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Dogalmighty17:
Spot on. Nothing more can be said.

Of course, it perfectly reasonates with your wisdom

njokuuche77:
This resonates. Men are rarely given grace in their lowest moments, so self-development and self-respect become non-negotiable. Clarity beats complaint.

Wow, amazing logic. Women are always given grace in their lowest moments, so self-development and self-respect aren't necessary for women, right? Clap for yourself.

marlow1962:
A bad wife is an untreatable cancer. Best to avoid it at first.

A bad man is an oxygen, right. Best to inhale it.

Dtruthspeaker:
When I say that women are say tas agents men think it is a joke and like say yta, they hate men, yet they carry on as if they too hate their lives

Why do so many of you love playing the victim and blaming women for everything? Women don't hate men, and women aren't your problems; your imagination and unnecessary jealousy are simply eating away at some of you.

bentenny:
How can i like this more than a thousand times?

Why you no like am more than one billion times? Just continue dey rub your ego with fiction.

oyeb15:
When a man makes money,he believes he needs more women but when a woman makes money,she believes she need no man.

The moment your wife get richer and greater than you, then u are gone.

I get you, bro. Success is being greater and richer than your wife. No need to work hard or focus on your own progress, just keep monitoring hers.

Your wife's achievements must never surpass yours o. Pursue her, race her, chew on her every move, and limit her at all cost. She is your competition. Once you defeat her, you have defeated success. Good luck, bro.

lenghtinny:
No be today yansh dey for back

Na today I discover say men yansh dey front.

alphaconde:
How gender equality doesnt distribute life torture equally

No, it doesn't. Women are simply patted on the back and fed daily.

donleo92:
The worst thing that can happen to a man is if you fall with the wrong woman......


Na suicide.

It's even better to rise with the wrong woman, than to fall with the wrong woman,

As a man, how to overcome a wrong wife, is to always have money more than her.

But marrying the wrong man is long life with enjoyment for women, right🙄?

Whether you rise or fall with the wrong man, it won't matter, the only easy way to overcome such is to just avoid marrying such at all.

vdestro:
You know the craziest part of it? It is that he is mocked and ridiculed by his fellow men and not just by women, alone.

Then when the tables turn, it is still men who do the excuses and sympathies for a woman. You will hear leave am now, na woman she be.

One would expect an adult to be able to tell the difference between being overlooked and being sympathized with. Who needs such useless sympathies? Na woman, so she suppose no make am in life, right?

GrammarNazi1:
May we never fall.

We must create value.

Men are expected to create value, while women are expected to do nothing and just be valueless, right?

Kalatium:
Its a hard world for a man.

It is a very easy world for women. Money grows on trees for women.

Dpsychologist:
Let’s stop pretending this isn’t happening.

When a man is struggling financially, society mocks him. When a man has erectile issues, he’s ridiculed and written off. When a man falls, people don’t ask why, they mock and move on.

But when the tables turn?
Excuses appear. Sympathy flows. Accountability disappears. This isn’t bitterness. It’s pattern recognition.

Men are expected to be strong before they’re allowed to be loved. Women are often loved while they’re still figuring things out. That’s the reality many men learn the hard way.

So here’s the practical takeaway no emotions, just execution:

1. Build value: financially, mentally, physically. Nobody respects what isn’t solid.
2. Set standards: stop accepting imbalance and calling it love.
3. Demand reciprocity: effort, respect, contribution or walk.
4. Protect your dignity: your lowest moments will not be met with mercy.

As a man, no one is coming to save you. No one will cushion your fall. And no one will hesitate to judge you when you’re down. That doesn’t make life unfair it makes it clear.

So take responsibility for your growth.
Guard your peace.
Choose wisely.
And never outsource your self-worth to anyone.

Compliments of the season.

When a guy reasons this way, try to find out more about his female relatives. It is usually a guy who is the main provider, with all the females in his family relying on him, who thinks like this.

A guy whose sisters are independent or have good careers would hardly think this way.

