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lefulefu:
ehn maybe he was saving her for no sex before marriage.many ladies don use that format chop many guys head

That's the issue. There are many guys that can actually consent to a no sex relationship but the fear of what if she is bleeping in my back always make guys to reject such offers. If the girl is a virgin, then that's OK. But a no virgin girl manipulating a guy into a no sex relationship is a pure scam.

pressplay411:
Did you read the post at all? Op just stated that some relationships seem to end right after sex.
There are different factors that can be responsible for this, no generic answer.

We are saying the same thing. I read the post. My point is the reason why most relationship ends after sex is because guys quickly lose interest after the main show had occurred cuz that's the reason for guys chasing ladies. Once they get it, they are off. However, after sex, that's the time the ladies begin to get more attached and clingy and want something more serious. This does not include runs girls.

lefulefu:
even if u still sleep with her she will still sleep around with other guys if she want to .first of all first understand the type of girl u dealing with and read her character very well.

You are right. Sleeping with a girl doesn't prevent her from sleeping with other guys. 80% of girls double date if not more. They have up to 3 to 4 boyfriends they make out with.

My point is it will be foolish of a guy to be dating a girl and not even see the color of her pant and still spending on her just to impress her or such girl manipulate the guy to consent to a no sex relationship but still go on bleeping behind the guy. Any guy that consent to such a scam no sex relationship and still spend heavily on such girl is a complete maga.

drnoel:
Am only saying not all that glitters is gold. It's left for everyone to decide for himself what is better for the person in a situation but always remember there are many sides to a story. If u don't agree with that then that's Ur problem

Of course not all that glitter is gold but leaving this hell legally is a dream come through looking at how the country is going from bad to worse.

Majority of the people that leave is not because of going to acquire riches but it's because of good standard of living. A place where things work. However, the op is doing pretty well.

He has even started learning the language all of these just to integrate well into the system. I never see the op not doing fine after his schooling. He will surely be invaluable once he is done.

Emmyk:
That's probably another account by timesupreloaded.

Lol, no wonder!

drnoel:
There are other side's to a coin. The situation u find urself now is really not better than where u were apart from the fact that u are now being educated in Germany but give it time. Ur eyes will open soon enough and u'd have to rethink Ur plans.
God bless!!

Jesus Christ! Did you just say that? You mean someone who was teaching in a private school in Nigeria and receiving peanut left for Germany, his situation is not better than where he left? Bro, be truthful for once. Can you take up that teaching job right now and get paid 15k monthly? Why are we always this wicked to say the truth?

uchechefaith:
when I read your comments over and over again I just feel like to tell you to shut up!!! cos its making me to be very very angry what do u mean all girls bleep?? change your mentality oga

This discussion is not for ladies. It's for guys. None of you ladies will agree with this. I now see the reason why majority of you always feel threatened with Ubunja miseducations. We don't need your opinion on this cuz u are a lady. If it is a guy, I won't mind talking sense into his head.

You still want to tell me you don't love sex? If you deny this, then you must be a circumsized lady. I understand. Haba can you actually say u love sex before all the guys here? We all know no lady wants to be seen as the naughty, sexually active type. That's why they hide under pretenses. But every sharp, well exposed guy knows every gal with functional sex organs loves sex.

No lady with full functional vag!na, G--spot, A-spot and cl!t will lie about not loving sex. What a beautiful lie to behold!

pansophist:
Not everyone wants to be free from the plantation bro, and as the old saying, the truth is bitter.

In support of your stance, during sex, women release oxytocin (generally known as the bonding chemical), mind you, men do not release oxytocin, but dopamine (also known as pleasure hormone). In a nutshell, sex is a pleasure for men, why it bonds women. So any man that is trying to win Mr nice guy points, by refraining from sex to pass a good impression, should know that biologically, a woman will bond with a guy that has sex with her regardless if he is an asshole (bad boys comes in handy here).

The only thing that will break the bonding with the previous partner is if the new guy sexual skills are gladiatorial and top-notch and if it is the best she ever had, this process is known locally as the Okafor law of congodynamics So my fellow comrade, in as much as I understand your position of abstinence, be aware of the aforementioned reality because you can't beat thousand years of evolutionary hardwiring.

