It may get worst by the day and with time because the Nigerian girls that we think are copying these from the western folks even practice it more than them,the only thing they knows how to copy and emulate very fast are the bad ones,they don't ever see the good ones to copy from them other than unclothedness and feminism.

delectablegyal:
I doubt if there is any relationship without sex these days. Even the media is not helping in anyway to curb pre-marital sex instead, they are enhancing it. Can you think of any music video that doesn't display obscene scenes? I doubt. Ladies shaking their buttocks, showing ladies taking bath in the bathroom, ladies putting on mosquito net calling it fashion. Look at that girl in iyanya's okamfo video, she is somebody's future wife.


Almost everywhere you go, you can't do without seeing these half unclad ladies. Even inside b.r.t, u ll see a screen playing fans mi by davido, real mvp by olamide, b.r.t that is for both adults and children. Will u now cover your ward's eyes? Saying "don't watch it, too many half unclad ladies inside".


What's the way forward? How can pre-marital sex be curbed?

HE WHO HAS EAR LET HIM HEAR, I DON TALK MY OWN OH

jasysandra:


Talking about Ogboni, what do you even know about the group? You just make comparisons anyhow and say whatever comes to your mind. . Some of you just do no more than make me laugh and laugh, I will

AMORC IS A CULT JUST LIKE OGBONI,IF YOU DECIDES TO JOIN YOUR UNCLE THINKING THAT HELP WILL NOT COME TO U FROM ELSE WHERE,YOU HAVE A CASE TO ANSWER TO GOD ON JUDGEMENT DAY

bigneorapz:
Hi nairalanders, please i have something that is really disturbing me of which am not sure if it's a good move or not. I have a very rich uncle that is a member of the AMORC ( Ancient Mystical Order Rosae Crucis)
.
and he's the only one helpin me at the moment in all the things in life both in school and outside school. Without him i'll be useless financially. My mum and my sisters are all christian in a methodist church of which am also a member. But just yesterday, my uncle came to me and told me to start coming with him to the AMORC temple..infact he said he was going to bring me a student form to fill. Please nairalanders..i'm confused at the moment. I learn that amorc members read alot of which i don't like & they have so many principle too. Please what do y'all think of this? Is it a good church for me to be a part of or should i just tell him to his face that am not interested? Please before u make your suggestion, just know that am scared of turning down his offers due to much respect i have for him..thanks. Lalasticlala please help move this to the F.P

She is not senior to you after-all,you are just age mates,marry her.

In as much as the killings of the armless shiites is condemnable, I do not see any justifiable reason why a group of islamic organization should be carrying out protest and hindering other road users from a federal and public road in such a delicate time when the military is seriously combatting the Boko-haram insurgent.As a matter of fact,not many people especially the non-muslims knows whether there is any difference between the shites and the sunni muslims, the army may just mistake them to be the same set of terrorist considering the havoc the terrorist has caused this nation including the army themselves.
I think the shittes muslims as they are called are taking unnecessary risk of their lives in the hand of the millitary to be engaging themselves in a protest at such a time and in the same region with highly volatile to insurgency

henryanna36:
Islamic Human Rights Commission have organized a protest in front of Nigerian High Commission in London in support of Shiites sect members being killed by the Nigerian Army since Saturday.

The protesters on Sunday stormed Nigerian Embassy and wrote “Nigerian Army are killing unarmed civilians now” on the front door, floor and placards

Source: http://trezzy2..com/2015/12/photosprotest-in-london-over-killing-of.html

OP,I feel your pain and disappointment in your husband who could't just wait for Gods time for you to have a child for him because I know that it will definitely come one day only prayer,faith and patience could have taken care of this situation most especially when the love was there between both of you,however,this type of thing does happen.But I bet you the love between both of them is going to grow stronger and the pains in you may get worst as long as you remained in that compound/house of your landlady.now the only way out and the only solution for you is to get very close to God and still love your husband and be more kind and loving to him,very soon God will visit you with children IJN

Brytawon:
My name is Myra and I'm a very angry and bitter woman. And it's all thanks to the 'witch' called Hetty, my landlady.
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Before the 'Jezebel', came into our lives, my husband CJ and I were doing just fine. We had been married for about eight years and though we did not have children, CJ was not too worried.

