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LatestgistTv:
I don't know what to do bro. If I leave now, then all I've done for her in the past becomes useless.

If this is the main reason why you are sticking to this girl, I will advise you to run away as fast as you can.

Kindly read up the concept "SUNK COST FALLACY" as you are running or whenever you reach a safe distance.

Light999333:
This is the reason Jada pinkett will never respect Will Smith. Subconsciously, she thinks - "why should I respect a man who forgave me for defiling his manhood, why should I respect a man who forgave me for bleeping and sucking another man's dickkk" . This is how she reasons, and she doesn't even know she reasons this way cos it's all happening subconsciously.

I understand your point but the true is that Jada Pinkett never respected Will Smith relationship wise from day one. Jada was addicted to drugs and alcohol even before she bonded with Tupac.

Women like Jada are damaged so much that they have zero regard for whoever they are with. I tell people that even if Tupac was alive and married to her, the story would have been the same.

Avoid damaged women. Run away from women that lack empathy.

MisterMan123456:
Exactly,my guy! What was his intention with all that sponsorship of a stranger if not to chop? He's a loser.

He has been sleeping with her. The reason why he stated that they indulged in romance without penetration is because the girl has seen his private part and can describe it to his wife if she ask for proof.

He should cut her off, apologize to his wife and move on.

Your story is incomplete. You have been sleeping with her. Cut her off. Make up with your wife.

Lesson learnt. Move on with your life.

Momoneymoprob:
Hi brothers. So I’m currently based abroad but did schooling in naija when I was young. I’m currently getting to know this girl in naija from my tribe. I met her when we were young but we were kids she hardly remembers. She is extremely beautiful(and she knows it) smart caring and funny. So far I like what I see and I’m hoping to marry this girl. I’m positive the feelings are mutual, she might even like me more than I do, which is good. However this girl so fine in don blow up her head. She can be disrespectful at times. She cut the call one me once cuz I told her I had to get to work and I didn’t speak to her for three days cuz of that. She called me 50 times to apologize . She also likes to show off the guys giving her attention because of her looks(trying to scare me I guess) never phases me. Petty petty things like that here and there. So recently
She was joking around how she’ll never cook for me, I’m honestly someone that doesn’t mind my wife not cooking everyday and she knows this maybe she was testing me idk. I told her that if she won’t cook and I don’t want to starve I’d have to get a second wife. Since were Muslim she took it seriously eventhough I wasn’t serious, she seemed upset and said she’d get a divorce basically changing the conversation tone from joking to serious. It strikes a nerve cause my parents went through a bad one. I didn’t like that response and said “that’s fine you’re free to do whatever”. She didn’t like my response either and said she was joking but it got awkward fast. We haven’t spoken for three days and she hasn’t reached out. I don’t want to satisfy her ego because it’s already inflated by reaching out. What do you suggest I do? Maintain frame as a man and wait till she comes back? Or swallow your pride and call her

I will advise you to connect with a lady within your vicinity irrespective of tribe or race and date. Marry her if the relationship works out or move on if it does not. The world is now a global village and life is short. You will understand my submission someday.

Pukkalolo:
Very true bro. Women don't like boring guys. I knew a girl who told me she broke up with boyfriend because he was just boring. Females by default don't like boredom. Infact, in this social media age, the average woman tolerance for bordom has reduced dramatically.

Young women of now are days are all about instant gratification, fun and catching cruise; they can't even endure little bordom.

This is why men are more successful than women... even Albert Einstein once said, I quote, "The ability to endure boredom is the ability to succeed."

Ok, seriously... Albert Einstein never said that. But let's just pretend he said that, so the quote will look more powerful...Lolz.

Let's continue,


You're fucking right--- with women, don't be boring guys.

But my issue with the advice, "don't be boring" is that-- it can be easily misunderstood.

Here's what I mean:

I once met a sweet lady who I wanted to woo, but then a buddy of mine told me he likes her and that I should give way for him to game her. I gave way for him to try his luck with her.

When they started interacting, they were really flowing and vibing well. I saw that she was kinda liking him..so I forgot about her and moved on.

