What kind of rubbish are you spewing here? The man abandoned his life and dragged his family into the pit of hell. Endangering them because he allowed fanatics to infiltrate his mind. How is joining a terrorist organization a testament to faith. He was foolish. If Isis is the true face of islam then all Muslims would be thier members. But that's not the case. Isis and all terrorist groups who cause havoc in the name of religion are only bastardizing it.

Being religious doesn't mean that people should blindly follow thier leaders. God gave each of us a brain to reason and think. If a leader of a religion is leading you to do what you know is against the teaching in the Koran or Bible you don't just follow them.

In your attempt to sound deep, you have revealed that you are a supporter of terrorism, hate and death. Get out of here.

profmallory:
This dude leaves behind a wealthy life style, money, family and all. And travels to the harshest of places to defend a faith he believes in. I see this whole story slightly from a different perspective. Then I ask myself, How many Christians are willing to die for their faith, I m not talking of dying for your race or tribe, but for the fact that you believe in Christ. If they say today, if you come out and Go to church we will fire you, how many people would still come out. I know the answer and I very well hope I myself will come out.

Every one will die one day, some when they are ready some while they are enjoying - distracted. This dude is gone to face his maker, are we sure with the hate we spew in our hearts, the hypocrisy of our life's and fake mouth service we someday we wont end up where he is.

This property you have been trying to sell for almost a year now. You've posted no pictures and keep asking for serious buyers? Which buyer will become serious based on your orange font? No picture, minimal details. Please stop already.

Thank you so so so much. I'm really not a fan of such high roofs esp when the space isn't being utilized. i wouldn't mind it if there was an attic up there to be used for additional storage or an extra bedroom, but thats not the case. at least, I haven't seen anyone in nigeria with an attic anyways. Not that it can't be done, but if i'm going to spend so much money making an enormous roof, i would like it to be functional and not just aesthetically pleasing.

Please, in regards to durability and sustainability would you say that stone-coated roof is a better alternative to longspan aluminum roofs or is there another alternative.

Thank you in advance for your response.

KolaShangOne:
The arrangement of the ridges and troughs on a longspan sheet makes for easy conveyance of water during rainfall.
Its the best for flow.
Also, in case there is any debris, its easier to remove.
Easier to maintain.
It also laps along the ridges so even if theres a hole on the ridge, chances of leakage is low.
Etc.. i'm just not a fan of steptile. i feel its a Nigerian's way of feeling richer than his neighbour who uses longspan.

my own opinion

You did reply to me before. But this response was much more informative. Thanks so much.

Please on average how much is it to construct a terrazzo floor. For example. The job done in the picture you posted for the school? How much was it? And if it was polished up to 3 stages how much would it have cost? I want to start saving.

KolaShangOne:


i don't know if i've replied this before.. but,
Its not a finished job..
Also, There are 3 stages in the polishing of Terrazzo. In order to minimize cost, we only do one or two stages these days..
If you can afford it, you can ask for even a 4th stage polishing.

I thought this was a bungalow? What's the reason for decking?

abdulwastecx:
More updates

Is this a finished job? im weighing the pros and cons of using terazzo floors on a building project and those pictures you posted the floors aren't polished. Im worried that i will not be able to find skilled workers who can finish the terazzo floors to the finishing I would like in a home project. although quite expensive, terazzo floor are very durable if done correctly.

KolaShangOne:


Yes I was happy with it. We did about 3 govt primary schools, 1 lecture theater in Polytechnic Ibadan and a factory.
No materials bought. Its all in. Time frame is 3 weeks for a good polishing job. Done over the past 3 years. Working away from base depends on size of project.

Can you explain why in the aluminum roofing category why longspan is the best?

KolaShangOne:
In terms of functionality, Longspan Aluminium is still the best.
In terms of aesthetics, step tiles and metcoppo share the spoils.
In the end, it's all about choice.

where is the crank fro the casement windows?i cant see it in your pictures. how else do you navigate between opening and closing? the problem i have with casement windows is that the crank after a few years often break down and then the whole window has to be replaced

HsLBroker:
casement windows is more beautifully designed and have more customizable ways, but sliding is a one way version design,

Both last longer and easily install but everything still base on choice and pocket.

Thanks,

You may think this writeup is humorous. All it displays is that you are rapist in the making. Disgusting

falconey:


that was unprofessional of him, you were caught ..........run!!!!!!.


it was late,dark and most students were asleep to chase you for whatever crime you committed.


