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unmask:
It is terrible that women are made to go through this barbaric ritual after losing their husbands......This are the fights feminists should take as number 1.....say no to women brutality and marginalization.

Chimamanda is on twitter attacking Hillary for saying "My Husband". She is from Anambra and she cannot fight for women of Iboland to be freed from this cave-age mentality that treat women like dog.

BoboNkiti19:
Even if MetaPhysical is dying of COVID19 right now, the guy will still have the strength to get on Nairaland of all things bothering his life, to kill himself even further over Igbo matter... What a guy

Has any women in your family or extended family gone through this? Share their experience and what you would do to eradicate this barbarism from your land.

9japride:
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Such act is bad, which must be stopped. How about bringing up bad activities from your region too.

focus on the one infront of you.

seunmsg:
You play too much

Ajimobi no be person?

no mind me jare.

Passionate888:
A friend of mine who is from Imo state, when his father died, they did worse to his mom, took their properties. He was in secondary school then, they abandoned the family, the mother struggled to train him alone.

Kaai!!! A mother? A woman that gave them children and added welath and value to their kinship... Even almajiri in North get better treatment from her inlaw than this. Chineke!

If a woman with four kids loose husband in Yorubaland even if the husband no get house sef family go rally round and find them good shelter and set her up. They will visit and check and see how she is doing. Collect tithes in the family and donate to her for upkeep.

I thank the guy that told this was Ibo land. Chei, I don miss opportunity. The heading for hot well well if say i knew initially.

Woman with four kids loose her husband in Iboland she don jam wahala. If husband no get house she will be accused of witchery and draining the husband resource. If he get house they will kick her and her children out of it. Then she must drink the deadbody water to prove she didnt kill him.

Kaaii!! Hey mods, i fit change the title of this thread? I need to read the entire thing first so i fit know what new label to use. Ibo no go get rest today. See as they treat beautiful pleasurable women, mothers....like dog. Kaai!!!

Oloki:
which Ajumobi? Mr. constituted authority?
hr will be worst than Abba Kyari

Oshiomhole? hmmmmmm

If Ajimobi become Chief of Staff Ibadan no fit sleep with both eyes closed again o.

macof:
Just look at this compound buffoon

You keep jumping on things and reacting without any idea yet even your ignorance is inconsistent
First Yoruba are Hebrew, Igbo are bantu and have nothing to do with yoruba
Then you change suddenly to Igbo are Israelites (which are Hebrews) to Yoruba are Sudanese, Gambians, Egyptians... Like wtf?!
Now you're back to igbo are bantu

It's quite disturbing because I've never come across someone with this level of intellectual disability

Eze macof,
Kedu ka nmma? kedu ka ndu si?
i bughi Yoruba, hapu anyi. Biko nwanne!

Passionate888:
This is one of the major thing that I dislike in the Igbo tradition.

Thats why their women love Yoruba men. No discrimination, no shaving of pubic with razor or drinking dead-body baff water

Beosten:
Instead of speaking against the practice, piglets now saying it's painment for op. This most ritualistic tribe always paint other tribes as ritualists. Smh

It's why the ritual is not going away. It has been with them since cave age, and here we are in 2020 they are still proud of it.

I dont think Abba Kyari would have strength for the job if he survives the infection and returns.

He should appoint Ajimobi as new Chief of Staff. If not Ajimobi, then Oshiomhole will be a fitting person for the job and post.

Na how many times una go concession this port? This one is worse than 2nd niger bridge. I was ten year old when this thing begam its concession journey.

Ibo people stop this nonsense!

obdk, there is something in that article i find wrong. The reporter kept saying this is how women are treated in Southern Nigeria, instead of saying women are dehumanized and humiliated in Eastern Nigeria. Political correctness gone wrong!

call village meeting and instruct your elders to use Yoruba model of equality and respect for its women.

ejanla, I didnt even know this was about Igbo. Trust me if I knew beforehand I would have picked a different Title for the thread, trust me!
It would have been something like this " Ibo people display cave age barbarism again".