About 2 weeks later, I noticed that my buddy and the lady were no longer really flowing well again. Although, they were still talking casually, but that initial great vibe wasn't really there anymore. So I ask him, "dude, what's going on?"

He told me couple of things. In a nutshell, he said she was kinda giving him attitude and she was not giving him the response he wants. Then he encouraged me to go for her if I wanted. I was no longer interested in her anymore. But I just wanted to catch some fun, so I decided to woo her.

About three weeks later or so, I and this lady have become "closer" and things are going great between us, I asked her why things didn't work out between her and my buddy.

She put it bluntly, "Your friend is boring."

(Ok, please no disrespect to my buddy)

I was surprised and confused by her statement...

...because first off, this guy is not a boring person, at least as per my experience with him. This guy can be describe as anything but the adjective 'boring' is out of it. Because even as a guy when I'm interacting with him, I'm always laughing.

Secondly, from the begining when she and the guy started interacting, she was always smiling and laughing to almost anything he said. That was why I thought they were really flowing and vibing well initially.

I asked her, why she feels he's boring. She couldn't give any substantial reasons. Then I ask her if she thinks I'm boring. She's said, "oh common, you're not boring at all... You are a very interesting guy."

Ok, now I was confused more because I don't even see myself as a funny guy. As a matter of fact, when I started interacting with her initially, I wasn't even funny with her. She was not laughing much. There was even a little bit of conflict between us initially. Infant, with this girl, I wasn't even trying to be interesting or trying to make her laugh.

But after some thoughts to it, I realized what she really meant.

Here's it:

A woman might like you because you're funny and not boring, but that doesn't necessarily mean she want to fuvk or date you. Women love male attention. But what women love most is, the attention of a male that's funny and not boring.

This is one reason why women love keeping male friends. Women love the company of male friends who are not boring. Infact I've noticed that, most times, a lady's platonic male friends is always more funnier than the alpha bad boy she's fucking behind the scene. But the alpha bad boy is more bold, cocky and confident than her funny platonic male friend.

When I see statement like "women love funny guys," I always get pissed off.
Yes, it's true, women love funny guys. Apart from women, everyone love funny guys. But I've seen many funny guys who are stuck in a girl's friend zone.

Why is it so?

Because being funny makes a girl's brain tingle, but it doesn't really make her pussy tingle. Puzzling as it might sound, if a girl is getting wet, one way to make her dry up is by trying to funny with her. You might doubt it, but trust me, I know what I am talking about.

The term "women love funny guys" isn't correct. It's suppose be "women love unpredictable guys"

Yes, i know there's some elements of "unpredictability" in humor, because for a joke to be funny, you must not be able to predict how the joke will end.

But you can be funny but still be predictable; which makes you boring. That is why that sweet lady felt my buddy was boring despite the fact that he was funny.

Many Funny guys are lonely romantically. The reason is, when you trying to be funny, it actually a turn off to women because you're tryna impress her. That's what simps do: trying to impress her.

This is why -- a ugly famous "arrogant looking" rapper will naturally get more pussy than a handsome famous comedian. Weird, right?

I, for example, I don't really like it when a girl refers to me as funny guy. It's even better a girl refer to me as cocky guy or proud guy or worse, stubborn guy.

When interacting with a lady, I focus on being unpredictable, not funny.

I don't try to make girls laugh, but I always say or do things that make them become curious and intrigued about me. I don't want a girl to say "Mehn, this guy is too funny"..... instead I want her to say "what's even special about this guy. Is there more to him I don't know of?"

A funny guy can be boring as well. But an unpredictable guy is never boring.

Ok, cut the crap, I'll be real here: I actually do make a women laugh from time to time, but to be frank, there's no direct attempt on my part to make women laugh. Infact, when a lady is laughing to what I said, I might sometimes say, "What's funny in what I just said...I don't get why you're laughing."

But I'll always try to be cocky... Yes, maybe they find my cocky and bold behavior funny.