Exactly, you hit the nail on the head.

sharone21:
F-A-T L-I-E....Na your type dey spoil the minds of the few good Nigerian men.

I don't need your contribution. We need to expose all you ladies tactics. Majority of you girls are nothing to write home about. After Satan fear ladies.

NarnieSnyper:
Bro, you are right. I really once loved a lady but after some months apart(distance), I think she lost the sex vibe between us. I tried few times to initiate it but she was always trying to avoid it. I thought she was having it else where but she swore she wasn't. I didn't believe her though, I just told her "I love you but if there's no sex here, I don't think it will work. Off to the next girl". She got angry and started crying, telling me I value sex more than the relationship. I simply asked her why she didn't think about it before denying me sex, since she felt I have no right to have her Cookies, I told her she has no right to stop me from seeking it else where.

Truthfully, sex holds more than 50% of a relationship.

I can relate. Let's remove runs girls. They can make out with random guys without feeling attached cuz they are into transactional sex. But a normal girl you just met and try to build things with who is already having it with another guy but still want to have flings here and there will feel quite reluctant to give you the cookie easily. Except you are the patient type.

They feel more comfortable having it with the guy they are already having it with before they met you than have it with the guy they newly met. It is not that they won't allow you to have it but it will take a lot of patient on your side.

Majority double date for different reasons best known to them, and if you must have the cookie, they will want you to be patient with them till whenever they feel they are comfortable with you to give you the cookie.

Mind you, during this period they will still be billing you constantly all in the name of we are dating but won't allow you have the cookie easily. If you watch carefully, they are getting it somewhere and are attached and committed to where they are already getting it from. Now, the problem will be: she will still keep billing you during this period as far as you proposed relationship to her. She will demand money from you and all of that.

When you meet such a girl who doesn't allow you have the cookie that easily but want you to spend on her, tell her point blank that you know she is being bleeped by another guy and just want to use you to foot her bills. Her reaction will change instantly. Once you tell her that, it will be hard for her to bill you from that moment onward when she has not even given you the cookie. Whenever the thought of billing you comes up, she will remember those statements and caution herself. Anything make you succum to a girls monetary demand when she hadn't given you the cookie, she will turn you to her personal ATM machine while she is out there collecting D!ck from another guy.

SoNature:
This is false.

While sex doesn't necessarily mean love, sex solidifies relationship.

This explains why the partner gets jealous when each of them is cheating

This is the point I was trying to make. Sex bond a woman to a man. First of all, was it not attraction that will make a man go after a woman? If there is no attraction which equal sex in the end, there will be no relationship in the first place. If a man is not attracted to a woman, or a woman attracted to a man, there will be nothing like a relationship.

Two persons will always feel attracted to each other sexually before anything like relationship will be formed. Some persons think ruling out sex will make them to be seen as the most sexually upright ones. But the main problem will come after getting married and they discover that they are not sexually compatible. Remove sex from marriage, and it will be like a car without fuel. Can such a car be driven?

I leave that questions to those who think sex has no value in a relationship.

sweetkev:
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Sex bond a girl to a guy. The problem is not about asking for sex. If you are there forming a gentle man by not instigating things to get down with her, trust me, another guy will be helping you in that area while you form a gentle man. Don't be surprised when you call and she busy your calls or switch off her phone. She is simply with another guy being serviced. When she is done she will call you back that she went for a church service and she was just coming back or she went to visit her grandma before when you called and her phone went off. No where to charge it.