"When the time comes, we will have children. God's time is the best," he often said anytime I grew anxious over our childless state. You know how our African society is. Once a couple gets married, people especially family members, friends, colleagues and other so called 'well-wishers' expect the woman to start popping out babies as quickly as possible. My husband's parents and other family members live far away from us and hardly visit so pressure from their end was not much.

All the same, I never relented in my quest to have my own child. I fasted and prayed and cried to God to remember me. But the years went by and there was still no issue.

Then about two years ago, we had to move to another apartment from where we were staying in Lagos due to problems with the landlord. He had increased the rent by over fifty percent without warning and threatened to eject any tenant who did not comply. My husband, who felt the new rent was too high for the flat decided we should move.

So that's how we ended up in our new place. The house, made up of four flats is owned by Hetty who had inherited it from her parents. She lived in one of the flats downstairs with her two children, both teenagers. Hetty, who is in her late 30s, was said to be divorced or separated from her husband. When we moved in newly, the woman was so nice and helpful to us, always asking if we had any problems. She would invite us to her home and even cook for us. With time,
we became very close. I thought in my naivety that she was just being nice.

How did I know that she had designs on my husband! Anyway, I found out later that my husband was dating our landlady. It had been going on for months before I knew about it. You see, because of my job I'm hardly at home. My office is in Victoria Island so I leave home early and return home late as well. My husband is a business man so his schedule is more flexible than mine. There are days he does not go out at all, but stays at home and works on his computer and makes contacts on phone.

Since the story came out about their affair, friends and other concerned well-wishers have told me that I should have been more careful, that I should not have allowed a woman like her, single and still quite young and pretty to get close to my husband. But what were they expecting me to do, tie a grown up like him up? He's mature enough to know right from wrong and that dating that woman is something he should not have done.

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I found out about the affair from a neighbour who had been seeing them going out together and acting like lovers whenever I was at work. I confronted CJ and though he denied it initially, he finally owned up and confessed. He pleaded with me to forgive and forget that it was the 'work of the devil.'
"What devil?" I countered furiously.
"Instead of accepting responsibility for cheating on me with our landlady, you are blaming the devil!" I was very angry with him and I felt hurt too. What the woman has that I lacked, I wondered, weeping bitter tears. Ok, she was very pretty but I was not bad looking and was even younger than her.

CJ promised to stop seeing the woman, also begging me not to go and fight her as we could be kicked out of the apartment. I loved my husband very much and he meant the world to me so I forgave him. Things went on as normal though I was more vigilant this time around. As for my landlady, she travelled with her children abroad for the summer holidays and I did not see her for some time. The children came back and resumed school but she stayed behind for a few more months.

When she returned later, it was clear to even a blind man that she was pregnant. I did not think much of it and just ignored her as I had been doing since I found out she was sleeping with my husband. That was until CJ broke the terrible news to me, that he was responsible for her pregnancy! How could this have happened, was the first thought that entered my mind. I was, as expected devastated by the new development. Here was I, married to him for nearly eight years and yet to produce a child. Yet a clandestine affair with our landlady had resulted in a
pregnancy.

I became ill when I heard the news and had to take some time off from work. When my mother who lived near us heard what happened, she came to spend time with me. It was my mother and younger sister who came with her that went to my landlady's house and fought with her. Much as I hated the woman, I was not in support of physical combat and told my mother to leave her alone. The damage had been done and fighting her would not solve anything, I reasoned.

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It was my husband that I was more worried about. He had become so happy since Hetty announced she was pregnant for him.
"Finally, I will be a father," he had stated with obvious pride the day he broke the news to me. When I recovered, I called him one day that due to the situation of things, I no longer felt comfortable living in the same compound with the landlady, that we had to move. To my shock, CJ was vehemently opposed to my suggestion, insisting there was no need to relocate.

