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 Family › Re: To My Future Wife by Matthewbriggs(m): 7:10am On Nov 23, 2014*. Modified: 12:47pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
The upside of writing a letter to your future wife in a way shows that you have a clear picture of what you really want, it highlights your expectations and prayers for the future. I don't think it makes you feminine or musculine. It makes you human. We all have these fantasy men and women... The only difference is that you took your time to pen yours down. The challenge is that letters of such is most time driven by fantasy, I am talking from the perspective of a guy who has written 2 of such letter like this in the past. With time reality would come knocking, you would see your fantasy been torn to shreds by real life events that would make you question your expectations. it is very important you stay prepared for it ... To still believe as you restrategize. The truth is that fantasy can sometimes blind our eyes from a better reality. It is important that In as much as your dream, be prepared to face the real world. Filled with imperfect people. Be prepared for a reality that by chance maybe different from your fantasy As you dream and fantasize never forget to be prepared for fire. Life ain't fare. #MathewBriggs 12 Likes 3 Shares |
| Romance › Re: What's Your "Phobia' In Relationships? by Matthewbriggs(m): 2:01pm On Nov 22, 2014 |
Me... falling out of love... Something I easily do. |
| Family › Re: What's So Special About Your Age That You Hide It? by Matthewbriggs(m): 1:58pm On Nov 22, 2014 |
When I was younger I always hid my age. Because people took me less serious when they know my age. Imagine striking a business deal with a man old enough to be your father when he now knows your age he now starts to treat you like his son and try to use seniority on you. I have situations when some clients on knowing my age they ask me you this small boy wetin you wan use all this money do. No be to go buy iPad and iPhone remain. They feel like because of my age I do not have responsibilities and some go further to try to Short change me. So I use to hid my age... And by default I sound and behave way older than my age ... That helped me overcome the challenges that came with my young age as I did business. But now I am older I do not hide my age I display it easily when it is necessary. MathewBriggs 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Romance › Re: Mr Nairaland [December 2014] Contest Winner - Naijaboiy! by Matthewbriggs(m): 1:47pm On Nov 22, 2014 |
I vote Chibwike cc Teeo |
| Phones › Re: Top 5 Reason Why Tecno Is Still The Worst Android Phone Ever by Matthewbriggs(m): 7:46am On Nov 21, 2014 |
UjSizzle:That's the mistake most people make, thinking anything high end must always be very high in price. Yes it is for techno devices. It has high end specs but not incredulously expensive when compared to phones from other companies that share her specs. It therefore make very good economic sense. That's techno's brand selling point. As for the glass I have no idea of what's its made of. all I know is that its durable. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: The Boy-child Should Also Be Domestically Inclined!!! by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:19pm On Nov 20, 2014*. Modified: 7:13pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
nomabeeee:I disagree ...I grew up knowing how to do domestic work. In fact I was even a house boy for a family when I was young. Handling all the domestic task. It is one experience I am realy proud of. But today even to cook indomie for myself is punishment talk less of washing my cloths. I pay people to do that stuff. Yes I can do them and occasionally do them but I do not have the time or the passion for domestic work. I see it as a waste of my productive time. I have so much on plate to to consider domestic work. If I marry a wife that loves domestic work great ... If she doesn't I would not mind paying for such service. The only clause is she alone will still be responsible for what we eat. The paid professional help can take care of the rest. Moreover I would teach my kids domestic work. Whether they use it or not is up to them. |
| Phones › Re: Top 5 Reason Why Tecno Is Still The Worst Android Phone Ever by Matthewbriggs(m): 3:22pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
UjSizzle:Yeah they do. I make use of an F7 it cost me around 40k to get it. It has specs that rivals a Samsung galaxy. |
| Phones › Re: Top 5 Reason Why Tecno Is Still The Worst Android Phone Ever by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:41am On Nov 20, 2014*. Modified: 1:18pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
UjSizzle:My techno phone don fall tire ... but e never break. Sometimes I ask my self which kain glass they use do the screen. Techno is cool especially when compared to it's price. Its cheap but also reliable. My only grouse with techno it the fact that its internal memory fills up too fast and you can't install new apps. But I can live with that considering the amount I got it for. |