Sandralight:
100k at the moment.
I need to travel for a life changing opportunity

What kind of 100k travel would change your life? Anyway, send your account details and I will give you part of it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLSPiWzfXX8

What scientists say doesn’t matter to me, Jesus already gave me enough reasons to believe in Him. Science often works with its own agenda; it's not fully reliable and cannot always be trusted.

I've also come to realize that many atheists choose very firmly not to believe in God, even when there are signs pointing to His existence. When I share my extraordinary experiences, I often face skepticism especially from atheist friends. But recently, something happened: something so clear and undeniable to the natural eye that even an atheist who witnessed it struggled to explain it.

When I asked him what he thought, he said, 'Someone can just be naturally gifted." But if science can't explain that gift either, then where do these abilities really come from? Some atheists will say anything just to justify the idea that there is no God.

I don't rely on hearsay or the exaggerated stories that circulate on the internet; I hold on to real-life experiences. Some of my experiences are too personal to share online. I am completely convinced that God exists, and no one can convince me otherwise.

Science is incredible at explaining how the natural world works but what about experiences that clearly go beyond the natural? I respect science and value evidence-based reasoning. But there are certainly extraordinary things; both good and bad that science has no explanation for.

People just need to open their mind to the possibility that reality is far bigger and stranger than we currently understand.

If you believe special abilities or experiences are "just natural gifts," then I ask: where do these gifts come from? The universe? For me, this all points to something greater than chance; something real, personal, and powerful. A higher power. I call Him God.

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Mariangeles:
I've always felt African women marrying white men, and going to live with them in their country is a huge risk.
You cannot predict white people.

Some women, simply ignore red flags in foreign citizens, some just marry any white man who comes their way.

There are good white men. Every country has both good and bad people.

Sonnobax15:

Business should always be treated as business..... She's your colleague at work and you ought to treat her as one......

Na like this see-finish take dey start, especially when the familiarity don too much....

Exactly. Thank you.

SALTandFIRE:
It's good to see threads that give false hope, after all we all deserve some hope.
Anything above 28 years old... Just know 30 will come. And no twins is coming.

Do your best to live a morally balanced life and pick the right spouse at the right age

How come the 30+ women around you are suddenly hitting menopause, becoming barren or struggling with infertility?

Don't worry; I can let you witness your 'impossible' happening on repeat. I can start sending you invites to my 30+ friends' and acquaintances' baby showers.

And please, heal privately. Your fear of aging and obsession with timelines isn't a burden others have to bear.

uchkochi:
Modern Women Want Protection—But Call It Control

Let’s stop sugarcoating:

She wants a shield—
But not a sword.

She wants you to defend her—
But never direct her.

She wants the benefits of male leadership
Without the burden of female submission.

In her eyes, you’re protective when you’re useful—
And controlling when you’re corrective.

Let’s break it down.

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1. Modern Women Want the Castle—But Refuse the King’s Rules

She wants your provision.
Your security.
Your muscle.
Your money.

But the moment you say,
“Don’t wear that,”
“Don’t talk to him,”
“Don’t post that online,”—

You’re suddenly toxic.

Not because you’re wrong…
But because she wants coverage without correction.

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2. She Cries “Control” When She’s Actually Losing Access

Watch closely:

She doesn’t call it “control” when you pay her bills.
She doesn’t say “abuse” when you finance her lifestyle.
She doesn’t post TikToks about “narcissists” when you protect her from other men.

But the moment you demand discipline?

You’re a red flag.

Modern women don’t hate control.
They hate being told no.

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3. Leadership Is Only Respected When It’s Silent

She’ll call you “insecure” if you express caution.
She’ll call you “jealous” if you ask for exclusivity.
She’ll call you “misogynist” if you expect submission.

Because modern women weren’t raised to follow—
They were raised to challenge everything.

To them, leadership isn’t love—it’s a threat to their autonomy.

So unless you lead from behind a wallet,
You’re the enemy.

