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Romance › Re: Top 10 Ladies On NAIRALAND That Are "Potential" Wife Materials. by Matthewbriggs(m): 3:48pm On Dec 21, 2014

MizMyColi:

Hilarious!

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Romance › Re: Top 10 Ladies On NAIRALAND That Are "Potential" Wife Materials. by Matthewbriggs(m): 2:59pm On Dec 21, 2014

iyke926:
1.yields formerly known as yield.

2. Lynpetra

I wonder were she went to yield. She is indeed a wife material ... very smart and has a healthy moral compass.

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Romance › Re: Top 10 Ladies On NAIRALAND That Are "Potential" Wife Materials. by Matthewbriggs(m): 2:57pm On Dec 21, 2014

Ujsizzle is a wife material... Sholasholala is a wife material ... mizmycoli is a wife material
interested husband materials should start send their application immediately for processing.

Note the waiting list is long its first come first serve.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:46pm On Dec 21, 2014

Nonso23:
Matt you are wasting valuable knowledge on this section. Trust me, i've been down this road. The last women to listen to you thrive on this section.
They have complexes ranging from their gender, to their race, to their IQ. Their inferiority complex will black out the light from the sun.

They are as impervious to differing opinions and healthy debate as rock is to water.

So I have discovered ... I do not debate to win or salivate from the thrill of assaulting the dignity of someone who has diverse opinion from me.

I debate to learn, So see things differently, to question my status quo.

But that's not the type of healthy debate going on here. It is something entirely different. Constant interaction and exposure to this section can change one for the worse. It can make one lose some important values he or she holds dear.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:05pm On Dec 21, 2014

SAMBARRY:
Please stop calling omo mummies aka mummies boys men . They are not men. They are wimps who their mom have to determine every thing for them. Omo mommies have a brain ofa 6 year old and the body of an adult.

Oh he is now a mummies boy for accepting a gift from his mother, He is now a mummies boy for accepting a nice delicious meal from his mother who loves him, gave birth to him and has been there from him since he was born. As opposed to un-healthy meal from his wife.

Are you not sure it is not the woman who is insecure, What is wrong with the woman, Does she want her husband to suffer and continue staying malnourished. What is wrong with a mans mother preparing a nice meal for her son and giving it to him as a gift. Shouldn't she be happy the mother is providing for her husband good food which she cannot cook. Why are you resorting to calling the man a mummies boy for eating a better food from his mother since his wife has been feeding him thrash.

This is me turn the tables to show you exactly how you guys sound as you go on bloating on how insecure the man is. Without trying to ask the op for more context surrounding the man's actions.

I would repeat this again hopefully the smart ones among you who do not salivate at the opportunity to bash men would take note.

CONTEXT IS EVERYTHING PEOPLE.

In my own example I made with the mother inlaw I provided you context that resulted to his action, the woman would be right to be mad with her MIL. She would be right to be mad with her husband for not seeing how her mother inlaw ploy to undermine her effort.

What I have always tried to make you all understand it this ...

No sane man ... I know would feel slighted if his father inlaw decides to shower his daughter with gifts. Buy her a car, build her a house or buy her a freaking island. No sane man in his right mind would feel bad. Infact he would be very grateful to his father inlaw for his kind gesture and proceed to enjoy it with his wife ... because what ever belongs to his wife belongs to him and vice versa. Who no like better thing.

A sane man would only freak out if this action is carried out with an ulterior motive,

1. As a ploy to undermine his role as the head of the family.
2. As a ploy to clandestinely remind him of his in ability to carry out his responsibility.
3. If he feel his father in-law has a habit or history of interfering in the way he runs his family.

It's not about given someone a gift, what matters the most which we are neglecting is the role the motive behind a gift, and the way it is given, go a long way in deciding how a gift is accepted.

So for me the main bone of contention is not whether the man is right or wrong, or insecure or secure, wicked or kind.

My main bone of contention is fact that majority of people on this thread are running to a conclusion crying blue murder and straight up accusing the man of been egotistic, and crucifying him on the alter of Men vs Women.