| Health › Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:53pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Originalsly:That is why I used the word if necessary when I was asked If I could be of help in this regard. Cheers |
| Health › Re: RIP DJDOLA- We Will Miss You by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:25am On Nov 15, 2014 |
Idowuogbo:I can help shoot the video if neccesary, but the challenge is I am based very far from Lagos. |
| Family › Re: Gender Stereotypes Part II by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:53pm On Nov 08, 2014 |
For me the question is not whether men make better leaders than women ... It is more of the fact that men are wired to be leaders. It has nothing to do whether they end up been better leaders. Nature has made men over the years the more dominant human specie ... We are more assertive and have a way of enforcing our political will unlike women. The male specie is Territorial this trait can be seen even in animals. To become a leader most times is not really defined by how smart you are, or the leadership skills you posses but how bold, daring, risk taking and brave you are. How willing you are to take on responsibilities and to rise up to the challenge. Something that comes naturally to men than women. We are wired to be fighters, and our basic instinct is to be in control. If it were by smartness or leadership skills we would not have agberos as senators and really smart people as lecturers. Seldom is leadership given to any one on a platter of gold. It is fought for, worked for, it is earned. To seat at the table of men you have to go through the journey of a man. Ask the women who are leaders how they got there. Now to answer your question directly ... What makes a good leader is highly subjective up till today. Yes a couple of research like the one Op quoted have sprouted out touting women to be better leaders and the popular belief is that the reason for this trend is the recent trend towards transformational leadership and its emphasis on empowerment, collaboration and emotional intelligence – traits traditionally associated with women – Moreover the stumbling block here is that males can also develop these traits if they want to ... It does not exclusively belong to women. The fact is that while the research is saying something else the reality on ground is completely different. To be a leader you don't just merit it your must fight for it. You must earn it, you must work for it... Something the average man is willing and wired to do. If you are a woman and you do same you will can get to top as well. But in my opinion, I think both make better leaders than the other depending on the scenario. For example, it has been discovered in traditionally male dominated, masculine organizations like governments or the military, male leaders were more effective , while women triumphed in more ‘feminine’ environments that thrived more emotional intelligence like social services and education, marketing ... In reagards to the family, the man been the head of the house ... is something that women can't take away from men ... It's like how women are wired to be nurturers and less assertive, men are also wired to be providers, very assertive and in turn always desire to be in control. Moreover their sometimes occur a naturally anomaly where you have a very assertive and love to be in control woman a trait very common in most feminist. In this scenario it is advisable you look for a very submissive man to compliment you because by default the average man is wired to defend his territory and authority and he can go to any length to protect it. No amount of research can change the fact that they drive to lead is encoded in the DNA of the average man. It's just one of our basic animal survival instinct. #MathewBriggs 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Romance › Re: How Do You Define An Independent Woman?. by Matthewbriggs(m): 1:03pm On Nov 08, 2014 |
Independence is a mindset, a way of life, an idea ... the mistake most people make is to think that Independence only or simply revolves around not depending on other for anything. That's not true because the reason is in as much as you are human, you would one way or the other depend on people for something ... we are not wired to thrive in Isolation. In light of this I think an independent woman is a woman who knows what wants she wants out of life, has a clear cut goal and plan for the future and thus pursues them with vigour and zeal, she is not easily swayed by peoples opinion. because she has learnt to own her voice and is bold enough to stand on her beliefs. She never let's anyone or situation to put her to ransom, Most importantly She takes full responsibility over her life, her