My brother thank you! I'm glad people with your mentality still exists in this nairaland.

Ths best option is for both husband and wife to sit together and build a house together if the finances are available. People forget marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship.

Up you!!!

ojuolu:

You are so right on point. I am sorry to say, Some men are too egoistic to be married. Some women are too self-centred to be wives. I WILL GLADLY live in a house built by my wife(especially the one i am married to now) because it will obviously be "our" house.

I dey tell you!! Who ever builds house who cares. Both of them go live there and enjoy. Character of husband or wife has nothing to do with structure.

Ravenna:

Na poverty and ego dey worry those men weh no wan better thing for their wife.
Smh.

The same protection a women gets from a court marriage is the same protection a man gets. Most of the rights in court marriages are what men are already receiving traditionally. But court marriages make it equal in law to both sexes

NEHLIVE:
So what's the protection for the man. Y'all ladies always thinking of yourselves alone.

Nigerian men and thier wahala. If a woman doesn't build house she must hear him say "under my roof" "in my house" "I built this with my hard earned money" "you didn't contribute to this"

The woman goes and builds house, some will now say she is an enemy of progress against tradition. If she built it why must the house be in his name? Una never happy. If your wife builds a house it's "our house". But if man builds house its "his" house abi?

Marriage includes both parities. I don't see it as a bad thing. But only a cultured and educated Nigerian man will accept it. If a wife builds a house it's "thier" house. If husband builds a house it's "thier" house. Simple.

House building doesn't take away respect, or submission. That character. Nothing to do with structure.

Exactly!!! Most of the people here arguing against court marriage is because they feel that should anything go wrong in the marriage they will loose out.

They should go and get a pre-nup if they're so concerned about the possibility of divorce.

Lemme tell you the truth. Traditional marriages do not help a woman in this country if her marriage ever fails. That's why women go and buy land without letting thier husband know. Because of backwards mentality.

favoured234:
Used to think court gives some sort of security not until a couple were having a fight and the lady said thank god they wedded in the court she will just take her share and leave.. The man said "no be who dey alive during court ruling dey take property?"... I stiff....


Court, church traditional, who bad don bad like drag them to hell...

You are the most emotional man I have ever come across. You take discourse as a personal attack. Relax. This is just nairaland and is a discussion. You can not reason articulately without insulting.its a testament to your character to be honest. The discourse at hand is marriage. And you are here going on and on as if your first born depends on it. At the end of the day it's a matter of opinion. It doesn't make anyone a bad person because of the type of marriage they prefer to have.

You still view court marriage negatively because you feel it gives a woman rights. That only shows your character. You feel threatened by a female having rights. You didnt address how a court marriage would play out if BOTH husband and wife were similar contributors to the marriage. You keep mentioning husbands estate? Is it only a husband that can contribute to an estate? What if the wife equally contributed or had some part in it. This is no longer the 1950s, women work. I don't know why you are limiting your outlook to Nigeria alone. The question has to do with court marriage. Nigerians are spread all over the world.

Your view on law is flawed to say the least. I don't claim to be a lawyer. But if a husband and wife committed a crime both of them can and will be arrested. Marriage doesn't take away culpability in a crime. If a wife or husband is an accessory to a crime then they are guilty. It has nothing to do with marriage. You are confusing getting arrested and spouses acting as witnesses in criminal trials. In the United states a spouse does not in most cases have to testify against thier spouse and in mist cases they are not seen as appropriate witnesses because they have such a strong personal relationship. But a judge can overrule that. And it goes for BOTH male and female. Not just females alone. You are very one sided in your perspective.

I don't know about any law that states what percentage of a married couples estate each is entitled to should the marriage dissolve. Unless Nigerian law is backwards these terms are agreed upon once divorce negotiations start. AFTER the marriage.

The purpose of a court marriage is to protect the individuals in the marriage. Not just the wife. But the husband as well.