Mind yasef o!

LabDNA:
If they can't find Buhari's certificates, do you think they'll be able to find files about Trimnell who served before the war?

It's a dead end I assure you. But he can still try.

Haaaaaaaaaa

You killed it! Good one!

OP,

He had to go into hiding in Kaduna. We are grateful to a lot people, who helped him to escape. The American Consulate in Kaduna, the Catholic Church and his Brigade Commander, Samuel Ogbemudia saved him from being killed like other officers from Eastern Nigeria. He escaped in disguise from Kaduna to Lagos and we had to leave the barrack. We left the barrack without taking anything along. When we left, the family of another military officer, Col Rudolf Trimnell, harboured us. Col Rudolf Trimnell was from Ukwuani, Igbo-speaking group in Delta State, like my mother but they are also classified as Igbo. He was in hiding but we stayed at the family compound of his wife at Spencer Street, Lagos. His wife is a Yoruba woman. They were gracious but the place was crowded. Food was not a problem but it was difficult feeding many people because the Trimnell children were six and we were seven. That was in addition to other relatives living with them. We didn’t know where my father was and my mother cried everyday thinking he had been killed. That was our situation when the first and second coups took place. Eventually, my father managed to escape to the east. I didn’t know how he made an arrangement for us to take a boat from Lagos to Port Harcourt. The boat that took us was a big boat which was captained by a white man.

Phillip Effiong Jnr.

There are many people that can help with the info you need.

Lagos, Nigeria — For many years, Rose's clothing store was the destination of choice for Lagos women in search of a new outfit for a party or occasion. She traveled regularly to textile hubs in Turkey to source high-quality fabrics for her clients and her children helped out in the family business on busy days during December festivities. The small store in Oshodi -- in the heart of the bustling Nigerian city -- did a booming trade until personal tragedy struck the businesswoman in 2015.

Doctors diagnosed Rose's husband with chronic kidney failure that eventually led to his death two years later at the age of 55.
The illness -- in a country where 4% of the 195-million strong population have access to health insurance -- drained the family's finances.
"I sold everything in my shop, undervalue, to get money for his weekly dialysis," Rose, 45, told CNN.
But the financial challenge she faced while caring for her sick husband was dwarfed, she says, by what she encountered after his death in 2017.
Following his burial in southern Nigeria, Rose says she was forced by her in-laws to undergo a series of rituals that included shaving her head, pubic hair, and stripping near her husband's grave.
When she initially refused, Rose says they told her that she and her children would be banished from the local community in Delta State, where her husband was to be buried.
"I never wanted to go through that process, but when I asked them what if I don't do it, they said it [her refusal] means I killed my husband," she said, speaking to CNN.

Deprivation, seclusion
In parts of southern Nigeria, widows like Rose are subjected to a set of practices after their husband dies. They can be kept in seclusion for weeks, deprived of meals and made to live in unhygienic conditions.
They are viewed as "unclean" and in need of cleansing rituals that can include shaving body hair and forcing them to marry a man related to their deceased husband, according to women's rights groups and researchers.
In some cases where the husband has died young, the wife sometimes becomes a suspect in his death and she might be forced to drink the water used in bathing his corpse or lie with his remains to prove her innocence, according to researchers in a 2015 paper published by the International Journal of Humanities and Social Science.
Those who refuse are often accused of killing their husbands and expelled from their communities.

It's been three years since Rose's husband died, but her voice still shakes as she recounts the details of the rituals. Speaking in her Lagos apartment, Rose says she was confined to a room at the back of her in-laws' house for two weeks. "They threw food at me as if I am a dog ... nobody had any physical contact with me because anything I touch is unclean," she said. "They woke me up at 2 a.m. and told me to start crying around my husband's grave. They said I should scream louder and until my cry wakes the community." A day before she concluded the rites, Rose says elderly widows visited her. "They asked me to shave my pubic hair, my armpit hair, my nails and bring them along the next day when they want to shave my hair," she said. After that, she says her head was shaved and she was stripped naked. "They burned everything I was wearing and my hair. Then, they told me to bathe in the same spot. I protested that I could not bathe in broad daylight. They insisted. People were looking at us, we had been there from 2 a.m. to 4 p.m., and I wanted it to end," she said.