"Hetty will soon put to bed and as the father of the baby, I need to be around to look after them," he said. I was not ready to give in and I gave him an ultimatum: it's either we left or he should forget about me and our marriage. I told him I was not ready to share my man with any woman, least of all that conniving landlady of ours.

"I can't stay here anymore. Seeing that woman every day with her big, protruding tummy drives me crazy. I need to get away for my own sanity and peace of mind," I said.

That was when he told me that I could do whatever I wanted, that he was not ready to go anywhere.
"I'm going nowhere. We just moved here so why would we be moving so soon? Learn to adjust to the situation or ..." he rejoined.

Since I'm not ready to adjust, I have begun making alternative plans. My younger sister, who has her own apartment in town, has suggested I move in with her until CJ comes to his senses. I don't know what will happen to my marriage when I leave. I still love my husband and I know he cares about me too, but that woman seems to have cast a spell or used 'love charm' on him or something. I need to get away before I lose my mind with worry and stress. I don't know if I have taken the right decision or not. But I need some space right now before I lose my mind or even die prematurely from all the trouble my husband and his mistress have caused me...

THE END!

Names have been changed to protect the identity
of the narrator and other individuals in the story.

source: www.truelifestoriesng..com.ng/2015/12/im-childless-but-my-landlady-is.html?m=1

You need to be extra careful next time,I will say that you were careless-it can happen anywhere and it can happen to anybody.

Sijo01:
Am sharing this personal experience on how money mysteriously disappeared from my pocket for all who cares to read to be fully guarded and watchful this season and beyond.

Am still confused, in shock and still can’t put one or two together on how this happened.

I left home for the salon around 3:30 pm yesterday (29/11/2015) after empting my wallet and clearing all cash in sight with the aim of buying drugs for my toothache and doing light shopping on my way back home. The cash was neatly kept in my jeans pocket with exception to N100 which will take me to my destination. I held the N100 with my phones and keys in my hand; boarded a bus to New Benin; paying no attention to other passengers. I was glued to my phone (Nairalanding). On getting to New Benin, I gave the Driver N100 and he gave me a change of N50. Still held the N50 in my hand and boarded another Bus going to 3rd junction. As usual, I was still glued to my phone. I gave the conductor the N50 and collected my N10 change. On getting to 3rd Junction after alighting from the bus, I decided to keep the N10 with the other cash in my pocket. Bingo! My pocket was EMPTY. I went back to the bus searched the floor , my money was not in sight. I was confused and my throat suddenly went dry. I looked around and saw a girl selling sachet water. I flagged her down, bought one with my last N10 and re-energized myself with the water.

I was still in that state of confusion not knowing what to do and how to get back home when I saw a colleague. After exchanging pleasantries, I told her my predicament. To God be the glory, she had enough money on her and she bailed me out.

Am still pained, bitter and sad for loose-guarding to the extent of not knowing how money disappeared from my jeans pocket. The most painful part of it, I don’t know the exact amount.

Tell us the state you re' from,if you can be bold enough, I will tell you the terrible things worst than stealing going on there.

frostland:
sorry for ur lost, d state u stay answers ur question Edo state a place we're mysterious tins happen

it migth be a spiritual issue, Visit any MFM pastor for councelling,follow his advice and see s difference.

AmNotADullard:
Good day Nairalanders, the time I started writing this is 3:22am, whether am a popular NLder or not doesn't matter, but I would like to Conceal my identity. These would be a bit long, because I would want to explain all what is happening and has been happening to me concerning my education.

I am from the eastern part of Nigeria, and school somewhere in the south, part of the top 10 universities in Nigeria.
Back in my, Primary and Junior secondary school, I was extremely brilliant, always part of first 3, a lot of times I was 1st in class and best overall. Even my junior waec, I was so happy, people were happy for me.

The problem started in my secondary school, I noticed I started dropping, my 2nd term in SS1, I was 21/23 in class, same school, same class mates.
I thought maybe I had started playing to much, so I stopped all what I figured out could be the problem, yet there was no solution, my parents got me private teachers for my core subjects. Once they are with me, I would understand what they teach me, when they leave, I don't slack, I continue reading and reading, when exam comes, it would seem like I wasn't the one who read. A day before the exam, it would be fresh in my head and when I even write the exam, my mind would be like "you have killed it"
My parents would ask how it was, my reply would be: "yes, it was perfect, expecting the perfect result".