I'm not 100% familiar with marital law. But if the laws states (and I doubt it) that a woman is immune to criminal acts of her husband. Then it should be vise versa that the husband is immune to the criminal acts of the wife. You are so one sided with everything it's painful.

All of your arguments are applicable to both male and female. I don't know if you just hate women. But if you don't trust why you are marrying, get a pre-nup or don't marry that person.

Lezzlie:
What opinions are you talking about?

Now you're guilty of everything you accuse me of!!! Court/statutory marriage isn't just a marriage that's recognised by law!!! There are a lot of legal intricacies and extra judicial interpretation and consequences than any other forms of marriage. Do not speak of what do don't know. If a couple opt for court marriage, it means the wife cannot be arrested as an accessory after the fact of a crime committed by the husband!!! So even if the wife shields a criminal husband, she is immune by law!!! Again, even if she commits adutlry, the husband can't kick her out without the court's pronouncement, and only a high court can do that in Nigeria, not magistrate court. It also means that the wife has a certain percentage of her husband's estate to inherit, fixed by law! I can't begin to go on without exhausting pages. But don't ever presume a court marriage is just a marriage recognised by law. It is more than that!

As a matter of fact both traditional and white weddings are recognised by law but they aren't as protected or governed by law as is statutory marriage!!!

Now how the fùck is a church wedding related to statutory wedding? Gosh!!! If I had seen this before I hit the quote button, I wouldn't have bothered you with a reply.
You do not know the first thing about statutory marriage.


It isn't the norm everywhere. It is a Western thing. It isn't so in Asia or even north Africa or northern Nigeria. It's a borrowed culture from the West. Other forms of marriage have these benefits as well! Prenuptial agreement has cured the stupidish vulnerability that statutory marriage seems to open up!!! The rest of your submissions are lost in the pool of subjective interpretation of my opinion of statutory marriage.

And I never opined that prenups are meant to include assets acquired after marriage. You're good at making stuffs up.

And yes in Africa, after fulfilling traditional and religious rites of marriage, I will give it more than a casual thought if my lady insists on statutory marriage.


And oh.....you've made some damning blunders which have necessitated my decision not to bother you with any more replies.

Bye!

Then we agree. Your landlords sons wife is weak tbh

pweetychyka:


No offence dear! Ain't giving excuses for the man! I 'm only pointing out that d approach d wife used wasn't the ryt approach! And if u read ma 1st response to ur quote, u 'll see where I pointed out that there is every tendency the man is not having/getting happiness from his home!

Similar thing happened to our land lord's son sometym ago... the wife used a bottle to burst d man's eye... n it took d grace of God for d man's sight to be restored again after all surgery he under went.

Today d man's 2nd home n office is an hotel filled with prostitute beside ma compound....n the wife has got no say now!

Even if the man is not cheating. What is he doing drinking beer outside his home on Easter with strange women. It doesn't matter. He was wrong. She was also wrong and should not have resorted to violence.

Stop making excuses for the man and accept this case for what it is. Unless the woman is mad, it's obvious there was trouble in the marriage before this incident.

The real question is 'why' did she do it. If she is not unstable. There is a reason. It is left for BOTH the husband and wife to fix thier marital union. Marriage is a partnership. She should apologize for being violent. And he should apologize for abandoning the family and wasting money outside. Then they should discuss what whatever problems they had that led to his behaviour in the first place. And vice versa.

pweetychyka:


My dear, in as much as I don't support d man's wrong as I earlier said, d ladies seen with him, who were dey to him? Did she bother asking her hubby? Did dey state d actual tym he was seen wit the ladies?

If No, I still stand to be corrected.... the action she took was absolutely wrong!

But then, now u get ma point...... the marriage is lacking truly! Now it is left to d woman to get it fixed! Which she can do with her woman influence not by violence

#onlyaptientwifecanmakeherhubbylongforher

A husband that abandoned his family on a religious holiday to court 3 women and drink is already lost.

