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EsotericMonk:
I see all of you, casting aspersion on the guy. Why are we living double standard lives?

Dude is comfy as a homo, is it your anus he is fvcking? Ironically, many guys here have done anal sex with their babes, yet they come online to condemn gays. We should often learn to look at the man in the mirror.

You condemn ppl for being who they are yet you want ppl to tolerate you as you are. Aren't we all just like the Pharisees?

In Asa's voice : "let him who is without sin be the first to cast a stone.......Mr Jailer"

please madness is not tolerated here

and who said it's who they are?

no one knows what causes it so why the "smarter than thou" sh!t u tryna play here

WetinConsignMe:
The thing is that, that irrestible urge to shove your phallus into some woman's smelly gapping wound can also be considered a psychological disorder

stale...

Probz:
A cause that’s deeply rooted in heriditary. It’s nothing more than a form of degeneracy.

again , nonsense .

scientists do not "know" what causes sexual orientation ( like homosexuality) but they have "theories" that it is a complex interplay of genetic ,hormonal and environmental interplay


so the key word there is "theory"


listen the fact that homosexuality is illegal here has nothing to do with right or wrong it's simply that it isn't accepted here by the majority , when all these countries that legalised gay they had poll to vote and the majority decided if they want it legal or not , so there isn't any right or wrong here it's all about the majority and what they want and 95% of Nigerians don't want homosexuality , it's our country we decide what goes and stays

ODVanguard:
As in? Why would anyone choose to be an oddball? Or a life or being looked upon as weird, life of persecution and being ostracized. Society will inevitably just have to accept them for who they are.

no one chooses to be psychologically disordered
and we don't accept psychologically disordered people for " who they are"

WetinConsignMe:
As if he sat down one day and decided to be gay - his family begged him to reconsider, to change his decision!

SEXUALITY

Romantic Orientation- Who you are romantically attracted to meaning wanting to be in a romantic relationship with and is unrelated to sexual attraction.

Sexual Orientation- Who you are sexually attracted to meaning who you get turned on by or who you would want to engage in sexual behaviors with.


*note all listed below are applicable also to romantic orientations. These take the prefix of the word and the ending -romantic, i.e. heteroromantic, panromantic, aromantic.


Heterosexual- The attraction to a gender different from their own (commonly used to describe someone who is gender binary [female or male] attracted to the other binary gender).

Homosexual- The attraction to a gender the same as their own (commonly used to describe someone who is gender binary [female or male] attracted to the same binary gender).  Sometimess referred to as gay.

Sapiosexual - A sapiosexual is someone who is turned on and attracted to intelligence, or someone’s mind before their appearance.

Lesbian- Women who are attracted only to other women

Bisexual- When you are attracted to two or more genders.  This term is generally used to describe being attracted to men and women, but can apply to being attracted to any two or more genders. Note that you do not have to be equally attracted to each gender.

Pansexual- When you are attracted to all genders and/or do not concern gender when you are attracted towards someone

Bicurious- People who are open to experiment with genders that are not only their own, but do not know if they are open to forming any sort of relationship with multiple genders.

Polysexual- When you are attracted to many genders

Monosexual- Being attracted to only one gender

Allosexual- When you are not asexual (attracted to at least one gender)

Androsexual- Being attracted to masculine gender presentation

Gynosexual- Being attracted to feminine gender presentation

Questioning- People who are debating their own sexuality/gender

Asexual- Not experiencing sexual attraction (note that you can also be aromantic and you do not necessarily have to be asexual and aromantic at the same time).  Sometimes the term, ace, is used to describe asexuals.

Demisexual- When you only experience sexual attraction after forming a strong emotional bond first or a romantic bond

Grey Asexual- When you only experience attraction rarely, on a very low scale, or only under certain circumstances

Perioriented- When your sexual and romantic orientation targets the same gender (for example being heteromantic and heterosexual or being biromantic and bisexual)

Varioriented- When your sexual and romantic orientations do not target the same set of genders (for example being heteromantic and bisexual or being homoromantic and pansexual)

Heteronormative- The belief that hetersexuality is the norm and that sex, gender, sexuality, and gender roles all align

Erasure- Ignoring the existance of genders and sexualities in the middle of the spectrum

Cisgender - a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex.

Cishet- Someone who is both cisgendered and heterosexual.  This is sometimes used as a slur.