When I see my result, I would as usual fail virtually everything.
Still, I managed to go/forge ahead, I was able to pass my WASSCE in one sitting, how I did that I don't know, not that I passed outstandingly, I only had 'credit' in all the subject I was expect to have grade 'C'.

Then the hustle for Jamb came, let it be known that I wrote jamb 5 times, and the 5th time was when I got admitted to my school of choice.


Currently in my 200level, we resumed a new session about 2months ago. Now to what caused dis write up.

My first semester of 100level result: C, F, A, D, D.

A terrible result for someone in 100level, yes, I know. I felt too relaxed first semester, played a lot.
I determined that 2nd semester would be better, not that I was expecting all A's but I didn't want any F.
So my whole 2nd semester was reading all through, I read to the extent that I started feeling sure I should have A's in at least 3 out of 6 courses.

But when the result came in, it was worse than my first semester without me playing or getting distracted,
My 2nd semester of 100level result: C, F, C, E, C,F

And now 200level has kicked off, but something is happening to me.

I don't think I can survive this anymore,
My parents don't have money, my dad is struggling to send us to school.
None of my siblings work,
I have been contemplating different means of ending my life,
I move about with shame, I don't sleep anymore, I can't get my head straight, I would stay awake all night crying and praying for a change in my academic life.

I have done all what I think I can humanly do, hence why the thought of taking my life,
I know I can't create a life, but of what use is one that doesn't seem to make people happy?
But then, I decided to come on here, to ask if there is something else in reading I am not doing apart from, reading.... I have applied all the reading techniques applicable, jot while reading, revise, ask myself questions, and all. But still after exam, I don't seem to have that desired result, I have prayed countless times.

By my side is a chemical I got when I discovered I had 2f's. Education, they say is the best legacy. But in my case it isn't sure if it would be, I am a business oriented person, but no money to even establish myself, so that's not an option, please Nairalanders, I don't wish to Take my life, please is there anything you can suggest to me other than suicide and constant reading and prayers. I am 22years of age.

God bless.

They should arrest him ASAP and first of all charge him for evading arrest.
Tony Anenih is one of the top most politician that killed edo state and sabotage the developmental effort of Nigeria

Freemanan:

Was he the one dat divorced his wife or his wife divorced him,how is that his fault? anyway that is how the devil made it look like.

Airforce1:
Divorcing his wife makes him no super man.

Super divorcee, Yes!

Super man, No!

Absolute Nonesense-26 children for one individual,a former vice president and a former presidential candidate for that matter,what example is he trying to show to the people he wants to govern?

You lied guy,withdrawal system is one of the natural family planing system.would you now call the modern days family planing system of using drugs a sinful act? Then continue pouring the fluid in and born bokoharam ,agberos,and deve children all over the whole place without control ok,

gaetano:
Thought i should share to people like me who didn't know.





Genesis 38:8-10

Then Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother's wife and perform the duty of a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.” But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his. So whenever he went in to his brother's wife he would waste the semen on the ground, so as not to give offspring to his brother. And what he did was wicked in the sight of the Lord, and he put him to death also.

He migth just be the highly temperamental type of person who takes decisions in a hurry without considering the consequenses but thereafter regrets his actions. that could just be his bad spot(weak point)
In my opinion, you don't need to just run away but still study him for sometime if he is good in other areas in particular, give him a warning over this particular one that you re' not going to tolerate it next time

Lizabeth25:
Been awake since 3am....trying to figure this out. Throwing it here might give me an answer to my disturbing questions. I hope the topic catches attention because I really need to read other people's opinion on this.

I'm 29 of age. I have a 41 years old guy whom I've introduce to my relatives and I've also met his.

We've been seriously dating for the past 5 to 6 months and within that period, every time we have a slight misunderstanding, he deletes me from social media starting from BBM to Whatsap then to FBK.! So whenever we settles, he begs me to re-add him.