Obviously there is more to this story than we know. Sure the woman behaved inappropriately. But the husband disrespected thier union and the family unit. Her emotion is understandable. Bur that marriage is lacking already. The husband was obviously already lost.

pweetychyka:


My dear I very well understand u...... ain't in anyway supporting d man for his wrong attitude towards his family but den do u realise she can loose her hubby for dis act?

To enjoy a family as a lady be it married or single, d lady must learn to control her anger which I know isn't easy! Anger can make a lady loose dat which she has nurtured for years

#patienceisnotonlybutavirtue

Where are you getting your facts from? You are manipulating your opinions as facts, speaking in totality as if you have done a quantitative study on the issue. A court marriage just means that a marriage is recognized by the state/country. Simple. A marriage license is issued. That's all it is. Outside of nigeria (perhaps africa) it is the norm everywhere else. Poor and rich alike go through court marriages. Actually it's part of the church wedding. All paperwork filled out and signed on the day. In regulated counties there are actually tax benefits for married couples (recognized by the law) as opposed to people who cohabitate together.

It sounds as if you are threatened that a woman would want to have her marriage legitimized in the eyes of the law. I don't see the harm. At all. You seem to view a court marriage as a way for a woman to collect what you feel she doesn't deserve. But to be honest that implies that you are marrying a woman who does not contribute to the household. If both husband and wife are working and contributing to the household, properties and such then it only makes sense that God forbid they ever separate that the assets will be shared appropriately.

I don't condone divorce, but the reality is that it happens. A court marriage benefits both husband and wife. If they separate then the allocation of assets should be split up fairly. Not based on ego.

Also I would like to correct a statement you made about pre-nuptual agreements. Their purpose is to protect the assets of the husband or wife or both previous to the marriage. In the case the couple should separate the wealth/property owned by either party stays with the rightful owner. NowbWhatever wealth that was gained while part of the marriage is shared amongst the couple in whatever way us agreed upon between the couple, thier lawyers and ultimately the judge. So to be honest while you may think you are against the "western ideology and court system" I believe the pre-nup actually benefits your ideology. It protects your interests should anything go wrong in the marriage.

Lezzlie:
Any lady who insists on court marriage has got a scheme that doesn't include the hubby on the brighter side.

No girl insists on court marriage if the hubby is flat out broke or struggling.

If you check most homicide findings, in the West, you see couples kill couples either to acquire the estate or not having to pay for divorce and alimony settlements.


Back to Nigeria, every Nigerian woman is predisposed to fall victim to the sweet talk of thieving pastors, prophets, seers and fortune-tellers who tell her what she wants to hear.

Add that to the number of exes who can ignite her dying fires and you're looking at a potential disaster, once people start appreciating the benefits of court marriage.

Despite your profanity I can understand your perspective on this issue. But this argument only stands if the man is the sole breadwinner of the family and the woman is a housewife. If you marry a woman traditionally and she is working and contributing monetarily to the household, it is unfair. That is to say of the property in the marriage was purchased through both husband and wife contribution. No educated working woman will allow you to just take everything should the marriage dissolve.

Also what if there are children involved? You will kick the woman out and what will happen to the children? If there is shared custody where will the children go to visit thier mother? If she is not a working woman? You will allow your children to suffer because of your I'll feelings toward thier mother?

For you to think that only lazy women ask for court weddings is misguided. Justice in the court of law is justice. Unless the wife doesn't not bring anything forward to the marriage a traditional marriage is not feasible. Both husband and wifes rights in the marriage must be recognized.

agarawu23:
sorry!!!
I honestly can't do court wedding with ANY lady and NOBODY can change my mind on that.

These set of ladies with court wedding do behave silly and I can't take such shiit. You expect me to marry a Lady and if she messed up , I kick her ass out and one mumu court will divide my property for such biitch? God4bid.