A Quick real life example, the other day I always walking on the road. There was this hot sexy ass lady walking in front of me. She wore a white top, tight blue jean and a high quality Nike sneakers. No lies, I was actually more attracted to her sneakers than her sexy round shaped ass.

I walked faster so I can catch up with her. When I got to her side, I said, "I love your Nike sneakers....you look very hot on it"

She smiled politely, then she said, "really? Thanks"

Then I said. "But I'm hotter than you and you know it."

She laughed and said, "you're not serious"

I said, "mtcheww....I don't like making sexy girls laugh for free, so ama have to charge you money any time you laugh."

She laughed again and hit me playfully....Our conversation continued as we walked down the road together...

Like I said, I don't attempt to make a woman laugh; I always just focus saying or doing things that make her become curious and intrigued about me, but she still find me funny regardless. And also. she doesn't find me boring.

So as CaveAdullam said, "With women, don't be boring..." But don't try to be the funny guy... Instead try to be the bold, confident and cocky guy. No woman will find a bold and confident guy boring.

More importantly, no woman will find a ambitious, productive and a dream chaser boring. So always focus on improving your life and creating the future you want.

Always start with sex and make sure your personality, physique and dick game are appealing. She will keep redefining the meaning of exciting to accommodate your behaviour.

Ballzproblemm:
their reaction is normal to me ,na their way ,but wetin they pain me na white knights that always jump to this women rescue anytime something like this pops up ,I don't understand their goal ,do you think you will get more coochie abi respect from them ? SMH

Paternity test should be one of the routine test conducted on a child immediately after birth. Every child deserves to know his or her true father. That should be a fundamental human right.

Kipaji:
Always pleased to read these insightful miseducations.

An interesting observation is that preachers do not typically have a great body. Hardly any preacher has 6-pack or is build like a male stripper. Many of them are overweight. So, what draws female to them is completely beyond the physical realm. This is a new dimension of game that needs to be studied. Seriously guys, I would really like to investigate this further.
Even the alpha males and gigolos/strippers/prostitutes/trainers/etc. (for the most part) have to get their body right to excite women and they tend to be more handsome than average. But the pastor? pfff... Even with an average body/looks he slays more chicks (in quantity and quality) than them. What's it about the preacher that makes him so special? What's the basis of his "game"?

They use a combination of confidence, power, manipulation and subtle blackmail to control their congregation and exploit their vulnerability.

A married woman can secretly confess to her pastor that she cheated on her husband to ease her guilt and gain forgiveness from God. The pastor will use that information to subtly blackmail her, make her vulnerable in order to access her purse and pussy.

Based on what I know about Will and Jada (They know the real truth), if I were in Will s shoes the major criteria I will use to hire my divorce law firm will be their history with speedy divorces.

Karlifate:
Breaking up with Will Smith is not even the issue here.

But using her divorce proceeds to hook a younger, hotter guy than WS will kill him.

I foresee that's what gonna happen.

Whoever she hooks up with after the divorce should not be Will Smith business. He should leave that marriage as fast as he can.

flames007:
So you didn't read that they've been dating for three f*cking and planning to wed. If he doesn't know that fact already, then i can guarantee that there are a billion other thing she's hiding from him.

What's there if she tells him?

The guy is dating himself. Relationships are easy to understand, we just keep living in denial to protect ourselves.

NoFucksToGive:
Paddy notice how ladies always seem.to be okay with long distance relationships, then when you tell them you are not into it suddenly their behaviour changes . All the dear they used to call you in chats disappears. All the quick responses to your messages changes.. ling distance relationships is a scam ..

I always tell them point blank sorry I am not into it... As you said it's what they use to live off our resources fooling simps.into believing they are dating someone..

I know a lady who was into about 12 long distance relationships .. 2 were base doutside Nigeria while the other 10 were based in different states around Nigeria. They were all's.endimg her money believing each was her one true love .. they babe never lacked money ,data or call credit .. I know at least 6 of those men who sent her monthly upkeep money of about 30k monthly while the others sent bigger sums but less frequently... She was earning more than most graduate workers .