The next day, Rose says she was taken to a village gathering, where she was asked to marry one of her husband's siblings or another man from the community. "They said I should choose a husband in replacement of my late husband. I was shocked ... one of the men said I could choose my son and I did, but most of them were not happy with that option," she says, her gaze fixed on her husband's photograph as she recounted the ordeal. "I am one of the humiliated widows," she added, rubbing her finger where her wedding band used to sit. Flora Alatan, Delta State Commissioner for Women Affairs, told CNN her department is working with the justice ministry to adopt the Violence Against Persons Prohibition Act (VAPP), a federal legislation with a provision that directly punishes the ill-treatment of widows. The "Harmful Widowhood Practices" in the VAPP Act says people can be jailed for a maximum of two years or pay a fine of N500,000 (around $1,366) for abusing women whose husbands have died. Nigeria signed the VAPP Act in 2015, but a majority of the West African nation's 36 states are yet to adopt it and, consequently, the law can't be enforced in those states. While she's pushing for the law in her state, social workers from her ministry are also going into communities to encourage women to report such cases, Alatan said. "We're not just speaking to the women, we are talking to their daughters. The education of the girl child is important if we want to put a stop to these inequalities," Alatan said.

This work is also personal for her.
Alatan's husband died in February and she says her husband's extended family asked her to participate in some traditional rites for widows which she refused to do. "I am presently mourning my husband and they told me there are some [cultural] or traditional things I must do. I told them that, 'No! I'll not bow to that and they cannot force me to do it.'" Alatan told CNN. But she admits her experience is not the reality of many women in the country and says that is why the adoption of the bill is urgently needed to put a stop to these practices.

'Great deal of disadvantage'
There are 258 million widows around the world, according to UN estimates, and more than two million of them are in Nigeria, where 25% face a "great deal" of disadvantage and another 33% have experienced disadvantage, according to 2015 World Widows Report by the Loomba Foundation, a global NGO working with the UN to highlight the plight of widows. CNN has reached out to the office of the Nigerian minister for women affairs but has not received a response. Hope Nwakwesi, who runs Almanah Hope Foundation, a support group where widows can share their stories safely, says family members who carry out this abuse are hardly ever arrested or prosecuted. Until the "Harmful Widowhood Practices" provision in the VAPP Act is enforced at the grassroots level, more women will face these forms of violence, she said.
"Government must realize that people hide under the name of culture to get vengeance on women," Nwakwesi said.
"What can be more humiliating than a woman shaving her pubic hair? Why should a woman be termed unclean because your husband is dead?" she asked.

Nwakwesi herself became a widow 25 years ago after her husband was killed in a car accident. After his death, she was confined to a room for 28 days after which she was asked to shave her head as part of Ikwa Ozu, the mourning rites performed by widows in Anambra state in Nigeria's southeast. "My head was scraped with a blade, and two days after it was like my head was on fire. I had to be using menthol and pouring ice cold water on my head for three weeks because it was so hot," said Nwakwesi, who is pushing for the practices to be abolished. On her return to Lagos, Nwakwesi says she and her four children were evicted from the apartment rented to them by her husband's employers.
A few weeks later, she was suspended from the elementary school owned by the same employers, where she worked as a teacher. "Our house was reallocated to another family. Under three months and at age 27, I went from being a wife to being a widow, with no house, job and with four children to care for," Nwakwesi, now, 52, told CNN. Nwakwesi said she contemplated suicide at the time. "It played out in my mind, the day my employers pasted my suspension letter on the school's notice board and as the pressure grew. I was overwhelmed ... I only snapped out of it because of my kids," she told CNN. She is pushing for stronger laws she says will help "catch a widow when she falls."
"One woman who has just lost her husband cannot fight her in-laws, but if she knows the law will back her up, she will fight back," Nwakwesi told CNN.