If you can't marry me cos I ain't doing court, another person will.

After all only lazy and bad minded ladies will insist on court wedding

It seems like this man is a serial womanizer. It was Easter holiday. Nigeria is a very religious country. For this man to abandon his family to court 3 different women, during a holiday one usually spends and celebrates with family is an insult. She acted out of anger and was wrong. But not unwarranted.

pweetychyka:
Too bad!

But a responsible and matured house wife won't go to that extent cause she caught her hubby with 3 ladies at a beer parlor n not inside a hotel room.

She should have called her hubby's cell phone that she needs his urgent attention.... and if he gives excuses not to come, den she can tell him where she saw him.....n make him understand y she needs his attention. A responsible hubby who understands and value his family will always rush home at such call.

But then reverse is the case to some which I believe that it is caused by unhappiness in the home.
If a woman shows her hubby full love, affection and gives him full attention, He will in all phase of life adore his woman {family}

#randomtots

What's silent about joining the group and placing an order? That's called passive aggressive. Not silent treatment.

BornnAgainChild:
But come to think of it that woman could av acted the other way round by joining the table and placing her own orders immediately....I think that would av been a better approach...(Its called the silent treatment)..the yeye husband would feel uneasy easily instead of all this broken bottle ish

The fact that you beleive that a woman is nothing without a man makes me pity you. If a woman's husband us late doesn't mean her life should be dedicated to finding a new husband.

What kind of reasoning is this? I'm surprised at hearing this from a woman. But it's ok. You seem to be the kind not in support of female education or rights.

Nigeria is suffering because of people with your mentality.

omoyemirally:
u ppu keep castigating islam without facing d reality. If a woman has everything but no husband,its equivalent to having nothing. And for a young woman with children whose husband is late. Is she expected to remain alone.its not just all abt d financial sopot of a man. But what about d physical,psychological and emotional sopot? Pls be realistic.

So it's a mini flat basically on top of a garage. Is this like a guest house purpose?

I'm a female by the way. Thanks so much. I really enjoy reading your threads.

abdulwastecx:


Good question sir. Here in Nigeria we pack our vehicle outside but for this particular house, the client want an enclosed garage that is separated from the house. The initial plan was to build a Bungalow garage but after we started construction the client wanted to use the upper space for one bedroom open dining and kitchen concept and we have to change the structural configuration

Not everyone is created to be a preist. It's good he realized it and left in while he was young. Imagine if he continued and shamed not only himself and his family but the church by his actions.

His dad can be disappointed. He has the right to feel that way. But in his wisdom he should recognize that it wasn't a good fit for his son.it doesn't mean that his son is leaving God or the religion. He just has a different position. He knows his weaknesses and strengths.

Pidggin:
So your love for women made you abandon God's service? I hope you are enjoying your fill now, I really feel sad for your dad, he had such high hopes for you.

Put yourself in your father's shoes, he must have dreamt of you making him proud by becoming a priest. Before you say it is your life and you decide what you should do with it, Samuel was not even conceived before his mother dedicated him to serve God as a priest. Try to understand why he reacted that way, good luck.

Im sorry but this story is somehow. So because she didn't want a second wife and her husband happened to die she should go looking to be another man's second wife?

Not everyone will be in her situation. Women are educated in this society not to feel thier only way to livelihood is through a man. If she's not educated she can learn. It's never too late to learn a trade or go back to school. Her husband is dead doesn't mean his family abandoned her. Anyways it's just a story sha. So because she turned away a second wife means that one day she may be in her shoes. Who knows of the initial second wife wouldn't be a home wrecker. Nobody knows everyone's story but who cares.

Helping that woman didn't require her to be invited into the family. The lesson is ok. But the story is judgemental.