Of course, you will believe everything she tells you. There is nothing like when you love a girl you will not ask for sex. In this era? Form a gentle man to a girl and she will use you to play a Table tenis while another guy is shining her Congo. So one of the agenda when you meet a girl you like ,after a couple of meetings is to have her bleep you. It is very necessary because we have heard so many stories when a guy will be forming a gentle man by not getting down with a girl, and trust me she starts bleeping in his back cuz more like she sees the guy as the gentle man type that just want tonplay the gentle man role. You are now the husband material she will keep for marriage because you do not ask for sex but you are spending on her while she is frolicking around being bleeped by another guy. You will truly be a husband material. But don't be heartbroken when you find out she has been fvcking with another guy in your back. Shine your eye if you are a guy. These kinda loyalty doesn't exist in the world of a woman. If you like do not have sex with her she will still be bleeping another guy. Las las you will still think she is a good girl after all as far she do things codedly. If a guy wants to form a gentle man it's not for sex aspect. To act impotent to a girl is not hard o but she will be fvcking with other guys during that period you are forming a gentle man who doesn't want to bleep. If you don't bleep her, another sharp guy will do the job and she will start loving that guy that bleep her. Thats when you will know you've fvcked up for not bleeping with her. Fear ladies bro.My gf just read your comments and she has been sober since and been insulting you as well. I understand as a sharp guy

Lol, the truth is bitter bro. These are some of the miseducations some guys are yet to know. Thanks to Ubunja. Some guys will still disapprove these any way. Those are the kind of guys that wants to be slavery to women. They don't like reading the truth. Some will even tell you how faithful their girlfriends are, how they can never cheat on them. As a guy, when dealing with the opposite sex, you need to think out of the box, logical and never let emotions blind fold you to believe that some stuff can never occur. Not in a woman's world.

Lawmak:
Bad advise

The truth is too glaring to turn a blind eye on. This is not from experience. It is the simple truth of how things work with the female species. Girls value guys who make out with them than the ones that are just mere friends with them. A girl will call a guy who had made out with her and check up on him often than a guy who is just a friend with her.

They will rather call the one that bleep them because they are attached to them emotionally than recharge and check up on a guy who merely spend on them. A girl feel more attached after making out with a guy true or false? Don't bother replying cuz it seems you don't know much about how females emotions works.

maya007:
I like ur response ild love you to help me with this.....av been on of with somone I actually like for 3years,he used to stay with his frnd so there was no room for sex or anything but now owns his own place....
The thing now is he wont ask me to come over till I press it to happen...and when I finally go his either on his phone ,or picking numerous calls,and den watching insta clips while am trying to have a convo with him....when it's time to sleep he lays on the other side/edge of the bed n wouldn't make any physical contact with me....
When we wake in d morn his all bubbly and playful without body contact still o....till I leave....
He calls me evryday and somtimes acts like he has sense but when were in person deres no physical connection but still yet he talks and always acts like he really wants the whole thing...
Pls note* av not had sex with anyone within this period cause I keep telling myself this is who I want to have sex/b serious with..... I realized am just being a mumu for somone who was getting it from somewhere and just keeping me around for whatever reason is my decision right?

I can relate with this scenario. There is something that is making him never want to make out with you. This may not be totally true but to an extent it may be the reason he is avoiding physical contact with you. There are guys that do not bleep a girl more than 2 to 3 times. It just happens that any girl they make out with, they just loose interest. For this reason, some guys try as much as possible never to want to sleep with a girl they think they will like to keep or marry along the line.

While this cannot be said to be a big problem, a one on one communication with him will reveal the actual reason why he is not instigating things with you.

What you need to do: meet with him, sit him down and discuss it with him. Make him to open up to you. You need to handle it in a friendly way. You can even joke with him about it. You need to know why and he is the one that will tell you why he is not sexually instigating things with you. When next you meet up, bring this up. Tell him to be honest with you and tell you why he is not getting physical with you. He will tell you why and whatever he tells you, be diplomatic about it. Don't be all haywire.

Secondly, men like what they see. When you visit to spend the night, ensure you change to something sexy for him, and wear a good cologne after taking your bath for the night, a kinda dress that will make you look irresistible to him. A pretty bum shot with a lingerie top won't be bad. All these spice things up.

Aside the above, you need to discuss with him and ask him why he is yet to make out with you after a whole 3 years that you've been together.

Manadan0000:
No matter how calm, holy and reserved a lady is, she has her own sex fantasies and sometimes you ll be suprised the holy innocent looking ladies ve more weird fantasies than those slay queens. This is reality.