'Horrendous and humiliating rites'
In 2005, the Anambra government signed the Malpractices Against Widows and Widowers (Prohibition) Law outlawing harmful mourning rites but researchers and Nwakwesi say the practice has still not stopped. "Women in my group share the horrendous and humiliating rites they are forced to do, it is still happening but it must end," she said. Anambra has two laws criminalizing widowhood rites, says Ndidi Mezue, the states' commissioner for women and children affairs, but its enforcement has been slow. Widows who have been abused don't often report such cases to authorities for fear of backlash from their community. "That is why we have social welfare workers going to communities to pick cases and also educate the women about their rights and the laws," Mezue told CNN. In some communities in southern Nigeria, traditional leaders have begun calling on their subjects to stop these practices. But many widows are still pressured by their in-laws to perform the rites.
Nigerian women from poor backgrounds are more likely to suffer physical abuse, compared to those from wealthy homes, according to Nwakwesi, and this discrimination against vulnerable women only makes her "more angry." "There is this school of thought in this widow practice. Those they dare and those they can't. Do the high and mighty in Nigeria, who come from my area agree to do this? They don't and no one has the audacity to stand up to them," Nwakwesi said.

Physical abuse and disinheritance from families are among the many inequalities that women in Nigeria, and most of Africa, face after their spouses' death. Society has not been kind to them either. African women are often excluded from social and economic plans -- safety nets they desperately need -- after the death of a spouse or dissolution of a marriage, experts from the World Bank said in a 2018 report.
Nwakwesi, now a school proprietor in an upscale neighborhood in Lagos, said she had plans to grow her business after her husband's death but she had no means to source the funds. Over the years, she's also counseled and assisted widows after they were denied small business loans because they were not married. "People think you won't be able to repay because now you are the only one bearing the responsibilities, but economic empowerment is one way to put a woman back on (her) feet," Nwakwesi said.

Fight for women's rights
Chinyere Anokwuru, who runs a skills acquisition center for women in Lagos, says women are usually the custodians of traditions that repress widows and their re-orientation is critical to abandoning these practices.
"The older widows believe that they have gone through these practices and believe others must go through the same thing," Anokwuru told CNN. At the Lagos-based center, widows are being taught about women's and property rights. They are being empowered to speak up against the practices in their communities. "We are speaking at town hall meetings, telling village chiefs and widows to say no when another widow is told to sit on the floor for seven days wearing black cloth because she's lost her husband," she said. For Rose, it's been three years since her husband passed away and she's still putting pieces of her life back together. She says it's been difficult raising funds to revive her clothing business and she now runs a local restaurant in Abule Egba, a densely-populated neighborhood in downtown Lagos.

What profit she makes is only enough to pay her rent and keep her family going. But her husband's death has given her a new meaning beyond her material needs, she said. Instead of attending social functions on weekends -- which is what she used to do when she had her fabric store -- Rose volunteers at a women's advocacy group in the area. When a woman's husband has just died in the community, Rose is one of the people they call on for advice. "I tell them the hell I went through, to let them know they don't have to go through these rites. They should just reject it," Rose said. The fight for the abolition of widow rites should be seen as a fight for women's rights, she added.
"Men are not subjected to these forms of rituals when their wives die. It is still a form of discrimination against women."


https://www.cnn.com/2020/03/27/africa/as-equals-nigeria-widow-rites-intl/index.html