I remember my teen years, as a young pervert every young girl was my prey. there was this neighbor girl, her boobs was to die for , she was young,pretty and those boobs stood straight like the coat of arms.

we were in her parent's room alone gisting suddenly I attacked one of her boobs and man handled it vehemently to my satisfaction and faced the offense by her like a HERO as she retaliated by giving me severe nail cuts on my neck, the pain was too much to bear I had to run for my life.

we reconciled later on ,I offered her 20 box.

Thank you. It's nice to see variety. Why is it that casement windows cost more than sliding windows? I was under the impression that sliding windows are easier to install and last longer.

HsLBroker:
4x4 Tower Aluminum sliding windows & net @ N13, 000

2x2 Tower Aluminum Sliding windows plus Burglary & net @ N6, 500


4x4 Tower Aluminum sliding windows, plus Burglary & net @ N18, 500

2x2Tower Aluminum Sliding windows plus Burglary and net @ N9, 500

How come you don't have prices for sliding windows with burglary and net or pics?

Thank you!

blackboy:


So we should compare Nigeria to somalia or Benin republic or south Sudan or Liberia? Nigeria needs to step up its game and if you compare yourself with the worst do you know what you get? Yes nothing better. A student that compares himself with the best will still get something good.
We need to have the will to be the best.
Japan n China did n now they are almost if not the best.

nothing is absolute. I did answer your question. Read my answer again with an open mind. you asked how long do i think it will take. you don't just throw a number and not explain it. I gave you a number and explained my thought process. If you like the way Nigeria is presently then good for you. People are here looking for solutions to our problems and how the incoming and present generations can make a change. you are here dwelling.

if you believe Nigeria is a lost cause then leave the country and don't look back. discussing with you is a headache.I am not here to gist with you. i'm passionate about this topic. so if you don't want to be serious, then don't reply me. I'm only interested in serious discussions

thesicilian:


Doesn't answer my question. You obviously do not live in the real world and all your speech is full of 'ifs' and what we are can do and become. No one is doubting what we can become or our growth potential if you must know. The issue is, do you see Nigeria moving forward any time soon judging by what we have on ground? Forget miracles and chance happenings, does Nigeria have any structure on ground to become the most developed nation in Africa, not to talk of Europe and America? That is the crux of my debate.
And please be precise in your answers.

People want the officialism of a legal "court" marriage, but the ceremonial and celebratory aspect of "church" wedding. they mix the two together in the same venue. A court marriage is just paperwork for god's sake. officiated by either a judge, justice of the peace, municipal clerk. Who told you that these people can only work in the municipal office or court? or that an ordinary citizen can not become ordained to certify weddings?

I live in Canada, I've seen these things happen, so you can't tell me that it doesn't happen. I was there and was a part of it. The original post was not limited to Nigeria alone. It was an open question.

If you feel that a court marriage is an absolute no no for you then OK. I respect your decision. But for me, i want my marriage to be legal, protected to the full extent of the justice system in ANY country and recognized in ANY country. If you believe differently then that is your opinion.

I don't think you are an awful person because of it. But the reasons behind your decision don't resonate with me. obviously my future husband will not share the same viewpoint as you because we would not be compatible.

The fact that you think you can decipher someones gender by reading text is ridiculous. an opinion is an opinion and can come from any individual regardless of their sex.

Lezzlie:
@ bolded, the ceremony isn't in the church!!!

You keep arguing for banter's sake!!! Stop it.

In the West , all marriages have full legal interpretation and enforcement,. It is not so in Africa. There's a difference.

You wake me up to this thread after nearly a week without coming up with any facts but rude accusations.

Stop this. And do put a letter indicator in yoyr moniker, Akike so that we can decipher your sex. You're coming of as a man!

To be honest it's all circumstantial. If all Nigerians are like you and have given up, don't try and lobby thier local and federal politicians it will take infinity years. The benefit nigeria has is that it's developing in the era of knowledge, experience and technology. None of the established western countries had this benefit.

If a substantial amount of Nigerians seriously fight and demand for thier rights nigerias infrastructure could be on par with other developed countries within 30 years. All the technology is available to make it happen. We just need to bring it here. Every county in the world has villages and rural areas. But each state/province has at least 2-3 major cities.

We have the money and the resources already. It's just not being put to good use. See how uyo and lagos has drastically changed within the last 10 years? We just need a solid structure put into place. It can work. It's not the country that's the problem. It's the people who are in charge. People can be replaced.

thesicilian:

In your opinion, how long do you think it will take Nigeria to get to the level of civilization & development currently being enjoyed in Britain? Just give me an estimate, how many years?