Polyamorous- An umbrella term referring to people who have or are open to have consensually have relationships with multiple people at the same time

Monoamorous- People who have or or open to have relationships with only one other person at a time.  The term, monogamous, is also sometimes used

Queer- A reclaimed slur for anybody in the LGBT+ community or who do not identify as cisgender and/or hetersexual/heteromantic

Ally- A supporter of the LGBT+ community that does not identify as LGBT+

GENDER & SEX

Sex- Your assigned gender at birth and/or the gender of your reproductive organs

Gender- Where you feel that you personally fall on the spectrum between male and female. Commonly people identify as male or female, but some fall in the middle or move throughout the spectrum.

Cisgender- When you identify with the gender you were assigned at birth

Transgender- When you identify with a gender different than that you were assigned at birth

Transsexual- When you have had Gender Reassignment Surgery (GRS) to change the sexual organs you were born with to that of a different gender.

Male to Female (MtF)- When somebody that is assigned as a male at birth identifies as a female

Female to Male (FtM)- When somebody that is assigned as a female at birth identifies as a  male

Genderfluid- Moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity

Agender- Not identifying with any gender. Sometimes referred to as being genderless orgendervoid

Bigender-  Identifying as two genders, commonly (but not exclusively) male and female.  Sometimes you feel like both genders at the same time and sometimes you fluctuate.

Polygender- When you identify with multiple genders at once.  Sometimes referred to asmultigender.

Neutrois- When you identify as agender, neither male nor female, and/or genderless

Gender Apathetic- When you really do not identify nor care about any particular gender. You are fine passing off as whatever and you really do not have an opinion towards your own gender.

Androgyne- This term overlaps a lot between gender identification and presentation.  It can be used to describe others and as an identification. This term is used to describe people who are neither male nor female or are both male and female.  Basically anyone who does not fit into a binary gender category.

Intergender- Somebody who's gender is somewhere between male and female

Demigender- When you feel as if you are one part a defined gender and one or more parts an undefined gender.  Terms can include demigirl, demiboy, demiagender, ect.

Greygender- Somebody with a weak gender identification of themselves

Aporagender- Somebody with a strong gender identification of themselves that is non-binary

Maverique- A non-binary gender that exists outside of the orthodox social bounds of gender

Novigender- A gender that is super complex and impossible to describe in a single term

Designated gender- A gender assigned at birth based on an individuals sex and/or what gender society percieves a person to be

Transitioning- The process of using medical means to change your sex

Intersex- A biological difference in sex that is when people are born with genitals, gonads, and/or chromosomes that do not match up exactly with male or female.  Intersex individuals can have any romantic/sexual orientation and can have any gender identification.  Intersex individuals are about as common as redheads.

Dyadic- Someone who is not intersex and when their gentinals, gonads, and chromosomes can all match into either a male or female category

Trans Woman- Someone who is assigned as a male at birth, but identifies as a woman

Trans Man- Someone who is assigned as a female at birth, but identifies as a man

Trans Feminine- Someone who identifies as feminine, but identifies as neither a man nor a woman.  They must also be assigned male at birth.

Trans Masculine- Someone who identifies as masculine, but identifies as neither a man nor a woman.  They must also be assigned female at birth.

Social Dysphoria- Discomfort experienced when acting in ways socially different than your gender or being addressed in ways different to your gender

Body Dysphoria- Discomfort experienced because of the difference between gender and your sex, role, or gender expression

Butch- A term used to describe someone who's gender expression is more masculine than feminine.  This is commonly used in describing women or lesbians.

Femme (Fem)- A term used to describe someone who's gender expression is more feminine than masculine.  This is commonly used in describing women or lesbians.

Binarism- Putting gender strictly into two categories (male and female) and refusing to acknowledge genders outside of male and female.

so as u can see there are different forms of psychological disorder
and we don't need any of their sh!t down here

scholes0:
Most Nigerians (Including the “Educated” ones) still don’t realize that sexuality isn’t a choice... no one would chose to be queer, odd and ostrasized if given the choice.
Do they think this young man decided to make hinself gay or do something thag would deliberately cause his family a great deal of sorrow?

I feel so bad for his mum, but with all sincerity, it is what it is. Given the culture and responsibility expected of Male children in Nigeria, I really do hope they have another son.

nonsense , because white people told u so that means it correct abi

gay like every other abnormality has causes , when the causes is eventually found we would rid Nigeria of this sh!t till then all gays should compress their sh!t till they die

LadySarah:
So who has been washing his clothes until he met the girl?
wanted to align with the Op but got put off when he insisted on a hand washed cloth.it means that even if the girl gets him a washing machine as a gift,it will be kept aside for the hands to do the job and for how long will this happen?

She's only trying to stop what she can't encourage in her marriage. When the babies come,laundry will become lager plus ogas own that will be "hand washed".

If I were her,I will get you a washing machine then you can do ur wish with it.


