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FrancisTony:
You could also suspect Mynd44.

He's one helluva of a dude that don't bìtch on women.
I just hate how Nairalanders bash women. So annoying!

FrancisTony:
So, what do you think? I'm disguising as a Man?

I've met some Nairalanders in a real world.

No woman would want to be a man on NAIRALAND. That's a bad market for attention-seeking except LESBIANS.

UjSizzle:
Please tell him

MizMyColi:
Paranoia be gripping NL dudes since time imoriver......
They attach boyfys to popular ladies on here, even when clearly, none is existent.

Well Said MBriggs
He ought to do the needful

Nonso23:
My brother, nkwucha aburo ujo.
Even u.j know sef.

MizMyColi:
Most of us do.
That's when Love, the decision comes into play.

Nonso23:
That is like calling daddy to watch you, while you want to steal meat from the pot.

MizMyColi:
Meaning you do mind games too?
Or how do you mean by taking your brain along

delishpot:
Ha ha, emmmmmuuuuu, lol Bros, you don dey pass verse o. Lol ha haaaa. Chei, shey na insult on our ladies be that abi na encouragement? Thought we were team gold diggers? . I nor fit laigh oooo. God bless this OP. He made my day. Lol
Chei you want fall people hand o.

I was just been mischievous and sacarstic.

I am not team gold diggers or team men. I am just a man just who thinks majority of us on both threads are getting things mixed up. Yes money is good and having a man who can provide for your needs as a woman is every woman's dream ...

We can't deny the fact that the average woman is attracted to wealth and power but the irony is that men find it as a huge turn off when they discover that, power and wealth is the core reason a woman finds them attractive.

In the same way the average man is attracted to beauty and sex but the irony is that women find it as a huge turn off when they discover that the core reason a man is after them is because of their body and to have sex with them.

So how do we solve this conflict of desires and interest. Where do we find a balance ... The cool thing is that there is a middle ground for both sexes. This middle ground is that deep down both sexes want to be loved for who they are, not what they have or can offer. We all want be loved unconditionally. We want our partner to fall in love with our spirit, our essence not our pockets or body.

So the focus should not be castigating each other needs and specs ... But on encouraging the need for both sexes to focus more on making calculated compromises and putting the essences and innate value of our prospective partners as a key deciding factor in our scale of preferences and reducing the power sex and money have in influencing our decision.

#Mathew Briggs

remsonik:
A lady has every right to choose whom she goes on a date with!!! Be yourself and earn a decent living a lady who's yours will surely come along. Guys too have their own specs so please let the ladies have their own specs too. Each and every one will face consequences of their actions and inactions. Stop whining and get a job!!!

UjSizzle:
This is what happens when men begin to confuse themselves.

A woman who is interested in a man's money wouldn't date a brokeass dude to begin with

A woman who points out to a broke and jobless guy she's dating the state of his domestic economy everytime they're in a squabble is probably frustrated at his inability to get something going. It is no crime to seek some level of financial security from a guy. She doesn't even need to ask for money; just knowing it's there sure as hell doesn't hurt.

Despite what the world chooses to believe now, men will always be (or be seen as) a cushion for women. Be it financial, emotional, physical or whatever else exists in this world.
Security is the word.

I agree with you completely, Guys why can't you stop wining.

Women are attracted to status and wealth aka security such as Men are attracted to beautiful and sexy woman. As men have choice to pick between ugly and fine so do women do to pick between poor and rich . We need to respect each others choice.

As a guy, If you are smart instead of complain and whining about gold digging women ... exploit this tendency. Focus your energy chasing ego, kudi, money ... and have all them ladies struggling to give you their P***y for free. Black, white, fat, slim, short, tall, ugly, fine, they would all be lining up for your royal manliness to do justice to them ... they would be even competing to have your baby and bear your name. Once you are done having your fill ... you can choose one and wife her or you can keep them as baby mamas if you can't stick to one pu**sy.

She like gold, just like a dog like bone. Instead of complaining go and dig for gold and have them hovering like flies. Life is trade by batter. Why you want fine woman you no con get money ... haba it is fair.

craziebone:


we men like complaining so much when a lady wants a financially secured man to get married to. But like @Mondi.... Said, we men don't go for anything but looks. As long as that continues, ladies will always go for the highest bidder, fact!

We need to understand something here. Just as men are attracted to looks, so also, ladies are attracted to status and money! We men can't help going for what we see. It is normal and natural with us. So aslo, it is absolutely natural and normal for women to be attracted to money and status. When they get attracted to guys with money and status, they are not being gold diggers pe se but they are just being women! That's how it is and we should get used to it!