I'm confused. Can you please explain what the purpose of a garage house is for? Here in Canada the garage is connected to the house. Does a garage house replace the gatemans security house? What is the purpose of the mini flat on top?

abdulwastecx:
Here is a small garage house.
The initial plan was to build a new open spaced garage but we change plan an build a one storey building with a ground floor.

The dimensions are 7.5m x 6.5m.
Structural layout of 9 columns of 225mm x 225mm in section and interconnected beams of depth 450mm.

Here are the three dimensional drawings

I'm not trying to argue with you. Just giving my opinion. Religion has its culture, but cultures do not have to come from religion.

anonimi:


I think that I said CULTURAL/religion. Please check my post again.
Meanwhile every religion is finally a culture i.e. a way of life for those who choose or are forced by birth or otherwise to be members of the group. Not so



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I'm not sure if what these boys are doing is based in religion. But I think what the country you're thinking of is iran. The shia Muslims practise beating themselves on a particular day to pay homage to a prophet I think. The Sunni Muslims do not follow this practise.


But I don't think that's a what these boys are doing. As they collect a prize afterwards

anonimi:


I believe it is a cultural/religious thing and something similar is done in Iraq, if I am not mistaken.

Will concrete roof decking last due to our harsh weather?

abdulwastecx:


The client want it decked for security reasons but using wood and aluminum is more cost effective

That doesn't mean that transparency doesn't belong. Evey government and society needs transparency to function. Nigeria has never had it. And we desperately need it. Only some people don't know how to behave once they receive it.

Under Johnathans tenure were our refineries working at total capacity? NOOOOO

Apc stated what thier goal was. When they got into power they couldn't actualize it. Now they are explaining to the people why they can't and what it would take them to do it.

I'm not an Apc supporter or Pdp supporter. But sometimes it helps to stop blaming everyone for everything. Ignorance helps nobody.educate yourself and question if what they're saying is the truth. And the man is telling the truth. If anybody paid attention in the beginning what he's saying shouldnt be a surprise.

Was he in power before that he should be blamed for the partys campaign? Open your eyes man. If all you do is complain you're never going to get anywhere. I'm not arguing with you.

babestella:


That wasn't what they said during election campaigns, they made Nigerians believe that our 4 refineries with total production cap of under 8 million liter could feed Nigeria fuel demand, pls don't come here to fool Nigerians with transparency crap, what Nigerians need is delivery and performance.

That's called transparency. Instead of lying to the masses you explain the situation at hand and why things are happening the way they are. So the public can understand.


From here the brainstorming of ideas for improvement occurs. That's how all devolved countries operate. He's not a pessimist for speaking the truth. So the layman can understand why this country isn't going anywhere anytime soon.

obasiken:
Is this the kind of utterances that should be made by a minister of Nigeria? Instead of him to be thinking of a way to make production of PMS cheaper in Nigeria he has already admitted failure. This is why APC is failing cos they are PESSIMISTS.

You are a very ignorant person. She killed someone unintentionally which is called manslaughter. She knew the risks of driving while intoxicated and it resulted in his death. It is a crime that any reasonable person would not have committed. She was recklessly. The reason it's taking to long is that she continues todelay and refuses to accept her sentencing to go to jail. Had she accepted she would have been out of jail 6 years ago.

Nobody is above the law. She killed someone and should pay for it. You have no respect for human life. I bet you when they find a politician that has stolen billions of naira from the Nigerian public you will also stand and argue that his sentence j jail for corruption is unjust.

People with your mentality is why nigeria is a laughingstock to all civilized countries. You won't allow for the law to reign.

PweshyNonny:
Styms I read d comments pple make n begin to wonder, r dis guys reali human beings? C dem all comin to judge s1 4 a murder she committed unintentionally. Niggas whether or not she killed d man, d man was destined to die dat day. Dis happnd 11yrs ago 4 pit sake nt yesterday. It's an accident mehn nt a murder case infact. U guys yan as if she murdered d man in a cold blood 4gettting dat we all kill pple n ain't judged. D earlier pple here start acting lyk literates d beta 4 us all.