gowonmaharajah:
Hmmmmmmm
Could this be true?
WELL PLAYED CHINA....
SCENE 1 :
The curtain opens: China becomes ill, enters a "crisis" and paralyzes its trade. The curtain closes.
SCENE II.
The curtain opens: The Chinese currency is devalued. They do not do anything. The curtain closes.
SCENE III.
The curtain opens:: Due to the lack of trade of companies from Europe and the USA that are based in China, their shares fall 40% of their value.
SCENE IV.
The curtain opens:: The world is ill, China buys 30% of the shares of companies in Europe and the US at a very low price. The curtain closes.
SCENE V.
The curtain opens: China has controlled the disease and owns companies in Europe and the US. And he decides that these companies stay in China and earn $ 20,000Billions. The curtain closes. How is the play called?
SCENE VI:
Checkmate!
ReAmazing but true
Two videos have passed between yesterday and today that convinced me of something I suspected, but had no basis. It was just my speculation. Now I am convinced that the coronavirus was purposely propagated by the Chinese themselves.
At first they were too prepared. Three weeks after the start of the roll, 14 days and a 12,000-bed hospitals were already under construction. And they really built them in two weeks.
Awesome.
Yesterday they announced that they had stopped the epidemic. They appear in videos celebrating, they announce that they even have a vaccine. How could they create it so quickly without having all the genetic information? Well if you are the owner of the formula it is not difficult at all.
And today I just saw a video that explains how Den Xiao Ping gave the west a half stick. Due to the coronavirus, the actions of Western companies in China fell dramatically. China I just hope, when they went down enough they bought them. Now the companies, Created by the USA and Europe in China with all the technology put in by these exchanges and their capital they passed into the hands of China, which is now rising with all that technological potential and will be able to set prices at will to sell everything they need to the West. How are you?
None of this could have happened by chance. China who cared that a few old men died? Fewer old-age pensions to pay, but the loot has been huge. And right now the West is financially defeated, in crisis and stunned by the disease. And without knowing what to do.
Masterfully diabolic. It had to be the communists. |
Adding to this, they are now the single largest owners of US treasury with 1.18 trillion holding surpassing Japan.
An instrument that has seen the most rally
One prospective & Analogy
-------_--------------_-------////-//////
How come Russia & North Korea have Low or Zero incidence of Covid- 19 ?
Is it because they are staunch allies of China
On the other hand USA / South Korea / United Kingdom / France / Italy / Spain and Asia are severely hit
How come Wuhan is suddenly free from the deadly virus?
China says that the drastic initial measures that they took were very stern and Wuhan was locked down to contain the spread to other areas
Why Beijing was not hit ? Why only Wuhan?
It is interesting to ponder upon.. right ?
Well ..Wuhan is open for business now
Covid - 19 needs to be seen in the backdrop of the arm twisting of China by USA in the trade war
America and all the above mentioned countries are devastated financially
Soon American economy will collapse as planned by China.
China knows it CANNOT defeat America militarily as USA is at present THE MOST POWERFUL country in the world.
So use the virus...to cripple the economy and paralyse the nation and its Defense capabilities.
Trump was initially downplaying the effects of coronavirus, calling it a democratic hoax, blaming Nancy Pelosi and Chuck Schumer. He was basically unprepared. Weeks went by and he couldn't even assembly the world's best. The Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), previously having been decimated by Trump, was left napping and unprepared as well. Nobody had any game plan - one of the few times America operated from adhoc mode.
Lately President Trump has always been telling of how the GREAT American economy was improving on all fronts and jobs were coming back to the USA
The only way to destroy his vision of making AMERICA GREAT AGAIN is to create an ECONOMIC HAVOC. But he forgot his vulnerability - wellness.
Wuhan's epidemic was a showcase.
At the peak of the virus epidemic....Chi
na's President Xi Jinping...just wore a simple RM1 facemask to visit those effected areas.
As President he should have been covered from head to toe, right?.....But that was not the case.
He was already injected to resist any harm from the virus....that means a cure was already in place before the virus was released
China's vision is to control the World ECONOMY by buying up stocks now from countries facing the brink of severe ECONOMIC COLLAPSE.....Later China will announce that their Medical Researchers have found a cure to destroy the virus
Now China shall OWN the stocks of All Western Alliances and these countries will soon be slave to their NEW MASTER..... CHINA.
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I love people that have far reaching and intriguing mind to think in three dimensions - Abstract, Super-Conscious and Transformative.

OP, Kudos, I love your thread.

Check this out bro....space war is OLD AND OUT! Genetic war is NEW and ON!

