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Rizzputin:
Unfortunately, what you believe and reality is EXTREMELY DIFFERENT.

Women ARE WAY MORE emotional than men. It's not even close.

The fact that you don't realize it is a HUGE part of the reason why men fail with women. I'll be posting another thread soon on Why Women Choose Bad Guys

It's all about emotions. Your logical mind is WRONGLY telling you that somehow women "logically" decided to use emotions to escape accountability.

This is FALSE. It's inherent in her for thousand of years to hate responsibility, facts, data and accountability etc. You can argue all you want, hate it all you want but it's NEVER going to change

What you should do, is LEARN how to navigate their emotions to bring out the best in them and in your relationships with them

Women use emotions to escape accountability and for survival too.

As the world becomes safer for women, they will rely less on emotions for survival.

If you come to this world in 3024, you will understand what I am saying.

Women are emotional when it benefits them and logical when it benefits them.

They are emotional yet the daughter of an industrialist cannot marry a cobbler based at Ajegunle. Why can't she make an emotional decision and marry him.

I agree that men are more logical than women but the difference is not much.

Women and ignorant men keep promoting this emotional bullshit because women for centuries have used that to escape accountability for their actions.

What you call emotions are simply selfish decisions coloured with drama and tantrums.

Hundred years from now, all these emotional rubbish will be history.

faithfull18:
To every action, there's a reaction. You may not always get away with everything.

A significant percentage of married people in the Western world have cheated on their partner. You need to live in such society to understand why.

Anyone that goes for their partner's career because of cheating in the western world is a wicked soul.

dalass:
He wasn't forced to marry her. He could have continued his freelance philandering to be tasting blacks, Indians, whites etc without any marital commitments.

He vowed to be with only that woman, yet he went for adultery at his age. Yet you're here, Mr lawyer defending his promiscuity.

If it had been the woman, you would still blame her. Like how did she even get the diary of the side chick

Men and their double standards

I read the story twice and I had the same strong opinion.
This is plain wickedness.

richiemcgold:
If you have no plan of reconciling with your ex, you should file for a divorce once and for all. The court will determine who gets the custody of the children. If you take your in-laws to the court, it will surely destroy your relationships with them both now and in the future. The contending issue is between you and your ex, except you personally have an axe to grind with your in-laws.

There is no need to file for a divorce in court since they only married traditionally. They can end things on their own.

Take decisions based on your kid's best interest. Access the situation logically and holistically.

2special:
N'Golo Kante needs to wise up

Too late.

luminouz:
All the fucking confidence in the world won't work if you can't provide like the guy who quoted talked of. Especially when she now foots your bills. If you are lucky, she doesn't react and hopes you bounce back. If you are not, well, you'd learn that some women don't care about your struggles, or how you react to adversity. They see provider and non provider and that's it

What modern women primarily care for are RESULTS.

Female empowerment, social media and individualism have taken hypergamy to new highs. Briffault law is real. Confidence while going through the trials of life is absolutely necessary but it wont keep her if you do not get yourself together real fast.

Keeping a woman is about loyalty and commitment not just relationship and sex.

Your struggles, the tales of your struggles and how you are navigating through them, with confidence or not, means little or nothing to your woman. Keep them to yourself if you can. This shit is real. Learn, grow and overcome.

Redpill is here to make your life easier as a man.

You learn the type of women that are worth your time.

You learn that some sacrifices are not necessary

You learn that by default she cares about you, just to the extent to which your presence and influence in her life makes her life better.

FAKE STORY

You created 2 threads the same day. You had a girlfriend in one and a wife in the another.

tgmservice:
What you mean Open Marriage?

I never had cause to suspect her of cheating b4 though
But what she did is unacceptable

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

She has little or no respect for you which mean she is not in love with you.

People stay in marriages for so many reasons. If love and respect is what you desire, then it is simply unavailable.

Marriage is a complex institution and no one can give you a good advice without studying and understanding your marriage holistically.


Is this an open marriage?

Good morning guys.

Can someone tell me how long it currently takes to get an appointment for biometrics after an e-passport application.

Life is not black and white.

Get all the information regarding this situation to enable you to make a better decision.

Before confronting a spouse with any serious issue like this, get your ducks on a roll.

1. Is the second kid yours?

2. Who is the father of the first kid?, Is he alive or dead? Are they still in contact? Is he even aware of the kid?

3. Who else knows?

4. How is my relationship with my wife?

5. Is she a good mother to my kids?

6. Is she fully committed to this marriage?

Life is deep and decisions should be taken to serve your best interest and not what society expects from you.

One thing I have learnt about domestic abuse in the 21st century is that someone somewhere must justify the abuser's actions.

If you are in a relationship and you are 100% confident that you being abused and there is no meaningful solution to the problem, just leave.