Exactly, that's the point. But a naive man will think such lady don't know anything about sex. They won't even discuss sex with her to know her sexual imprint with the impression that she might get angry.

Ladies pretend a lot when it comes to sex based on the fact that they don't want to be seen as naughty. But I tell you, they are sexually naughty inside. If you are able to make them comfortable to discuss anything with you, you will see the loads of crazy fantasies they will share with you. All you need to do is make them feel free with u. They will share anything with you. Their sexscapades and loads of other crazy things. Not so many guys know this.

The best way to bring out the sexual side of a girl, is for you to share ur own sexual stories with her. It will loosen her up and also make her to want to share hers with you.

Austine1212:
Please reply like a sane person

You lack the ability to hold a constructive argument than resorting to insult. What's not sane in what I typed? My post held you tight on your balls. You see? You South Africans are lazy. Counter my argument that it's not because of jobs they are attacking foreigners. You knew that's the truth. South Africa is not a safe place for blacks.

They are quite lazy, yet they are attacking others cuz of jobs they don't even have the needed skills to take up. When the truth is bitter ,they will resort to insult. That's what you just did.

You are the insane one here cuz you can't even counter my argument. Does that not support my claim that South Africans are lazy?

darelar:
That means one needs like 2m before he can embark on the process?

Of course! I am budgeting 3million for mine.

Tellemall:
We all knew Invictus Obi's "story". Until exposed, all those posts mean nothing. Anyone can pretend to have a legal source of income. One day time will expose it.

You should be asking how much she makes in a day in her blog. Do you know how much it cost to advertise in her blog? An advert in her blog can go for 5million. She said it herself. Now calculate it for a full month and know how much she is making only from her blog alone. Mind you, she is still into other media outlets business and other side businesses. If we calculate all, you should know how much alone she is pulling in every blessed day.

Tellemall:
How do you know she isn't?

She is an entrepreneur. We all know her story. So you mean she is sleeping with men to make her money?

Muleriders:
Mtchew. You are highly IGNORED

See as you just gave yourself out. You quoted nlPoster saying who let loose these dogs and I replied you it's me. You must be nlPoster. Who is paying you for all these multiples accounts you are creating? Can't you stick to one account?

abrojunior94:



wetin you sef find go Olosho personal page

lets face fact, the upclass Olosho have alot to thank God for, inside this same lagos some women charge 500 naira for sex some 2k some 5k and they are not safe or rich, but the same Olosho with the same Vagina and few packaging earns millions per pop, drives benz, owns businesses and own a house that many Civil Servants would only dream of

Some dey do juju join. Those girls that tie things on legs and waist is not ordinary o.

YorubaPrince:
Na so 9ja ladies be... Funny thing be say 98% of dis Corporate Olosho motivational speakers are females

Merci Ahigbe, Iyabo Ojo, Nkechi Blessing, Regina Daniels, Toke Makinwa, Linda Ikeji, Cossy Orjiakor etc...

Remove Linda Ikeji out of it. Linda is a self made woman. No man foot her bill. She is the pillar of her family. Haba remove that woman. She no be runs girl.

Austine1212:
It is not safe for drug dealers and people doing illegal things.

You must be a South African. The on going xenophobia is it because of drug dealers they are attacking both those who are gainfully doing fruitful businesses?

South Africans are saying other blacks are coming to their country to take away their jobs that's the reason of them attacking black foreigners not cuz of drugs. If the real South Africans have the needed skills to work, won't they be employed? But majority do not have the needed skills to work and even those that have jobs to do always refuse to work. It's been said that some South Africans are very lazy. They don't like to work, and majority of the black foreigners are hard working. In such scenerio, if black foreigners that possess needed skills get employed, is that enough for South Africans to start attacking them that they are taking their jobs?

So you can see that the reason for xenophobia in South Africa is not as a result of drug dealers. It is because of what I just stated and everyone knows that's the reason. They are just heaping it on drugs to fool the world. Everyone knows drugs is not the reason.

Muleriders:
Who let the dogs out?

Me of course. I need to give him food. He is hungry. Alsatian dog for that matter.