This whole thread is nonsense and was created by someone who wants to start conflict. A man telling a woman how to prepare for marriage. It should be a woman doing so.

Yes we know you believe that a woman was created to be a man's slave and property.

You men have to stop preaching to women. Go and find the woman who holds the qualities you wish and leave the rest alone.nobody asked you to be the spokesman for Nigerias next top wife. Relax. Counsel your wife. Not strangers.

Why are you so steaddast in your ignorance here.nkbody is on your side. Sit down and think about it man. A man is dead and you're saying she should be considered? Are you kidding me. 5 years is a soft jusgement for someone who murdered an innocent human being.

What are you saying. If she did her time when the initial 5 year judgement was given she woukd have been out by now

Eruditor:


Not all manslaughter cases are for 5 years. The law is not a mechanical tool that must turn in one direction. You can't just look at the impact it made to the victim's family. Her's has to be considered too.

And we wonder why people would rather hit and run than stay, own up to the crime and be sentenced for 5 years.

Brandy didn't go to jail because after the investigation was conducted she was not found at fault. She was not intoxicated or under the influence of drugs. They accident involved about 5 other cars. The victim of the crash was discovered to have braked quickly after rear ending the car in front of her which did not give Brandy ample time to react accordingly. So she rear ended her car. The victims car was pushed into oncoming trafic and a bunch of other cars were involved. The report is public so you can go and read it yourself. Her car was going at 65miles an hour.

You can not compare the two cases. Brandy was not negligent. But she has a heart. She knew the value of a life and even though no criminal cases were charged against her due to insufficient evidence the family of the dead woman chose to sue her civilly. Most likely because out of the 5 cars involved she was the richest and most prominent. If she took it to court she would have won. There are cameras on the highway and eyewitness reports. The district attorney chose not to file because there was no case. Brandy has a heart and knows the value of a human life. She chose to settle the family out of court and compensated them monetarily. Even though she was not at fault for the death of the woman. She acknowledged that the accident took place and someone died, others were injured.

In ibinabos case it is evident she was at fault. The sentence is coming late because she refused to accept her sentence and kept appealing. Had she done her time when the initial 5 years was given she would have completed it by now

Eruditor:


I understand you, but I think the sentence is harsh. Brandy, the American singer, had the same issue and she didn't go to jail.

Brandy didn't go to jail because after the investigation was conducted she was not found at fault. She was not intoxicated or under the influence of drugs. They accident involved about 5 other cars. The victim of the crash was discovered to have braked quickly after rear ending the car in front of her which did not give Brandy ample time to react accordingly. So she rear ended her car. The victims car was pushed into oncoming trafic and a bunch of other cars were involved. The report is public so you can go and read it yourself. Her car was going at 65miles an hour.


You can not compare the two cases. Brandy was not negligent. But she has a heart. She knew the value of a life and even though no criminal cases were charged against her due to insufficient evidence the family of the dead woman chose to sue her civilly. Most likely because out of the 5 cars involved she was the richest and most prominent. If she took it to court she would have won. There are cameras on the highway and eyewitness reports. The district attorney chose not to file because there was no case. Brandy has a heart and knows the value of a human life. She chose to settle the family out of court and compensated them monetarily. Even though she was not at fault for the death of the woman. She acknowledged that the accident took place and someone died, others were injured.

In ibinabo case it is evident she was at fault. The sentence is coming late because she refused to accept her sentence and kept appealing. Had she done her time when the initial 5 years was given she would have completed it by now

Eruditor:


I understand you, but I think the sentence is harsh. Brandy, the American singer, had the same issue and she didn't go to jail.

Actually, eyewitness reports claim that ibinabo not only fled the scene of the crime but also took with her the particulars of the car. She tried to remove evidence that would implicate her. The car she was driving did not belong to her, but a friend. In her mind if she left the particulars there the police would track down her friend who would then implicate her. So she killed someone and then ran away. She is disgusting. And the family of the victim also claim ibinabo has never to this day apologized to them face to face for her actions.