There is really no need to create a story and start arguing who is right or wrong.

Somebody somewhere must say you did this or that even though we all know that the primary cause of abuse is normally one party developing a romantic interest in a third party.

Even when that is established, people will still argue that you drove him or her to that person. This is despite the fact that everyone knows that illicit romance is sweet.

Work on it or leave. No long talk, no drama. Feminist will support the female, redpill will support the male, some will comment to catch cruise while your pain remains.

If you are sure that this behaviour of hers was not triggered by you then your wife most likely has a personality disorder.

Read all you can on narcissistic personality disorder and take an informed decision.

Priotize your children's needs in any decision you are taking.

Hang out more often with her like she suggested and pray together as a family too.

Leave your colleague alone. As a man, try as much as possible never to mix business with pleasure.

Always remember that you can never have it all in life.

https://www.nairaland.com/8096159/10-years-marriage-2-kids#130011170

1. They got married 10 years ago.

2. They have 2 kids

3. They relocated to the UK on 13th February 2023. Just him and his wife on a student visa. The kids were left back in Nigeria. The plan was simple, settle in and bring the kids over.

4. They came with a student visa. The wife was the main applicant ( Masters programme).

5. The funds for the masters came from the man's mother. She sold her property to enable her son to study in the UK. The son decided it was better for his wife to study, probably to ensure they settle faster since he will work fulltime and his wife will be busy with studies and the kids when they come over.

6. He got a letter dated 19th March 2024 that he has to leave the UK within 60 days (18 May 2024).

7. This means that the wife had informed the Home Office that she was no longer interested in the marriage.

8. Our guy should be on a plane today or in Nigeria already.

9. I do not know the details of their marriage or the authenticity of this story, I just want to remind everyone here that hypergamy does not care about years of marriage, kids, how elaborate the wedding was or how expensive the vacations were.

10. Once you are deemed useless, actions are initiated immediately to place you where you belong.

Two captains cannot led a ship. They are just wasting their time.

1. Men should marry women that they love and the women should see and acknowledge them as the head of the home.

2. Women should marry men that they respect and look up to.

If you cannot get the above, stay single.

Any marriage based on equality is hell on earth for both parties. They will both be unfulfilled.

Move on with your life.

She double dated for a while and has made her decision.

If God was to open your eyes now to see how you look in front of that girl, you will respect yourself. You are now a complete nuisance to her.

If you ever marry this girl, you will be miserable.

Use this opportunity to RUN before she changes her mind and your family blackmails you into accepting her back.

Good evening guys

Where can I sell my usdt currently. I was using binance previously but the NGN/ USDT pair had been disabled.

sabbiboi:
In a relationship, it is either he is leading or she is leading.

She expects you to lead. The moment the girl in your life starts leading just know that she did not find you a worthy leader for whatever reason. She has also checked out of the relationship mentally which means that you can be replaced if the desired becomes available.

https://www.nairaland.com/8021122/davidos-aide-israel-dmw-curses

Yankee101:
The UK has an elaborate network of cheap underground/rail/bus transportation

There’s no excuse to pick and drop 3 people every day you go to work

Your wife is either a people pleaser or she’s not telling you the whole story. Either way it’s dangerous. Ask her to keep the car and take public transport for a week or two so the dependency stops them she can begin using it again.

There is nothing like people pleaser here. She is committing adultery. Marriage is simple. I ask you a simple straightforward question. You give me a simple straightforward answer. Life continues. Once your spouse starts hesitating to answer, deflecting, postponing or ignoring LOGICAL answers to your simple straightforward questions, be suspicious.

If there are persistent lies, unaccountable hours, phone secrecy and outright disrespect. Your spouse is cheating on you. You do not need any concrete evidence. Marriage is not a union where you need to be a private investigator or a spy. This is a union that should be built on truth, openness and trust. If you ever feel the need to investigate your spouse in a marriage, he or she is most likely cheating on you. You will be called insecure and controlling, just deal with it.

Double0h7:
She doesn’t sound like the smartest tool in the toolbox so she probably getting off on his good looks and swag! Also, I think she’s enjoying her new freedom and independence from op; she’s enjoying the attention she’s getting. People love the new and unfamiliar things.

Op can’t or doesn’t give her the flexing and sexiness she desires instead he’s hoovering over her and dictating what she could do and shouldn’t do. Did you notice the only compliment he gave her is “she knows how to keep a house clean.”

She was never in to op to begin with from the sounds of things, he’s probably the money maker in Nigeria and now he’s a minimum wage African man who is cramping her style. Life is a bitch man!

In summary, she is having sex with other guys. Forget the reason behind her actions. People have sex primarily because of selfish reasons, period. Forget any other reason they use to justify the action.

That is why it is generally advocated that once you are tired of the relationship, leave rather than hurting another human.