Your epistle shows that you are pained. If you didn't read what I wrote then what is all the need for your typed words. When I stated that a court marriage is part of the church wedding I know what I'm saying. Ther ceremony is in church but the legal documentation is signed as part of the ceremony. Your perspective is limited and focused on nigeria alone. Many people can become ordained ministers that grants them the power to Wed others. A "court marriage" is just legal documentation that is recognized and officiated with witnesses. It is paperwoek. You don't have to have a judge do it. It's paperwork at the end of the day. You don't have to actually enter a court.

I am not a man. Utilize you reading comprehension and visualize my profile identifies me as a female.

You just like to argue. You are very immature. You are unable to discuss with someone openly and try to see thier perspective. You believe that your opinions are the only valid ones out there. It's disgusting. I don't know how you get along with others in reality. You need to accept that others think different than you and that doesn't make them the enemy.

Lezzlie:
Bro, to be honest, I stopped reading at the first paragraph!!!

Why, it reeks of deceit, ignorance and emotional diarrhoea!!!

Firstly you claim I insulted you. You want to furnish me with a quote?

Secondly, you claim I'm being emotional. You cannot redefine that term on the pages on NL.


Lastly and conclusively, you do not know or understand the term statutory/court marriage to begin with!!!

You linked it to a church wedding!!! Phew!!!

If you're an honest man, that should have consistuted the opening remarks of your long narrative!!! But, alas, you went off mark hitting at my deportment and mannerisms!!!

So there's no point debating with you over a concept you cannot even begin to define or understand!

It's a waste of time.

I already stated it will take a long time to occur. Nigeria is a dialysis new country. All civilized Nations took centuries to develop. Your original statement was an encouragement for people to give up.

Why shouldnt Nigerians compare thier standard of living to other countries? Its not unobtainable. It will be a long time coming but nothing good comes easy. Counties are rated whether you like it or not. Everyone compares everything. Thats how innovation is created and improvements made.

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You view is quite pessimistic. Your statement implies that you believe that Nigerians are undeserving of fair treatment from the government. That they should stop hoping for a better life, because it will never come

It's people with that mindset that endure poverty and punishment. Until Nigerians collectively begin to hold thier leaders accountable, the average citizen will never recieve justice.

It will take a very long time to achieve. Maybe a few generations but it is not impossible. Rome want built in a day. And Britain is a very old nation unlike nigeria.

thesicilian:
Nigeria may never get to that stage and the sad reality is that Nigeria & Britain are not the same. So stop comparing.

Non verbal aggression that presents in a negative manner. Pretty much on point on my end.

BornnAgainChild:


You might need to re-check what passive aggressive means,.my dear

Yea I agree with you. But whether the marriage is arranged or through love I beleive both parties should be willing to marry each other. Because whether you love your spouse or not, if you don't get along with them the marriage will collapse. People in this day and age will not endure being unhappy in a union for years where there are options available to to them to be happier outside of marriage.

This isn't limited to problems of infidelity or domestic abuse. Sometimes people are just incompatible together. They just don't get along or like each other. Or they change as the years pass. I don't agree with divorce but if people are not followers of religion. They will separate. And many separate amicably. It doesn't have to be a big drama.

I don't look down on people who engage in arranged marriages as per thier culture if they are willing participants. But as for me, I wouldn't engage in such.

AreaFada2:


Lol. When you get to a certain age, an average sociable African can easily have 50-100 married friends & acquaintances. And truly scattered across the globe, though you said it jokingly but actually spot on. Considering that around 50% of marriages fail for many reasons, I actually have more stories to tell.

Well, Asians practice arranged marriages a lot. While it's not all perfect with them, they seem to be quite successful.

The idea of falling in love and marrying, from separation & divorce figures, is not working.

Some say women stayed in unhappy marriages in the past because they had little options.
While that may be partly true, I think people increasingly go into marriage with the wrong notion.

People think it's all going to be lovely, romantic, easy and a fairytail. Love will see us through they claim. But bad news is that people do fall out of love.

Well, a large number would turn out to be the opposite.

No amount of "That shall not be my portion IJN" can change the fact that one should prepare for various permutations, many unexpected stuff, challenges and more in marriage.
When the going gets tough, lot of people just "check out" like Andrew.

agbomere12:
me and my wife are currently living in a house built by her....she has never for once called it her house nor our house.....instead she calls it *my husband's house* mine is still under construction n that is not an issue with us. her salary is five times more than mine....no be my fault...na condition make crayfish bend.....but people dont know.....they think I'm the big guy...for their mind.... abeg, me & my wife na one.....she & all that she has are mine....just as I & all I have are for her.

