₦airaland Forum

Omoawoke:
Good, leave relationship for girls who want to be cared for, who want to be gotten flowers and taken on vacation

Yes, good girls are enjoying all these not girls behaving like maniacs hopping from one gbola to another..

Good girls are having peaceful homes and building healthy families… I know lots of good girls enjoying the best of relationships

Many of the "bad girls" you refer to are actually flaunting luxurious gifts on social media.

I don't understand why people get so triggered by others' experiences. Why is there such a strong desire to silence the truth and hide reality?

Sometimes feelings can be misleading. If life were presented as it truly is, more people would make better decisions.

The fact is, both "good" and "bad" girls can suffer if they choose the wrong partner.

Omoawoke:
Who’s ranting

Check the advice you are dishing out, does it sound reasonable to you, the fact that you haven’t enjoyed a responsible and loving relationship doesn’t mean you should project that on others

You want to preach being a pain to men by projecting a false delusion that loving girls suffer..

No madam, please keep that toxicity and negativity to yourself. Good girls are having stable and loving relationships.

You’re quick to project instead of understand. This is post is about someone expressing deep frustration, not preaching negativity. If her truth makes you uncomfortable, maybe look inward instead of dismissing her pain with false moral superiority.

See comments 😂. A wise woman would prioritize being financially independent before marriage because marriage can limit women.

Omoawoke:
Na this kind dumb statement dem they use lead innocent girls astray

Girls with poor upbringing that came from broken homes or homes without love are the ones preaching this nonsense…
If you like, start giving your men troubles, you will learn the hard way

If you don't project, you won't feel good about yourself. Keep ranting.

jaxxy:
She was a virgin in the village not city. Also She has no discipline like he thought.

It doesn't matter if she was a virgin in the village. Are there not human beings in the village?

The truth is, virginity kept for validation, not conviction, is just delayed confusion. Any discipline practiced for external praise is bound to fail under pressure.

Many virgins hold out, expecting a fairytale, only to realize that marriage isn’t magic. Expectations ruin more than temptation ever could.

Some men treat their wives like donkeys; just piling burdening on them and denying them true value. They assume that rendering them unproductive will tame them.

There’s no clear evidence she’s sexually involved. She might simply be handling her boredom the wrong way.

Nonexisting1:
A woman will light a match and when the fire starts, she will cry and blame the man for the same fire she started. Oya, go and be giving your husband small BP and less peace like you said, we will see who will first go hospital.

Many women can endure hardship and tolerate a lot of the tantrums men throw. But physical violence and infidelity? Those are deal breakers for most.

You are not showing any kind gesture, yet you are violent. You will learn a lesson. Haven’t you seen men who come online throwing tantrums because their wives left without saying a word? Or those whose wives secretly applied for a visa and flew out of the country without any prior notice?

Nonexisting1:
So he went about bragging about his wife is now the problem? You want him to go about painting her bad instead? What is it that women actually want? By the way, what is so important about her 30th birthday and is she the only person to reach 30? What did she buy for her husband's own birthday or he doesn't have a birth date.🤔

Isn’t it ironic that the very reason a caring woman argues or complains is because she cares; and yet, that's what triggers some people to be violent?

People like you deserve emotionally detached women; those who are unconcerned and not invested in you. The kind who would praise you even when you're headed in the wrong direction, while focusing solely on their own personal growth.

Women often give their all in relationships. They care deeply, make sacrifices, and invest their emotions completely. Some women would even be content living in a hut with a man they love. But a wise man understands that relationships require mutual affection. He would never take a woman’s love and sacrifices for granted. Even the smallest gesture of appreciation can make a woman feel valued and strengthen her love.

Firebox123:
if Dominique mynd44 seun or any mods push this post to frontpage

Make sure they delete my nairaland account along to avoid problems

I'll provide proof and evidence where you see the post on Facebook

No be person anonymous message you com copy and paste it here

Experiences are shared so others can learn.

Sometimes, the truth just doesn’t fit the fairytale you’re holding onto.