Instead of focusing their energy to seek to understand the context of his action and [b]probing the Op to get further get more details on why he acted the way he did. On getting more details can we go on to come to a conclusion. [ /b] whether he is wrong or not. the focus should be to decipher What it is the OP is not telling us.

I expected this thread conversation to flow in this line.

@Op
What is the relationship so far between the Man and his FIL been like in the past.

Does the father inlaw have a habit of interfering into his daughters marriage in the past.

How was the gift presented to the family in what vibe. Is it under the tone of "Mr man why are you allowing my daughter to suffer like this, this is not how she was raised, since you can't provide her a car my angel go into the garage and pick one car."
Or like. My son, I see you both are having issues with your old car I would like to gift my wife one of my cars to aid your situation for the time been till you both get back on your feet.

No sane man would be stupid enough to reject the car gift in the later tone.

I repeat Context is every thing ... before passing judgment and ranting about how men are insecure and egotistic seek context .

Because one thing I know as a man is that yes we may be egotistic but at the same time we would not turn down a car from our father in-law that would help alleviate the pain our family is going through if that said car is presented with the right motive and context.

If you can still read this piece and still do not understand the angle I am coming from ... It is well.

# MathewBriggs

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 9:22pm On Dec 20, 2014

Mondisweets:
that car is to make life easier for his wife to move from on place to another without depending on him or public transport, how is getting angry over something like that ever rational?

how is that painting him in the negative light if he is the one getting angry over petty issues?

you tell me how buying a car for someone to use is interfering with his family please?

OK. It would be futile lecturing you about context if after reading my first post which you quoted and the following ones you still don't get it.

I am afraid you never will get it. Therefore going back an forth with you would be irrational for me in this CONTEXT.

Have a field day with your opinion.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 9:05pm On Dec 20, 2014

carefreewannabe:
Says who?

You or the man in my life?

The man in my life doesn't have such issues.

Says this smiley >> tongue

Okay ooo. we have hear. Good luck with your woman.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:56pm On Dec 20, 2014

Mondisweets:
everything goes back to feminism, because i just happened to be a female who called a man irrational? Now thats petty. I asked a question and you are responding as if it was a statement. please tell me how giving your own child a car can ever an insane intention behind it?

So it would be better she continues waiting for her husband or use public transport when the husband is not available, when something can be done about it?

I never painted the man as the devil. If a person is simply being irrational i simply call it that. She doesn't have a car anymore and her father decided to replace it, which other motive could be behind it?

You called the man irrational on what grounds, do you have a very solid understanding of the dynamic of the mans relationship with this FIL. and you are right "its petty".

Yes you asked a question, that tried to question my stance. I responded in a matter that questioned your question.

The use of the word devil is a figure of expression, that means "painted in negative light" in this context.

What other motives? I have trashed this question in my first post you quoted.

My grouse in not whether the man is right or wrong. but the fact that you and your lot ... see him as irrational without asking the Op to provide you with more data, so as to get a more better understanding of the context surrounding this gift that made him act the way he did ... only when you have this information do you have the right to see him as irrational

Context is everything Mondisweets.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:41pm On Dec 20, 2014

carefreewannabe:
Good for you.

I would not marry a mumu that throws tantrums because my dad gave me a car.

Good for you too.

By the way who give a f** if you marry a mumu or not. I just hope that you understand that when you dad decides to give you a car. The context and manner he presents it to your family is as important as the car gift it self.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:12pm On Dec 20, 2014

Mondisweets:
You have started again with your epistles? have you ever thought that maybe we are not dealing with a sane man in this particular case?

You have started again with your pseudo feminism. grin

. Have I ever thought what huh

First what evidence do you have aside what the Op posted that provides us with enough information about the context of this gift that makes you think we are not dealing with a sane man who might be reacting in a sane way to gift given with insane intentions.