Your marriage is a true partnership. Congratulations. Some men on this thread will never understand. I support your union!

These end time friends you have that just keep having marital problems up and down all over the globe. I pray it doesn't reach you ooo. Just joking.

Are you saying you think arranged marriages are better?

AreaFada2:
Meme j, I like your mature response. Of course many families live peacelly, even Iya Suleman, Nne Nkechi hawking fish to feed and pay rent for her kids and her jobless hubby. Chasing sway your wife wasn't really that easy in traditional societies without very good reason until about 25 years ago. The inlaws often waded in to settle the matter. I still witnessed lot of that growing up.
At the end of the day, we should all be concerned by the increasing level of marital discord among Africans both at home and in diaspora. Especially some killing their spouse. It seems our freedom to chose own partner isn't necessarily doing the trick. I hope my friends eventually gets justice. Another friend of mine got no justice until he suddenly died. Despite his being Vought redhanded commuting adultery while pregnant for my late friend.

By the way, I am not more pessimistic than the average person out there. Have a nice day.

Thank you

Ghost447:
This is really nice, I accept your apology. I appreciate your maturity and humility. Keep it up.

I'm not trying to argue with you. Just trying to have an articulate discussion with you. The majority of MY colleagues at work are Canadian citizens by birth. They were not sponsored by any husband. I don't know why you're unwilling to acknowledge that there a families out there who are able to live peacefully despite the woman earning more than the man.

I never said in nigeria men throw women out of a house the woman built. I said "matrimonial home". The family home. Traditionally, men in nigeria have built the house. When there is a quarrel at times some men get angry and send the wife away I.e "kicking her out of the matrimonial home". He feels it is ok to do so because he built it so therefore he owns it. If a woman builds a house and does the same to her spouse it is it not the same behaviour that men display. It has nothing to do with being inherently male or female. But has everything to do with anger in the moment. Though I don't condone throwing any spouse out of a house.

Not every woman is the same. Just because your friend is dealing with a woman who is lying to the police doesn't mean that all women do that. At the end of the day an investigation will be carried out. And the truth will prevail. If your friend is telling you the truth he will come out on top. The woman will pay the price for her despicable behaviour.

Your point that if you let people fund everything some can use it over you applies to both husband and wife. Whether it's house or car, food supplies, children's school fees. It's all the same. A marriage is more than a house.

AreaFada2:


Really? What would Canadian Police do if the woman claims threat to her life, maybe after she has hooked up with a new lover at work?

In Nigeria, men throw women out of a house built by the women? I have never seen that.

I have a friend currently kicked out. Here in the West too. Never mind no history of violence and no neighbour has ever heard even raised voices. Her many times married & divorced toy boys shagging mum has engineered it.

As for your view of building jointly, I already offered that view in my previous post.

But here is matter: majority of 9ja women want a man who already has everything. They are not ready to start building after marriage.
If you come into a marriage, working and keeping all your money or not even working at all while the man funds everything, you're likely to diminish your respect. Never mind men claiming they can take care of you.

If you let people fund everything, some can start using it (wrongly) to exert excessive control over you.

Simple fact.

The second part, it won't surprise me if many of the nurses were sponsored to Canada by their husbands and given residence documents also.

Such men might have ditched certificates and did various jobs to fund both themselves & relatives at home. Maybe even the lady while studying or sorting out documents. But yet ensured they assisted the wives into the professions. I guess that's the minimum such woman can do, but many still cannot manage earning more than hubby and eventually mess up.

So I'm now a mind reader? I thought you were trying to point out that a cultured man would not do such.

Anyways I apologize. It was a misunderstanding. No need to get so upset.

Ghost447:
Oh God! How old are you? How many degrees have you obtained?. By striking out the word "culture" from your submission I was trying to tell you that you have already made a "valid" point even without the use of the word.

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Just in case you don't fully understand what cultured means.

I live in Canada. Nobody just kicks anyone out of the house just like that. Unlike nigeria the legal system here works appropriately. Call the police. The problem will be solved within a few hours.

Men have been throwing women out of thier matrimonial home in nigeria since the beginning of time. If a man owns a home or a woman owns a home it doesn't change thier character. Bad people will display bad behaviours regardless.

