is used to measure the progress you and your partner are making towards the attainment of the goal. You two need to sit back and do some evaluation from time to time, to know if you are going in the right direction or derailing. This would help make you to stay on track and also be focused.

Achievable: This has to do with setting goals that are achievable. Like what you hope to accomplished before getting married. Setting goals that will not affect your desire to be together or marriage plans is necessary. Cos in every relationship, we do have both individual goal and collective goals. And most times, individual goals are the root causes of problems in relationship. Cos whenever our individual goals are stalling, it tends to affect our collective goal in a relationship. It creates division and distraction most times. Affecting our morale and commitment to our collective goal in the relationship. Like when a girlfriend decides to get a job, her masters or first degree before getting married. Or when the guy decide to get a job/better job, a bigger apartment, building a house or getting a car first before thinking of settling down with his girlfriend. Any delay in achieving any of these is bound to derail the direction of your relationship. So, its very necessary for the two of you to set goals that are achievable and that wont also affect your future plans in anyway.

Relevant: How relevant or realistic is your goal? is it relevant to your getting married or being together. will it affect your marriage plans or relationship if they are not accomplished? You need to know if your set goals are relevant to your collective goal as a couple in a relationship. Yeah, achieving most of your goals before getting married is a real motivation. The most important thing is to know how relevant the goal is to your future happiness.

Time-Bound: Having a set target for the attainment of your goal is also necessary. like how long do you intend dating before tying the knot should be set and taken into consideration if you are in a serious relationship. Ladies are usually conscious of this when dating. Most of them usually want to know the direction of the relationship right from the beginning. And also how committed the guy is. If they share the same goal, and target. Setting a target (when to get married) and working towards it together is bound to bring you and your partner closer than ever. It also help boost your commitment to each other, create a healthy relationship for both of you. Since all you see is a future with him or her by your side.

Relationship is a beautiful experience, only when you and your partner are truthful, honest, loyal and committed to each other! And also when you share the same goal.

Imagine, how irresponsible and shameless some girls can be when it comes to cheating, double dating and playing games. Imagine, a girl after being so loving and sweety on the phone with her boyfriend, was later seen flirting and exchanging Numbers with another guy she just met on a bus. Some girls no get shame at all. That's why its very hard to trust any guy or girl these days. Cos, nobody is loyal...

According to some girls, they dont waste time dating another guy after ending a relationship, in order not to feel the pain or absence of their ex/past relationship. Doing that is the fastest way to heal their broken hearts. No wonder it doesnt take most girls a long time before going another relationship even when they dont really know much about the new guy. But while some are willing to take such risks, there are still girls who are scared of going into a new relationship with someone they barely know. Especially if the girl has just gotten out of a toxic relationship. She is bound to see every guy as the same. To her, every guy is the same, every guy is a cheat, or every guy is not worth trusting... But when we begin to assume everybody is the same, then nobody will be getting married every saturday. Cos, there is none who hasnt been hurt before. Every experience is a lesson...

There is no girl who doesnt want to have a boyfriend or be in a relationship with a guy. Even the so called church girls also dont want to be left out as you find some of them secretly quarreling or fighting over some of the brothers in the church. Every Girl just want to have a guy in her life, that she can talk to, run to, have sex with, depend on, spend time with and also boast or talk about with her friends...any girl claiming not to like guys or have interest in guys, is only pretending or saying that cos she is yet to find her ideal guy that would help make her dreams come true... Most girls cant really do nor stay without a guy. Check out campus girls and how they jostle and crave for guys to spin them, date them and also wow them...to them, its something (having a boyfriend) they must achieve before they graduate from school...

Gone are those days when girls used to be very open and sincere to their boyfriends. Telling him virtually everything she does, even when she's hit on by other guys. Some girls are like that, when they are madly inlove with a guy. They hardly hide anything from him, and are always afraid to even cheat on their boyfriends. Well, that was then, but nowadays, girls have now learnt how to play the game without detection. They keep sealed lips even when they are about to cheat on their boyfriends. They now lock their phones, and hardly discuss the other guys pestering them with their boyfriends, especially if their guy is the possessive type...guess, experience is the best teacher

A lot of guys and girls have found themselves in situations like that where despite all their love and affection for someone, the person keep treating them like shit...cos there aint no love for you in their hearts. I've seen girls cry and beg guys whenever their affection is not reciprocated. Kneeling and crying their eyes out for guys, sometimes in public. And you see the guy showing off and even bringing other girls home to spite the heartbroken girlfriend. Dont know why some prefer to stay in such a relationship when its so obvious his or her heart is elsewhere. When someone doesnt want you, his or her action says it all. The best thing to do, is to take a walk...cry no more, there is enough hearts and love for everyone out there. If you are patient enough, you will find one...

As a girl living with over protective or strict parents/guardian, how do you cope or escape being caged, monitored or restricted. Especially if you are staying with an aunt or uncle who doesnt want you to be going out frequently or seen with guys. Always telling you when to go out and when not to go out (your movement is monitored or restricted). There are girls in such situation. And as a result, it has made some girls develop tricks and a lying habit, just to be able to go out freely or meet with her guy. Some are only free to mingle freely when they gain admission or are in school. And not been exposed to such freedom before, could end up making such girls irresponsible or over exposed later, when caution is not applied. Though in the long run, such restrictions do have some advantages (on the life of the girl) when its properly handled. As a girl in such situation, how do you cope?

As a guy, have you ever found yourself in a situation like that, when your girlfriend is either caged, monitored or restricted from going out by her parents or guardian, and cos of that, she is always sneaking out or cooking up lies just to come out and be with you. We do have girls who are in such a situation. The only time they are free is when they are in school. But once they are at home with their parents, it becomes so difficult for her to see her guy. Like those days, when guys used to hide or sneak around just to see a girl whose parents are over strict. As a guy dating such a girl, what is the experience like? Enjoyable, unbearable or manageable?

No guy should beat his chest and be happy or proud when a girl refuses to pick calls from other guys whenever she's with you...making it look as if she doesnt play games or mingle with other guys. She is not doing cos of you, but only playing you. Cos, same way she refuses to pick calls from other guys cos of you, its the same way she wont pick your calls too whenever she is with another guy. Thats how girl that play games operate. They tend to treat every guy equally...to such girls, life is no fun if they dont play games...

No guy should beat his chest and be happy or proud when a girl refuses to pick calls from other guys whenever she's with you...making it look as if she doesnt play games or mingle with other guys. She is not doing cos of you, but only playing you. Cos, same way she refuses to pick calls from other guys cos of you, its the same way she wont pick your calls too whenever she is with another guy. Thats how girl that play games operate. They tend to treat every guy equally...to such girls, life is no fun if they dont play games...

Its a known fact, that most girls are naturally secretive. They tend to hid alot of things about themselves or the things they do...some are always feel with guilt, while others dont even give a hoot about it. As they keep on lying to cover up their deeds. Many even end up getting married and living with it for the rest of their lives. And constantly watching their back and afraid of their past...

Sorry, its not about me. But about some ladies, and the games they play with guys...

There are girls who are fond of doing this. They tend to show a guy so much feelings and pulling him towards them, but suddenly do things to push him away at the same time. Using a pull and push method. Maybe she is confused, testing the guy or just playing games...when you like a guy, be real, and stop making it look like a nollywood movie. The heart is not a toy that should be played with... We've really messed up this thing called relationship and friendship.