We have no data or proof whether he is Sane or not, We have no detailed understanding of the context surrounding his actions. But you and your lot find it cool painting the man as the devil in this scenario, who would sacrifice his wife's joy to sooth his almighty ego. with out caring to ask the op for more information about why he acted the way he did or the context surrounding his actions.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 7:34pm On Dec 20, 2014

carefreewannabe:
So if you and FIL had issues, you would be unable to handle it in a mature way and leave your wife out of it who would be caught in the middle in this case? Very mature. I hope, you will remember it in case your wife and mother don't get along well.

I would not collect a gift from my mother if it would make my family unhappy in anyway. This is FACT. All I can do is try to convince her I need to accept it if she still insist. My focus would shift towards mending the rift between them, than gallivanting around celebrating the fact my Mum gave me a gift ... Also based on the data on ground I would make the right decision on the next course of action to take.

FYI. The use of the word her "joining her father", is a figure of expression intended not to be taking literally ... It is used in this context to emphasis the strain her accepting that gift would have on our relationship, that does not mean I would I would send her packing.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 6:44pm On Dec 20, 2014*

carefreewannabe:
Like seriously? The father has to inform his son-in-law that he wants to give HIS DAUGHTER a gift?

Why?

Why can't hubby learn about the gift from his wife and be happy for her? What's the problem? I see none.

I would call him and thank him for his kind getsure and ask him about when he is sending my own gift.

This depends on a how smooth a Mans relationship is with his FIL.

But if from day one the man has been given me cold shoulders, and the reason for his gift is to spite my inability to provide a car for his daughter. I would ask her to return the car to her father or join her father.

Because seeing that car every day would be psychological unhealthy for our relationship.

Also Every sane father in law understands that the complete acceptance of his gift for his daughter by his son in law is important.

It is not compulsory but wouldn't hurt to inform him about it and run it through him. Its a sign of respect and the fact that you acknowledge he exists.

I would do same if I am giving my daughter a gift of significant value.

As I earlier said context is everything.

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Family › Re: Man Fights Wife Cus Dad Bought Her A New Car by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:10pm On Dec 20, 2014

Context is every thing ... the mistake majority of people are making on this thread is that they not trying to seek out more information from the OP as to why he acted the way he did.

No sane man ... I know would feel slighted if his father inlaw decides to shower his daughter with gifts. Buy her a car, build her a house or buys her a freaking island. No sane man in his right mind would feel bad. Infact I would be very grateful to my father inlaw for his kind gesture and proceed to enjoy it with my wife... because what ever belongs to my wife belongs to me and vice versa.

A sane man would only freak out if this action is carried out with an ulterior motive,

1. As a ploy to undermine his role as the head of the family.
2. As a ploy to clandestinely remind him of his in ability to carry out his responsibility.
3. If he feel his father in-law has a habit or history of interfering in the way he runs his family.

It's not about given someone a gift, what matters the most which we are neglecting is the role the motive behind a gift, and the way it is given, go a long way in deciding how a gift is accepted.

Now Ladies shouting blue murder. should ponder on this.

How would you feel when you have spent your hard earned time preparing a really nice dish for your husband to eat and your mother inlaw arrives from the village one night complaining of the fact that you are feeding his son rubbish, she says look at how lean my son has become since he married you. She now tells you that the dish you just prepared is not good enough for him that you should shove your dish in the dustbin.

She steps in to the kitchen and prepares a dish for your husband and presents it to him as a gift in your presence, and your husband is like mummy thank you very much for this gift. This meal means a lot to me.

Tell me honestly how you would feel as a woman.

Context is every thing people. Before crying blue murder and accusing the man of been egotistic, and crucify him on the alter of Men vs Women. Our focus should have been on seeking to understand the context of his action and probing the Op to further get more details on why he acted the way he did. On getting more details can we go on to come to a conclusion.

#Mathewbriggs

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Romance › Re: Photo: Ladies And Guys How Many Of you Can Do This by Matthewbriggs(m): 1:34pm On Dec 19, 2014

I have done this. I remember this lady... I had great chemistry with. We've been chatting online and one day she decide to come visit me from her state.

Men I was excited because from the look of things something might happen. I was just getting myself prepared to have fun, when she visits. not until from no where my sister called me and told me she had a dream where she was taking care of a little fine boy who happens to be my son and from the look of things the son is from a lady I pregananted. She warned be to careful with my dealings with women.