She is a public figure, that is the position she has chosen for herself. She should have made a statement accepting responsibility for her actions. She should be the damn spokesperson against drinking and driving and it's dangers. BUT no instead she's carrying on as if she didn't stupidly cause the death of an innocent man.

Please stop defending her. Because there is no argument you can give that makes sense. There is no sympathy for ibinabo here. If she accidentally killed this man while sober and driving reasonably responsible then a case could be made in her defense. That is not the case here. The law is the law. She is legally and morally responsible here.

Emotion aside. Her actions led to the death of someone and based on eyewitness and family testimony her behaviour after the incident shows a lack of remorse and respect.

Eruditor:


I think you are getting things conflated. Rapists and murderers don't commit their crimes by happenstance, that's why they are charged under the provisions of first degree murder or rape cases. In her case, she committed involuntary manslaughter. She did not set out to have him killed, her negligence and carelessness caused his death.

Should the law take it's toll, sure, but not under emotive guises. That's my argument. Did she flee the scene? Did she blame the deceased? Did she protest her innocence? The answer to all these questions is NO.

Yet what you hear in the media space is that she wasn't acting remorseful because she posts pics of her daughter in the USA or that she attends functions and events? Does this make sense to you?

Are you OK in the head? You are calling her a victim? Because the law is being applied correctly? This woman drank herself to a stupor and killed an innocent man. She must pay the consequence of her action. The law says she should be punished in jail for 5 years

GOOD FOR HER

Her children aren't losing thier mother. She is still alive. After serving her time she will come back home and hopefully behave more responsibly. They have the option of visiting her in prison. How can you consider a fine the equivalent of a human life. She robbed a family of thier son, husband, brother, father. He will never be able to live his life again. Her being locked away from society for 5 years is barely justice. She has shown no remorse for her actions publicly that is acceptable.

This man's death was 100% avoidable. Had ibinabo gotten a taxi that night or allowed a sober person to drive he would still be alive. Stop making excuses for a killer.

Eruditor:


Emotive trash.

You even called the deceased "Innocent". What is to say he wasn't on his way to kill a debtor or that he would not have an accident that would have taken someone else's life say 2 months after that day?

Did Ibinabo set out on that very day to kill him?

So his family lost a breadwinner, a brother, father, one who gave 7 years of his life to becoming a doctor, but her family won't lose anybody when she goes to jail? Her husband won't lose a wife? Her kids won't lose a mum?

I thought you were saying what is sauce for the Goose is sauce for the Gander? Why the glaring hypocrisy?

The only thing that can be determined as justice will be what the law has to say about involuntary manslaughter. If the option of a fine was available and the first court issued that, then there is no need for the emotional hot air you are spewing.

She is guilty of the crime, but should not be a reckless victim of judicial eye-service and pandering.

What do you mean do not castigate her. She must be severely castigated and warned. The death of this man was 100% completely avoidable. Nobody forced her to drink. She was drunk and CHOSE to get behind the wheel of a car and drive. She was negligent and caused the death of an innocent man. This can not happen to anyone.

People with decency and maturity would have known to either hail a taxi or allow someone sober to drive. To top it all off after she killed the man she fled the scene. She has not taken accountability for her actions. Don't make excusesfor this woman and say she is allowed to be human? What nonsense. She killed a human being. We must value human life. She must be held accountable for her actions.

marycool18:
This issue is very sensitive, it's a lesson to all 'em celebrities who feel because they are living the good life, safety and caution should be damned.

She was at fault and probably was the reason they rushed to pay the initial 100k.

But then this can happen to any other person, reason may not be a DUI but any other, let her get served what she deserves but don't castigate her she is allowed to be human!

You first

chimah3:


Bite yourself