Not every story is fake just because it makes you uncomfortable. I don’t know if this exact story is real. But I’ve heard enough like it to know: It happens.

Ask some women why they’re still virgins, and you’ll hear: "Because my husband will cherish me."

But what happens when the one expecting to be cherished… Becomes the one doing all the cherishing?

Let’s be honest: The men who truly value women aren’t obsessed with virginity. The loudest ones are often insecure, or just looking for a slave with a moral certificate.

It’s funny how virginity is overhyped, Yet non-virgins can brag about gifts like G-Wagons, Lamborghinis, and houses in Ikoyi...

But virgins?
They get endurance.
And bragging rights; for their husbands.

A pure show of strength, and a lifetime performance just to prove her worth.

You’ll hear: "I married my wife a virgin. She’s so strong. She cooks five meals a day, cleans, wakes up at 5am, sleeps at midnight. She is so homely and reserved..."

Just endless praise. Where is the reward promised in the advertisements?

Virginity doesn’t need misleading ads or empty hype. And there’s no need to divide women into virgins and non-virgins. Let women breathe. Simple.

Go to Church and pray for her. That man must have charmed her, this is clearly the work of the devil.

jaxxy:
i explained it already if u read my points properly. Virginity counts as discipline ony when it is kept in the midst of or despite numerous temptations not when kept in isolation. She may not even value her Virginity she just didn't see the right opportunity.

She just didn’t see the right opportunity 😂

Did he say he married a ten-year-old?

The fairytales probably didn't come true; unmet expectations. I have explained several times that misleading advertisements can attract misled buyers.

Nonexisting1:
A woman will light a match and when the fire starts, she will cry and blame the man for the same fire she started. Oya, go and be giving your husband small BP and less peace like you said, we will see who will first go hospital.

You don't get it because you're no different from him; you’re clearly a user just like he is. He has a good wife, but he refuses to reciprocate by being a good husband. It's her thirtieth birthday, for God's sake! He can't just go around bragging about her efforts. He could have shown he cares by simply buying her something, even if it wasn’t expensive.

My husband brags to his friends how am a strong woman and how I have been with him since he had nothing till now he still has nothing but he shamelessly tells them how i can endure anything.

Meanwhile this his friends don’t treat their wife like he does yet he cant learn from them. I’ve been keeping quiet but today broke the camels back.

Today is my 30th birthday and all my husband could do is post happy birthday Iron Lady on WhatsApp and facebook.

All this because i try to be patient with him or not nag him. Now i believe why is important to give men small High BP and less peace of mind so they can sit up because being an understanding wife only makes them relax and leads to this type of treatment meanwhile the wicked women are steady enjoying their home

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/17MBgNkKgP/

(Not my story. Came across this and it really hit me. What do you think?)

[quote author=kcprince post=136005898]The system is flawed. Pray never to need Nigerian state fire, health , police , judiciary in your life journey . They will mess you up

Celestialsword:
Yes, within a short time from now, Nigerians will take their fate in their hands.

It will now be government of Nigerians for Nigerians.

Amen. May this new chapter come sooner than we think.

This is how you know Nigeria is a failed country; not even one system is functioning properly.

Will there ever come a time in Nigeria when the cries of the citizens will reach the ears of the government, and the government will stop claiming they were unaware of the people's pain?

Uniform without reform is just costume. And in this country, the performance is always tragic.

My car was recently involved in a serious accident. It veered off the road and was completely destroyed. By some miracle, no lives were lost; only minor injuries were sustained. But what happened afterward revealed a deeper rot in our system than the accident itself.

Less than an hour after the crash, policemen arrived; not to check on the victims, not to secure the scene, and certainly not to help. Their only concern was towing the car to their station, even though:

• The car was off the road and not obstructing traffic.

• A towing vehicle had already been called and was on its way.

• Victims were still being treated at the scene.

They didn’t care. They were focused on one thing: extorting money.

Despite being told the accident had just occurred and that help was already on the way, they insisted on towing the car.