actions, inaction, her wellbeing and survival. She understand that she not entitled to anything unless she's worked for it. She is hardworking and self reliant A woman with the above attribute would not be thinking of asking her boyfriend to give her his car because he has two cars and she is trekking ... Instead she would be thinking about how she can get her own car, and if she needs her boyfriend's car the reason she would give would be more solid and well thought out. For example, She would ask in this manner ... Please can I use your other car for a while most especially during the weekdays so as to offset my immense transportation cost to and fro from work. I have taking driving lessons and my driving skills are quite good... Moreover I would take full responsibility of fueling the car, and its maintenance during this period. I would also ensure its well taking care of and readily at your disposal whenever you need it. This tone of request is more proper and does not carry or suggest a sense of entitlement ... but portrays her as a woman who has a sense of responsibility. and even if he reject her request she would not be pissed ... because she knows it only a matter of time her own car would arrive #Mathew Briggs 9 Likes 4 Shares |
| Romance › Re: Miss Nairaland December 2014 Winner: Jennimma! by Matthewbriggs(m): 10:53am On Nov 08, 2014 |
I vote for Vivly 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:12pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
aisha2:Word!!! 2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Miss Nairaland December 2014 Contest - Final Elimination Round (semi Finals) by Matthewbriggs(m): 6:39pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
englishmart:Good Evening Englishmart .... |
| Family › Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Matthewbriggs(m): 6:12pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy:LOL It is a common problem for introverts we communicate better with written words than spoken words. For example talking use to be exhausting for me, but my fingers could type at the speed of light. So I understand your plight. Infact a very large percentage of very active people online ... are introverts and less social. But what I did to overcome this is exactly what I advised you earlier. For example, I took practical steps ... like making a decision to cut down the level on my e-engagement on all forums and social media platforms ... I now hardly chat or respond to pings. I instead visit or call a person if I need to communicate with them. I made an active decision to spend more time building offline relationships and communicating with people I care about face to face ... I try to know them, listen to them, hear them vent, share their pains, joys and sorrows with me, I do same to them. I sometime challenge my self to start conversations and build my ability to sustain them. I am beginning to learn to and enjoy small talk ... something I hated. Sometimes It can be very emotionally exhausting, that why I do take my time to recharge. Right now I am hybrid, I can communicate with written words at the same time I am rock star when it comes to spoken words. I find it easy to connect with people around me. The fact is you are not alone, Everyone has an introverted and extroverted side ... with one more dominant that the other. To be a balanced individual it is important to put the dominant side in check, as you the develop and improve on the less dominant part. I believe you can work on this weakness just as I did, because as you can see one key trend we can notice in the relationships of these happily married men that have graced this thread ... Is the level of communication and rappor they've built with their wives. Communication is the most principal thing in any relationship, It is a great deciding factor in regards to the success of any relationship. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Are You A Happily Married Man? Family Section Needs You by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:20pm On Nov 07, 2014 |
cococandy:In addition use the same energy you use in engaging in online conversations, debating and fraternizing with people who really do not care about you in the e-world ... and focus that energy offline. Channel that energy in building a really strong rappor with your spouse. If not handled carefully technology has a way of alienating us from people who care about us and can stand in our way of building formidable human connections with people that matter in our lives . #JustSaying Inbtwn Nice Thread I am learning. picking out valid lessons and discarding the noise. 11 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: Men: Can You Marry A Women That Is Richer Than You? by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:13pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