Mehn na so all my plans change. I begin form holy brother as she show. I slept on the same bed with her but mehn I gats go sleep for ground before something lead to something.

cheesy

I never ready for Mathew Junior oo.

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Politics › Re: Photos:is This Man(yemi Osibanjo) Really 55yrs? by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:14pm On Dec 18, 2014*

Make una leave Osinbajo alone Na. Haba. huh

PDP should be very careful the way they go about in their bid to attack this man's image. It might back fire.

Romance › Re: ♥♥ Nairaland Couple Of The Year: Obinoscopy & Excelsia ♥♥ by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:22pm On Dec 15, 2014

Oahray:
@9icegee, IDEApro, and Idowuogbo it's okay please. No use arguing over what is past. Thanks for the support.

MizMiColi, answer this in your mind. At least you'd be truthful with yourself. If your friend is in a contest and asks for your vote in another section, would you go there and vote someone else? If you have answered it in your heart, judge for yourself if it was the writeup that won people over.

Yes Obinoscopy asked for votes from diary section, and Trypa asked for votes in the lanicky chat thread. They both can't deny this. I don't know about the other contestants. Here you are talking about writeups and pictures like you truly believe it.

You guys can now stop mentioning me on this thread or related ones.

NB: 9icegee, I'm taking you up on your offer though

I nearly voted for you on seeing your drawing it was really romantic. But I felt goose bumps reading Scopy and excelsia's writeup hence my decision to vote them.

As per the campaign I do not think they broke any rule. He was just really smart to see the loop hole in the rule and campaigned outside this thread.

Plus the good will scopy has built over time paid off for him in this context.

You and your partner did a good job. Especially with that drawing. I understand your reasons for pulling out in as much as I respect it. It would have been cool if fought to the end.

In summary I wish you and your partner a Happy love life. Good to know you have moved on from this drama.

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Romance › Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:20pm On Dec 14, 2014

100Cents:
Lol. His aspiring partner.

Point of correction..

Oh I see ... No wonder the imbalance.

Romance › Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:16pm On Dec 14, 2014*

At the beginging I think it should be rationed from both sides especially from the guy. To give room for more focus to be on getting to know if you both are right for each other. Once it is ascertained that both of you are on the same emotional page, and really love not lust or infatuation is what you both share with each other then can it flow freely.

There is nothing appualing than given freely your love to someone who is not on the same page with you ... Emotionally and otherwise.

Its like pouring water on a rock.

Romance › Re: ♥♥ Nairaland Couple Of The Year: Obinoscopy & Excelsia ♥♥ by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:05pm On Dec 14, 2014*

excelsia:
Aww I wuv you wuv you wuv youuuu

What is I wuv you. huh

Dude say. He love you, Na I wuv you con be your response. angry

.

Wuv no dey for dictionary oh. cheesy

. No joke with my padi heart I dey watch you in 3D oh.

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Romance › Re: Should Ladies Also Ration Feelings Of Affection Towards Their Partner? by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:56pm On Dec 14, 2014*

Obinoscopy:
Exactly sweetheart. True love comes straight from the heart. It can't be rationed.

I think you are more expressive than your partner. Nice one. cheesy

. There is need for balance.

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Romance › Re: ♥♥ Nairaland Couple Of The Year: Obinoscopy & Excelsia ♥♥ by Matthewbriggs(m): 4:24pm On Dec 14, 2014

I vote contestant A

Obinoscopy and Xcelsia

Cc Luxanne

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Romance › Re: Romancelancers Whose Monikers Correlate With Their Real Names by Matthewbriggs(m): 3:15pm On Dec 14, 2014*

@ MizMyColi looking at your list looks like you watch a lot of american Tv. cheesy

@ the name Liamm you gave me... Looks like you've watched 90210 Tv series. I remember Liamn in that series.

Family › Re: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by Matthewbriggs(m): 8:18pm On Dec 13, 2014

The day she lifts her finger on me ... In that day we're done. The only clause is if my actions were so gross and it is very clear that via my actions I pushed her to the wall that made her snap out of control.