I knew all this because we were sex mates at the time... But she truly liked me ... I off course was enjoying the fringe benefits of those simps foolery... I never spent a dime of her infact she was always buying me gifts. And stocking food in my fridge. I felt sorry for all those simps indeed.

Anyways I would.bever advise any Nigerian man to enter a long distance relationship with a Nigerian woman.

Cc ubunja

Any guy in a long distance relationship has limited dating options irrespective of the lies he is using to cover up that insecurity.

Olam09:
Thank you.. the best advice I've gotten so far. Others are just fooling around, thinking my post was made up.

Call your fiancee, send the video to her and demand for an explanation. She is not just your girlfriend, she is your wife to be.

If she values you and your relationship with her , she will keep explaining till you calm down. Do not wait for her to bring it up, that is weak. Tackle issues in your relationship on time. Time no dey.

Skepticus:
It may sound weird, but I hope this divorce comes through as I personally love Will Smith like other men. The only problem is that, it is coming late, as he has built a very rich networth so much that the leech, he simped for (for the most part of his adult life) will walk away rich, and getting off with her "perennial "lack of accountability and responsibility", when you consider the highly gynocentric laws he has to deal with, in his country.

At the moment, he is caught between the devil and the deep blue sea, having to either tolerate constant disrespect to himself from his wife and society as a result of his own masculine weakness/wife excesses in order to portray a facade of your typical blue-pilled marriage of " woke/fake"happily ever-afters" or deal with a "financially-brutal" divorce where he stands to lose a lot but getting a chance to keep his sanity and possibly getting "red-pilled".

This is the "Therapy" he needs, not checking into a rehab like mainstream news published, so he can get some respite. I also hope that after this divorce, he gets red-pilled and goes his own way quietly, to avoid more "traps" and "distractions" in the future.

If he had divorced that disgraceful cun.t (in Jada) earlier, he would have had some years to rebuild his net worth, as every typical, competent, career-minded overachiever.

Jada is not up to 5 feet tall. Will Smith is 6 feet 2. To understand how short this girl is, Messi is 5 feet 7. This life sha.

thebosstrevor1:
True talk.

Many marriages in Nigeria are in trouble because of lack of attention and support from their husbands. No wonder, married women quickly fall for anyone that gives them that attention.

Anyway, We can't continue to treat our women as maid or slaves, that is suppose to do everything at home. She is human just like you. Let's grow up

Married women quickly fall for someone else who is giving her attention. That someone is not giving her own girl attention inorder to create time for another man s girl or wife.

The reality is that people get use to what they have and simply want something new and the cycle continues.

If you create room for people that are cheating secretly to marry and raise a family, they will still get tired of one another and start craving for attention somewhere else.

I see most of these things as being immature and selfish. The desire to enjoy life to the fullest without responsibilities.

A woman will divorce her husband for cheating on her and start dating a guy that the wife divorced for cheating on her.

Most ( not all) distance relationships are just 2 people with limited dating options talking to each other.

A limitation primarily caused by ignorance and lack of self awareness.

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DieRich5:
@3, one thing I'll never do in my life is to explain to a girl why I can't buy/pay for dat shit for real, na there see finish Dy start I don't even explain to my homies

Since they were already chatting on Twitter, he should have continued there till she ask for a meeting.

If the girl did not feel your vibes (online) enough to initiate a meeting, keep spinning other plates.

miladelly:
Thank you for lines of insults or words that describes how MENTHOLATED your thinking is.

I won't insult you, NOP, I am very civil & well put together.

Did I specifically say the MAIN reason I broke up with my ex is JUST because He cheated....NOP.

And what if I broke up with my ex because he CHEATED, how does that make you blue or green...
What's you business with how anyone deal with their situation.

I don't only shake my head for you, I pray that your shortcomings will make you remember to ask God for forgiveness with the statement you quoted below.

"If that man played a big role in your relocation with your kids, then I can only shake my head".

If you are given a comprehension & your understanding is that reply is...then woefully, you failed my dear.

You only think a man, must make a woman right? How about women that make men...