This is the reason why most women get fat and out of shape because of chores and soon look older than their husbands..

lol "she gets him a gift "

when the op said hand washed he probably meant certain clothes like silk and stuff , if u had a washing machine ud see that it even says that there are some materials that are better hand washed unless u buy a very expensive one that covers that ,

but how can someone pay ur school fees , give u monthly up keep pay ur other necessities like hair and shame won't catch u to at least wash his clothes something u know bothers him


she's a witch

Administration1:
No need of too much stories,
I have a friend who works with a multinational firm, he has a matured girlfriend in her second level in the University, she resigned her job two years ago to get a degree.
They have been dating for over a year now and he intends settling down next year with her, presently, the guy pays her fees and gives her monthly upkeep cash, money to make her hair etc. but the problem is that the young man complains that she rarely washes his clothes, even boxers. Sometimes the guy spends 7 days in a week at work with no time to wash his clothes. And he doesn't like giving his clothes to drycleaners as they usually ruin the colours. He prefers hand-washing them, which he does any night he returns, sometimes, into the night, 1:00AM when you call my guy, he is still washing his clothes, bedsheets etc.

When asked the girl says "I am not washing your clothes, if i start washing your clothes now, what will I do when we get married, you'd better give them to the drycleaner.

My guy is totally confused, knowing that a character exhibited during a relationship will definitely come into play in marriage. Please what should he do.

op are u mad?

the answer to ur question is there


when u say gives her money for monthly up keep = my bìtch

she should wash ur clothes I mean ur " friend's" clothes or fvck off


u work all week and gives her cash and she can't even support u with this small thing

Sucuidalthought:
I really need ur advices, coz i am thinking of taking my life my self if I can't get over this stuff by 5pm today...


I am a student of a public university in Nigeria,
300l economics,
I am addicted to gambling (bet9ja virtual to be precise), I have tried many times to stop this stuff but it is not working out, and is putting me into debts...

I just need ur advices coz I am fed up with life because of this virtual...

I know taking my life is not the best answer but at least, is gonna to save me from seeing the disgrace I have brought to my self and parents...

Fenks in anticipation..

lol we can't make u stop and no matter what advice we give u to stop or how to stop overall you'll still have to stop by yourself

but guy lets be real with ourselves , if u die no one cares, another wasted soul of the planet , ur family will cry and get over it in one year max

if you get tired of life u can go ahead and die infact that might be the wisest thing in ur situation

BUT , if u Choose to live then u must be willing to fight , everyone is struggling to make a place for themselves in this life .

so u can kill ur self but aren't u curious as to who wins 2019 election?

IamD18:
Buhari's jazz is so powerful that his zombified slaves finds it difficult to reason and admit the mistakes and flaws of APC.

Tufiakwa! These set of slaves are ready to die for their lifeless dullard master.

guy u don chop like finish

Trouble1:
Wailers will hold on to anything to stay in the news .
They never said the pictures are from their achievements.
But they’re only using the picture to illustrate.
Well, who am I to argue with a wailer .
Before anyone quote me . Please see my signature

ur right they never said the pictures were their achievements
and we never said that either

danjumakolo:
The truth is the north is a place where a stranger goes,stays,integrate,and does business which full acceptance,happiness and concurrence from the indigines there.
Let a stranger try this in the east,even try buying a land in the east and see the way the people there will detest and even show u hatred.
This is why most strangers in the north hardly go back to the land of the Jezebel.You wanna know why Zik,Ojukwu we're all born in the north?This is the reason.

pure BULLSHĪT

if u wanna buy land in the east then u buy , even if some local have issues they won't stop u and u will never ever be in harm's way

but in the north any day some abokis would rise up and start killing people , how many times have I heard them kill Igbo people?

ur one of those people always spouting nonsense about how the northerners are "nice" and "peaceful" but we see and hear contradictions , go and rest

KingSatan:



LIES!!

They were not MADE IN NIGERIA.


Rather, THEY WERE ASSEMBLED IN NIGERIA!!

The best they can do is Fabricate the CHASSIS. Every other thing was imported (Check Alibaba.com).


Stop Falling for this Hypocritical Regional Recognition Gimmick.

Quote me without facts and DIE FOUR (4) NIGHTS FROM TODAY.

shut up

u don't know sh!t

tintingz:
If men are oppressed by women they should also create thier own group for equal right, no one is stopping them.

But from history women have faced oppressions from patriarch men, that prompted the feminism movement which is understandable.

oh so now I get u


but at least u know Feminism is a one-sided selfish ideal , thats why a lot of men dislike it

a lot of us guy have no issues with women rights especially us born in this century or late 90s but we see Feminism doesn't even care about us (men) and always seems to care about painting men as oppressors this is why people associate Feminism with men-hating or in other words anti-men (note I'm not saying it's men hating I'm just saying why it seems that way)


that's why the tag Feminism will be hated

so if someone really cares about equality and both men and women's right they should be an Egalitarian

tintingz:
You quoted what feminism is and again you're contradicting what feminism is.