@Op really exerted serious self control ... rewarding violence with violence in this context is counter productive. You did well.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 10:08pm On Dec 12, 2014

MizMyColi:
Geek:

A person who is single-minded or accomplished in scientific or technical pursuits but is felt to be socially inept (having or showing no skill

a person who is socially awkward and unpopular : a
usually intelligent person who does not fit in with other
people.

Nerds: an intelligent but single-minded person obsessed with a nonsocial hobby or pursuit[/b]

We use these words interchangeably, but I think.....there are more of nerds than geeks

Most geeks/nerds are introverts........ YM, Goof, PeterKen

Then there are ambiverts who are geek/nerd(ish) too.

That's where you find people like MBriggs and Xcapizt, Cwaya Uuurine.

Yeah true I am more of an ambivert.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 9:50pm On Dec 12, 2014

kaboninc:
Oh bro...only helping geeks like you nau. You know, one trait about geeks is that they find it extremely difficult to say 'HI' to a girl.

Ask FrancisTony and Standd.

Besides you've been on nairaland since morning.
Don't you know age is only but a numbreee?

Lol lol ... No I don't find it difficult to say hi. I only say hi when it is necessary. cool

Yes I have. I do more of reading than commenting. Age is only but a number but not in this case.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 6:04pm On Dec 12, 2014

kaboninc:
Lool. So if as you say the introverts cause trouble and you are some how an introvert....

Yes introverts express themselves better in writing.

I believe we all have both traits. Just that one is dominant.

Rittyben, MatthewBriggs of the famous Briggs family is your kind. He will be 30 this month.

Mat, am still expecting that thingy oh...

Point of correction introvert and extrovert cause trouble. Its just that majority of very active people in forums are introverts.

Yes I have introvertive traits. Its a part of me I really cherish.

@ your attempt at matchmaking. I do not think so ... My hands are full at the moment. grin

Plus I am way younger.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:49pm On Dec 12, 2014

kaboninc:
I believe geeks are associated with introverts....

Or the extroverts you mean are those who cause trouble on nairaland....

Actually the once who cause intense trouble on Nairaland are introverts but not all are geeks. For you to spend so much time glued behind you system causing trouble instead of interacting with the real world some how is a sign that you are an introvert. Introvert express them self better via writing than speaking.

I am part introvert and extrovert

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:41pm On Dec 12, 2014

kaboninc:
You only answered one quesion.

Standd...

Lol ... Most geeks are not sanguines. Sanguine is a type of temperament associated with extroverts and non geeks.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:29pm On Dec 12, 2014

kaboninc:
Which one is Sanguine traits again?

Which one is hybrid kwa?

Is it true that MizMyColi is a geek too?

I really do not know. But I think she is smart.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:26pm On Dec 12, 2014

MizMyColi:
Geeks are uptight.....to varying degrees.
I am one.

So I was chatting with one of my pals and she be like

"Someone Said You're Too Uptight........"

I laughed and I be like, wait till you meet MBriggs

I had to literally laugh out loud from my work station on seeing this comment. grin

Yes I am very very uptight ... It's one of my defense mechanism from BS. But deep down I am a crazy romantic and very emotional. I share some personality traits with Steve Jobs.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:19pm On Dec 12, 2014

kaboninc:
Serious?

MatthewBriggs...you a geek?

NO.

I am a hybrid. I have geeky traits but also have very serious Sanguine traits. cheesy

.

@ Jaybee how I wish.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Need A Geek Boyfriend. by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:12pm On Dec 12, 2014*

@OP Most geeks I know are sapiosexual , they are turned on by intelligence, the only reason they can compromise on intelligence is if you are drop dead gorgeous and even at that you would just be a trophy partner.

Also you are wrong and far from your assumption Geeks are super worriers. The difference is that what worries them is not what worries the average man. A geek may be busting his brain trying solve a bug hidden under 10,000 lines of code. While the average guy may be worried that his six pack that is currently turning to 2packs (That is not to say some geeks do not love fitness).

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