Lets wait till daybreak to hear miyettiallah lament about loss of 50 cows. i hope it was thunder.

bloody terrorists.

This OP is not patriotic.

You first went to twitter before you came to Nairaland. We would have told you what it was if you had come here first.

LegendHero:
Haha lol. These two combination of people you cc are like a match made from heaven.

Their both have PhD in the science of trolling.

LegendHero:
Lol. You dey live your best life.

For me, I’ve been working from home for some weeks now. I just wake up, do some early morning follow up meetings, eat, drink alcohol, stare at the laptop, find trouble on Nairaland, watch Netflix and sleep happily.

Legendhero is enjoying business continuity at home while spare parts shop has closed.

Yoruba Amaka!

Cc
Imhotep
Lzaa

I hope she is okay and clears soon.

I dont believe she will get any symptoms but she should stop putting titties sorry, nipples...mtccchew, my mind! ...i meant breast in Ifeanyi's mouth untill fully certified clear completely.

ItooWorWor:
Metaphysical make sure you take Rekhina for check when she comes back oo! I no wan hear tori

Rekhina na helinues babe now.

LegendHero:
We should sue that Tawhidi for corrupting the sweet version of the name Taoridi omo iya bilikisu.

How’s staying at home going over there bro?

I didnt know days move very fast until now. I wake up chop, talk shyyt to yanminri on social media, chop again, nap, i look time it says time to lock all doors and shut off gen. Na so e be. Endtime things.

How u dey manage time?

Mrsoundoro:
Mohammad Tawhidi, a Muslim influencer and reformist Imam has taken to his twitter page to drag Buhari.

Tawhidi also known as Imam of Peace is calling out the President Of Nigeria, Buhari.

Also, in his tweet, he wrote that Buhari is the dumbest person in Nigeria.

Furthermore, he said Buhari is a dictator.



Source: https://mobile.twitter.com/Imamofpeace/status/1243462201475616768

I hope the trace on this tweet will not end up on the computer of a Nigerian on exile. Just a thought...

This guy is named Muhammed Tawhidi

Arabs be messing up names too much. The correct version is Taoridi as we Yoruba muslims call it.

Yoruba muslim Amaka!

Cc
Imhotep
Lzaa
Rekhina husbandsnatcha
Legendhero
Gandollar

PFRB:
I do not think that these closures are well articulated. In a few days stocks will run out and the populace will be faced with death by hunger or death by COVID-19.

I agree!

Hey OP,
OTEDOLA, not Odetola.

Baba Cuppy, thank you o! God bless and replenish you and protect your family.

God bless all those who have donated to the cause.

imhotep:
I dey go drink my orijin.
Baba Trump should enjoy his America alone.

Cc lzaa gmbuharii afamed metaphysical

Trump is begging.
Same way Truman in 1940s begged Jewish scientists to come to America.

We told you Biafrans are jews but you dont listen.

Ibo Amaka!!

Biafra kwenu!
Igbo kwenu!
Imhotep Kwenu!

The response and efforts by state governments to curtail spread of coronavirus is truly commendable. Without these efforts the spread amongst population would have been enormous, particularly in states like Lagos. So the manner in which government has responded may appear inacceptable to some, like marketers, transporters, shop owners.

Change is difficult. Retail marketing is the survival line for Nigerians and people can handle not opening market for one or two days....but closing shop for two weeks will no doubt result in massive and irrecoverable loss. The question of recovery is heavy on the mind.

If our system have a social programme that citizens can lean on for support it would make a great difference in the way marketers react...there will be confidence and reassurance of recovering some, maybe not all, of their losses.

At this time, such a social program is absent. Thus government must approach its responsibility for safety with a sense of balance also and empathy for the people that are economically impacted. We dont want unemployment to surge, it will result in increase in criminality. Marketers will lay off their helpers and staff to conserve drain and loss.

We need moderation on both sides.

Oshigun:
Kanu's followers, considering they include even PhD holders, are the biggest mumus.

Welcome back bro