Feminism is women platform, an activist group for women equal right (in politics, society, work, education etc) that's all about feminism ideology, every other ideology like men-hating, violence, oppression is additional and not part of feminism.

There are stages or wave of Feminism ideology depending on the era of the movement e.g Radical Feminism movement in 1960s.

okay uve just Said Feminism is all about women right but what about men's right? or men don't have issues?
I'm saying Feminism doesn't cover that , Feminism says only campaigning for women's right can get u equality in other words saying men don't also face societal oppression or need help


now men-hating , doesn't always come in the form of women shouting "men are scum " , "men are all the same"
oh no there are subtle ways it is shown, Feminism is a fight of the oppressed (women) Vs the oppressors (men). when talking about ur oppressors u won't always sound nice would u?

Iike I said Feminism is really deep and u won't believe the things in our day to day lives that are "sexist" and anti-ferministic ,even the supposedly harmless things

so why is all this drama necessary?


and I don't think u read all Ive been saying ( i don't blame u tho I have a PhD in writing long epistles ) cause there are some things I said u haven't responded to

NwaAmaikpe:



The closet is getting too cold for some of us.
Isn't it time Nigeria legalized same-sex marriage? How can we develop as a nation if we won't copy developed nations?

a copy can never be as good as the original

tintingz:
You're generalizing and it's a fallacy.

It's like saying all Muslims are terrorists or all christians are terrorists because of some bad action of some people.

I'm not
I'm saying u can't know what is what , there is no clear definition of anything , read Feminism on Wikipedia and see just how deep and complex it is , u say it's about equality, but equality for what? Politics , rights , personal , relationships?
if u how do u define "equal"
what's "equal" really about
now this is more than just oppression , it's passed that

so much drama and politics

all this is unnecessary and like I said
Feminism is one sided , they don't advocate for men's right ,I've given u dictionary and Google definition , they say the same thing , they believe that to balance things up just fight for women

tintingz:
These are all conspiracy.


Why must a woman kneel to another fellow human because of some ceremonial culture? Why can't men kneel down?

It is a thing of choice, if she doesn't like kneeling down, good for her, if a man doesn't like kneeling down good for him, is it that the kneeling down is definition of respect or love?


There are extreme feminist, in most group there's always extremists.

There are traditions and cultures that are irrelevant in this our era, most of this traditions were practiced out of ignorance, greed, power etc.

In igbo culture or so, when a woman husband dies, there are rituals she will go through like cutting her hair, drink the water used to bath the corpse, does this sound reasonable, in this our civilized era?

Evidence please.

Ofcos there's no 100% equality, it's impossible like you said, but oppression is the problem.

Ofcos it's your choice, even if you like slapping women, but know that your choice has limit.

Lol, where did you get this your feminism ideology from?


Ofcos yes.

I never said that about your mom.
It's a belief, people believe in different things, people are indoctrinated with beliefs, social myths.


It's not about men being the head, it's about how you treat your fellow human.

Ok, what if a woman is the breadwinner of a family, fighter, protector, is she the head?

now we both agree that oppression is wrong
but where the line is I believe Feminism is not necessary

don't get me wrong the ideals Feminism supposedly stands for , like liberty , fairness and such I believe in that like a lot of other people, but where the issue comes in is why Feminism?


Feminism means " A social theory or political movementarguing that legal and social restrictions on females must be removed in order to bring aboutequality of both sexes in all aspects of public and private life."

or "the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes."

so u see Feminism is saying the way to achieve equality is just to focus on liberating women alone that is, to achieve equality between both sexes u focus on only one and u achieve balance between the two
I used to think Feminism band egalitarian means the same thing but it seems not .

that why I said Feminism is a woman's thing hence the sexist name Feminism


now I listed some examples u hilariously called conspiracies but the truth is I have heard them all and more , those were only the ones I could say on the spot .

in the UK their queen and prime minister are women , women even have more rights than men , so Feminists are happy? all is well? , hell naw, they play the victims any chance they get , there's always something to complain about , something is always sexist and wrong .

the other day chimmanda was interviewing Hilary Clinton and she said she was upset and a bit disappointed that in her (Clinton) autobiography she said that her greatest achievement was being a mother and a wife (can't remember if this was the exact words but something like this)

another time she also said that a guy opening a door for a lady is chauvinistic and disliked by her
so simple things are not issues

u say that's extreme Feminism , I laugh , extreme to who? where's the line that says whats extreme and what's not?