This is the 5th time he is deleting me again and this has started giving me concern.

And I've started thinking that he's not right for me! Then what if I end up marrying him, any issues that comes up or we have slight misunderstanding, will he send me out of the house

Please, guys, is this how your react to your woman? And why do you do that?

Ladies, have you ever experienced issues like this and how did u cope?

I'm confuse and I don't understand why an adult will be thinking or behalving like a kid!

Just want to be sure that it's a normal and general reaction guys exhibits when they are not happy at their woman otherwise, I will just be on my own. Because my common sense is telling me to run away from him!

Please, don't just view, kindly type in your opinion. I will appreciate them!

shut your mouth girl and don't invoke Gods judjement upon your yourself ok

Speechless3:
Mr Chris dealt with this woman.

God curse him.

What is the total cost estimate for this OP?

Fabolous360:
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We sale Quality water purification systems, Water filters, Cartridges of all sizes, Stainless steel treatment plant, U-V water sterilizers, Teflon, Original Dingli automatic sealing machines, Automatic bottling washing, filling & capping line machines, Pet blowing machines, Ozone generator, Reverse Osmosis & Spare parts (Sales, Installations, & Services. We do water analysis & treatment of bad water for drinking.) We also render consultant services for those that want start yoghurt Company & pure factory water businesses.

What about Delta state?

emmchi:
Very good.

Well I knew before now that the northerner(Muslims) will kick against the idea, if at this civilised age they cannot see reasons behind the idea of birth control,then it is very unfortunate.
Nigerian population is blowing out of proportion without control,at this age,most educated Muslims still go for a third and fourth wife after having
up-to 10 children on ground already because they want to fulfil their Islamic laws and tradition without considering the economic implication.
the results of this age long beliefs is the countless number of teenage northern youths that find themselves in insurgency and almagiris today.what of the unemployment situation in the country?
these people are seeing all these but still they cannot reason with their brain.at least one doesn,t need education to know the effect of overpopulation at this age.
my take on this is for the government to promulgate a law to regulate and control birth-if you have more than a certain number of children you must pay tax to the government per each number of children you produce in excess of the stipulated number by the government,unfortunately the person in power is one of them who will never buy this idea,it is just so unfortunate.

RUBBISH

You better shut your mouth, you are an ordinary mortal that can not create life,don't mock God.

ThisMeansWars:
Rip fake pastor

A loving god will not allow his loving son or daughter to exit in such a cruel way..

So she's gotta be fake ... Keep the mention coming


Enjoying it ..

That was not your job,yours will come very soon,cheer up mehn.

Sashafm:
One of my greatest selling point had always been the fact that I am very outspoken. Well that advantage turned into a great disadvantage for me today . I have always heard about people saying how they kept on saying rubbish at interviews and they new it but could not stop themselves, that was exactly what happened to me today.

Today I woke up very optimistic, I had an interview in V.I, that was number one and another job consideration, number two. In which, conversations had already begun on it.
I got to the venue of my first interview very early and I was person the first person to be interviewed. After the interview I got a call to come back for another testing to decide who will get the job. I was already congratulating myself,only for me to shoot myself in the leg as my brain was coordinated but my words refused to follow suit when asked what I thought of the job.

Alas , my mouth started spewing out jargon about how not tasking enough the job was, shuuuu for someone that has been sitting down at home for over a month after service. I tried to rephrase my words but Iro o, the deed had already been done. After listening to my self and seeing the expression of the interviewer, I new even I wouldn't employ myself. I was devastated at how, so close to the job I was and how I lost it to over-zealousness.
Not long after that I was dismissed while, the other girl girl stayed behind. That was when I realized the gravity of what my mouth had done, I already passed all the test to the best of my ability but why would you tell an interviewer that the work is not mentally challenging enough!!! who does that

Now the second one was supposed to be easy, as the owner of the business has already called me and I thought we were on track only for me to return back b from the island and receive a message about how someone else closer to the office has been found and even had an experience in customer service. Alas that was the Last straw, I received the message and I WEPT.