Let me speak from my experience. I am a registered nurse. I'm not married yet, but many of my colleagues are married to men who make less than them. Likewise many of my colleagues are married to husbands who make more than them. People here value character. Though all their husbands contribute very well financially. I don't know if its poverty that makes it seem like a lot of women in nigeria are driven to men because of money. But that's not the case the majority of the time here in my experience. At least in my group of friends and colleagues.

At the end of the day. We need to put this horrible mentality aside and think reasonably. If you married the spouse of your choosing with a good character. None of this is a problem. Only men who feel they must own and conquer all will view thier wife building a house as a challenge.

My view is they should build the house TOGETHER as husband and wife.

AreaFada2:


My dear, statistics are important, but more important and realistic are the observations we make daily.

Would you dispute that armed robbers serving jail time in Nigeria or USA are overwhelmingly men?

I guess not. Yet you won't have exact statistics comparing male & female armed robbers by heart.

Fact is even in 2016, majority of women marry men who are economically better off than them.

Even the 200level babe dating the 500Level guy has already calculated that the guy will already be likely earning/employed by the time she completes her NYSC.
Many girls openly and unashamedly say that they cannot marry a guy without his own house, a good job/business and a good ride.

Even in the West where it's more common to live in a wife's house (due to many ladies now marrying in their 30s & 40s), the woman can effortless kick the man out of his own house during divorce, let alone when she already owns the house.

Either way, not a good situation for a man to be in.

I need the statistics to your waste facts please. It is nothing more than an opinion. Have you met all the married couples in the world to know thier finances before marriage?

Facts only please. Stop with your sentimentality.

sukkot:
how many men with houses have married women with nothing ? billions of men. how many women with houses have married broke men ? none. CASE CLOSED. LOLZ. you women cant handle success if you have a partner who is less fortunate than you. you cant control your egos

We need more men like you and your father in nigeria! Up your family!

dayojags10:
I don't know what's wrong, especially we YORUBAs.... I see it as no biggie in as much as it won't lead her to giving me some type of attitude. My parents also had dis issue, I heard my mum bought her land before my Dad and she was already thinking of starting foundation.... Before her brother(my uncle) told her to stop working on it as it might raise tension amongst her husband's(my dad) family.... To cut the long story short, my mum joined hand with my dad to build his own house we the kids grew up to live in... Then after some years, some Government agency came around saying the land our property is on is a government owned land... That its either they resell the land to us or they demolish our house. It was really tough that year,but tank God we came out top at the end, my mum later built her own house(which we the kids so much love like ....) And my dad has his. My mum still under my dads roof. The problem why I think its Taboo is cos most of this women out here can't handle success, when their money start stacking up , they start to feel superior and egoism sets in. If my future wife can build her own house before me, its fine. Its more like a motivation for me to hustle even hard

GBAM. Building together as a family, with both having ownership and title.

Mindfulness:
Going by all the comments here, I suggest everyone stays in their house, husband in one, wife in another. This way, nobody can be thrown out.

But wait a moment, why don't they just build a FAMILY HOUSE TOGETHER?



I restrain myself from further comments because I do not feel like offending anyone or everyone here.

But when you build a house will you add you wifes name to the deed? If not then you are guilty of the same thing.

abbey621:
Questions like this one always cracks me up. Firstly, does the husband have a house of his own? If yes then there's no problem living in another one built by the wife. If no, then there are deeper issues that needs resolving. Point #2: While building the house, did the husband know about it? If yes then he surely must have contributed in some way, if no then there are deeper issues that needs resolving. Finally, a woman can build a house, it's not a crime but tradition and culture demands she includes her husband's name on the deed. If the husband is fearful that she might throw him out one day or become unruly, including his name on the deed ensures such a problem is mitigated. All in all, it's a very complicated problem which requires handling with maturity.

GBAM AND GBAM again. Men and thier ego.

Izen:


Should I honestly tell you guys why you are so scared? It is because you make us feel indebted to you for the things you do for us too. So you automatically assume that you would be treated the same way if the case was reversed. Change your views on your woman first, it is then you'll start building your true confidence such that it is not linked to your financial capability and yes, she would respect you all the same. I think this issue has more to do with your ego as men than we being disrespectful as women. The truth is a disrespectful woman is a disrespectful woman whether in your house or in hers. What usually happens in this scenario is that, you pick on things she does that you'd have probably overlooked if it was your house and tag her as starting to be disrespectful. When in the real sense, she was always that way. It is more about insecurity on your part really.