even if it's extreme Feminism it's still Feminism !

if I meet a lady how do I know whether she is
an extreme Feminist
a true Feminist
a false feminist
a radical feminist
a difference feminist ( the ones that believe men and women are different and equality is not possible or necessary)

the label "Feminism" is not needed is not necessary , it brings a lot of conspiracies , bastardising , man-hating and political commotion. In fact it's to the point that when I hear a lady say she's a Feminist I sub-consciously just get a bad vibe iono

so overall when someone says they are Feminists it means they are full of drama and u must be ready so spend a lot of time arguing with them about something

adami:
So her marriage is hinged on her virginity She has to give up marriage because of that What do you even mean by the man being ripped off That should only make sense if the man is also a virgin. Women enjoy sex as much as men so why should she be restricted when the man is not and yet the man is the one who is ripped off? Culture is not cast in stone, culture changes and if a cultural practise suppresses a group of pple, it should be changed. Every adult should be entitled to sexual freedom.

Like I said it's their culture u don't have to like it , and we don't know if their culture also says the man has to be a virgin or not

And yes it would be a rip off , if the man says he wants a virgin to marry it's his choice and he's allowed to confirm

It's just like a medical test , if ur an AS u wouldn't wanna marry another AS cause it might lead to an SS child , so u go for test to confirm , you'd also wanna confirm fertility(to see if u can both have children) ,STD tests etc

It's really not a big deal , and I also put inclusions if they are gonna test virginity which is

Is it harmful?
Is it professionally done?!
is it really an accurate test or just a waste of time ?!

divinecode101:
Go and play with sand, your elders are talking here

what...?


grandpa I can't hear u ...


grandpa for fùcks sake take five seconds off licking that aboki's ass and say what someone will hear!

divinecode101:
Go and play with sand, your elders are talking here

what...?


grandpa I can't hear u ...


grandpa for fùcks sake take five seconds off licking that aboki's ass and say what someone will hear!

adami:
Contradicting yourself here @ bolded, if it's their culture then that makes it compulsory for them. There's everything wrong with checking a woman's virginity, its her private part, it's her private business, nobody should be snooping around there.

just cause it's their culture doesn't necessarily make if compulsory ,she can decide not to go with it , she can decide not to marry

they are checking her virginity to confirm if shes a virgin like she says ,how else will the suitor know if she is or not , u want him to be ripped off?

u can decide to make it a big deal or not

but it's really not ,u can see it as routine check, like when spouses go for medical tests before marriage to see if there is an abnormality or not

divinecode101:
I really will not exchange comments with f00lish yoots.

I need to give you answers so that you dont remain in your f00lishness

So where is Osinbajo from? He is from Daura I presume?

Awon omo jatijati

lol I'm not talking about now

I'm talking about in general

take the civil war for example ,just before Biafra was formed wasn't it awolowo that said if the east goes the west will go
, now the east went and not only did the west hilariously fail to go they teamed up with the Hausa/Fulani like they were friends to fight



even till today the Yorubas always act and think y'all friends with the Hausa/Fulani with the mentality of the enemy (Hausa/Fulani) of my enemy (Igbo) is my friend

it's general knowledge that Igbos and Hausa/Fulani hate each other

but the way y'all lick the shoes of Hausa/Fulani is obvious that's why uve never resisted them

tintingz:
In developed countries like America and Europe women's rights is like 80% achieved, in Asia and Africa women's rights is like 40%, imagine in 21 century Saudi Arabia are just giving women approval to drive cars, in the northern Nigeria women are subjected to men like slaves, so there are still work to be done.

A lot of women are aware of feminism but choose to be ignorant of it ideology, they are indoctrinated to believe they are lesser, they are indoctrinated to believe feminism is of the devil's work. This is how people are indoctrinated to believe other religions are evil and will go to hell.


Any belief that promote oppression of a fellow human is wrong.

What are the difference?



You're still getting feminism wrong, it's not a gender competition thing, it's for equal rights for the sexes, we have feminist who are married and happy, I still don't get your point?

Is this part of the ideology of Feminism you quoted in your previous post?

Is Black power movement ideology a racist?