[b]Another reason we men should stop complaining is... We have it better than women in this area. We can struggle to make money but they can't make beauty! So in a way, they are being fair by judging us by what we can do rather than looks- a thing we don't give to ourselves. [/b]But when guys go for looks, a thing women cannot help, we are being unfair!

I am so sorry i cannot articulate properly at this moment but i hope you guys can understand my post.

delishpot:
Bless you. Na jealousy dey do them.

Yields:
Merry Christmas, everyone!

Shout outs to: Expressions, Iyke926, Matthewbriggs, Flytefalls, SirShymex, Hiroz, SanB, Mayapop, Infomizer, Preshuzpearl.

bukatyne:
Like Ochon said, nobody knows the context and as such, I did not comment on the OP directly. I agree with you that the context matters.

However saying FIL or MIL has to seek permission from you before giving their daughter a gift is ... (if pre-existing relationships are fine)

Each one to his own. What makes me tick might make you ma.d

It is not compulsory but wouldn't hurt to inform him about it and run it through him. Its a sign of respect and the fact that you acknowledge he exists.

bukatyne:
Did the husband in the OP buy a car for his wifey and FIL tossed it out and bought a bigger better car?

cococandy:
I get what you are trying to say.

Like you said I've cooked for my husband but my mil tossed the food aside to present hers instead. Why wouldn't I be miffed?

Compare it to the subject of this thread. If hubby bought a car for the wife and father in law told her to toss it aside and use his instead because it is better, do you think I would be on the father-in-laws side? Heck no.

So let us examples that apply.

cococandy:
The onus then would be on me to improve my cooking not so?
But as long as I'm making potty inedible food,I shouldn't complicate his life further by insisting he keeps eating it.

After all if I could cook to start with he wouldn't need the services of a cook in our home in the first place.

That said, not every woman is like the other . Some may not mind at all.
Some can even cook but hire cooks as well because of their kind of schedule.


My own be say gift Na gift.

I won't let my pride stand in the way of my husband's comfort when I know all I will offer him is pride and no improvement in the area of concern. what is he supposed to do.
Bear it?

UjSizzle:
Man on fire, ogini

Na so we go do am this year?

ochon:
Matt, stop debating this issue with Sambarry. It is rétarded. NO-ONE, I repeat, NO-ONE knows what really happened that made the husband reject the car. We're all guessing. Until the MOTIVE or the CONTEXT in which he reject the car is known, I can't blame the man for rejecting it. No sane man will for NO reason reject such gift.

SAMBARRY:
3. Only an insecure man can reject a gift offered in good fate and he should even see that as an opportunity to redeem his relationship with fil if he's wise. Who knows maybe the fil used the car to repair their broken relationship

SAMBARRY:
2.nobody is perfect. Only God is perfect. Every person has his flaws but ability to manage the flaws is what makes fil and son in law worth it

3.

SAMBARRY:
Number 1.because he's his daughter's husband so he has to treat him right if not it can affect his daughters relationship .He's an elderly man so he knows

SAMBARRY:
You said so jare. Hayiiinn



there was no way fil will have presented the car in a contemptuous manner or to spite the man . in security must have been worrying him and as per the relationship that exists between him and his fil.dont give me that line. Go and sell it to tonto dike

SAMBARRY:
Ok so how do you know he has ulterior motives and he's trying to undermine his manliness? Your ego told you so right?

The main bone of contention is not whether the man is right or wrong, or insecure or secure, wicked or kind.

My main bone of contention is fact that majority of people on this thread are running to a conclusion crying blue murder and straight up accusing the man of been egotistic, and crucifying him on the alter of Men vs Women.

Instead of focusing their energy to seek to understand the context of his action and [b]probing the Op to get further get more details on why he acted the way he did. On getting more details can we go on to come to a conclusion. [ /b] whether he is wrong or not. the focus should be to decipher What it is the OP is not telling us.

I expected this thread conversation to flow in this line.

@Op
What is the relationship so far between the Man and his FIL been like in the past.

Does the father inlaw have a habit of interfering into his daughters marriage in the past.

How was the gift presented to the family in what vibe. Is it under the tone of "Mr man why are you allowing my daughter to suffer like this, this is not how she was raised, since you can't provide her a car my angel go into the garage and pick one car."
Or like. My son, I see you both are having issues with your old car I would like to gift my wife one of my cars to aid your situation for the time been till you both get back on your feet.

No sane man would be stupid enough to reject the car gift in the later tone.

I repeat Context is every thing ... before passing judgment and ranting about how men are insecure and egotistic seek context .

Because one thing I know as a man is that yes we may be egotistic but at the same time we would not turn down a car from our father in-law that would help alleviate the pain our family is going through if that said car is presented with the right motive and context.

If you can still read this piece and still do not understand the angle I am coming from ... It is well.


# MathewBriggs

sholasholala:
Lol
I feel flattered.