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4. You Can’t Break a Rebellious Woman—Only Postpone Her Explosion

You think you’re softening her.
You think you’re reforming her.

You’re not.

She’s just acting obedient until her nature kicks back in.

Modern rebellion wears lipstick.
It smiles at your mom.
It kneels at the altar.
But it never bows in spirit.

And the moment life gets hard?
She’ll remind you she’s “not the one to control.”

Because she never surrendered.

She only camouflaged.

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5. Men Aren’t Trying to Control You—They’re Trying to Save You

He’s not trying to ruin your life.

He’s trying to save you from yourself.

He sees the red flags you call personality.
He sees the chaos you call independence.
He sees the recklessness you call freedom.

But when he tries to steer?

You throw a tantrum.

Modern women don’t want husbands.
They want lifeguards who never complain when they keep diving into danger.

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6. “Equality” Is Her Excuse to Escape Responsibility

She wants an “equal partner”…
Until it’s time to split the bills,
Submit to his vision,
Or sacrifice her lifestyle.

Then suddenly?

She wants to be “protected,”
“Prioritized,”
And “provided for.”

Modern equality is not a system.

It’s a strategy.

A woman who truly wants equality wouldn’t demand royalty while giving roommate energy.

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Final Word

A woman who calls your leadership control
Will never respect your sacrifice.

Because in her mind?
Protection is free.
Provision is expected.
And leadership is offensive—unless she’s the one doing it.

So here’s the cold truth:

If your leadership only counts when it’s convenient for her—
You’re not in a relationship.
You’re in a trap.

A woman who doesn’t respect masculine protection
Will never value masculine direction.

And the moment your leadership requires her to change?

She’ll call it control—
And turn you into the villain.

Choose wisely.

Because modern women love to be covered…

But not corrected.

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You keep making posts like this; who hurt you? Stop generalizing an entire gender based on your bad experiences.

I just hope she didn't follow the ridiculous advice to marry him.

Fineman2:
I will advice her to be submissive

What is really going on here? One red flag commented, 255 more waved.

BluntCrazeMan:
Topic is about virgins.

Forget the topic; it is pointless anyway. At least you might gain something from my advice.

BluntCrazeMan:
Fibroids usually affect virgins very well..
Especially when the virgin starts getting advanced in age.

So, what concerns Low-Sperm Count with marrying virgins?

..

(Because I can see that you didn't understand what I wrote up there,, and why I wrote it.)

I am just reminding you that low sperm count affects men.

Fibroids are not determined by sexual history; they can affect any woman of reproductive age.

BluntCrazeMan:
Always remember that there is something called “Fibroids”..

Always remember that there is also something called "low sperm count."

Some people love to panic about "fertility disappearing" at 30.

Reality check:

Age 30-34: Don't worry about infertility; it's very unlikely. Some women might just need a few tries to conceive naturally within 12 months. The chance of fraternal twins is higher in this age group because the ovaries might release multiple eggs.

Age 35-39: Fertility is slower than in the early 30s, but conception is still very possible, and the likelihood of fraternal twins remains higher than women in their 20s. Not even up to 20% of women in this age group face infertility issues.

Women in their thirties are more likely to have twins than women in their twenties.

Nonexisting1:
If you go into marriage hoping not to suffer then you will be disappointed. Even if there is money everywhere, sleepless nights over children, running in and out hospitals over their matter, arguments, pregnancies and having to make decisions that will affect the entire household and shape the future of everyone in it is enough suffering. People think suffering is all about money. Poor people mentality and I mean poor in mindset, not poor in pockets.

Your points are valid; marriage definitely comes with challenges and sacrifices, but I wouldn't call that suffering. It sounds more like responsibility.

Sleepless nights, raising kids, tough decisions, and even disagreements are all part of building something meaningful together. It only becomes suffering when there is no mutual support, understanding, or respect.

I might do other crazy things for love, but I'm not a fan of tattoo.

NAC1666:
Am a living testimony.
Ladies should learn to close there legs. I respect my woman for keeping her self till marriage. A proud of her.