Feminism is a platform for women right activists just like Black power movement is for Blacks right activists.

don't get me wrong everyone knows oppression for a fellow human is wrong , the north of Nigeria is filled with all such of unbelievable things and yes there's still work to be done , especially with the fact that they follow Sharia law which is different from the south




at first feminism started out as equal rights but they got that, ud think they'll be done? , no!
now they challenge everything ,

opening the door for a lady is wrong

Hollywood is a sexist industry that promotes violent movies for guys and romantic comedies for women



Barbie is a stereotypical description of a lady and leads to low self-esteem and should be destroyed

games and movies describing a damsel in distress should not exist

men should be allowed to wear pink and cry

kneeling to propose to a lady is wrong (I've heard some guys say this)

clothes shouldnt be gender specific , men should wear skirts

men taking off their shirts should be seen as indecency just at it would be for women


I've heard that during a Yoruba traditional wedding a when a lady is supposed to kneel and give her husband a drink she refused cause she said it's oppression


people are going through all sorts of stuff to get true equality , some people call it extreme feminism , but I laugh ,u can't say it's extreme ,but they right , it is true equality

but u see these are killers of traditions and cultures

divorce rates are over 50% in this highly feminised countries , of course it's not the only factor but a contributor

being stereotypical is now a crime

IS THIS THE WORLD U WANT?!



I believe no one should be oppressed but feminism is not by force , 100% equality is impossible

so what I'm a stereotypical egoistic male that wants a nice humble wife

so what a lady kneels during a wedding as custom

so what I want to be the head of the family and be treated in charge

so what I love violence and believe men don't cry (it's I'm the freaking bro code)

so what a lady wants to be showered with gifts by a man and not want to split the bills when the man takes them out on a date

so what we decide to be stereotypical about what a man and a woman should do about certain things (especially in relationships)



overall what I'm saying is CHOICE

u asked what is the difference between FEMINISM and WOMEN EMPOWERMENT


"Feminism" says everything MUST be equal , no question, all forms of beliefs and thinking that comes from stereotypical gender roles must not exist and when we say all we mean all , not some , not just the ones we dislike , even the ones we like,even the ones that benefit us,even the ones that seems appropriate, ALL!


while women empowerment involves freeing women from both financial and mental shackles giving them the power to make their lives better it says u can be whatever u want



so overall u don't need to be a feminist to be free or anti-oppression

u telling me my mum that believes in patriarchy is in bondage , who cares if a woman feels that in a marriage a man is above her .


Note in Christianity (I'm not a Muslim I don't know what they say) a man is only put as the head in marriages , so one aboki across the street is not above u . And when it says the head it doesn't mean an oppressor and an oppressed , the man is supposed to be the symbol of strength and protection , the fighter , the provider and it's to maintain order . it's no rocket science that men are stronger than women , every second we hear about a woman empowerment program , even in the almighty America , but do u hear once of a men empowerment program? because men are already built for this stuff

tintingz:
Feminists are like activists, fighting for women's rights, it's no different from other activists group. I really don't see anything wrong with it.

Looking at history the society has always favor men than women, in Saudi Arabia women can now drive because of the cry of the women activists(now jailed), these women sacrifice themselves for this struggle.


Yes we have women like that, like I said the ideology of Feminism has been abused, polluted by many people of today.

I'm yet to see the worse oppression women has done in history.

Kindly mention any.

There are different types of feminist, we have the hypocrite, wannabe ones, mostly African women.

Go to Europe or America and see real feminist, successful women.

Feminism is for women's rights, there are even male feminist, they only want equal right for both sexes that's all, every other thing are additional.

Whatever you want to choose it's your choice, but most women activists prefer calling themselves feminists since it suit thier ideology.

I prefer calling myself Humanists, some men call themselves male feminists since they are for women's rights.

like u just said feminist fight for women's right

and I have no issues with that but u see I believe in gender equality too , so I'm not fighting for women's right I'm fighting for men's right tooo

I'm aware of male feminist but mind u there are men that are women too .

in developed countries and in Nigeria women have already been freed legally , of course Nigeria still has tribalism and religion holding them back , but that's the beauty of it
being held back is now a choice !
a lot of women are aware of Feminism but CHOOSE to ignore it


do u think that we are the only ones with beliefs ? or that our beliefs (gender equality) are correct and everybody's elses is wrong?!

everyone has right to believe whatever but everyone knows now that in Nigeria the only limitation to women is in their mind, their choice!
and mind u there's difference between women empowerment and Feminism

a lot of women are empowered and go around empowering women but still believe in male patriarchy ( the man is the head of the family) and it works for them and they are happy, they are not feminist!

but the sick thing is feminist go around acting like they are the wise and correct ones and anyone who thinks Feminism is sh!t is either a slave (if it's a woman) or a misogynist (male) and we are the bad and stupid ones


and I'm also complaining about the title "feminist" it sounds really sexist

there are other words that also mean gender equality why don't they go for those ones why do they go for such a controversial and confusing label

G1STMORE:
A group of United Nations (UN) agencies has issued a joint statement calling for a ban on tests meant to assess the virginity of a girl or a woman.