It's Possible but it's less likely for me not because I am afraid of a successful women or won't get married to one ... The reason is my real joy in life come from the fact that I rise to the top on my own terms, with my own sweat and energy. Not due to the wealth of my wife or her parents. If I am already wealthy and she is more wealthy than me, that's a much better scenario. I would not want anyone blabbing tomorrow when we have a misunderstanding that they made me who I am. #Mathew Briggs |
| Romance › Re: Miss Nairaland December 2014 Contest - Final Elimination Round (semi Finals) by Matthewbriggs(m): 4:02pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
I vote for Temigrace, Omolola 1, Vivly, African Apple, |
| Nairaland General › Re: Attention Seun. by Matthewbriggs(m): 5:30pm On Nov 05, 2014 |
omenka:Why would you favourite what you don't like. Moreover Google about an app called Pocket a plugin for your browser that helps you save pages efficiently. |
| Romance › Re: Miss Nairaland December 2014 Contest - Elimination Round 2 by Matthewbriggs(m): 2:26pm On Nov 05, 2014*. Modified: 3:59pm On Nov 05, 2014 |
I vote for Temigrace... Vivly, Martha K, Jemima, African Apple, Omolola 1, rokiatu |
| Romance › Re: Miss Nairaland December 2014 Contest (elimination Round 1) by Matthewbriggs(m): 4:03pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
I vote for Vivily, Omolola, African apple, temigrace, annypie |
| Family › Re: Gender Stereotypes Part I by Matthewbriggs(m): 3:17pm On Nov 01, 2014 |
Tunde is Man U fan, he can do anything for Man U. On this unfaithful day Man U was beaten mercilessly by Chelsea. That day was not a good day for Tunde, he was boiling in anger due his teams failure ... in period a chelsea fan was teasing him, something led to something that made him end up punching the guy on the face ... the guy died on the spot. Tunde was arrested and he is spending the rest of his life in Jail. Fact 1. Tunde has emotions, Fact 2. Tunde can act on his emotions ... Fact 3 Tunde can be emotional Martha is a business executive, on some days she happy and fun but on a certain period every month she is overbearing. Infact on one of such days she blew off a deal that would have made the company earn so much, because she over heard a lady delegates from the visiting company side gossiping with her colleagues as to how fat she had become. Fact 1. Martha has emotion Fact 2. Martha can act on her emotion ... Fact 3. Martha can be emotional. What I am trying to achieve by the above examples is to establish the fact that both sexes experience emotions, they have feelings [/b]they can experience intense range of emotions from love to anger, but most importantly NO gender has the monopoly of acting solely at a given point in time based on emotions. [b] So the question is not do Men feel, or experience emotions ... the is question is Are Women are more emotional than men. They are two different questions ... It is important we note that. It is also important we do not take this question out of context. What the research posted by the Op simply backed is the the fact that men feel, It does not back the fact whether they are emotional or not. To answer the question Are Women are more emotional than men we need to understand what been emotional means in this context, especially from popular culture ... This term is used to depict the fact that Women base most of their decision on emotions rather than logic and men do the opposite. The focus I believe of this thread should be either debunking this Statement by proving that women base most of their decision making process on logic instead of emotions and that men based theirs on emotions rather that logic. Now I stand with the motion that Women act on emotions more than men for whatever reasons caused by culture or science. What better way to back this premise than the OP's research findings that simply backs my assertions ... It simply showed that Men had a higher ability to feel, but also had the ability to suppress their emotions a trait that gives them the ability to connect with the logic part of their brain and while women did otherwise. So what are we debating about again ? ...  3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Gender Stereotypes Part I by Matthewbriggs(m): 1:34pm On Nov 01, 2014 |
crackhaus:This is it... Thread close ...  2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: What Most Dudes Are Guilty Of.. Where Do you Belong ? by Matthewbriggs(m): 12:39pm On Oct 30, 2014 |
Orikinla:Word! 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Miss NAIRALAND December 2014 Contest (nomination & Verification) by Matthewbriggs(m): 6:35am On Oct 30, 2014 |
Vivly:I pity them them to, but they seem to be okay ... I will not ... Same here. I see you are contesting wish you the best of Luck. Nmeri17:I am on speaking terms with everyone. . |
| Romance › Re: Miss NAIRALAND December 2014 Contest (nomination & Verification) by Matthewbriggs(m): 10:13pm On Oct 28, 2014*. Modified: 11:33pm On Oct 28, 2014 |