It takes two to tango. Guys should also learn to keep their pants on.

Seriously, stop pulling down your pants like you are allergic to dignity.

You should have done the same, maybe by now, she would be giving a testimony about you too, and respecting you for that.

Yes, it can work, but fifteen years is kind of a lot at that stage of life, something like 5 or 7 years tends to feel more natural since priorities and energy align better.

Jumbojax:
I don't do research cause I don't need any research to understand God's word. Faith takes God at His word instead of doing mental gymnastics to make it say what you want it to say.
I'm not gonna regard your half assed work cause you only delivered half of what was asked and 50% pass is fail to most people.
The NKJV has scores of verses omited and you won't agree that was done for sinister reasons, so no point in that.

Back to the main reason I mentioned you.
It may not be that she was an unmarried non-virgin that Jesus instructed her not to touch him, it may be she was just menstruating. And a menstruating woman is unclean according to the law.
Leviticus 15:19 And if a woman have an issue, and her issue in her flesh be blood, she shall be put apart seven days: and whosoever toucheth her shall be unclean until the even.

Jesus needing to obey the whole law for all who would believe in Him alone for heaven, couldn't be found wanting especially before presenting His perfect sacrifice to the Father.
That's why even the woman with the issue of blood only touched the hem of His garments, and He still felt power leave Him. If she touched His body that would have been enough to fail the mission He came to do on earth. As I said before, we don't condemn non-virgin unmarried women but their are consequences in THIS life for Sins and if she's a believer she cannot go to hell for her sins

Let's be real: Jesus wasn't bound by ritual laws like the religious leaders wanted. He fulfilled the law, yes, but not through legalism. He fulfilled it by walking in perfect love, grace, and truth. Your logic and interpretation misses that completely.

If Jesus had truly been bound by ritualistic impurity, He wouldn't have allowed contact with sinners and those society labeled "unclean" He wasn't a slave to the old covenant's ritual laws. He came to fulfill the law and show the way of grace and mercy.

Jesus' holiness is not some distant, untouchable purity; but a powerful, compassionate presence that transforms uncleanness into healing and forgiveness.

Jesus wasn't a fragile religious figure afraid of getting dirty. He didn’t fear being touched by the unclean; He restored them. He didn't avoid or condemn those considered unclean; He embraced them. That alone should show you how off base your judgmental mindset is. In fact, He challenged exactly the kind of toxic thinking you are pushing.

You are using Scripture to shame people. Jesus used Scripture to restore them. Big difference.

You are not practicing Christianity. Christianity is different from Judaism. Even Judaism; you are not practicing it well; you are just selecting laws that align with your perspective. I bet you can't keep half of Judaism's laws. I have lived among Jewish people and have Jewish friends. Jews follow 600+ laws, pray several times daily, do rituals for many occasions, and recite prayers regularly, such as blessings during the hand washing ritual before meals, after using the toilet, before bedtime, and so on. Many Jews even discourage conversion unless you are truly ready. According to Judaism, Jewish laws are not meant for non-Jews; you are mainly encouraged to follow the 7 Noahide laws; that is what pertains to non-Jews.

Ritual laws like menstrual impurity belonged to the old covenant and don't apply under grace. Jesus even allowing a leper to touch Him, which was forbidden by law, says it all.

God disciplines believers to help them grow, but this discipline is not punishment for sins that have been confessed and forgiven. In Christ, by grace, God does not just forgive sins; He completely wipes them away, as if they never happened. Hebrews 8:12 tells us that God 'forgets' sins. This means forgiven sins no longer bring divine punishment or condemnation. Romans 8:1 confirms, 'There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.' God does not punish people for sins they have truly confessed and been forgiven for. God forgives, redeems, and can even empower the worst sinners to become great men and women of God.

You can choose to stick to your traditional beliefs; that's fine. But I choose truth and grace.

If even a few people reading this, especially those who have held views like yours but are open to learning, get my point, that's enough. I have made my explanation clear.