The statement, issued during the World Congress of Gynaecology and Obstetrics (FIGO) in Rio de Janeiro, stressed that such tests were both unscientific, and a violation of human rights.

The UN agencies are: the UN Human Rights Office (OHCHR), UN Women and the World Health Organisation (WHO).

“So-called ‘virginity testing’ – also often referred to as hymen, ‘two-finger’ or per vaginal examination – is a gynecological inspection of female Instruments carried out in the false belief that it can reliably determine whether a woman or girl has had vaginal intercourse,” the group said.

In a global call to eliminate violence against women and girls everywhere, the UN agencies said that “this medically unnecessary, and often times painful, humiliating and traumatic practice must end”.

The practice is a long-standing tradition documented in at least 20 countries, spanning all regions of the world.

Women and girls are often forced to undergo virginity testing for various reasons, including requests from parents or potential partners to establish marriage eligibility or even from potential employers.

It is mostly performed by doctors, police officers, or community leaders on women and girls, in order to assess their virtue, honour or social value.

In their statement, the UN agencies explained that the practice has “no scientific or clinical basis” and that “there is no examination that can prove a girl or woman has had sex”.

The agencies added that the “appearance of girl’s or woman’s hymen cannot prove whether they have had sexual intercourse or are sexually active or not”.

In addition, the UN agencies denounced virginity testing as a violation of the rights of girls and women, which can be detrimental to their physical, psychological and social well-being.

The examination can be “painful, humiliating and traumatic” and reinforces stereotyped notions of female sexuality and gender inequality.

In some regions, it is common for health professionals to perform virginity testing on victims of rape, supposedly to ascertain whether or not rape occurred, they said.

Given the lack of clinical basis, the procedure is deemed “unnecessary” and “can cause pain and mimic the original act of sexual violence, exacerbating survivors’ sense of disempowerment and cause re-victimisation,” the agencies said.

“The result of this unscientific test can impact upon judicial proceedings, often to the detriment of victims and in favour of perpetrators, sometimes resulting in perpetrators being acquitted.

“Given that these procedures are unnecessary and potentially harmful, it is unethical for doctors or other health providers to undertake them.

“Such procedures must never be carried out,” the joint statement read, calling for a collaborative response across societies, supported by the public health community and all health professionals.

Dr Princess Simelela, WHO’s Assistant Director-General for Family, Women’s, Children’s and Adolescents’ Health, said: “Health professionals can be great agents for change”.

“With support from health systems and governments, they can recognise that ‘virginity testing’ has no medical or clinical bases, refuse to carry out the harmful practice, and educate the public about this,” Simelela noted.

The WHO official added that, in doing so, they would be “upholding the Hippocratic oath of ‘do no harm’ and safeguarding the human rights of girls and women in their care”.

News via Gistmore :: http://gistmore.com/un-describes-virginity-testing-human-rights-violation

there is no problem with checking virginity
as long as it's not compulsory ( as In they are not forced to ) , it's not painful (they ensure their patients don't experience harm) and long as the test is accurate .


I hate when the UN or ( calling it as it is) the west , try to change people beliefs and systems to match theirs because they feel that they are the only ones that are correct


I'm some cultures women should be virgins before marriage, and they create systems to confirm the virginity , it's their culture ! the UN should mind their fvcking business !

yomi96:
which masses, u mean this Greek gift, after making Nigerian the headquarters of poverty, God forbid buhari rules beyond 2019. mark this space

buhari didn't make Nigeria the Hq of poverty

have sense ! I dislike buhari but I blame those that deserve the blame

PDP ruined Nigeria that is a fact , Nigeria didn't suddenly become poor it's been happening for a long time and suddenly reached the point it is today , and u talk like atiku would turn Nigeria into heaven in four years , bullsh!t

divinecode101:
Na dem

The Atikulooted tribe

Useless yeye people who will sell their mothers for money!

The real Hausa/Fulani slaves. They are ready to do anything for money - they dumped their brothers to be licking Hausa/Fulani boot

lol Hausa/Fulani slaves?

we only support atiku cause of obi and he's not Buhari


we all know who the real slaves are , if not for their slave mentality Nigeria wouldn't be here

tintingz:
Did you read my post well?

Feminism came out when women can't take the oppression in the society by men, do you know the years women have been oppressed by patriach men?

Even in the so call holy books, you can see how women are degraded and oppressed. Feminism is not sexism against men instead it's the other way round.

So yes feminism has to do with women's rights and liberalism, there's nothing wrong with that, there are even male feminists, the problem now is the wannabe feminist we have today that knows no iota about the true ideology of Feminism.