DaddyRochie1642:
Chai!!,

So you're telling me that your friend was making promises that he could not fulfill because the sister inlaw's vagina is too sweet abi

Tell that your friend that I Said that he is a foolish idiot.

I am not the op. I suggested a possible answer to your question.

DaddyRochie1642:
You are not telling us the full story, you are deliberately leaving some details out,

I'm sure you asked that your friend with his coconut head why the sister in-law is suddenly threatening to expose their affair, what was the reason for the threat?,

Your friend with his coconut head and the sister in-law with her coconut head continued the affair which shows that they were both enjoying it.

I ask again and give me an accurate answer;
why did the sister in-law with coconut head start threatening to expose the whole thing.

Because he made some promises and can't fulfil them.

tochez24:
Exactly my thoughts... The woman was collecting enough younger dicks in Nigeria and that's why she now has the liberty to do that in her husband's presence in UK.

She even has the guts to seek for her for husbands advice⚠️

Well i will not advise anybody here today, my own today na to just read comments lol

If we advice them to go for Virgins and reserved girls, they will come with all manners of excuses!!!

So oga enjoy your WOMAN😆😅😅

Your marriage is already over for sure.... Just make sure you have a plan B in that UK o because once your wife finds a more stable man, YOU are already back in Nigeria.

The only thing you don't know now is how much time you have got left💯

He mentioned that they have 3 kids together. I do not know whether we should make comments on that or not for now. Should we inform him of the possibility of a deeper issue?

delzbaba:
If a woman continues helping people without being appreciated she will soon stop the help, let her do that in her own time, with the other issues on ground, I feel that is her own way of adapting to a new society, she wants to connect with people apart from her family, I will advice you look for a church where Africans are many so that she can expand her friendship net and forget about those guys , in all be patient and supportive

If you live in the UK, you won't make this statement. People mind their business a lot in that country. You hardly get lifts, No one cooks and takes food to someone else except for business.

Imagine a married woman suddenly becoming an unpaid driver and food vendor despite her husband's disapproval in a country where people hardly pick interest in other people's private lives.

All these are just avenues to collect dicks. More excuses will come. Staff training, night shifts. Etc. What do you think happens when her and the guys are paired to work night shift together.

God help us all.

brain54:
I understand the strict laws there...

But put your foot down.

You haven't stated anything in your post that suggests you do that.

Your wife came to ask your opinion... And you told her you have other things to bother about. When clearly it's an issue bothering you. Don't do that with women. Don't assume they know or should. Speak in clear terms to them.

Always put your foot down... Not necessarily aggressively. Sometimes could be subtle but be firm!

Oga, this is not about putting down any foot. She is actively having sex with either one or both guys and they both know. That is why she disrespects her husband while the guys disrespect her.

She drops him off, enters his room and collects his dick. The guy is all she thinks about throughout work. Share this story with any experienced guy or any sexually active woman above 18 and this will be their conclusion.

He is invisible to his wife and might get into serious trouble with her in future. Husband get a sponsorship first while you keep observing this rubbish situation you have gotten yourself involved in.

JeffArmani234:
My fiancée told me that every time we had misunderstanding, she used to think she made a mistake by not following the other man she doesn’t love to travel abroad, she says at least she would be sending money back home to take care of her family (brothers, father and co) sometimes I think about it and feel she’s just thinking of how to better her family’s life and I feel like it’s not a good sign for a good companion
What do you guys think?

RUN for your life. She was dumped by the abroad guy and she regrets it everyday. She still wish to be with him that is why she still mentions his name around you. That is her thought being expressed in words. Men with experience will understand what I am saying.

You can continue but always remember that she might never be happy with you unless you measure up to a certain standard expected by her. This might not be the kind of relationship you want. You know best.

If this story is real and you marry this girl, your world will change instantly for the worse. If you take her abroad and she gives birth for you, she will drain you physically mentally and emotionally, so much that you will wish for death.

RUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN.

luminouz:
He can still come back so long he hasn't resigned. Hunger doesn't know shame.

He lost it all when he made himself the dependant. Putting yourself first as the man is both literally and figuratively used. Same also happens to men who train their girlfriends through school.

The way women take selfish decisions atimes should be studied as a course in the University. The brutality can be unparalleled, like you never meant anything. You will keep questioning your reality. The man was stranded at the airport for 12hrs confused.

A man in his early 50s was abandoned at a UK airport by his wife last month. The man is a level 16 civil servant in Nigeria. They sold most of their properties to get a COS care Visa for the wife. He and their 2 teenage kids were her dependent.
She simply told him that she has gotten what she wanted and called her uncle who came and pick her and her kids from the airport. The man was left stranded. He did not resign from his job in Nigeria but is too ashamed to go back.