OP Please i need detail info on how I can start this business,info should includes star-tup capital,cost of the relevant machine that can enable one to start at a low cost and affordable level-My email address-austine100@live.co.uk-many thanks

kabarka:
Welcome To Watercruise 1

This thread has been created for 3 category of investors

1,Those that are in the biz of pure water production.

2,Those aspiring to start the biz but LACK appropriate information

3,Those that need strategies to cut cost and increase profitability.

So we invite all and sundry to this ideas and info sharing for the benefit of all.Once again,you are welcome.

Below is Automatic sealing machine that package water in sachets.

When you get married ,that is how other younger guys will Bleep your wife without your knowlwdge,no bi curse oh.,what you sow is what you will reap

walepinna:
1.U are a guy
2.U have been nacking the married woman since 2010
3.U want to stop
4.U dont know ow to stop
5.U now want us to tell u ow to stop?

Really Guy? Really?

The retaliation should be more than that,they should include ground troops to crush the barbarians

obum88:




http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/france-drops-20-bombs-islamic-6838318#ICID=FB_mirror_main

You too must be a caring wife oh

Ginaz:
Men and their wahala, God pls give me a caring husband

God helps him,he's got so much to do

Where are the NGO fighting for the rigths of women?

Hi guys,

Do any one knows if a recruitment agency in Lagos called HRM of APL resources exist? if anyone know them to be genuine ,kindly let me know please.

TERRIBLE WOMAN

babutime:
A herbal practitioner, Morufu Ajah, on Tuesday admitted in an Igando Customary Court, Lagos, that he gave his wife Deborah money for abortion.

Ajah, 33, told the court that he gave his wife money to terminate the pregnancy because he was not sure if the pregnancy belonged to him.

“I gave my wife money to abort her pregnancy because she used to leave home without my consent to unknown destination and come back after 21 days or 30 days.

“She may even tell me she was going to her parent’s place, after some days, I will call her parents; they will tell me they did not see her.

“So, when she comes back home and told me that she was pregnant, I doubted it. I gave her N7, 000 to terminate it.

“She collected the money, lied to me that she had done it but never did it,’’ Ajah said.
The petitioner said that his wife turned his mother into a `punching bag’ that most times, she beat and tore her clothes.

“My wife had turned my mother’s clothes to rags as she always tore it into pieces whenever she is beating her.

“She always curse and abuse my mother, calling her a witch and telling people that my mother always fly in the night,’’ he said.

He described his wife as a violent and aggressive woman that she used to hit him first any time they had misunderstanding and that always prompted him to beat her up.

Morufu alleged that his wife was fetish that on three occasions, he came back from work and saw salt sprinkled all over the house.

He urged the court to dissolve their three years old marriage because he was no longer in love and his mother’s life was in danger.

Deborah, 30, teacher, denied all the allegations, and insisted that the fight in the home was because she refused to terminate the pregnancy.

“My husband gave me money to abort my baby; I collected the money but used it for another thing.

“When he later discovered that I did not do the abortion, he started beating me and moved my belonging into the kitchen.

“He later left the house to unknown destination, it was my neighbours that always contributed money for me to feed till my delivery,’’ Deborah said.

The mother of two said that she never beat her mother-in-law nor tore her clothes.

She pleaded with the court not to grant her husband’s petition because she was still in love with him.

The court President, Mr. Adegboyega Omilola, urged the couple to maintain the peace and adjourned the case till Dec. 7, for judgement.

Source; http://thenationonlineng.net/husband-admits-giving-wife-money-for-abortion/

thieves

McBrooklyn:

Contat me on my email,I will give you some hints on how to help him overcome this situation: austine100@live.co.uk


But i feel like surprising him on his birthday. So I'm wondering if there is anything i can add to his drink; drug, herbs without his knowledge to enable him last longer to his amazement and making him feel it's natural. Or is there an ointment/cream I can use to massage him. I need to spice our marriage sexually.[/quote]

Yea,and what has the man done to the prostitute(his wife?

twosquare:
I know, but it takes two to tango... This is not rape but she submitted herself willingly and open up to the concubine... In other words, the woman's heart is no longer fully with the husband.