SillyeRabbit:
Your orientation sucks. Not every girl is crazy about sex.[s][/s]

Say that to your boyfriend if you are a girl. But if u are a guy, then you must be the sissy type of a guy and I will suggest you to swallow lots of redpills and read up Ubunja miseducations. Every girl has naughty side and crazy fantasies about sex.

It's about her finding the right guy that is able to evoke her sexual fantasies. I repeat, every girl loves sex but they don't show it like guys do with the exception of those that are circumsized. Ask iLegendd if what I said is not true. I will say it again, every girl loves sex but they don't show it like how guys show theirs.

Austine1212:
A country welcoming around 10 million tourists a year and growing

And still saying not safe for foreigners?

South Africa is not a safe place for blacks. It is safe for whites but not blacks from other Africa countries. Xenophobia is real in South Africa, and who are they attacking? It is black like you and I they are attacking. So, as a black guy, traveling to South Africa is life threatening cuz they can attack you whether you are a tourist or not as far as they see that you are black, you are a likely prey to them.

excessmon:
Now I see why Buhari went to London to complain about naija youths
Can you imagine the long epistle you wrote about fallacy but I’m sure u can’t write three lines about what you want to be in future......

What I want to be in the future? Do I look like an adolescent who is still trying to figure out what he wants to be in the future? I am already who I want to be.

Go and talk with your mates and discuss what you want to be. You think everyone here is like you?

Lightangel65:
That's where you got it wrong sex and love are opposites, and if all women are like that then it's better to stay single forever

In this era bro, don't think you can keep a girl without her bleeping in your back if you are not bleeping her. Even the most reserved bleep a lot. So all these no sex na wash. As a guy, I can keep to a no sex relationship but the problem will always be that such girl might be bleeping in my back. So it makes no sense. No na just dey bleep dey go to know each other sexual compatibility a long the line. When you do not make out with her, las las you've been fooled cuz she has been I taking it from another guy who is fulfilling her secret naughty fantasies. Guys don wise up. All these no sex relationship no dey work for where girls dey. They still bleep behind.

Lightangel65:
A man who truly loves you won't ever ask for sex. Most men just want to hit and go

Sex bond a girl to a guy. The problem is not about asking for sex. If you are there forming a gentle man by not instigating things to get down with her, trust me, another guy will be helping you in that area while you form a gentle man. Don't be surprised when you call and she busy your calls or switch off her phone. She is simply with another guy being serviced. When she is done she will call you back that she went for a church service and she was just coming back or she went to visit her grandma before when you called and her phone went off. No where to charge it.

Of course, you will believe everything she tells you. There is nothing like when you love a girl you will not ask for sex. In this era? Form a gentle man to a girl and she will use you to play a Table tenis while another guy is shining her Congo. So one of the agenda when you meet a girl you like ,after a couple of meetings is to have her bleep you. It is very necessary because we have heard so many stories when a guy will be forming a gentle man by not getting down with a girl, and trust me she starts bleeping in his back cuz more like she sees the guy as the gentle man type that just want tonplay the gentle man role. You are now the husband material she will keep for marriage because you do not ask for sex but you are spending on her while she is frolicking around being bleeped by another guy. You will truly be a husband material. But don't be heartbroken when you find out she has been fvcking with another guy in your back. Shine your eye if you are a guy. These kinda loyalty doesn't exist in the world of a woman. If you like do not have sex with her she will still be bleeping another guy. Las las you will still think she is a good girl after all as far she do things codedly. If a guy wants to form a gentle man it's not for sex aspect. To act impotent to a girl is not hard o but she will be fvcking with other guys during that period you are forming a gentle man who doesn't want to bleep. If you don't bleep her, another sharp guy will do the job and she will start loving that guy that bleep her. Thats when you will know you've fvcked up for not bleeping with her. Fear ladies bro.

executive12:
I don't know about Libya but South Africa is a beautiful country. Well developed.

I understand. But the place is not safe. No matter how developed a place is if it is not safe for foreigners, then it is completely out of the list of place people will want to travel to. South Africa is not a safe country for foreigners.