AbuMikey: @ Contestants I wish you luck. I will not be able to campaign for any one of you due to my schedule. Moreover, I would like to leave you some words of counsel. 1. Your winning is not dependent on how beautiful you look or how smart you are ... but how likable your personality is. Yes Beauty is a plus, intelligence an addition... but personality will take you far. Especially for women. Sell to the voters the idea that you approachable, friendly and make the guys feel like you are the girl next door.. 2. The possibility of you becoming a winner is heavily dependent on how badly you desire to win. Put down the burden of ego, Get your hands dirty, get ready to go the extra mile, to do things you have never before that's within the rules to get votes ... You also need an aggressive campaign manager who not only believes in you but is wiling to dedicate his time resources and the goodwill he or she has built over time to gather votes for you. He or she must be a very good strategist. 3. Most importantly Belive in you ability to win ... Analyze your opponent critically and understand what they have working for them, and look for ways to use their strengths against them as you Analyze your self as well as factor your own strengths and use them to your advantage. I know you are all in this all for fun ... and I sound all serious and philosophical . But truth be told you might see this as one common NL competition, but the fact is depending on how you approach this pageant the lessons you would leave with whether you win or not can literally change your life forever.The fact is you are in world, that's made up of political animals ... Your experience here can embellish you with knowledge about group dynamics, how to efficiently thrive in a world powered by competition, how to get people to believe in you and rally behind you, or your cause when you need them to. I am testimony to this fact... been part of a competition of this sort a while a ago here, has in a way shaped my ability to compete and win my opponents in the real world. Be it bidding and winning a highly contested contract or winning a highly contested scholarship or been selected among my peers to head projects. The world around us is built around competition to thrive you need to have the mindset of a winner, you need to learn how to crush you opponents to pieces. See this as a virtual testing ground I wish you luck. #MatthewBriggs 10 Likes 4 Shares |
| Romance › Re: Love Is An Algebraic Expression by Matthewbriggs(m): 11:56am On Oct 24, 2014 |
Very well written piece. I must confess. My question is, if love is conditional is it really love. If a certain kind of input is required to output love do we call that love. Because my definition of love is that of a woman who would shelter her son, a murderer from the arm of the law just because she can’t stand the thought of losing him to the hangman. Of a father who would not mind giving his kidney to his son kn coma, who for the past 20 years has caused him untold pain due to his drug life style. Love is a man who looks at the stretch marks, and the wrinkled face of his wife and all he sees is that young cute twenty something that stole his heart away. Love is a man dying on the cross for sins of the very people that killed him … So that these same people might have life. I believe the moment love starts been conditional in that same moment it stops been love. I of of the opinion that Love is not conditional, because one thing that is very sure about life is change. and if change is inevitable it means love is nothing but a temporal feeling that will surely fad once new input comes in play as caused by change. I personally think what the writer is mistaking for love is attraction aka chemistry. Attraction is conditional, it is dependent on certain parameter to take place. Absence or presence of this inputs decides the feasibility of it growing or dying just like the writer already explains. The mistake most people make is to think Attraction is love. Personally I think love is unpredictable, It is a very tricky idea/concept that is hard to define or confine to a formula of inputs and outputs. I think it is a mystery in which till today mankind still struggles to unravel and the more we try to define it, the more we are lost in our definition. I maybe not be able to define or really understand love. But I think love in it is real and pure essences is selfless and unconditional … ( This is the idealist side of me speaking). But from a realist perspective, I quite agree with your stance to some extent. #Mathew Briggs 4 Likes 2 Shares |
I've not seen a person with an unbroken Tecno phone. Their screen is so wack, my Lumia is laughing her asss off.
....please....isn't the poster good enough? Let's not get carried away and cross boundaries. I think a video would be crossing the line.....what next?....tee shirts and wrist bands and buttons and caps and cups??
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