Kindly read history how feminism started.

no it seems YOU didn't read my post(s) well

like u just said feminism started out when "women" wanted to escape oppression by "men"
so u see it was never about men who also are oppressed by women and society

it was never really a man's thing ,it was the oppressed (women ) Vs the oppressors (men)

and that's whats still going on today , a lot feminists act anti-man , they are always going in about how men are chauvinistic , misogynist, egoistic , we are the bad guys ,t he oppressors and they are the oppressed

and I get a lot of guys are like that but feminists go to the extreme

now if ur really about true equality for both sexes women should also advocate against patriarchy not just when it suits them ,
like CAPSLOCKED said feminism can't survive when women don't even advocate for it cause they don't wanna give up their benefits






so overall I'm saying I believe in equality that's why I don't want the word "feminism" it's a sexist word having feminine as it's prefix

I prefer the word "Egalitarian ". they supposedly mean the same thing
but Egalitarian is a gender neutral word

tintingz:
Did you read my post well?

Feminism came out when women can't take the oppression in the society by men, do you know the years women have been oppressed by patriach men?

Even in the so call holy books, you can see how women are degraded and oppressed. Feminism is not sexism against men instead it's the other way round.

So yes feminism has to do with women's rights and liberalism, there's nothing wrong with that, there are even male feminists, the problem now is the wannabe feminist we have today that knows no iota about the true ideology of Feminism.

Kindly read history how feminism started.

no it seems YOU didn't read my post(s) well

like u just said feminism started out when "women" wanted to escape oppression by "men"
so u see it was never about men who also are oppressed by women and society

it was never really a man's thing ,it was the oppressed (women ) Vs the oppressors (men)

and that's whats still going on today , a lot feminists act anti-man , they are always going in about how men are chauvinistic , misogynist, egoistic , we are the bad guys ,t he oppressors and they are the oppressed

and I get a lot of guys are like that but feminists go to the extreme

now if ur really about true equality for both sexes women should also advocate against patriarchy not just when it suits them ,
like CAPSLOCKED said feminism can't survive when women don't even advocate for it cause they don't wanna give up their benefits






so overall I'm saying I believe in equality that's why I don't want the word "feminism" it's a sexist word having feminine as it's prefix

I prefer the word "Egalitarian ". they supposedly mean the same thing
but Egalitarian is a gender neutral word

tintingz:
Many women of today are benefitting from Feminism that was started in the past, you need to read the history behind the movement, it has nothing to do with sexists against men instead it was the other way round.

Most people get the ideology of feminism wrong due to wrong information and different ideologies, feminism has been polluted, abused by people of today.

I use to think feminism was all about men-hating-competing group in the past due to ignorance.

the term "feminism" originated from a French word "feminisme" and was coined by the utopian socialist Charles Fourier and was first used in English in the 1890s in association with the movement for Equal political and legal rights for women .


do u get it now the word "feminism" was always to be a woman's thing , it was built for their ideals , men never really had a place in that. and they have gotten the equal legal and political rights , so what's still the hot sh!t about?

The word " Egalitarian" also means equal rights for all people , so why don't we use that word instead

why don't people go around calling themselves Egalitarians instead of using a word with a sexist prefix like feminist

in today's society there is no limitations for women ! they can be whatever they want to be , if they don't want to cook then they should not cook , if they don't wanna be housewives then they should not be

they should stop with playing the victims all the time, no one is oppressing u !!!



they should drop the sexist label "feminist" , they don't need it to be a strong independent woman

tintingz:
Many women of today are benefitting from Feminism that was started in the past, you need to read the history behind the movement, it has nothing to do with sexists against men instead it was the other way round.

Most people get the ideology of feminism wrong due to wrong information and different ideologies, feminism has been polluted, abused by people of today.

I use to think feminism was all about men-hating-competing group in the past due to ignorance.

the term "feminism" originated from a French word "feminisme" and was coined by the utopian socialist Charles Fourier and was first used in English in the 1890s in association with the movement for Equal political and legal rights for women .


do u get it now the word "feminism" was always to be a woman's thing , it was built for their ideals , men never really had a place in that. and they have gotten the equal legal and political rights , so what's still the hot sh!t about?

The word " Egalitarian" also means equal rights for all people , so why don't we use that word instead

why don't people go around calling themselves Egalitarians instead of using a word with a sexist prefix like feminist

in today's society there is no limitations for women ! they can be whatever they want to be , if they don't want to cook then they should not cook , if they don't wanna be housewives then they should not be

they should stop with playing the victims all the time, no one is oppressing u !!!



they should drop the sexist label "feminist" , they don't need it to be a strong independent woman