You are completely BACKWARD, am trying to put my emotions in check not to insult you, because you are not only FACELESS, you are indeed HEARTLESS.

Hmmmm, I started travelling abroad at age 7.

@ your silly quote again

"if that man played a big role in your relocation with your kids, then I can only shake my head".

You need to be taken to River Jordan to be Washed, Rewashed & then washed away to a destination full of salt...because it obvious your brain need some HCL.

Your head is actually, upside down my dear. Really, I will give you your reply since you refused to think appropriately....

I was not relocated with my kids...I had all 3 of my kids abroad...& what if my parents were the source of the funding the hospital bills, and more....

And what if its even my ex....what's your headache now, imagine taking Panadol for another man's toothache...

Your thinking is just always how if the man did this or that....

Mind you,my children ain't boys... they are men. 21, 19 and 13years...and if they are IN such a forum, with my full chest they will give advice to the person who needed to sort his heart issues out rather than this your useless attack on my person.

Explore my sexuallity at what age....

I am a pretty babe at 45 my dear, very hard working, single for over 10 years.... so its about sexuality exploring again to know if I am into men or women or what exactly is that word Sexuality used in this context?


Gaskiya, you are depressed & take your boxing gloves to the ring.

And by God's grace, for accusing me wrongly.....I leave that to God.

You don't know my personal story, yet you have condemned me, you have become Russia & Putin the Warlord.

I don't blame you at all.

I am a very cool & calm lady, but this Methylated Spirit went too far & I detest bullies, otherwise I would have just let it slide.

You are a bully....PERIODT.

And if you think I will back & forth exchange words here with you....NAY, no be me; emi ko; baa ni ba......am OUT.

oh Mentholated, you really are hot right now.

Cheerios....

Stop being emotional.

OP posted a story of his life and I read it.

You commented and wrote

"This exact situation you are was why I broke up with my ex-husband 10 yrs ago"

I commented based on that and stated that it did not add up and there was more to the story.

Stating a possible scenario if your statement was true.

From your subsequent explanation, your experience and that of OPs were not the same so you should not have used "EXACT SITUATION"

BOTH SITUATIONS ARE DIFFERENT.

Have a wonderful life.

miladelly:
Hmmmmm, pls & pls, you just have to let that girl go. Don't be in the situation where my ex is now with I & the kids, please I beg you.

Am not going to condemn you, I understand how SATAN sweetly will use women as Carrots & dangle to a man's face.

This exact situation you are was why I broke up with my ex husband about 10 years ago.

I was shuttling back & forth abroad because the kids reside abroad, eventually I stayed back so I could get my Citizenship.

In summary, how can your poor wife & kids be in a country where the weather is Extremely cold, Rain splash on & on, and she busy running the house as a man on your behalf...���

Come one, don't be silly, otherwise, you have a lot to loose on the long run.

You need to see how I repackaged my life & how well my 3 children are doing, by the way I am mummy Boys.. my first is 21 and me 45.

Their dad bites his fingers, every day & regrets his actions regardless, I forgave him & moved on but the situation he is currently having no woman or children to relate to is SAD....

Have you received your Irish Citizenship, since you mentioned she is in Ireland. If you haven't, then you are not smart...because thats what you should be focused on.

And if you have your Irish Citizenship, have you thought of buying a house in Ireland or better still invest over their.

I understand if you are like some who don't like to live abroad, nevertheless, your wife doesn't deserve to be cheated on for her to be playing both roles ain't easy.

I didn’t want to comment, but my spirit discerned me maybe my comment will help you.

Moreover, you are 39 years, you better reverse your brain back, otherwise old age won't be easy especially when the kids would be in support of their mum. Come and ask me more....

Listen well, don't fight with this girl, communicate with her sensibly & tell her ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. you are not ready to father a child outside & you are not ready to sin against your own mother whose prayers thus has bought you this far.

If not for mother's prayers most of you men will not be alive with some of the wahala you use your hands to look for.

As a mother of boys, I gist with my kids one on one or collectively and tell them, when one girl friend is introduced to me, then no one should come forward again, they reply, why will I have to bring another girlfriend to you maama.