By the time my mum arrived, they had already taken money and were still demanding more. They only backed off after she put a call through to her brother; a senior officer. Until then, they had shown no compassion, no patience, and no understanding of the situation.

And then there was the hospital.

One woman was visibly bleeding, yet the staff barely treated her. They didn’t examine her properly, left her wound exposed, and hardly even cleaned it. And despite this lack of basic care, they still demanded payment.

Is this what it means to be a citizen in this country?

Our police force meant to protect lives and property; now specializes in harassment and exploitation.
Hospitals meant to save lives; treat people like numbers, or worse, like burdens.
And the average Nigerian is left to fend for themselves at their most vulnerable.

I remember being in a minor accident in the UK; not a scratch on anyone and the police kept asking, “Are you okay? Do you need medical attention?” That is what duty and humanity should look like.

Here, you're lucky to survive the accident. But surviving the system; that’s the real miracle.

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bukatyne:
Marriage was designed for the benefit of men.

According to the Bible, God said it is not good for a man to be alone & created a woman. So naturally, women bring more to the 'table' ( to mirror the OP).

The ask is that men bring something commensurate; 40% will do.

Nice write-up but this is not totally right.

Reality3080:
in your own family abi?

The reason y I said d question is dumb is that many factors are attached to it

It's juts like saying who breathes most betweeñ man n woman?

U have to consider weight, health, obesity, breathing problems n co n it varies from individuals to individuals

So the same thing applies to your question

Calling facts dumb won’t cancel them; it just shows your own inability to face them.

Saying ‘it varies’ doesn’t cancel the fact that women are often the backbone across board. That’s like saying poverty isn’t real because some people are rich.

Reality3080:
which kind of dumb question is this

It depends on d family now

While men are often praised for income, women quietly carry both the home and the hustle. And still, they’re expected to submit, even when they’re the ones holding everything together.

Zonefree:
What do they bring to the table?

Women don’t just bring something to the table; many times, they are the table.

They bring emotional intelligence, resilience, vision, and daily sacrifices that keep families and society going.

In my opinion, Nigerian women bring more to the table

Kobojunkie:
Do you at least accept that the one brandishing the foolishness I am to walk away from here is your person?

I can't argue with a shadow. If my acceptance will make you feel justified, I accept, you are right and I am wrong.

A man who calls the mirror ugly walks away unchanged.

Be blessed!

Kobojunkie:
Walk away from what? Try to pay close attention to the advise given to gain understanding rather than these attempts at imposing ideas different from the contained message.

Yes, walk away, is there a problem? Proverb 14:7 TLV.

Understanding comes when we seek truth with an open heart, not by engaging in discussions that lack intellectual or Spiritual nourishment. May the good God heal you. Be Blessed.

Kobojunkie:
Pay close attention to what that message is infact trying to teach you.

Okay, sweetie, I get you; but when the Word says walk away, who am I to argue? Proverbs 14:7. Be blessed.

Kobojunkie:
1. What you seek from these theologians isn't truth, but rather you want them to validate your own ideas, which is likely never going to happen, particularly since submission is considered a core tenet of the religion you belong to.

2. The foolish one here happens to be you, the one seeking validation from others, your theologians, as far as what to believe.

Proverb 1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:

suckprick:
If it's a punishment. Then stay single all your life this girl!!. Marriage no be by force. Avoid the punishment.

Fortunately, it’s not only your type of men that exist. With the kind of men I date and surround myself with, I doubt I’ll end up with rubbish as a husband.

No other generation of women should be led by fear and misinterpreted Scriptures. If the truth stings, sit with it. It’s supposed to.

You’re probably one of those whose control depends on the ignorance of women. You’re scared of the truth because it will break that leash you’ve got going.

Kobojunkie:
This isn't about me or my grievances, but the fact that you, a Christian, are attempting to argue against a theological doctrine— wholly religious with no biblical origin whatsoever— while at the same time insisting the answers must come from the very same people who hold and propagate the very idea you are against. It is a sort of mental laziness... is what it seems.

You call it lazy to seek the truth. But Proverbs 18:2 says, 'A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.