I strictly turn my face to them, because if you bring another GF, trust me, I will tell her one has been here before & moreover me your maama will not be stupid knowing you want to be changing babes anyhow. I then say, don't dare cheat on your wives o, otherwise I will disown you....

This boys have seen how their dad lived his life, its such a blessing to see that they know by God's grace they shouldn't tread the paths their dad went.

Finally, again, nitori awon omo, nitori adura iya & ti iyawo gbagbe omo obirin yen � � � I plead with you as a brother.

Thank you.

There is more to this story.

You broke up with your ex- husband and the father of your 3 boys, 10 yrs ago because he cheated on you even though you stay at 2 different continents.

Nawa oooo.

If that man played a big role in your relocation with your kids, then I can only shake my head.

Unless there is a deeper explanation to this scenario, you just used and dumped that man

You got three kids from him, you have money to travel to and fro, he needed to be gotten rid of so you can explore your sexuality

Poor man

I do not know your personal story but this does not add up.

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Ponzi schemes alway involve people cajoling you to make money. How can humans be chasing you around to make money .

The same person will not give you a job or link you to a good business.

YOU ARE THE PRODUCT in ponzi schemes.

People need you to cash out.

Open your eyes

Godoverevery:
The question is why drop it now after the break up??

Why didn't she break up and report him when he was abusive

Why is it always happening to rich and successful men only

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Alvanbenjamin:
Good morning everyone.
Please I had a shop I was making use of till I gained admission 8nto the university and still paid for the shop without use for over 2 years...
After the pandemic in 2020, I decided to rent the shop out cause I was seriously affected and was already in my final year... I paid two years rent for the shop, running from February 2021to January 2023. Then I got a letter about rent increase, few months it was followed by the court order...

Please is this right? What should I do ?
The first picture is the receipt I was issued after payment, the 2nd is the increase letter and then the one sent from the court.

Why did you cover the total sum of rent you paid for the shop for 2 yrs while showing us that your landlord increased your rent to 13,000 monthly?

I am guessing that you were collecting 13,000 or more monthly from the guy you gave the shop to.

You might have opened another shop you are managing elsewhere and was simply using this one to be making 5000 monthly.

Blood covenant and the likes are just social constructs created by humans out of fear to enhance security in a relationship.

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DEMZEE:
Your mom is the only female that loves u for who you are and also loves u conditionally (because it's part of the female nature) at the same time

No female is capable of loving any man for who he is. They all love opportunistically.

Mothers abort millions of their babies annually. Have we asked ourselves why?

Kids are just assest for companionship and security.

If your parents were 100% sure you won't provide that, they will find a way to make you disappear.

ALL relationships in life are TRANSACTIONAL.

Humans simply do not want to deal with the fact that we live in a cold world.

I get surprised when men stay in unhappy marriages because of their kids. It does not make sense at all.

I am happily married but if I have to divorce my wife, I will make sure the kids stay with her. I will resist every effort to keep anyone of them.

The hardest part of marriage is raising children. Why will someone want to struggle for that responsibility. Live your life and visit from time to time.

AKALAMAGBO:
Good afternoon everyone!!! I got to Birmingham last night.

Mandatorily, I will have my day 2 test on Thursday and I hope I test negative so I can have access to things and be able to move around.

While at that, I would be needing your help (information) as to how I can secure an employment before my school resume, I think I might be busy during school period, I wouldn’t want anything to affect my primary assignment in the UK. I mean, what website do I need to visit, how do I go about it? I just need some temporary jobs to keep the body and soul together, I wouldn’t want to just sit at home.

Please advice…

Thanks

Must the day 2 test be on day 2? I thought the rule is ON OR BEFORE DAY 2? So one can do the test at the airport on arrival.

Good evening all

In all our redpilling and simping, always remember that there are humans, both males and females that genuinely need help. People are really suffering in this world.

If you are privileged or can render help to someone in need, please do.

Let's all have human feelings.

A lot of people are manipulative simply to survive. Please help whenever you can.

This life no balance.